| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by stanliwise(m): 3:14pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
Moz22:
Actually typing this with a heavy heart and so much disgust for what I've done.. wish I had handled the situation better.
My father is the best man I could ever wish for and if I had another chance to pick a dad again in my next life, I'll pick a richer version of him but my mom?? Sigh!
However growing up with them was so stressful in every way u can think of.. my dad was the meek type, soft spoken and slow to react but my mom would always complain about everything, she fights everything and everyone.. never afraid of any form of confrontation, she would complain about my hairstyle, she would check if I sagged my trousers.. she monitored me extremely and always nagged about it.. I'm this typa guy who is well cultured, I wouldn't say I got that from home training tho cos I do not drink, smoke nor womanize... And I think it's d joy of every parent to have child like me, I basically had no friends visiting me then and even up till now. I've got trust issues that's why I don't keep friends.. my mom made my youthful days hell for me, I didn't really enjoy it.. times I spent with her were miserable as she would shout everyday, quarrel even over phone conversations that you would think the person she's fighting with was right in front of her.. and some times I even pity my dad whenever she starts with him. I developed some sorta hatred for her
Lately I've been spending more time with them cos of our last born just so I could keep an eye on him and we stayed close too.. and the way she treats him makes me wonder if she was the one gave birth to him, if I was away when she was pregnant for him and delivered.. I would have argued that she was his mother. There were times that I had to pass the night there and her voice or rants would be what will wake me up very early in the morning just as it used to be when I used to be there...
I used to think that as people grow old, they become calmer but that isn't the case with my mom, she's more violent... She lost her twin sis last year March and I sincerely hoped that would change atleast but iro nio... Her other sisters aren't even speaking to her at the moment. My dad was a musician.. old age won't allow him continue doing music, coincidentally I picked up that barton.. been doing the same music(live musician) all my life but my mom has always been against it.. she was never happy whenever I carry my dad's guitar to rehearse or whenever I bring a piano home.. it was always war...
Been there since last weekend cos of the poor electricity in my area.. we have had power for about 7 days now.. Had gone for a studio session, only to return in d evening and I was greeted with shouting over a very trivial issue, I was so angry that I responded to every of her verbal insults.. and then she hit me and I reciprocated which I felt so bad about almost immediately.. she dragged me by my clothes shouting that I must kill her again, by that time.. my anger had subdued and all I had on my mind was to leave the house immediately. She threatened to arrest me.. She tore my shirt and I managed to pull away from her.. and left without picking my stuffs. All my life, I have never raised up my hands to hit a woman talkless of my mom.. I don't even beat kids when they do wrong, I hate to see tears..
I know it's a disgraceful thing to do. I've got no excuse for what I've done whatsoever. I even avoid confrontations with my own gender sef cos I know what I'm capable of. I'm always quick to say the word sorry just to avoid prolonged issues. I had been offline since it happened, just came here to drop this and I know how much insults I'm gonna get here anyway but we learn everyday and will surely pick the ones that will make me a better person.. no one's perfect
Pls ignore my typo errors abeg There is no going back from what you have done. You have to accept you did it and forgive yourselves and ask for forgiveness from who you offended. Aside asking for forgiveness, you need to understand why you did it? else it would happen again maybe not your mom but maybe to your wife or girlfriend. or a random victim someday. One should only fight to protect one-self. outside that reason there are no reason to raise your hand over another adult. 3 Likes |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by southsouthking(m): 3:14pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
You broke the Bro code.
Please go beg for forgiveness with all seriousness. 3 Likes |
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| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by Hotice085: 3:14pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
Moz22:
Actually typing this with a heavy heart and so much disgust for what I've done.. wish I had handled the situation better.
My father is the best man I could ever wish for and if I had another chance to pick a dad again in my next life, I'll pick a richer version of him but my mom?? Sigh!
However growing up with them was so stressful in every way u can think of.. my dad was the meek type, soft spoken and slow to react but my mom would always complain about everything, she fights everything and everyone.. never afraid of any form of confrontation, she would complain about my hairstyle, she would check if I sagged my trousers.. she monitored me extremely and always nagged about it.. I'm this typa guy who is well cultured, I wouldn't say I got that from home training tho cos I do not drink, smoke nor womanize... And I think it's d joy of every parent to have child like me, I basically had no friends visiting me then and even up till now. I've got trust issues that's why I don't keep friends.. my mom made my youthful days hell for me, I didn't really enjoy it.. times I spent with her were miserable as she would shout everyday, quarrel even over phone conversations that you would think the person she's fighting with was right in front of her.. and some times I even pity my dad whenever she starts with him. I developed some sorta hatred for her
Lately I've been spending more time with them cos of our last born just so I could keep an eye on him and we stayed close too.. and the way she treats him makes me wonder if she was the one gave birth to him, if I was away when she was pregnant for him and delivered.. I would have argued that she was his mother. There were times that I had to pass the night there and her voice or rants would be what will wake me up very early in the morning just as it used to be when I used to be there...
