creepsyme:

I am sincerely speechless by this question, I wish I have an answer to it.
However, I am now feeling stupid.

But please I would appreciate you give an answer still... did you really believe what you were told about some woman somewhere remote controlling your life - business snd finances, and even love life?

Did you seriously believe that a mystery woman is to blame for the mistakes you made of your own in your life and for your life turning out the way it has?

creepsyme:

Amen!
Thank you so much.

since you can still be productive... get a child through your boyfriend even if he's not ready and even if you're not financially okay for now. That's the one thing you can hold on to in the midst of your ordeal. forget what the society will say cos you won't be able to afford a child when you past the age of production.

creepsyme:

I think I should seriously consider this.
Thanks so much for your time.

Please do. What is the sense in bringing a child into this world that you at this point have yet to figure out? And don't get me wrong. There are at least billions out there who are exactly where you are as far as understanding only it seems they are not because of all they surround themselves with. You take all that away and then you realize their existence is just as fragile,maybe even more so, than yours. So, please do not bring another soul into this world just because you selfishly desire companion. There are already kids out there who are in need of a home and love that you can adopt and raise.

sisisioge:


Honestly, I and your mother are more like in the same position.....you absolutely lack respect for your elders! When do you intend to have sense? Sicko disrespectful SOB ! I told your mother to be careful with you fa! Look what you've become! Omo oshi banza

faithfull18:

Write your story please, we love to read them

You too like gist..

killmods:

You too like gist..

Beyond the failed relationships, there are lessons https://crossbar.ng/2022/03/24/beyond-the-failed-relationships-there-are-lessons/

BHG1:

Beyond the failed relationships, there are lessons https://crossbar.ng/2022/03/24/beyond-the-failed-relationships-there-are-lessons/

Bros which one be link u dey send me Na? I'm not clicking anything oo... so u know

@Klass99


@ The bolded, I honestly think this is part of the reason/problem why people go from one spiritual house to another in pursuit of deliverance.

The moment they buy into the notion that there are ancestral or spiritual forces working against them, the sojourn commences.

However, that is not an issue I want to debate though and your feedback on my questions is appreciated.


@me
I have taught Christians that there is no need to move from prayer house to prayer house or to move from pastor to pastor in pursuit of deliverance. The greatest deliverance anyone needs is the deliverance from ignorance.

Go close to a sound pastor that is gifted. Examine yourself if there are personal errors that you need to correct. Examine your relationship with Christ. Check trends and pattern. If it's one off then it's not a deliverance issue. If you are the only exception in the family then it's not a deliverance issue.

If it runs in the family and/or it's recurring then it's a deliverance issue. If it has a particular time that it occurs then it's deliverance issue. Etc. etc. Identify the entrance and close it. Create constant spiritual fire around yourself. Ensure that you maintain your deliverance.

Are there demons.... yes. Is deliverance real... yes. Can you practice and pray yourself with little or no assistance.... yes. What is most important is knowledge. I agree that there are layers of anointing. Some stubborn cases require gifted people but much can be done by the person with guidance.

creepsyme:

I truly appreciate the time you took in responding to me, I feel so ventilated.
Firstly, concerning the issues of my finance, I noticed while I worked in the bank I made series of errors that got me paying monies, no matter the department I am being transfered to.
Secondly, I was literally the only one working in my family, it may interest you to know that I am from a family of 10, 3 boys and 7 girls all from the same mother, I am the second child and the bulk of financial responsibility rested on me.
I trained 4 of my siblings in the university upon graduation I thought I could be relieved but not job came around them only menial jobs .
Concerning relationship, saying good things about myself may sound like blowing my own trumpet, I did all I could in my relationships to work but to no avail, it may interest you also to know that I grew up in my family to discover my cousin sisters were just there without marriage, my siblings never got married until from 2016 - 2017 it was so glaring that everybody knew something was basically wrong iny family.
As I speak right now, my major challenge is self discovery, life isn't all about going to school to acquire degrees, I wish I know how to go about it.
However, If I know a different approach to give the situation I will gladly do it without hesitation.

If you want to discover yourself, take this personality test:
https://www.truity.com/page/16-personality-types-myers-briggs

Like you said, life is not all about going to school to acquire degrees. The way you think and act, it's a unique way that matches a personality type. Some people have dedicated their lives to studying and doing research to understand human nature a lot better, the least you could do is tap into that knowledge and better your life.

Kobojunkie:
There are ways to remedy that these days.

■ Roommates - could be relatives or strangers
■ Adoption

Etc.

Goodluvk o

AutoChick4U:
Goodluvk o

If only! There are many women out there who have been married and now find themselves abandoned for one reason or another, many of them having learned the hard way that marriage and kids aren't necessarily the best ways for curing that which ails the heart.

