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How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Nobody: 1:34pm On Mar 22, 2022
I have this new neighbor that packed in last three months, that talk to people anyhow. But he feels it's a normal conversation.

Over the weekend I was cleaning my house and my car, only for him to tell me I clean my car too much. And was saying other nasty things and was laughing thinking is a normal thing.

There's no single day that i will wash my car that this guy will not say this to me, how I valued my car more than my life.

Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by faithfull18(f): 1:44pm On Mar 22, 2022
Don't reply him, keep a straight face. If he is sensible or has any self- respect left, he either reduces the interaction or mind his business.

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Nobody: 1:53pm On Mar 22, 2022
faithfull18:
Don't reply him, keep a straight face. If he is sensible or has any self- respect left, he either reduces the interaction or mind his business.



Thanks

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Ay04z(m): 2:00pm On Mar 22, 2022
Lol.... Reply jokingly with a bad response.... He will let u be.. E. G... Oga leave me and my motor alone... If u wan help... U fit dey help me wash am gently.. Or carry am go wash for me.... I no too nice... If na me will say something harsh dan diz... I no wan friends.

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Solvelink: 2:05pm On Mar 22, 2022
Ay04z:
Lol.... Reply jokingly with a bad response.... He will let u be.. E. G... Oga leave me and my motor alone... If u wan help... U fit dey help me wash am gently.. Or carry am go wash for me.... I no too nice... If na me will say something harsh dan diz... I no wan friends.
Or, guy! i am not lazy like you na...

That one go hit em body wella.

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Kobojunkie: 2:11pm On Mar 22, 2022
POSmecrhant:
Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?
Interesting claim there... so how exactly did you go about creating this kind of familiarity with him in the first place? undecided

Um... why not do start by doing exactly what you would do to people who pose a nuisance here online... ignore? Why make it seem it all has to do with your ego and stuff? undecided

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Freestainworld(m): 2:11pm On Mar 22, 2022
Just kukuma avoid the Mugu of a man

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by NwaAmaikpe: 2:17pm On Mar 22, 2022
shocked



I don't see the need for wanting to set boundaries with him; he is just concerned about your obsession with your car's neatness.

I know your type. I once had a tenant who'd wash his car at 5am, sometimes very late at night and even under the scorching sun.
It is obviously queer.

I think you should ignore him but if you really want to address it, next time he askes why you always wash your car,

Tell him that ever since you fvcked his wife inside the car, you've had to wash it daily to get rid of the smell of her kpekus from it.

This should either help you out or put you in more trouble.

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Nobody: 2:19pm On Mar 22, 2022
Freestainworld:
Just kukuma avoid the Mugu of a man

Lolz. Thanks

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Nobody: 2:22pm On Mar 22, 2022
Kobojunkie:
Interesting claim there... so how exactly did you go about creating this kind of familiarity with him in the first place? undecided

Um... why not do start by doing exactly what you would do to people who pose a nuisance here online... ignore? Why make it seem it all has to do with your ego and stuff? undecided

During my wedding, my car can not contain all the drinks I bought, so I begged him to help me conveyed some drinks to the reception ground. Eversince then,I can not drink water and keep cup again

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by tillaman(m): 2:54pm On Mar 22, 2022
It’s not about familiarity oo
Just greet some people good morning alone Omo you don give them chance to roast you, just bone the guy no give am response
Some people are just mad by default
Their madness na follow come

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Nobody: 2:57pm On Mar 22, 2022
tillaman:
It’s not about familiarity oo
Just greet some people good morning alone Omo you don give them chance to roast you, just bone the guy no give am response
Some people are just mad by default
Their madness na follow come

I swear

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Kobojunkie: 3:04pm On Mar 22, 2022
POSmecrhant:
During my wedding, my car can not contain all the drinks I bought, so I begged him to help me conveyed some drinks to the reception ground. Eversince then,I can not drink water and keep cup again
This is all you think created the kind of familiarity with him in the first place? undecided