I used to think that as people grow old, they become calmer but that isn't the case with my mom, she's more violent... She lost her twin sis last year March and I sincerely hoped that would change atleast but iro nio... Her other sisters aren't even speaking to her at the moment. My dad was a musician.. old age won't allow him continue doing music, coincidentally I picked up that barton.. been doing the same music(live musician) all my life but my mom has always been against it.. she was never happy whenever I carry my dad's guitar to rehearse or whenever I bring a piano home.. it was always war...
Been there since last weekend cos of the poor electricity in my area.. we have had power for about 7 days now.. Had gone for a studio session, only to return in d evening and I was greeted with shouting over a very trivial issue, I was so angry that I responded to every of her verbal insults.. and then she hit me and I reciprocated which I felt so bad about almost immediately.. she dragged me by my clothes shouting that I must kill her again, by that time.. my anger had subdued and all I had on my mind was to leave the house immediately. She threatened to arrest me.. She tore my shirt and I managed to pull away from her.. and left without picking my stuffs. All my life, I have never raised up my hands to hit a woman talkless of my mom.. I don't even beat kids when they do wrong, I hate to see tears..
I know it's a disgraceful thing to do. I've got no excuse for what I've done whatsoever. I even avoid confrontations with my own gender sef cos I know what I'm capable of. I'm always quick to say the word sorry just to avoid prolonged issues. I had been offline since it happened, just came here to drop this and I know how much insults I'm gonna get here anyway but we learn everyday and will surely pick the ones that will make me a better person.. no one's perfect
Pls ignore my typo errors abeg . The fact that you are remorseful is good, wait till your father returns then do whatever he ask you to do 1 Like |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by basty: 3:15pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
You are doomed.
The law of nature will answer you at the appropriate time. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by Bmaster(m): 3:15pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
chaiii.
Dude,beta start begging ur mom.
U shouldn't have slapped ur mom no matter what!
People and feeling woke sef....
Mtcheww
Smh! 2 Likes |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by Betnomore: 3:15pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
My advice to you is to do all you can to appease your mother even if it doesn’t come from your heart. Once she has forgiven you, just distance yourself from her because she will likely trigger that anger in you some other times and will say “SHEYBE YOU HAVE BEATEN ME BEFORE, COME AND BEAT ME AGAIN”. She will always refer to that incident. Just try to make peace with her and avoid her at any opportunity you get. It’s not that you don’t love your mother, all you’re trying to do is not to hurt her feelings and your own mental health cos it’s certain she will frustrate you again. Also pray to God for forgiveness Moz22:
Actually typing this with a heavy heart and so much disgust for what I've done.. wish I had handled the situation better.
My father is the best man I could ever wish for and if I had another chance to pick a dad again in my next life, I'll pick a richer version of him but my mom?? Sigh!
However growing up with them was so stressful in every way u can think of.. my dad was the meek type, soft spoken and slow to react but my mom would always complain about everything, she fights everything and everyone.. never afraid of any form of confrontation, she would complain about my hairstyle, she would check if I sagged my trousers.. she monitored me extremely and always nagged about it.. I'm this typa guy who is well cultured, I wouldn't say I got that from home training tho cos I do not drink, smoke nor womanize... And I think it's d joy of every parent to have child like me, I basically had no friends visiting me then and even up till now. I've got trust issues that's why I don't keep friends.. my mom made my youthful days hell for me, I didn't really enjoy it.. times I spent with her were miserable as she would shout everyday, quarrel even over phone conversations that you would think the person she's fighting with was right in front of her.. and some times I even pity my dad whenever she starts with him. I developed some sorta hatred for her
Lately I've been spending more time with them cos of our last born just so I could keep an eye on him and we stayed close too.. and the way she treats him makes me wonder if she was the one gave birth to him, if I was away when she was pregnant for him and delivered.. I would have argued that she was his mother. There were times that I had to pass the night there and her voice or rants would be what will wake me up very early in the morning just as it used to be when I used to be there...
