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Back then in the university I wasn’t very serious with school cos I was either with some of my guys drinking or at home. It got so worse to the extent I didn’t know most of my coursemates. In our third year a coursemate of mine was to get married and she started selling her wedding cloth so that was when I knew she was my coursemate

So in our final year I was paired with her as project partners and that was how we got closer. Mind you, the husband was a womanizer working in one of the first generation bank and was a bit loaded. Cos of our projects, she sometimes visited me at home cos her husband asked some of her hostel mates to watch over her the reason she asked me not to visit her.

The first day she visited me the first thing she looked for was my mattress according to her and fortunately my aunt just got back from the USA at that time and bought me those double mattresses. She would stay in my room, watch me take my bath, dress up and won’t even bother to leave. One day I even asked her to leave for me to change but she insisted on staying by saying “Wetin you dey hide wey dem never see”. She wanted me to be intimate with her but I was too scared to do it and she kept her cool.

She was the person that gave me a feel of what restaurant food tastes like. She was subbing for me then with 1k Airtel monthly subscription. This woman would buy half goat and give me a full goat lap. We spoke about everything but never had sex even tho some of my coursemates thought we were. While she was doing those things, she literally left all the projects works on my head.

Even while she left after our graduation we were still communicating. She would call me after her husband has left for work and we will talk for more than 2 hours and this happened daily. She later told me that she wanted me sexually cos she couldn’t get pregnant for her husband meaning she wanted me to get her pregnant while she hooks it on her husband. About a year after we graduated she got pregnant and immediately she gave birth we stopped communicating.

Some years later I was pursuing a Canada visa and I needed money so badly and I couldn’t so I called her but she refused even tho I knew she was financially capable to assist and that got me angry cos I had invested so much friendship in her and never believe she could leave me angry. But later on I realized that the reason she could walk away easily without looking back was cos we never had sex.

To a woman, sex is like a stamp that seals up a friendship or relationship. So if you are not having sex with a lady to her you’re like a brother to her cos she can’t have sex with her brother. No matter how bad a relationship ended, there’s possibility that you can still have sex with an ex when left alone in a room

Know this that, A girl will never feel committed to a guy she never had sex with, invested money on, or related by blood.

Herbworks: To a woman, sex is like a stamp that seals up a friendship or relationship. So if you are not having sex with a lady to her you’re like a brother to her cos she can’t have sex with her brother. No matter how bad a relationship ended, there’s possibility that you can still have sex with an ex when left alone in a room

Know this that, A girl will never feel committed to a guy she never had sex with, invested money on, or related by blood.

Very true.

No matter what you've done for a girl, if you never bunked her, then she never dated you! Also, you're not an EX.

Herbworks:
Back then in the university I wasn’t very serious with school cos I was either with some of my guys drinking or at home. It got so worse to the extent I didn’t know most of my coursemates. In our third year a coursemate of mine was to get married and she started selling her wedding cloth so that was when I knew she was my coursemate

So in our final year I was paired with her as project partners and that was how we got closer. Mind you, the husband was a womanizer working in one of the first generation bank and was a bit loaded. Cos of our projects, she sometimes visited me at home cos her husband asked some of her hostel mates to watch over her the reason she asked me not to visit her.

The first day she visited me the first thing she looked for was my mattress according to her and fortunately my aunt just got back from the USA at that time and bought me those double mattresses. She would stay in my room, watch me take my bath, dress up and won’t even bother to leave. One day I even asked her to leave for me to change but she insisted on staying by saying “Wetin you dey hide wey dem never see”. She wanted me to be intimate with her but I was too scared to do it and she kept her cool.

She was the person that gave me a feel of what restaurant food tastes like. She was subbing for me then with 1k Airtel monthly subscription. This woman would buy half goat and give me a full goat lap. We spoke about everything but never had sex even tho some of my coursemates thought we were. While she was doing those things, she literally left all the projects works on my head.

Even while she left after our graduation we were still communicating. She would call me after her husband has left for work and we will talk for more than 2 hours and this happened daily. She later told me that she wanted me sexually cos she couldn’t get pregnant for her husband meaning she wanted me to get her pregnant while she hooks it on her husband. About a year after we graduated she got pregnant and immediately she gave birth we stopped communicating.

