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Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

What Inhave seen about girls here in Naija is that they are the most victim of casual heart break,

Being a good girl is a scam

Guys run after bad girls because they are easy to access and fun to be with just for pleasure, meanwhile bad girls get everything they want so fast that's y you see them slaying all the time but it doesn't last because guys drop them after they got what they came for
Good girls are not easy to access so guys don't usually run after them but they are been watched and noticed unknowingly to them guys later marry these set of girls and they later enjoy far better than the former

Stargurl20:
I'm not oppressed by anyone. Even if there are in gold. I'm just wondering what being the good gurl has gotten me so far. Nothing. Whereas the so called wild gurls are doing perfectly. In fact, I've come to realize thatost guys just come to the public to rant they desire good gurls where as deep down it's the bad ones they want...
Being a good gurl in this Nigeria is of no single value

You are comparing yourself to others. That's bad! It means you are not wise
Were you not the one that created this thread asking men not to leave a good woman here ?

https://www.nairaland.com/6982643/men-not-lose-good-woman

Why did you ask men not to leave a good woman if you think being good is worthless?
Answer me

@StarGurl20: Verily yes! But the problem is how to locate a perfect match. Same applies to Guys. Girls chose bad guys to good and Visionary Guys; though the end point for them is always regret.

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

Na ashawo dey your eye so

it's good to be good actually
don't just take shii and let people ride you
no allow people take you for granted
anybody try shii with you,let them know one time

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

bad girls are used by yahoo boyz

Stargurl20:
Is there really any gain in that?

There's no gain in being a good person, not just girl.
The world is not built by morals.
Those who excel didn't excel by being good. It is good to be good but don't look at the possession of the bad and think that they may meet a misfortune, misfortune rarely meets them.
Even when you achieve something by being good, the bad can wade in and take it.

You simply should live by what seems the better option each time and not by seiving it through the idea of good or bad as fed to us by those who long to control us. The hell, you can even buy a good name after ruining lives.

wonderr:
Guys run after bad girls because they are easy to access and fun to be with just for pleasure, meanwhile bad girls get everything they want so fast that's y you see them slaying all the time but it doesn't last because guys drop them after they got what they came for
Good girls are not easy to access so guys don't usually run after them but they are been watched and noticed unknowingly to them guys later marry these set of girls and they later enjoy far better than the former

There's a difference between sexually liberated, positive women and those whose sexuality is caged.

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

U need to explain or define what u mean by good gal pls.

That said generally being good doesn't get u much if u are not smart or wise also. A good person can be foolish even though good. It's very possible and even common. Being good doesn't mean u should be smart or wise.

And no bad gals are not getting it better than good gals even though it may look that way from a distance.

jasminer:
I hope you listen to me because I used to think like you when I was your age.