You need to let go and learn to ignore him. There are folks whose insecurities function like that of your neighbor's. You should not let other people's issues continue to push your buttons. undecided

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by tillaman(m): 3:09pm On Mar 22, 2022
POSmecrhant:


I swear
I saw a dude sitting outside my gate waiting to restock my SIL’s shop, Naso I greet the guy well done next thing he said was bros this your essentials shorts na fake ooo
Shorts that cost me 12k he say he see the original upfront I just weak
He was like bros I just dey play oo this is a guy I am seeing for the first time

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Preciousppearl(f): 3:10pm On Mar 22, 2022
If u don't have bad mouth to reply him just ignore him when he comes talking, silence will hurt him. When he talks to himself with no reply from u, he will stop.

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Nobody: 3:18pm On Mar 22, 2022
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked



I don't see the need for wanting to set boundaries.
He is just concerned that you too obsessed with your car's neatness.

I know your type. I once had a tenant who'd wash his car at 5am, sometimes very late at night and even under the scorching sun.
It is obviously queer.

I think you should ignore him but if you are so concerned about it, next time he askes why you always wash your car.

Tell him that ever since he fvcked his wife inside the car, you wash it daily to get rid of the smell of her kpekus.

That should either help or put you in more trouble?
grin

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Richy4(m): 3:36pm On Mar 22, 2022
Actually, there are some people that doesn't know how to relate with others especially while talking... And majority of them were introverts.. Most of them are good guys but when they opened their mouth u feel disgusted...If u settle down to observe, u will find out that they were trying so hard to relate...

It's just in their DNA.. and they don't even know that they were offending someone that they were speaking with...If u throw an insult at him, he might be really surprised thinking where and when he has offended you... Some will go back to their shell never to return..

They are many like that here in Nairaland... Those ones that Will insult someone seeking for an advice first before dishing out whatever they wanna say... Making one wonder if the insults thrown makes the recipient understand the advice better....

Only respond to his greetings and ignore whatever he has to say by concentrating on your car.. Do not.. I repeat do not insult him please smiley

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Nobody: 3:55pm On Mar 22, 2022
Richy4:
Actually, there are some people that doesn't know how to relate with others especially while talking... And majority of them were introverts.. Most of them are good guys but when they open their mouth u feel disgusted...If u settle down to observe, u will find out that they were trying so hard to relate...

It's just in their DNA.. and they don't even know that they were offending someone that they were speaking with...If u throw an insult at him, he might be really surprised thinking where and when he has offended you... Some will go back to their shell never to return..

They are many like that here in Nairaland... Those ones that Will insult someone seeking for an advice first before dishing out whatever they wanna say... Making one wonder if the insults makes the recipient understand the advice better....

Only respond to his greetings and ignore whatever he has to say by concentrating on your car.. Do not.. I repeat do not insult him please smiley
Thanks alot

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Karleb(m): 4:31pm On Mar 22, 2022
faithfull18:
Don't reply him, keep a straight face. If he is sensible or has any self- respect left, he either reduces the interaction or mind his business.



Way to go.

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by princeemmma(m): 4:49pm On Mar 22, 2022
POSmecrhant:
I have this new neighbor that packed in last three months, that talk to people anyhow. But he feels it's a normal conversation.

Over the weekend I was cleaning my house and my car, only for him to tell me I clean my car too much. And was saying other nasty things and was laughing thinking is a normal thing.

There's no single day that i will wash my car that this guy will not say this to me, how I valued my car more than my life.

Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?
Firstly you need to let your neighbor know that you don't like such statement, am tell him to stop making such comment to you again. And you need to be really serious while making this declaration to him.

To avoid him is a simple thing, just say hello whenever you guys meet again, nothing should make you converse with him for just 2minutes.

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Nobody: 5:05pm On Mar 22, 2022
Well Just continue acting maturely and allow him to keep embarrassing himself talking aimlessly, like others just pointed out if he is sensible then you silence should send him a message that his senseless talk and jokes are not welcome.