Some years later I was pursuing a Canada visa and I needed money so badly and I couldn’t so I called her but she refused even tho I knew she was financially capable to assist and that got me angry cos I had invested so much friendship in her and never believe she could leave me angry. But later on I realized that the reason she could walk away easily without looking back was cos we never had sex.

To a woman, sex is like a stamp that seals up a friendship or relationship. So if you are not having sex with a lady to her you’re like a brother to her cos she can’t have sex with her brother. No matter how bad a relationship ended, there’s possibility that you can still have sex with an ex when left alone in a room

Know this that, A girl will never feel committed to a guy she never had sex with, invested money on, or related by blood.

100 for you bro... The last paragraph should be inscribed in the sky...

ubunja:
hey, still on the same old game. I've been good. It's been ages since I last saw your name in this space. How have you been yourself?

Lol...you can never change can you? . Yeah... Got busy with life. I've been good too.Thanks.

Herbworks:
Back then in the university I wasn’t very serious with school cos I was either with some of my guys drinking or at home. It got so worse to the extent I didn’t know most of my coursemates. In our third year a coursemate of mine was to get married and she started selling her wedding cloth so that was when I knew she was my coursemate

So in our final year I was paired with her as project partners and that was how we got closer. Mind you, the husband was a womanizer working in one of the first generation bank and was a bit loaded. Cos of our projects, she sometimes visited me at home cos her husband asked some of her hostel mates to watch over her the reason she asked me not to visit her.

The first day she visited me the first thing she looked for was my mattress according to her and fortunately my aunt just got back from the USA at that time and bought me those double mattresses. She would stay in my room, watch me take my bath, dress up and won’t even bother to leave. One day I even asked her to leave for me to change but she insisted on staying by saying “Wetin you dey hide wey dem never see”. She wanted me to be intimate with her but I was too scared to do it and she kept her cool.

She was the person that gave me a feel of what restaurant food tastes like. She was subbing for me then with 1k Airtel monthly subscription. This woman would buy half goat and give me a full goat lap. We spoke about everything but never had sex even tho some of my coursemates thought we were. While she was doing those things, she literally left all the projects works on my head.

Even while she left after our graduation we were still communicating. She would call me after her husband has left for work and we will talk for more than 2 hours and this happened daily. She later told me that she wanted me sexually cos she couldn’t get pregnant for her husband meaning she wanted me to get her pregnant while she hooks it on her husband. About a year after we graduated she got pregnant and immediately she gave birth we stopped communicating.

Some years later I was pursuing a Canada visa and I needed money so badly and I couldn’t so I called her but she refused even tho I knew she was financially capable to assist and that got me angry cos I had invested so much friendship in her and never believe she could leave me angry. But later on I realized that the reason she could walk away easily without looking back was cos we never had sex.

To a woman, sex is like a stamp that seals up a friendship or relationship. So if you are not having sex with a lady to her you’re like a brother to her cos she can’t have sex with her brother. No matter how bad a relationship ended, there’s possibility that you can still have sex with an ex when left alone in a room

Know this that, A girl will never feel committed to a guy she never had sex with, invested money on, or related by blood.

the red pill firing on all cylinders here...
100% cosigned and vouched for.

Last passage is gold. Guys have to understand this once and for all: a woman's heart is between her legs. Period.

ProphetJeroboam:
Being chosen gives the “high” feeling, it doesn’t happen to the average guy a lot so it’s understandable most would want to savor it, enjoy it and relish it. In all cases you’ll start thinking she wants to be with you and just you, she chose you so you must be special, you have her in your hands. When a woman chose you, the onus is on you to steady the dynamic of your relationship with her. Most guys enjoying the moment don’t realize this until replies start getting dry and monotonous then they create throw-away accounts to ask “How do I keep a girl interested” . She chose you today cos you’re funny and you make her laugh, she could chose another guy tomorrow cos he has a nice physique. For women it’s all about satisfying their biological urge to be physically and mentally hooked to a guy with qualities they find endearing at that moment. At the same time, playing the no-sex game works sometimes albeit for a short time when you’re higher value than all her options at the moment. The only way to keep a woman is to consistently prove to be higher value than any guy she has met or will potentially meet. You can have the keys to her emotions at the moment but some guy elsewhere has the keys to her body , you gave her the feel good emotional feels, some guy gives her the mind blowing orgasms. Both guys are equally as important to her and her selfish nature will convince her that both needs must be met regardless of who she hurts. Remind me of when I was in 1st year in the university, i flaked on this chick so hard during a Sunday , she called me and was crying asking why I like to hurt her, came to class on Monday to see some nigga grabbing her ass in class. I never got the chance to smash though but I am positive that guy did.