I used to think that as people grow old, they become calmer but that isn't the case with my mom, she's more violent... She lost her twin sis last year March and I sincerely hoped that would change atleast but iro nio... Her other sisters aren't even speaking to her at the moment. My dad was a musician.. old age won't allow him continue doing music, coincidentally I picked up that barton.. been doing the same music(live musician) all my life but my mom has always been against it.. she was never happy whenever I carry my dad's guitar to rehearse or whenever I bring a piano home.. it was always war...
Been there since last weekend cos of the poor electricity in my area.. we have had power for about 7 days now.. Had gone for a studio session, only to return in d evening and I was greeted with shouting over a very trivial issue, I was so angry that I responded to every of her verbal insults.. and then she hit me and I reciprocated which I felt so bad about almost immediately.. she dragged me by my clothes shouting that I must kill her again, by that time.. my anger had subdued and all I had on my mind was to leave the house immediately. She threatened to arrest me.. She tore my shirt and I managed to pull away from her.. and left without picking my stuffs. All my life, I have never raised up my hands to hit a woman talkless of my mom.. I don't even beat kids when they do wrong, I hate to see tears..
I know it's a disgraceful thing to do. I've got no excuse for what I've done whatsoever. I even avoid confrontations with my own gender sef cos I know what I'm capable of. I'm always quick to say the word sorry just to avoid prolonged issues. I had been offline since it happened, just came here to drop this and I know how much insults I'm gonna get here anyway but we learn everyday and will surely pick the ones that will make me a better person.. no one's perfect
Pls ignore my typo errors abeg 4 Likes |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by Anaerobi(m): 3:15pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
Fahdiga:
You try. kudos. May your children lift you 8ft above the ground and leave you to fall yakata in future in Jesus name amen I doubt you read the post.... The deed is done already. |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by salem1996: 3:15pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
.[color=#006600][/color] men, this is sad but then only few will understand you. Didn't grew up with my bio parents but wonderful people though. Despite their love and contributions to my life, I can tell you that though am in my mid 20s, sometimes I hate it here really. I think the best is to go back to your mom and ask for forgiveness [forgetting whether you are right or wrong here. The Bible said even when others hurt us, we should go meet them to settle the issues]. Do not do it because of fear, curses or anything, do it because it's worth doing. And after that, if you can avoid home, do that peacefully. Ask God for mercy and He will help you soften your mom's heart.
But some Afrcan parents truly have a lot of Ps. 1 Like |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by magicfairy(m): 3:16pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
Sorry for the trials you, your dad and your sibling have gone through. From what I can assess, your mother might mental health/anger management problems. She needs to be properly assessed. Get elders in your family to speak with her regarding the way forward. 1 Like |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by Mariangeles(f): 3:16pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
Moz22:
she threatened to bring police to my house and arrest me and she was dead serious, not scared of being punished for what I've done but she's only making hate her more. I won't run and i await them In spite of everything, try not to hate her. When the whole situation is calm, prostrate and say sorry to her. Tell her it’ll never happen again. Then buy her something she’d find hard to reject. 3 Likes |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by Psady(m): 3:17pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
Iyaebe:
Hmmmm,you need to seriously beg for her forgiveness else your future kids will hit you too and it becomes a thing in the family, you should have simply left the scene rather than exchanging words with her but she pushed you to it which is bad on her side but she’s your mom and has some edge over you.Learn to keep some distance from people who can easily trigger you be it parents and whatever.Go and redeem this messy situation and never allow such to happen again,also ask God to forgive you after your mom has finally forgiven you.Good luck True word DISTANCE! that's all it takes to avoid such occurrence. 2 Likes |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by daveP(m): 3:17pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
If you got uncles and aunts you rapport with, especially your dad's side, try find out what happened before your parents got married. I sense regret from both of them. A pity this transfer of such is passed to you the kids.
You can apologize which is the expected thing to do, but she needs to know how her actions are affecting everyone in the home. 1 Like |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by jimmychang: 3:18pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
The hatred for her has been piling up and it resulted in your outburst...it is not your fault abeg. My stepmom did the same to me and naturally I am a very calm person.I don't smoke,womanise,big introvert.My stepmom will always complain about me even if I breathe  .I started resenting her and the resentment grew.One day she started and omo my fuse just blow.I warned her that I was going to beat her up ; and I didn't know when I said it.It was the anger speaking .I hate going home on holidays because of her when I was in boarding school.My dad knew. Las Las na me them still blame. 2 Likes |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by Reference(m): 3:18pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
Antina:
Because you didn't want to listen to the truth? Some mothers behave worst than yours, yet no kid is able to return insults let alone hit her.
