To me....
Sex without guilt (guilt-free sex)

Spiritual financial blessing from God (if the marriage was a bed undefiled) God provides, knowing that you are now not solely responsible for only yourself, but also for your loved one.

I can't think of anything else.

Stop selling marriage. It is outdated. Nothing last forever.

Stay with yourself as single or stay with your best friend as partners.

Save your money for your old age to hire who you need. Your children have their own responsibilities too.

Sooner or later, your loved ones will put you in a nursing home. If you have money, you can hire anyone, children, girlfriends or health aides to stay with you.

Even beautiful ladies will give you a Mouth Action.

Don't be stupid OP. You have to get married, have kids of your own, the mother which is your wife have to take care of the kids, give them parental care, at the long run when you turn 60years, you will understand the importance of family... If you live single and don't have kids, or have one and don't cater for them, you die miserable and people say shit about you.... To have a family is not a crime, you just have to manage the situation...what are you avoiding gangan that want you to be single? Abegiiii are

Ikem11:
You will never understand it till you in it. Marriage is the most beautiful thing when you married the right person.

The joy of rushing home from work to your beautiful wife and kids is something else.

I cant say same to a single man can rush home from work just to enjoy his girlfriend

The bolded is not entirely true. Not everyone feels that feeling most of you have when it comes to having children and " coming home to them "
I certainly am one of the few who don't feel a thing. But, coming home to a wife you love is a better feeling...by far.

Bro , seeing your kids alone , the feeling is special. I dont care what you have to say . DNA OR NO DNA . The joy is spectacular.

DaveHarry:
Being single is way better than been married these days I swear. For me, I will not get married until I'm maybe 65 or 70. Will just have different women having children for me till then when I'll look for a single woman who may be in her 60's too, to enjoy my old age with. Don't have time to live with someone who will be giving me heartache everyday.

LMAO I know your type of mentality.
You want to play safe to the core
Having your cake and eating it

I once thought of this plan of yours (excluding having women and kids till I'm old) I'll just wait til I'm old to find an equally old woman to wife-up. But I killed the thought long ago, since I'm a person who loves bonding and companionship, and won't be able toe sit till I'm 60. The earlier the better, but without kids. Now I'm still in my 20s. At 40 will be ideal for me. Or, 37 at least.

For me oo Notting special but According to married people they said" if you marry your friend you go enjoy marriage" but I still maintain my stand that there is Notting special about marriage and even boyfriend/girlfriend all na headache.

How did you find the right person?

Ikem11:
You will never understand it till you in it. Marriage is the most beautiful thing when you married the right person.

The joy of rushing home from work to your beautiful wife and kids is something else.

I cant say same to a single man can rush home from work just to enjoy his girlfriend

I really wonder how people fall out of love after marriage

I'm sure those you're friends were super happy when they were getting married. I wonder what changed

SmellySperm:
Two of my married friends narrated to me how unhappy they are in their marriage.
Both are waiting for the kids to grow a lil bit before opting for a divorce.
One can have his kids as a single guy,make money,bleep these hoes and have peace of mind.
Call it irresponsible life? IDGAF. After all women now marry for benefits. They benefit more in marriage than men. Bleep marriage!

Realmi:
Married people enjoy FAMILY

You cant get that with a baby mama or girlfriend

Family is very important

Isn't it possible to have a family without marriage? Davido is a good example

bepositive11:
I really wonder how people fall out of love after marriage

I'm sure those you're friends were super happy when they were getting married. I wonder what changed

A mystery that can never be understood.

gentlestdude:
absolutely nothing... even dating has no benefits, just do hookups and have rest of mind...


as for me I will do hookup until I'm six feet under, if I see oyinbo to marry I will but to marry a naija girl I will rather kpaii

You get money be that.
How much those girls dey charge sef, and where do I meet them?

Cleanworld:


Sorry dear, my children are already counting their millions left and right and to cut the whole story short you can bring your money to their Care Homes where they will punch and push you before you poop and later on dump your ass in the mass grave. Sorry but we can't even take in a deadbrain like you but as they say ''Time will tell''

Often times I hear people say old age this, old age that etc I laugh. It is good to have a family, but having one doesn't guarantee a perfect end for anyone, it is all about trying our luck. Our neighbour back then was brought down by stroke, the illness got to a point his biological children were wishing for him to die.
This is not hearsay, they were my neighbor. The man was such a good & kind man. U know who was taking care of him, a distant relative they brought in to live with them, his own kids got tired of his sickness & abandoned him. When he died everyone was suspecting his children, because they were already complaining he was stressing them. My point is, let us not pray for an awful end, because family can also fail when it gets serious.

PaulOtl:
To me....
Sex without guilt (guilt-free sex)

Spiritual financial blessing from God (if the marriage was a bed undefiled) God provides, knowing that you are now not solely responsible for only yourself, but also for your loved one.

I can't think of anything else.

I think the bold is true to some extent

To each his own.

Only very few people are lucky to marry the very best.But you see the majority of people in marriages,they cry.