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Ay04z(m): 5:24pm On Mar 22, 2022
Solvelink:
or i no lazy like you na... That one go hit em body wella.
op.
.. Say diz line to him... He go dey avoid... U.. grin

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by WantsandMore: 5:34pm On Mar 22, 2022
POSmecrhant:
I have this new neighbor that packed in last three months, that talk to people anyhow. But he feels it's a normal conversation.

Over the weekend I was cleaning my house and my car, only for him to tell me I clean my car too much. And was saying other nasty things and was laughing thinking is a normal thing.

There's no single day that i will wash my car that this guy will not say this to me, how I valued my car more than my life.

Normally, this guy can not look me with straight face and be telling me this kind of nonsense if I didn't create this kind of familiarity with him in the first place.

How can i avoid this guy in a matured manner so that he won't even decode I'm avoiding him?
Do not avoid him rather engage him with sarcasm. Next time he pushes dumb joke like that turn the other cheek or bash back by telling him he will not understand until he can afford a car like yours that is high Maintenance ..Lmao

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by iamyemiakins(m): 5:48pm On Mar 22, 2022
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked



I don't see the need for wanting to set boundaries with him; he is just concerned about your obsession with your car's neatness.

I know your type. I once had a tenant who'd wash his car at 5am, sometimes very late at night and even under the scorching sun.
It is obviously queer.

I think you should ignore him but if you are so concerned about it, next time he askes why you always wash your car.

Tell him that ever since you fvcked his wife inside the car, you've had to wash it daily to get rid of the smell of her kpekus from it.

This should either help you out or put you in more trouble.
I can't just imagine someone having you as a neighbour grin

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by uchaymart(m): 6:13pm On Mar 22, 2022
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked



I don't see the need for wanting to set boundaries with him; he is just concerned about your obsession with your car's neatness.

I know your type. I once had a tenant who'd wash his car at 5am, sometimes very late at night and even under the scorching sun.
It is obviously queer.

I think you should ignore him but if you are so concerned about it, next time he askes why you always wash your car.

Tell him that ever since you fvcked his wife inside the car, you've had to wash it daily to get rid of the smell of her kpekus from it.

This should either help you out or put you in more trouble.

hahahahah grin grin grin Onye Isi POWER!!! This should help. I guess the neighbor has been expecting a nasty reply which is not coming forth.........

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by LifestyleTonite: 6:54pm On Mar 22, 2022
Perhaps you hate the bitter truth he told you, which is that you spend too much time washing your car.

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Nobody: 6:59pm On Mar 22, 2022
LifestyleTonite:

Perhaps you hate the bitter truth he told you, which is that you spend too much time washing your car.

How does that stops him from taking his 3 square meals ?

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by LifestyleTonite: 7:35pm On Mar 22, 2022
POSmecrhant:


How does that stops him from taking his 3 square meals ?

Sometimes the best advice sound like insult or are irritating.

Be glad he even lays his mind bare, unlike other neighbors who will laugh at you behind you, thereby making you feel horrible when you later find out.

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Nobody: 8:12pm On Mar 22, 2022
LifestyleTonite:


Sometimes the best advice sound like insult or are irritating.

Be glad he even lays his mind bare, unlike other neighbors who will laugh at you behind you, thereby making you feel horrible when you later find out.
So I should leave my car dirty?

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Unizikbuynasell: 8:26pm On Mar 22, 2022
Op tell him jokingly to go find work and stop behaving like a jobless house wife grin

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by DesChyko: 9:21pm On Mar 22, 2022
Just smile one second and focus on what you're doing the next second. At least you weren't rude but in the same vein, you don't have time for that bullshit.

If he doesn't stop the snide remarks, that means he lacks the mental capacity to understand your disinterest.

In that case you need to ignore him as you would ignore mad men who throw thoughtless words your way.

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Re: How Can I Set A Boundary Between Me And My Neighbor? by Cokahot: 10:08pm On Mar 22, 2022
Its your first car,stop washing it like a foo l

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