Kobojunkie:
If only! There are many women out there who have been married and now find themselves abandoned for one reason or another, many of them having learned the hard way that marriage and kids aren't necessarily the best ways for curing that which ails the heart.

its not just marriage but having a dedicated partner. Soulmate kinda ish

AutoChick4U:
its not just marriage but having a dedicated partner. Soulmate kinda ish

How many men/women out there have even that outside of marriage? Not a lot , so what should they do? I think life shouldn't be lived pining for that which has yet to happen to one. Instead, life should be lived enjoying what one can even as one continues to hope for something better to come along.

Take the OP'S case for instance, she likely spent her 20s and 30s, and even 40s pining for the love of a partner/soul mate, forgetting that there are many other fulfilling ways of getting love in life regardless.

Even Jesus Christ said that God created some Eunuchs from birth, made some Eunuchs in this life, and allowed others live as Eunuchs for the sake of His Kingdom. If those born Eunuchs can find happiness and fulfillment, why can't those who believe they weren't do same?

Kobojunkie:
How many men/women out there have even that outside of marriage? Not a lot , so what should they do? I think life shouldn't be lived pining for that which has yet to happen to one. Instead, life should be lived enjoying what one can even as one continues to hope for something better to come along.

Take the OP'S case for instance, she likely spent her 20s and 30s, and even 40s pining for the love of a partner/soul mate, forgetting that there are many other fulfilling ways of getting love in life regardless.

Even Jesus Christ said that God created some Eunuchs from birth, made some Eunuchs in this life, and allowed others live as Eunuchs for the sake of His Kingdom. If those born Eunuchs can find happiness and fulfillment, why can't those who believe they weren't do same?

Omo. You sure I won't buy you lunch like this? U quite d brilliant fellow

AutoChick4U:
Omo. You sure I won't buy you lunch like this? U quite d brilliant fellow

Kobojunkie:

Bye bye

Kobojunkie:
She is not alone.... from her very own story she has never been alone. Instead she thinks that the only way to not be alone is to be married and maybe have kids, but that isn't true at all. Changing one's mentality can make one realize this and that is why I suggest she disconnect from thinking of marriage some of cure for what she is struggling with.

So who is she with, apart from herself?

BRATISLAVA:
So who is she with, apart from herself?

From her own Op, she has family around her. She has never been truly alone.

Kobojunkie:
From her own Op, she has family around her. She has never been truly alone.

Family can't give her the feeling of motherhood or have sex with her. There are levels to loneliness. At the end of the day family will go to their own people and she will be alone.

That's what she's talking about.

BRATISLAVA:
Family can't give her the feeling of motherhood or have sex with her. There are levels to loneliness. At the end of the day family will go to their own people and she will be alone.

That's what she's talking about.

Feeling of motherhood? Have sex with her? ... LOL....

Why she no become baby mama or hooker then?

Kobojunkie:
Please do. What is the sense in bringing a child into this world that you at this point have yet to figure out? And don't get me wrong. There are at least billions out there who are exactly where you are as far as understanding only it seems they are not because of all they surround themselves with. You take all that away and then you realize their existence is just as fragile,maybe even more so, than yours. So, please do not bring another soul into this world just because you selfishly desire companion. There are already kids out there who are in need of a home and love that you can adopt and raise.

Thanks.
This sounds pretty well.

Holy shit....my mum is 4 years older than u and am 33 years.

user32:
Holy shit....my mum is 4 years older than u and am 33 year.

One of the advantage of early marriage.

Vision101:
Life is mystery. There are too many things that happen to us that we can't understand nor explain. Between 1991 and 1992 I did extremely well as a young man in my late 20s. I was in the financial sector. But I was not born again and I didn't patronize the devil. I just believed in brilliance and hard work.

Then the attacks came. Everything crumbled like pack of cards. I told my wife then that the issue was not whether I will get job but whether I'll get the job that I liked.

I started applying for jobs. Invitations were coming and I attended interviews. Offers were coming. None of the offer letters ever got to me. Mind you I used personal letter box and not street address. Each time I got to the companies they will show me copies of the letters they sent to me. They will tell me that after waiting for me they decided to take the next person.

I became born again. Went for deliverance and prayers but no result. One day I attended a service and preacher preached on ASK - ask seek and knock. He said that if God shows you that your destiny is in a room that is locked up, if you knock and the door refuses to open, go back and throw your whole body on the door. The door must open and God will understand.

I told myself that my problem has gone beyond traditional deliverance and prayers. I decided to embark on a type of prayer that I had never done before. After it God opened my eyes and showed me the source of my problems and how they were destroyed.

I applied for an accounting practice job and I got instant favourable consideration. I worked there for only one month and I got an offer from a foreign construction company. I worked there for 17 years.