Realmi:
Married people enjoy FAMILY

You cant get that with a baby mama or girlfriend

Family is very important

Seconded

Sufferness offcourse

bepositive11:


Isn't it possible to have a family without marriage? Davido is a good example

davido does not have a family....he has babymamas

Family is sacred, it can not replaced with babymamas

A family live in a home,, not a house
Davido lives in a house not a home.....family is important

bepositive11:


Isn't it possible to have a family without marriage? Davido is a good example

the same way a wife is different from a girlfriend or side chick

Solofresh2:
Ronaldo has a family but he is not married
How about that

if he is not married, he does not have a family, take it or leave it... stop abusing the word family...that is where people are getting it wrong

PaulOtl:

LMAO I know your type of mentality.
You want to play safe to the core
Having your cake and eating it

I once thought of this plan of yours (excluding having women and kids till I'm old) I'll just wait til I'm old to find an equally old woman to wife-up. But I killed the thought long ago, since I'm a person who loves bonding and companionship, and won't be able toe sit till I'm 60. The earlier the better, but without kids. Now I'm still in my 20s. At 40 will be ideal for me. Or, 37 at least.

It's a perfect plan bro. Right now I already have 2 sons from two different ladies. 5 more ladies to have like 2 each for me....then by the target age, I will just wife up someone close to my age, and we enjoy our latter years together. So my plan is already in motion and going perfectly. The almighty be praised!

MadeINchenzen2:
I was awake for hours last night trying to figure out what the married enjoys that the single people do not.

I couldn't come up with anything logical or cogent points at all.

I now understand the reason why a lot of persons have chosen to stay single for as long as possible without plans of getting married.

Clear conscience before and after sex. With a clear conscience in Christ, one overcomes the fear of death, and other fears.

You've to be especially disciplined and full of the Holy Spirit as a single to contain sexual immoralities in any case.

God bless.

Nawa o

Picture this. A man and woman gets married and have 2 children. Down the line, they decide that they want to divorce. They then become a single father and a single mother.

Aren't they still a family tied by the two children? Even if they get remarried, they will remain a step family

Now what's the difference between them and Davido

Not all baby mamas are close knit though. Davido treats his children and their mothers well

Some baby mamas though are not treated well at all

Then again, some wives are treated like trash. Some so called families are extremely toxic

Family really is a subjective term and I don't think marriage defines it

Realmi:
davido does not have a family....he has babymamas

Family is sacred, it can not replaced with babymamas

A family live in a home,, not a house
Davido lives in a house not a home.....family is important

DaveHarry:

It's a perfect plan bro. Right now I already have 2 sons from two different ladies. 5 more ladies to have like 2 each for me....then by the target age, I will just wife up someone close to my age, and we enjoy our latter years together. So my plan is already in motion and going perfectly. The almighty be praised!

I know you are doing this so that you don't get heartbroken by anyof these generation's females. I get your idea. I too, wanted this.
But no, I just want one woman...still when I'm in my 55-65 years old. That way, she's older and less interested in cheating around for sex. She'll be weak by that age. You want that many kids from different women? Wow...bro, just bless my account, cuz this your own shock me. Why not just one or two baby mamas....seems you have money to be getting these ladies to have kids for u. Abeg I need urgent 2k. A bruva broke rn. Abeg chief, reply and ask for my digits.

Realmi:
the same way a wife is different from a girlfriend or side chick

How is a wife different from a girlfriend or side chick who has a child with the man?

Marriage Life is always a mixture of Sweet and sour!

SmellySperm:

A mystery that can never be understood.

There are some theories though that make sense

For example, one theory is that both partners pretend to be someone they're not. After marriage, they no longer feel the need to pretend because they have gotten what they wanted, so the masks fall off and they begin to hate their true selves

Another theory is that the woman pretends to love the man when she is really just after his money. After getting married, she gets tired of pretending to love him then the man feels betrayed and begins to hate her

Ikem11:
You will never understand it till you in it. Marriage is the most beautiful thing when you married the right person.

The joy of rushing home from work to your beautiful wife and kids is something else.

I cant say same to a single man can rush home from work just to enjoy his girlfriend

Rushing home to meet your wife? That means she is probably a full house wife and that is a big liability. Apart from that, you will eventually get bored of the excitement. And if you are married to a toxic woman, then going home after work becomes unpleasant for you.

Rubbiish:

Often times I hear people say old age this, old age that etc I laugh. It is good to have a family, but having one doesn't guarantee a perfect end for anyone, it is all about trying our luck. Our neighbour back then was brought down by stroke, the illness got to a point his biological children were wishing for him to die.
This is not hearsay, they were my neighbor. The man was such a good & kind man. U know who was taking care of him, a distant relative they brought in to live with them, his own kids got tired of his sickness & abandoned him. When he died everyone was suspecting his children, because they were already complaining he was stressing them. My point is, let us not pray for an awful end, because family can also fail when it gets serious.

Everyone's life path is different so is our fate. we should strife to bring up our children in a way that they will not neglect us in our old age by showing and telling what a blessing is it to take care of our elderly and this can be pass on from generation to generation . my grandmother lived with us until when she was almost 85yrs. when mama wanted to go back home, we the children can't follow her so they have to get someone to stay with her and care for her while we go on holiday to see her.
There's no week that you won't see any of her immediate family visting her for a week or two BECAUSE SHE DIDN'T ABANDON THEM AND LOVE EVERYONE EQUALY
Firstly , Mama didn't depend on any one as she have already insured and planned for her future so she wasn't a burden.

There's a lot of reason why family matter. a lot that i can't find time to list here. i pray that the end will favour us all. thanks

should we totally depend on them

debbydams:
when u marry the right person, marriage is sweet when u and your husband are rich marriage become sweeter

Beautiful analysis

bepositive11:
I really wonder how people fall out of love after marriage

I'm sure those you're friends were super happy when they were getting married. I wonder what changed

Only God can answer that question indeed