Nice write up.
I have a question though...
Won't this lead to see finish ?or make her see you as desperate?

A lot of Nigerians still see meats as a reward for eating.

The best sources of protein pound for pound in descending order
-Eggs
-Meat
-Fish
-Seafood
-Offals

The first two is always the fall guys when someone cholesterol is elevated.

it shouldn't be so.

Credit: The Last Knight

For the umpteenth time

Meat and Cholesterol are not related

High blood cholesterol is a symptom of insulin resistance and fatty liver

Red meat doesn't increase your blood's cholesterol to Dangerous levels

It just doesn't work that way

Unlearn.

Credit: The Last Knight

When you understand you don't eat for energy but nourishment.

You will grasp the fact that less is more.

You have no business eating more than twice a day.

You are already bag of energy.

Save your money, save your health

Fix your guts.
#UnfatYourself

Credit: The Last Knight

ubunja:
the red pill firing on all cylinders here...
100% cosigned and vouched for.

Last passage is gold. Guys have to understand this once and for all: a woman's heart is between her legs. Period.

ubunja, i have a problem. Pls help me out.

Ever since I've come across the redpill, my life has changed when it comes to women and life as a whole.

But there's this particular girl that likes me and I like her too but I didn't let it to show too much.

My main problem now is where I work does not give me that "space" to further work on her....like getting physical with her and i don't want to first demand for her number

Pls what do you think i can do to further attract this girl?

This girl likes me way much more than my other colleague but due to the fact that I am very sensitive to my surroundings so i don't usually talk to her in front of people so i think he's now taking advantage of that to roll with her

Advice me on what to do boss

Thanks

shiffynaani:
ubunja, i have a problem. Pls help me out.

Ever since I've come across the redpill, my life has changed when it comes to women and life as a whole.

But there's this particular girl that likes me and I like her too but I didn't let it to show too much.

My main problem now is where I work does not give me that "space" to further work on her....like getting physical with her and i don't want to first demand for her number

Pls what do you think i can do to further attract this girl?

This girl likes me way much more than my other colleague but due to the fact that I am very sensitive to my surroundings so i don't usually talk to her in front of people so i think he's now taking advantage of that to roll with her

Advice me on what to do boss

Thanks

I rarely respond to direct requests for help, I'd rather you present your problem for the general audience and anyone who can help you respond.

Proudpolygamist:
Fastforward to the university I was introduced into the dating sphere and started having urges. I chased a few gals and was chosen by a few. But it all ended up in disasters... The girls all left me to be with other guys, in short, dating women made me become a fucking simp and i threw caution to the wind to please these women.
So it happened that I found the redpill and began a journey of self development. I got a nice haircut, dressed smart, smelled nice and I started getting loads of attentions from women, i didnt even get to lift weights.Most times when I get to school women get confused when they look at me, they be smiling and waving and giving me green lights like kilode and this is not a joke. One of the most brilliant guys in my department once came to me and said i was his mentor in the "looking good department", he confessed that most of the ladies he's asked out in school who knew me had told him they had a crush on me but that he shouldnt tell me about it, he refused to say names.
Fine gals and even 'married women' that I used to struggle for their attention are now struggling to talk to me but I behave like I'm not seeing them, so what's the whole ensense of this self development if can't bring myself to talking to gals? Lmao ironically, I flow very well with women when i revert to be bluepilled but what do I get? Disappointments!!
I think I hate women now for struggling to be with me when I'm in my best version and cold hearted.
It irks me to see them shamelessly giving me greenlights now that am looking good and stingy with my attention.
Why don't they get attracted to me when I'm free and loosened with them, I can't even bring myself to talking to them now and they won't let me rest with their greenlights and attention. Redpill awareness, and masculinity brings these women into submitting to me but I feel too intoxicated and god-complexed in relating freely with them.
Some of these gals have now resorted to saying I'm proud because I don't talk to them all the time. Boss I can see a girl today, exchange pleasantries, joke with her and behave like we haven't met before the next day, and I don't care what she thinks about me.
I feel like entering into a relationship or being friendly with women is tantamount to letting my gourds down and becoming a simp again, plus I don't want to get hurt as a result of simping.