LESSONS
1 life is full of mysteries
2 No one can go far in life without a spiritual force behind him - either positive or negative.
3 The spiritual controls the physical.
4 Desperate situations demand desperate action.
5 When you read the Bible or listen to messages look out for the life in the word. This can only be shown by the Holy Spirit.

THE OP
1 Your situation is redeemable in Christ.
2 Give your life fully to Christ not because you want solution but because he is all that you have.
3 Don't focus on Christ giving you husband, child or job but just love and serve him.
4 If what you wrote is true, there's definitely spiritual reason behind your problem.
5 As you get closer to Christ begin to refocus on your career. God can only bless the works of your hands.
6 When testimonies begin to arrive, don't relax but get closer to Christ. Don't allow the devil to deceive you that you have arrived.
7 One by one lines (husband, children, prosperity etc.) will begin to fall for you in pleasant places.
8 You must be ready to fight the good fight of faith. This doesn't exclude "physical fight".

Beautiful

...

creepsyme:

I am sincerely speechless by this question, I wish I have an answer to it.
However, I am now feeling stupid.

Madam, don't mind Kobo. Your problem is spiritual and if you are feeling silly over what was revealed to you, then I'm guessing you have been embarking on your deliverance programs without faith. This life is deep and is controlled by the spiritual.

You need to investigate your foundation and find out the origin of this pattern in your family. Start from there.

Neptunium:
Your mom had you at 18 then

yeah

FarmPickJuice:


One of the advantage of early marriage.

sure

creepsyme:
Hello moderators kindly move this topic to frontpage please and please.

I am a lady of 47 years.
I never knew my life would turn out this way, I never knew I would get to even 30 years without getting married not to talk of 47 years.
Well, for the benefits of doubts, I am super pretty and gorgeous, I am educated at least I have my first degree and one or two professional qualifications.
Nothing I did ever came out productive, I lived all my life struggling to make ends meet and attain the life I ever prayed and desired for, but to no avail.
I worked in the bank for several years and came out with absolutely nothing to show for it, worst of it is, my outlook never agree with my situation, people see me and beg me for money thinking I am okay not knowing I don't even know where my next meal will come from, I get cheated each time I buy stuff because I look rich to them sometimes I weep before the sellers when I discover I am being cheated until they become confused.

I have never in my life been choosy about a life partner Incase anyone may think I was been selective.
No man ever asked for my hand in marriage until I got to 39 years,I had good relationships that never resulted to anything, at the beginning of any relationship the men could literally lick my feet and move mountains for me, but eventually it ends in premium tears for me.
I have had opportunity to mingle with the low and high class, I only succeed in going around the circle of high class without even touching it myself.

I have tried my hands on so many things but it failed just to ensure I don't beg and to put food on my table.
I have prayed all the prayers I know, done all the deliverance I know and yet nothing.
I feel so depressed that that sometimes thoughts of suicide goes through my mind.
I feel sorry for myself and I always wonder if anything good can come out of my life again.
Sometimes I think about trying to have a child or two because my menstrual cycle is still very much on, but the thoughts of bringing a child into the world without any plan on ground make me to think twice, when feeding
myself is even a big challenge.
All my siblings are happily married with children and that I am grateful to God for, I only find myself going for omugo year in year out and now I have become big mummy with no career, no job, no child, no husband.
Sometimes I wish it could be a bad dream I should wake up from.

Iam just there getting beautifully old.
Now I understand why a lot of people commit suicide, especially when the light at the end of the tunnel takes too long and becomes bleak to reach.

I need someone out there to pray for me sincerely from their ❤️ I am loosing it already.
Nothing make sense to me anymore!

Can God still come through for me?
Can God still make me laugh the way he made Hannah and Serah to laugh?
Please someone should give me an answer.

"PLEASE READ THIS"

You are lucky to even be in abuja. I wish I was in Abuja.
Plan to attend KOINONIA every sunday evening at Chida event center in Abuja. Your life will never remain the same. Not just will you get married but You will recover all I promise you this. it's a non- denominational fellowship.
Also go to Youtube and download KOINONIA messages especiallly this.
"THE MYSTERY OF DELIVERANCE PART 1 , 2, 3 and 4. Download and convert to MP3 if possible. Listen to it over and over again. in the message you will see the cause/source/solution of your challanges.
Just share your testimony here when your life turns around. Dont keep it to your self.

Keep pushing. That is all you need. Since you have some work experience, just keep pushing. When you get a job or means of survival, other things will fall in place.

Ishilove:

Madam, don't mind Kobo. Your problem is spiritual and if you are feeling silly over what was revealed to you, then I'm guessing you have been embarking on your deliverance programs without faith. This life is deep and is controlled by the spiritual.

You need to investigate your foundation and find out the origin of this pattern in your family. Start from there.

Investigate what foundation again? She is 47 and already been led left and right by enough babalawos masquerading as mogs and pastors, has she not? How much longer will she keep running down that endless rabbit hole?