That is the way you were brought up. That is the truth.
Your mother for that matter, Then who cant you hit?
This is very uncharitable towards the young man. So who else or what else could have brought up the man differently. You heard him. He is essentially grounded so everything his knows and is comes from her. Yes, the other side of the story is not known but if there was wanton abuse in that family, honestly the mum had it coming. There is a reward for good parenting and bad parenting. The mum just cannot have it both ways. She should thank her stars that the boy is remorseful and the dad must be responsible for that genetic trait, if not matters could have gone much worse. I will always look at the underlying reasons for every occurrence and in this report it is clear the mum is entirely responsible for the incident. Sorry but qualitative parenting has its reasons and you simply cannot reap where you do not sow. The mum caused this tragedy. It is she who should apologise for leading the lad into a dark place. 5 Likes 1 Share |
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| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by Adex5: 3:19pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
bro see Just try nd find like her close Frd she do talk to Everytime nd some elderly people too so dey could help u beg her wat u did it's bad just beg her for forgiveness she is ur mum no matter wat.. okay .. it's well ijn. |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by osazsky(m): 3:19pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
Moz22:
Actually typing this with a heavy heart and so much disgust for what I've done.. wish I had handled the situation better.
My father is the best man I could ever wish for and if I had another chance to pick a dad again in my next life, I'll pick a richer version of him but my mom?? Sigh!
However growing up with them was so stressful in every way u can think of.. my dad was the meek type, soft spoken and slow to react but my mom would always complain about everything, she fights everything and everyone.. never afraid of any form of confrontation, she would complain about my hairstyle, she would check if I sagged my trousers.. she monitored me extremely and always nagged about it.. I'm this typa guy who is well cultured, I wouldn't say I got that from home training tho cos I do not drink, smoke nor womanize... And I think it's d joy of every parent to have child like me, I basically had no friends visiting me then and even up till now. I've got trust issues that's why I don't keep friends.. my mom made my youthful days hell for me, I didn't really enjoy it.. times I spent with her were miserable as she would shout everyday, quarrel even over phone conversations that you would think the person she's fighting with was right in front of her.. and some times I even pity my dad whenever she starts with him. I developed some sorta hatred for her
Lately I've been spending more time with them cos of our last born just so I could keep an eye on him and we stayed close too.. and the way she treats him makes me wonder if she was the one gave birth to him, if I was away when she was pregnant for him and delivered.. I would have argued that she was his mother. There were times that I had to pass the night there and her voice or rants would be what will wake me up very early in the morning just as it used to be when I used to be there...
I used to think that as people grow old, they become calmer but that isn't the case with my mom, she's more violent... She lost her twin sis last year March and I sincerely hoped that would change atleast but iro nio... Her other sisters aren't even speaking to her at the moment. My dad was a musician.. old age won't allow him continue doing music, coincidentally I picked up that barton.. been doing the same music(live musician) all my life but my mom has always been against it.. she was never happy whenever I carry my dad's guitar to rehearse or whenever I bring a piano home.. it was always war...
Been there since last weekend cos of the poor electricity in my area.. we have had power for about 7 days now.. Had gone for a studio session, only to return in d evening and I was greeted with shouting over a very trivial issue, I was so angry that I responded to every of her verbal insults.. and then she hit me and I reciprocated which I felt so bad about almost immediately.. she dragged me by my clothes shouting that I must kill her again, by that time.. my anger had subdued and all I had on my mind was to leave the house immediately. She threatened to arrest me.. She tore my shirt and I managed to pull away from her.. and left without picking my stuffs. All my life, I have never raised up my hands to hit a woman talkless of my mom.. I don't even beat kids when they do wrong, I hate to see tears..