And I'm scared of what I'll do to someone's daughter if I start relating with them (sex) coldheartedly. How do I bring myself to being a player? Why don't these girls appreciate good men?
I'm having a hard time trying to transmogrify into being a player because I'm scared what the consequences may be
Pls help me guys

Correct me if I’m wrong but I feel like you’re painting the picture of a player in your mind as a cold brooding guy who girls are dying for and they tell him outrightly “I want to fvck you, book a hotel room now”, you’ve achieved the desirable appearance but you’re not quite there yet mentally. You’re scared of embarrassing yourself, you overthink your words and replies and you’re scared of what those broads will say. You have to get the confidence that comes with looking good, say sh*t that comes to mind and don’t overthink, when women desire you, you get away with things and you get away with certain actions they’ll call out a random nigga for. Players are fun to be around, not cold and stoic all the time, sure women will love the mystery guy but it gets boring when you’re too mysterious or too overly conscious of yourself. The women are falling for you, now what to do with it? You have the redpill awareness but you can’t use it because you’re scared of acting blue pill. Personally I think you need to fix your definition of blue pill. You’re not blue pill if you spend time with women if in a way that is not distracting you from the important aspects of your life. I think your problem is you have this molded specimen of a alpha male in mind so any deviation becomes blue pill to you. Don’t be a textbook red piller, be fluid and have fun. Women flirt with you, flirt back. Being too mysterious gets boring. Make peace with your simp days, now you know better. I can go out today and hold the day for a lady, it wouldn’t make me a simp because I can hold the door for a man too. Find balance and everything will fall into place. You have the armor and weapons but you’re scared of charging into battle. Flirt and maintain frame, stop overthinking. You’re yet to establish rock solid frame, that’s the reason you see any deviation from your textbook redpill/masculinity as blue pill. You want to be player but you don’t want the accompanying shìt tests and you’re overwhelmed with the attention you’re getting because you can’t act on them. If you ask me, you shouldn’t devote time to being a player, when the ladies come to you, flirt then set up a time and place for a private meet if she catches your fancy, if she’s not down then let her go, helps you weed out the time wasters who just want you for your vibe. Establish your frame and you won’t be scared of getting hurt. Trust yourself to pull yourself back when you notice you’re being nice but don’t overthink, loosen up and have fun. There’s a time to be Thomas Shelby and there’s a time to be Hank Moody. Find time to watch “Californication”, study Hank Moody. Don’t be a by the book red piller, develop your frame and launch yourself out there with the red pill and have fun. You won’t simp, trust me. You want to bang chicks but you feel like it’ll require you to be lovey dovey and nice, no it won’t. Strike a balance, do not be too available and do not be too shut out. When they start giving the green lights, act on it. Ladies admiring you doesn’t mean squat if you’re not dominating them, you can’t dominate them if you’re too overly conscious. Be good but not because you’re expecting something in return, own your identity and have fun with it. Let me know if there’s any area I missed bro. This is open to corrections and evaluations from our brothers here too.

logik29:
Nice write up.
I have a question though...
Won't this lead to see finish ?or make her see you as desperate?

Its not desperate when she’s really into you, if a lady is genuinely into you, she wants to spend time with you physically not on texting or phone calls. She makes things extra easy for you, like super easy. She wants you and her alone, when you get her alone, a real nigga knows what to do. You’re only perceived as being desperate when you’re over investing and she finds it overwhelming. At the peak of her attraction for you, a real nigga knows when to strike.

ubunja:
Years ago, I had this girl that fell hard for me who I used to spend a lot of time playing with her titties cause they were the perfect size and hard & firm the way I liked. She didn't even need a bra. But she badly wanted sex. Which I never gave her cause I cared about her and also I was a virgin and didn't want to try anything, (What if I failed to perform and embarrassed myself),, so I stayed just romancing her.... Until she went away for some months, and when she came back, sure we reconnected and spent time together - but guess what? Those firm titties I liked? .... Gone! She now wore a bra! when she took it off the titties drooped to the floor. Where ever it was that she went to, she had met real ones without mercy and consideration who had ravaged her body without a second thought. Slow, inexperienced and caring me was left to deal with the left overs... Never again will I make that mistake.

i pictured the boobs unfolding on the floor like a rolled up mat. LOL

ProphetJeroboam:
i pictured the boobs unfolding on the floor like a rolled up mat. LOL

lol the difference was too shocking man! And I couldn't say anything cause I had wasted my own chances

ProphetJeroboam:
Its not desperate when she’s really into you, if a lady is genuinely into you, she wants to spend time with you physically not on texting or phone calls. She makes things extra easy for you, like super easy. She wants you and her alone, when you get her alone, a real nigga knows what to do. You’re only perceived as being desperate when you’re over investing and she finds it overwhelming. At the peak of her attraction for you, a real nigga knows when to strike.