Now I'm much older and wiser too. My darling, it pays to be a good girl but the benefits of being good won't come now, Lai Lai, it will come years later at least in 4yrs time.
I will give you a few examples:
1. You can boldly tell your daughter how you made every dime, nothing to be ashamed of.
2. An amazing relationship with God, no guilt when you're praying and you'll even notice your prayers begin to work like magic
3. Men will chase you, the good, the bad, the rich, the poor etc. See the guys around you now aren't ready for commitment so they're avoiding you cus they know you can't be their hoe so they're taking their gifts to the girls that will open legs for them. (If you were a guy and looking for a lady to be banging steadily, will u go to the good girl who doesn't joke with her body or will u go for the bad girl u heard knows how to whine very well?)
4. A woman's body is like a flower petal, manhandle it and see it wrinkled. If you see how these f*ck boys squeeze the br**sts of the girls they're banging ehn, 1week the br**st don turn to slippers, everything don gel . These guys will go and buy Viagra and use it to bang these girls in different positions and for hours expanding their v*gina and they will come here and call the lady "community borehole". After her body has expanded, how can she have a good sexual life with her husband who doesn't take p*nis enlarg*ment pills? In a few years time, if you stand in a public bathroom with those girls, they'll want to use their eyes to pluck you out cus the "hustle" has taken it's toll, while you will be having matured curves with the almost same perkiness of a teenager.
5. STDs there are crazy sicknesses out there and c*ndoms don't give 100% protection. Many carriers of aids going on a sharing spree for revenge
6. Spiritual implications too. U heard yahoo boys use ladies for rituals right? Do you know that one of the popular things these guys do is to turn the lady into a funnel where the destiny of anyone she's sleeping with will be drained to them. Now imaging you're sleeping with a guy who is also sleeping with one of such funnel girls?
7. When you have nothing to hide, you can be honest with your future hubby and he will trust you cus he knows what u didn't do before he met you, you won't do in his house.
8. Unwanted pregnancy, u want to bear the risk of getting pregnant and having to do abortions? Or you want to damage your womb by popping abortion pills (the fancy name is morning after pill) every week into your mouth? You want to run the risk of barrenness when you're ready to settle down?
9.Bad name: Bad news doesn't stay hidden, sooner or later, everybody go hear say you be ashewo. Imagine the humiliation on your mom or family when they begin to use you to yab them.
10. Nothing you gain as a runs girl or bad girl is permanent. Few years time, iphone 13 pro max go don caste, the guys that bought you the phone have moved on to girls with perkier boobs who can whine more than you. Your bone straight done bone, your laps aren't smooth again, you don't look hot in them anymore, all the guys u we're dating are now married with kids, what did you really gain? The rent they paid today go expire in 1yr, how sure say Dem go pay another one?

So my dear stargurl20, being a good girl will pay you like it's paying me now but it won't be today, it won't be tomorrow, but it won't be forever either. Few more years and you'll be looking for me to thank me (if you take this advice today)

what a nice advice

Never knew a girl can advice a fellow girl like this

Thumbs Up

Just be a cheerful giver and enjoy your life

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

. Being a good girl is the only good option.
That you met some bad persons who don't appreciate good doesn't invalidate the fact that being good is the best policy.
One day you would run into the real deal for your life.
KEEP ON BEING A GOOD GIRL, BUT QUIT BEING NAIVE.
Many good people get messed up not because they were good but because they were naive.

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

Stargurl,What's of your definition of 'a good girl'?

Bad girls are desperate Good girls are persistent

missidy:
My dear I always ask the same question because it seems good girls mostly finish last. Most of the bad girls I know are all married to abroad based, rich men here while good girls like us still dey here. Worst part is they get pregnant so easily despite their lifestyle while the good girls ttc for years.

Don't mind all these NL's men who think I'm envious of one imaginary friend. What u commented is the reality of today's world. Gone are those days when good gurls where valued. Today's men are confused about what they want. They will see a good gurl and still not no her value..

When I see some so called bad gurls not talking about their financial achievement o...but the kind of men they end up with even u wey be good gurl gan go dey wonder if karma actually exist. I've been reading comments and my reaction so far was just nose wringing ( yinmu).

maybe yes so there would be peace, nobody wants a spoilt brat

Good or bad is relative, depends on ur frame of reference.

Naughtysex:
Not only for girls
I have come to realize that in Nigeria, being good (male or female) has more than ninety percent disadvantages
Everyone will want to capitalize on your good side to cheat you or to benefit themselves.
I grew up believing that only good people can make it in life, but in reality, the reverse is the case
Most of my so called "bad ass friends" are balling great right now with their families (wife and children)

Another example is my two nieces
The one who ignored all my advice of remaining a calm and good girl is living the life of her dream with her husband and little child in one of the country in Europe , but the second girl who choose to follow my advice is still struggling to stand in life (this is a real life event, not fiction)

Been a good person in this evil country will definitely destroy your dream

Finally found a man who understands my point. Thanks

Teespice:
Are you being a good girl because you want to be one or you are expecting to reap the benefits of being a good girl?