I know it's a disgraceful thing to do. I've got no excuse for what I've done whatsoever. I even avoid confrontations with my own gender sef cos I know what I'm capable of. I'm always quick to say the word sorry just to avoid prolonged issues. I had been offline since it happened, just came here to drop this and I know how much insults I'm gonna get here anyway but we learn everyday and will surely pick the ones that will make me a better person.. no one's perfect
Pls ignore my typo errors abeg in benin if you dont kill 7 she goat..u become a bastard child..sorry the law is d law..u are a bastard 3 Likes |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by peacettw: 3:19pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
Take my words seriously. Your mom may not be physically well. I had an aunt just like this and what we had all thought was nature turned out to be a big brain tumour which completely changed her character over the years and made her family's life a living hell.
Take your mom for a thorough check up and make sure she gets a brain CTscan while you are it.
Best of luck 1 Like |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by salem1996: 3:20pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
Betnomore:
My advice to you is to do all you can to appease your mother even if it doesn’t come from your heart. Once she has forgiven you, just distance yourself from her because she will likely trigger that anger in you some other times and will say “SHEYBE YOU HAVE BEATEN ME BEFORE, COME AND BEAT ME AGAIN”. She will always refer to that incident. Just try to make peace with her and avoid her at any opportunity you get. It’s not that you don’t love your mother, all you’re trying to do is not to hurt her feelings and your own mental health cos it’s certain she will frustrate you again. Also pray to God for forgiveness
I tell you, she will want to use that incident to torment the guy unnecessarily... even when it doesn't match what's happening at that moment. But the OP really need to sit the mom down and ask if there is something really troubling her. Like me, my bio mom is like another God to us with the way she's always willing to keep us warm around her |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by MyExpression(m): 3:20pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
Iyaebe:
Hmmmm,you need to seriously beg for her forgiveness else your future kids will hit you too and it becomes a thing in the family, you should have simply left the scene rather than exchanging words with her but she pushed you to it which is bad on her side but she’s your mom and has some edge over you.Learn to keep some distance from people who can easily trigger you be it parents and whatever.Go and redeem this messy situation and never allow such to happen again,also ask God to forgive you after your mom has finally forgiven you.Good luck Calm down with the sentimental religious/cultural myth. 1 Like |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by Grandmeister(m): 3:21pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
basty:
You are doomed.
The law of nature will answer you at the appropriate time. He can never be doomed if his story is true. Even the Bible advised parents never to push their children to anger! It is parents like this that has pushed many young boys and girls into committing suicide. And when they do it we come on nairaland and type RIP meanwhile the supposed halo and untouchable parents will still be breathing and living out their lives. Thank goodness I never had such parents. It will be hell on earth to have a parent that will contribute to your mental breakdown rather than being your backbone. Living as a Nigerian in Nigeria is hell already. 6 Likes |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by Awoleesu(m): 3:21pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
Hmmm.
Things are happening and this is so disheartening!
Let me start by sympathizing with you. I'm almost tempted to say what you did was wrong, but on a deeper thought I'll not judge you.
1. Your Mom may very likely need help...a situation everyone seemed to have ignored for too long!
Maybe you can instigate some respected members of the family to suggest this to your Dad. Make her see a mental health expert ASAP.
2. If/when by God's help she accepts the help and the therapy, you need to go to her, hold her two hands on yours, go on your two knees and plead for her forgiveness! Let her forgive and pray for you, because you need to have that episode of your life totally extinguished!
3. I don't know your spiritual inclination, but if you're a believer in God, you need to have a talk with HIm also... For mercy and obliteration of the act you were provoked to do as against His ordinance.
4. Pls make sure your Mom gets help as fast as possible! That's where the healing process for all this trauma starts...
May God help you. 1 Like 2 Shares |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by asto70: 3:22pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
[Honestly l sympathise with you , l can understand your feelings but the deed has been done ,just go back to her and beg her ,you don' t have to go with anyone pull yourself together and if ir means lying on the floor when you get there do it let her see the sincerity in your action and l know she will forgive you.quote author=Moz22 post=111307732]Actually typing this with a heavy heart and so much disgust for what I've done.. wish I had handled the situation better.
My father is the best man I could ever wish for and if I had another chance to pick a dad again in my next life, I'll pick a richer version of him but my mom?? Sigh!