Woww thank you for this explanation

ProphetJeroboam:
Correct me if I’m wrong but I feel like you’re painting the picture of a player in your mind as a cold brooding guy who girls are dying for and they tell him outrightly “I want to fvck you, book a hotel room now”, you’ve achieved the desirable appearance but you’re not quite there yet mentally. You’re scared of embarrassing yourself, you overthink your words and replies and you’re scared of what those broads will say. You have to get the confidence that comes with looking good, say sh*t that comes to mind and don’t overthink, when women desire you, you get away with things and you get away with certain actions they’ll call out a random nigga for. Players are fun to be around, not cold and stoic all the time, sure women will love the mystery guy but it gets boring when you’re too mysterious or too overly conscious of yourself. The women are falling for you, now what to do with it? You have the redpill awareness but you can’t use it because you’re scared of acting blue pill. Personally I think you need to fix your definition of blue pill. You’re not blue pill if you spend time with women if in a way that is not distracting you from the important aspects of your life. I think your problem is you have this molded specimen of a alpha male in mind so any deviation becomes blue pill to you. Don’t be a textbook red piller, be fluid and have fun. Women flirt with you, flirt back. Being too mysterious gets boring. Make peace with your simp days, now you know better. I can go out today and hold the day for a lady, it wouldn’t make me a simp because I can hold the door for a man too. Find balance and everything will fall into place. You have the armor and weapons but you’re scared of charging into battle. Flirt and maintain frame, stop overthinking. You’re yet to establish rock solid frame, that’s the reason you see any deviation from your textbook redpill/masculinity as blue pill. You want to be player but you don’t want the accompanying shìt tests and you’re overwhelmed with the attention you’re getting because you can’t act on them. If you ask me, you shouldn’t devote time to being a player, when the ladies come to you, flirt then set up a time and place for a private meet if she catches your fancy, if she’s not down then let her go, helps you weed out the time wasters who just want you for your vibe. Establish your frame and you won’t be scared of getting hurt. Trust yourself to pull yourself back when you notice you’re being nice but don’t overthink, loosen up and have fun. There’s a time to be Thomas Shelby and there’s a time to be Hank Moody. Find time to watch “Californication”, study Hank Moody. Don’t be a by the book red piller, develop your frame and launch yourself out there with the red pill and have fun. You won’t simp, trust me. You want to bang chicks but you feel like it’ll require you to be lovey dovey and nice, no it won’t. Strike a balance, do not be too available and do not be too shut out. When they start giving the green lights, act on it. Ladies admiring you doesn’t mean squat if you’re not dominating them, you can’t dominate them if you’re too overly conscious. Be good but not because you’re expecting something in return, own your identity and have fun with it. Let me know if there’s any area I missed bro. This is open to corrections and evaluations from our brothers here too.

I swear, everything you've said up there is CORRRCT, except that i'm not scared of shit tests, not even from lecturers, am bold and confident.
But Av been acting fvcking mysterious and over cautious of myself and I'm scared what peoples reactions would be. You know that feeling that koms when a pretty lady gets too much attention from guys and she's wary of mingling with too many guys so people don't start calling her a prostitute and assuming she's so because she beautiful and getting too much attention. That's how I feel..... I suddenly feel like I don't want my reputation tainted and I don't want any scandals and I don't want anyone pointing fingers and saying, that was the guy that 3 ladies in his school fought over
Lmao.... I'm crazy..
I need some form of dynamism and flexibility right.
Funny enough I don't behave this way outside the confines of our varstity, but once I enter e dey be like one juju done sit don my head.

temi1290:
When you understand you don't eat for energy but nourishment.

You will grasp the fact that less is more.

You have no business eating more than twice a day.

You are already bag of energy.