No.... That's who I'm. However, seeing that having that as one's personality isn't healthy in this country, I'm having a change of mind.

jasminer:
I hope you listen to me because I used to think like you when I was your age.

Now I'm much older and wiser too. My darling, it pays to be a good girl but the benefits of being good won't come now, Lai Lai, it will come years later at least in 4yrs time.
I will give you a few examples:
1. You can boldly tell your daughter how you made every dime, nothing to be ashamed of.
2. An amazing relationship with God, no guilt when you're praying and you'll even notice your prayers begin to work like magic
3. Men will chase you, the good, the bad, the rich, the poor etc. See the guys around you now aren't ready for commitment so they're avoiding you cus they know you can't be their hoe so they're taking their gifts to the girls that will open legs for them. (If you were a guy and looking for a lady to be banging steadily, will u go to the good girl who doesn't joke with her body or will u go for the bad girl u heard knows how to whine very well?)
4. A woman's body is like a flower petal, manhandle it and see it wrinkled. If you see how these f*ck boys squeeze the br**sts of the girls they're banging ehn, 1week the br**st don turn to slippers, everything don gel . These guys will go and buy Viagra and use it to bang these girls in different positions and for hours expanding their v*gina and they will come here and call the lady "community borehole". After her body has expanded, how can she have a good sexual life with her husband who doesn't take p*nis enlarg*ment pills? In a few years time, if you stand in a public bathroom with those girls, they'll want to use their eyes to pluck you out cus the "hustle" has taken it's toll, while you will be having matured curves with the almost same perkiness of a teenager.
5. STDs there are crazy sicknesses out there and c*ndoms don't give 100% protection. Many carriers of aids going on a sharing spree for revenge
6. Spiritual implications too. U heard yahoo boys use ladies for rituals right? Do you know that one of the popular things these guys do is to turn the lady into a funnel where the destiny of anyone she's sleeping with will be drained to them. Now imaging you're sleeping with a guy who is also sleeping with one of such funnel girls?
7. When you have nothing to hide, you can be honest with your future hubby and he will trust you cus he knows what u didn't do before he met you, you won't do in his house.
8. Unwanted pregnancy, u want to bear the risk of getting pregnant and having to do abortions? Or you want to damage your womb by popping abortion pills (the fancy name is morning after pill) every week into your mouth? You want to run the risk of barrenness when you're ready to settle down?
9.Bad name: Bad news doesn't stay hidden, sooner or later, everybody go hear say you be ashewo. Imagine the humiliation on your mom or family when they begin to use you to yab them.
10. Nothing you gain as a runs girl or bad girl is permanent. Few years time, iphone 13 pro max go don caste, the guys that bought you the phone have moved on to girls with perkier boobs who can whine more than you. Your bone straight done bone, your laps aren't smooth again, you don't look hot in them anymore, all the guys u we're dating are now married with kids, what did you really gain? The rent they paid today go expire in 1yr, how sure say Dem go pay another one?

So my dear stargurl20, being a good girl will pay you like it's paying me now but it won't be today, it won't be tomorrow, but it won't be forever either. Few more years and you'll be looking for me to thank me (if you take this advice today)

Thank u so much. U spoke like a sister.

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

Some of you are so myopic that you have short sightedness in abundance.
Yes,they will excel but in the long run they will crash and burn.
That's who it works!

I have seen and observed this first hand.
Bad girls get married and the marriage is the talk of of the town and three ,four or maximum five to six years down the lonr she is used and thrown out.

I can't even count ladies who were doing bad girls in their prime only to be used and dumped by the men they married.

Even Yahoo boys are like this two.

Flash in the pan success.

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

Where will I see the Good Girl

I don't think there is anything like karma honestly. Despite what I see around me, I will still keep being a good girl at least for my conscience and heavenly race. It is well.