However growing up with them was so stressful in every way u can think of.. my dad was the meek type, soft spoken and slow to react but my mom would always complain about everything, she fights everything and everyone.. never afraid of any form of confrontation, she would complain about my hairstyle, she would check if I sagged my trousers.. she monitored me extremely and always nagged about it.. I'm this typa guy who is well cultured, I wouldn't say I got that from home training tho cos I do not drink, smoke nor womanize... And I think it's d joy of every parent to have child like me, I basically had no friends visiting me then and even up till now. I've got trust issues that's why I don't keep friends.. my mom made my youthful days hell for me, I didn't really enjoy it.. times I spent with her were miserable as she would shout everyday, quarrel even over phone conversations that you would think the person she's fighting with was right in front of her.. and some times I even pity my dad whenever she starts with him. I developed some sorta hatred for her
Lately I've been spending more time with them cos of our last born just so I could keep an eye on him and we stayed close too.. and the way she treats him makes me wonder if she was the one gave birth to him, if I was away when she was pregnant for him and delivered.. I would have argued that she was his mother. There were times that I had to pass the night there and her voice or rants would be what will wake me up very early in the morning just as it used to be when I used to be there...
I used to think that as people grow old, they become calmer but that isn't the case with my mom, she's more violent... She lost her twin sis last year March and I sincerely hoped that would change atleast but iro nio... Her other sisters aren't even speaking to her at the moment. My dad was a musician.. old age won't allow him continue doing music, coincidentally I picked up that barton.. been doing the same music(live musician) all my life but my mom has always been against it.. she was never happy whenever I carry my dad's guitar to rehearse or whenever I bring a piano home.. it was always war...
Been there since last weekend cos of the poor electricity in my area.. we have had power for about 7 days now.. Had gone for a studio session, only to return in d evening and I was greeted with shouting over a very trivial issue, I was so angry that I responded to every of her verbal insults.. and then she hit me and I reciprocated which I felt so bad about almost immediately.. she dragged me by my clothes shouting that I must kill her again, by that time.. my anger had subdued and all I had on my mind was to leave the house immediately. She threatened to arrest me.. She tore my shirt and I managed to pull away from her.. and left without picking my stuffs. All my life, I have never raised up my hands to hit a woman talkless of my mom.. I don't even beat kids when they do wrong, I hate to see tears..
I know it's a disgraceful thing to do. I've got no excuse for what I've done whatsoever. I even avoid confrontations with my own gender sef cos I know what I'm capable of. I'm always quick to say the word sorry just to avoid prolonged issues. I had been offline since it happened, just came here to drop this and I know how much insults I'm gonna get here anyway but we learn everyday and will surely pick the ones that will make me a better person.. no one's perfect
Pls ignore my typo errors abeg[/quote] |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by abbey621(m): 3:22pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
Know your role as a child and be at peace. Your parents are your parents and a grown man like you should not be living with your parents. This was the actual cause of your problem, nothing else! The excuse that you want to monitor the last born is just an excuse. Now listen up, you should do as most people advised, buy her something nice and apologize sincerely. Find a way to move out ASAP and see if you can take the last born with you. You're a man, confrontation and tests are bound to happen in life, the way yopu handle it determines whether you'll be at peace or in turmoil.......SEEK WISDOM! 2 Likes |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by Legendoo: 3:23pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
My own be say what should we do now .
Beg her perhaps, tell you not to do it again, encourage you to beat her again .
I don't get this internet gen mofos. |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by Socratiz: 3:23pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
The people condemning you here are those who don't know what it means to have a toxic mum, one who makes you regret your existence.
The mistake you made was staying too long in her presence for your patience to be exhausted.
You will need to apologize though she may not accept your apology. It doesn't matter. Just do it.
Secondly, stay away from her. Find other means of being a worthy brother to the last born. Avoid your mum so that such a thing does not repeat itself.
BTW, where was your dad when all these happened? Did he intervene? What was his response when your mum reported to him?
It's important to know what he thought about the incident. I would expect him to encourage you to apologize to your mum.
Just do that and keep off. 1 Like |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by ArewaTech1(m): 3:23pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
didn't read the whole thing....
1 thing is sure, YOUR CHILDREN GO SHOW YOU PEPE, DEM GO DO YOU SHEGE.
No matter what happens, you NEVER suppose raise your hands on your parents..
There's this Islamic saying...
'your heaven is beneath the feet of your parents'
'disobeying your parents is indirectly disobeying God [except in a select scenarios]'
Are you sure you want to make heaven?
LET ME ASK YOU THIS.... 'HAVE YOU DARED TO HIT YOUR GIRLFRIEND OUT RAGE?'
FINALLY... YOU ARE VERY VERY STOO-PID. IN FACT YOU ARE AN IJIOT.