Save your money, save your health

Fix your guts.
#UnfatYourself

Credit: The Last Knight

Thanks for this. Though I am not a fat guy but the way I spend money on fast food these days just doesn’t make any sense anymore.

heartofcity12:
Lol, he doesn’t realize that it’s sex first, every other thing later..

yes, sex first everything else after.

Guys kill me by how they make the grandest plans for a woman they don't even want to touch. Like how does that even work? Cause to the woman you're just another guy she knows. Nothing special.

The girl you have the biggest plans for must be that girl you're screwing like a hoe, whose puccy you're plowing and whom you're even impregnating. That's the girl who can be loyal to your vision. That's how you keep her invested. You take so much from her that for her to leave it will seem like a waste of her time, energy and body. #SunkCostFallacy

ubunja:
On Maintaining Frame....

Any understanding of how to maintain frame begins with understand this phrase:
WOMEN MAKE RULES FOR BETAS AND BREAK THEM FOR Alphas.

This explains how frames work.

"frame" is reality. And "maintaining frame" simply means being in charge of your reality, your world, as in, it's your rules and your programme. You will is done.

Now, women make rules for Betas and break them for Alphas:

Every human being has his or her own frame. Men and women have their own frame. And generally 80% of the Male population (the Beta majority) by default break frame when they deal with women,, as in they leave their own frame and enter a woman's frame, as in they abandon their own dominance of their reality and break their own rules to satisfy/align with/live by, the woman's rules - which is her frame.

This is why, by default, women have control in conventional relationships and hold all the power. It's because women have maintained frame. And men have broken frame.

But, Women break rules for the alpha.....

If a woman perceives you to be Alpha, she's more than willing to "break frame" for you and enter your frame. This is the "women break rules for the alpha" part.

When you're a weak man, women enjoy controlling you, that is they pull you into their frame and you become a puppet on strings, doing their bidding (women make rules for Betas) saying lame stuff like "happy wife happy life"

But when you're strong, women WANT and are WILLING to hand over control and rest in their femininity with the full confidence that they're safe with you, that you know what you're doing and you're able to lead, protect etc (women break rules for alphas).

A weak man awakens a woman's masculinity. And gets pulled into her frame.

A strong man awakens a woman's femininity. And inspires her to break frame for him.

Whatever state you're in, a woman will automatically become the opposite of it, because male/female interactions are by nature based on contrasts.

even varsity students know about a strong man...

ubunja:
I rarely respond to direct requests for help, I'd rather you present your problem for the general audience and anyone who can help you respond.

ok, no p.

To the general audience, i tender my apologies. I'm still a learner anyway

Pls help me on this

WHAT IS A ŠHİŤ TEST?

A woman testing you to see if you deserve her continued loyalty, submission and allegiance. These tests never end. She'll test and re-test all the days of her life.

Why does a woman shiit test her man?

A woman needs to challenge your authority and position as way to gauge and estimate your power to stand up and speak for yourself. She'll put you under pressure to better understand your responses. How you react and deal with her attacks and challenges gives her an accurate estimation of how you'll react and deal with the world's attacks and challenges. Her reasoning behind testing you is IF YOU CAN'T STAND UP FOR YOURSELF AGAINST HER ATTACKS, HOW WILL YOU STAND UP FOR HER WHEN THE WORLD ATTACKS HER. If a soft weak female about the age of your young sister makes you sweat and lose it, how much more will the big bad world make you sweat! Can she trust you? Is she even safe with you?

Ever since I've come across the redpill, my life has changed when it comes to women and life as a whole.

But there's this particular girl that likes me and I like her too but I didn't let it to show too much.

My main problem now is where I work does not give me that "space" to further work on her....like getting physical with her and i don't want to first demand for her number

Pls what do you think i can do to further attract this girl?

This girl likes me way much more than my other colleague but due to the fact that I am very sensitive to my surroundings so i don't usually talk to her in front of people so i think he's now taking advantage of that to roll with her

Advice me on what to do boss

Thanks

ubunja:
it's been a long journey bro,, a lot of the things written years ago are just starting to make sense for a lot of people. Guys are ready for the truth now.

Ubunja, how can a guy build rapport and comfort(on phone/chat) with a girl you met but you guys stay apart ( but same city) without over pursuing or under pursuing. What's your view on reach out every day?

Hi Guys, so lets assume you're working or doing well in business and your babe knows this. Is it advisable to act broke sometimes and ask her for money so get her to invest in the relationship?

Water is life

Smh