Stargurl20:
Don't mind all these NL's men who think I'm envious of one imaginary friend. What u commented is the reality of today's world. Gone are those days when good gurls where valued. Today's men are confused about what they want. They will see a good gurl and still not no her value..

When I see some so called bad gurls not talking about their financial achievement o...but the kind of men they end up with even u wey be good gurl gan go dey wonder if karma actually exist. I've been reading comments and my reaction so far was just nose wringing ( yinmu).

Yes there is...PEACE!


...of mind
...of body
...of soul
...of spirit

slickycee:
Bad girl , Bad boy, Good girl and good boy are just labels we put on people..

The person you think is a bad girl might just be daring and adventurous, but our olodo society might call such people bad. It's just a tag , don't let name decieve you.

That good girl you're thinking of , might just be a homely , shy and churchy girl.

All these traits don't make any one bad or good they're just different characters.

Good or bad is in the heart.
The more selfish a person is , the more likely vhe or she would do wicked things.

Secondly,
You need to remember life is not the same for all of us,
That girl did this and is enjoying life, doesn't mean you would do it and enjoy life too.

God would bless everyone according to his wisdom and time.

Don't envy people or compare, God sees the heart , me and you don't.

Thirdly.
You are not for everyone and everyone is not for you.
Even if you try to be a bad girl, the same guy that you think Is confused and always pick bad girls, would still ignore you.

You can't be for everyone !!!
It doesn't work like that.
Jesus Christ wasn't even accepted in his home town.
His own people asked for him to be crucified.

It's never personal, but everyone is not for you. And even if you do surgery to look like them , or change your name to theirs, they won't still accept you.

Just love yourself and be confident I yourself.
Don't let social media or Tv fool you.


Let me say this again,
A quiet person doesn't make them good.
A shy person doesn't mean a good person.
An emotional or cry baby is not always a good person.

Those are just traits, so don't mistake them for good and bad.
We know the personality types, sanguine, melancholy, phlegmatic and choleric.
None is good not is bad.
It's what people decides to do.


Lastly,
The grass always seem greener on the other side.
Humans are naturally ungrateful, and never know the value of what they have until they Lose it.

They're many people who think bad people are having life easy, but they feel cheated , being ungrateful for the peace and blessings they enjoy.
Like my role model , J Cole said.

There's no such thing as a life thats better than yours.

They would always be someone richer than you, finer than you, more talented than you.
Like your latest would always be someone outdated, your choice would be someone Godforbid.
But you would never be happy untill you learn to love yours.



So love yourself and the things you have and believe better days are surely ahead.
If you believe what you're doing Is right , and you feel it's something that doesn't compromise your peace , please keep at it

Don't let labels decieve you or make you question your beliefs.

Stay true to yourself.

Pure undiluted truth!

For me as a man, being good is for my conscience and my God.

missidy:
I don't think there is anything like karma honestly. Despite what I see around me, I will still keep being a good girl at least for my conscience and heavenly race. It is well.

Similarly me. No worldly expectations

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

If you're looking for justifiable reasons for your overwhelming obscene thoughts, seek no more, just do it.
I've chosen to be good in life not for any benefit from the corrupt society, but for my God and my conscience

Stargurl20:
I'm not saying been bad to people in general but u know the good gurl of a thing, right? Is there really any gain in that? Coz to the best of my knowledge, the so called bad gurls are excelling far better in all ramifications than good gurls. Even guys will choose the over the gurls any time.

I know it's wrong to judge people, but analysing the tone of your message simply says that you're a 'not-good-girl' who's trying to convince herself that her character can be justified.

Anyway, incase you wanna know the truth, bad girls are for fun, and the good ones are for keeping. No well-mannered man wants to raise children with a 'bad girl'. The bad ones might seem to be having success because of the corruption that's destroying our society, especially when they're still single, but on the long run, heartbreak will visit them in their families. It's inevitable.

It pays to be Godly. Yes, atimes the bad might seem to be 'winning' (Depending in what you define as win anyway), ultimately righteousness pays off!