SMH! 1 Like |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by dettolgel: 3:23pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
Iyaebe:
Hmmmm,you need to seriously beg for her forgiveness else your future kids will hit you too and it becomes a thing in the family, you should have simply left the scene rather than exchanging words with her but she pushed you to it which is bad on her side but she’s your mom and has some edge over you.Learn to keep some distance from people who can easily trigger you be it parents and whatever.Go and redeem this messy situation and never allow such to happen again,also ask God to forgive you after your mom has finally forgiven you.Good luck So you are saying that even if ops turns out to be a great dad and neither violent nor toxic to his children that his child(without any form of mental issues) will out of the blues attack him? I really find most Nigerians logic comical. 4 Likes |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by shinealight(m): 3:23pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
Moz22:
Actually typing this with a heavy heart and so much disgust for what I've done.. wish I had handled the situation better.
My father is the best man I could ever wish for and if I had another chance to pick a dad again in my next life, I'll pick a richer version of him but my mom?? Sigh!
However growing up with them was so stressful in every way u can think of.. my dad was the meek type, soft spoken and slow to react but my mom would always complain about everything, she fights everything and everyone.. never afraid of any form of confrontation, she would complain about my hairstyle, she would check if I sagged my trousers.. she monitored me extremely and always nagged about it.. I'm this typa guy who is well cultured, I wouldn't say I got that from home training tho cos I do not drink, smoke nor womanize... And I think it's d joy of every parent to have child like me, I basically had no friends visiting me then and even up till now. I've got trust issues that's why I don't keep friends.. my mom made my youthful days hell for me, I didn't really enjoy it.. times I spent with her were miserable as she would shout everyday, quarrel even over phone conversations that you would think the person she's fighting with was right in front of her.. and some times I even pity my dad whenever she starts with him. I developed some sorta hatred for her
Lately I've been spending more time with them cos of our last born just so I could keep an eye on him and we stayed close too.. and the way she treats him makes me wonder if she was the one gave birth to him, if I was away when she was pregnant for him and delivered.. I would have argued that she was his mother. There were times that I had to pass the night there and her voice or rants would be what will wake me up very early in the morning just as it used to be when I used to be there...
I used to think that as people grow old, they become calmer but that isn't the case with my mom, she's more violent... She lost her twin sis last year March and I sincerely hoped that would change atleast but iro nio... Her other sisters aren't even speaking to her at the moment. My dad was a musician.. old age won't allow him continue doing music, coincidentally I picked up that barton.. been doing the same music(live musician) all my life but my mom has always been against it.. she was never happy whenever I carry my dad's guitar to rehearse or whenever I bring a piano home.. it was always war...
Been there since last weekend cos of the poor electricity in my area.. we have had power for about 7 days now.. Had gone for a studio session, only to return in d evening and I was greeted with shouting over a very trivial issue, I was so angry that I responded to every of her verbal insults.. and then she hit me and I reciprocated which I felt so bad about almost immediately.. she dragged me by my clothes shouting that I must kill her again, by that time.. my anger had subdued and all I had on my mind was to leave the house immediately. She threatened to arrest me.. She tore my shirt and I managed to pull away from her.. and left without picking my stuffs. All my life, I have never raised up my hands to hit a woman talkless of my mom.. I don't even beat kids when they do wrong, I hate to see tears..
I know it's a disgraceful thing to do. I've got no excuse for what I've done whatsoever. I even avoid confrontations with my own gender sef cos I know what I'm capable of. I'm always quick to say the word sorry just to avoid prolonged issues. I had been offline since it happened, just came here to drop this and I know how much insults I'm gonna get here anyway but we learn everyday and will surely pick the ones that will make me a better person.. no one's perfect
Pls ignore my typo errors abeg What? I didn’t even bother to read the rest of your story….Nothing anyone can say here that can be used to justify someone hitting his/her parent…particularly one’s Mum. What kind of curse is that?  Better go and do proper “dobale”(prostrate) before she puts an irredeemable curse on you. Just my two cents o! 3 Likes |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by EzePaschal(m): 3:24pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
Fahdiga:
You try. kudos. May your children lift you 8ft above the ground and leave you to fall yakata in future in Jesus name amen Laziness and an empty head couldn't even let you read the whole write-up. Chai. You just read the title and began to comment nonsense 1 Like |
| Re: Out Of Rage, I Hit My Mum Yesterday! by Tallesty1(m): 3:24pm On Mar 24, 2022 |
Iyaebe:
else your future kids will hit you too and it becomes a thing in the family Rubbish |
