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truthCoder:
People are telling you to be strong and some are even going religious.

Dear, listen to your heart.

If you want sex, go for it. Look for a male you think is matured enough and flow with the rhythm.

Have a no strings attached relationship. Live life.

Above all, be happy.

Bad advice! At the end of the day she will be faced with a guilty concience and hours full of regrets.
If she wants to get married under the grounds of adultery or death, she can. Else she should control her urges, in time she would be fine.

Kobojunkie:
If God is really who you claim to want to please by your choice, then you want to make sure you have the right information to help you on your path. According to Jesus Christ, the one who is God's New Covenant and Law in the Kingdom of God, what is sin is not what you refer to as sexual immorality- fornication, masturbation, homosexuality etc. - instead sin is the lust in your heart towards another - Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 - those fantasies and longings for sex are what constitute sin in the Kingdom of God.

So while you claim you have not physically engaged in what is sexually immoral activities in the 18 months period, that all means nothing when you consider that the sin is that committed in your mind/heart and not the physical activity itself.

If this is the way heaven is then who will enter heave like this??
na so heaven hard reach??

Ajibade123:
If this is the way heaven is then who will enter heave like this??
na so heaven hard reach??

If Buddhists, who number in the 10s of millions and even without a belief in God or Jesus Christ are able to, by cultivating a life of self-discipline and control, live above these very fleshly urges, what excuse do you have against doing similar so you can rise and obey the commandments of the one who you claim to be your God?,

being a single mum is tough and having no form of sexual release of stress is tougher! in my opinion: to stick to your resolve to "keep" yourself, you will need the right people around you...both sexes. it is advisable to avoid people who do not understand the challenge you face, who might want to test your resolve or push you beyond your limits. Of course there will be cold nights, days your hormones would be on overdrive and times when your body will say "kilode" but know one thing...my dear you are human! and if perchance it happens that you fall off track, don't beat yourself up, you set your standard and should not sacrifice yourself for falling. Be the judge of you; God understands that there will be days when we fall hence...Grace. Any advice to go back to your ex husband because of sex is total B.S
p.s. ...talking from experience.

Kobojunkie:
If God is really who you claim to want to please by your choice, then you want to make sure you have the right information to help you on your path. According to Jesus Christ, the one who is God's New Covenant and Law in the Kingdom of God, what is sin is not what you refer to as sexual immorality- fornication, masturbation, homosexuality etc. - instead sin is the lust in your heart towards another - Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 - those fantasies and longings for sex are what constitute sin in the Kingdom of God.

So while you claim you have not physically engaged in what is sexually immoral activities in the 18 months period, that all means nothing when you consider that the sin is that committed in your mind/heart and not the physical activity itself.

Your interpretation here is not convincing. She's been married for some time plus she's an adult, naturally she would have affinity for sexual desires. So, if that happens without her desiring to experience it with any other person; quote and unquote, apart from her husband, then you don't call that sin.

Gkored:
1. Your interpretation here is not convincing.

2. She's been married for some time plus she's an adult, naturally she would have affinity for sexual desires. So, if that happens without her desiring to experience it with any other person; quote and unquote, apart from her husband, then you don't call that sin.

1. What interpretation? Is seems the meaning of the word "interpretation" is lost to a lot of you.

2. Um.... sin is not as decided by you or any other man. It is as defined by God in His Law, Jesus Christ, to those who believe in God. And so what is written in Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 is one of the many commandments that define for Christians what sin is.

AutoChick4U:
Lol, stayed with sex throughout my pregnancy and until my baby clocked a year and 5 months. Practically seduced this son of man but unfortunately d sex aint nothing to write home about. I intend starving my flesh and feeding the spirit from now sha

Wait, you intentionally made up your mind not to have sex during those periods till u felt it was high time?

Kobojunkie:
You are wrong! There are people who have lived without sex for over a decade, even more. Monks and even abandoned woman have even without trying shown your claim to be a lie. Please count your teeth before spewing this gibberish abeg!

You're just saying total nonsense with pride. Do you know what it means to be a monk? Let me educate you;1. it means to die to fleshly desires. To be contd. And again it's not my claim dumbass. It's basic biology. Go to school to learn not to argue nonsense without a source.

Arizoner:
does God feel hórny?

Are you a goat?

Mannymanny:
Wait, you intentionally made up your mind not to have sex during those periods till u felt it was high time?

Yea

perousd:
You're just saying total nonsense with pride. Do you know what it means to be a monk? Let me educate you;1. it means to die to fleshly desires. To be contd. And again it's not my claim dumbass. It's basic biology. Go to school to learn not to argue nonsense without a source.

Is this your response meant as a joke or something? Or are you trying here to irritate the hell out of me this morning or what?

Jesus Christ, the Christ in Christianity, also commanded that you die to self..... or that part no agree with you at all because say na Jesus Christ talk am?

If Monks, and abandoned wife's, many of whom don't even believe in God, can achieve what Jesus Christ commands that His own followers do in order to obtain Heaven, what silly excuse do you have not to do as you have been commanded by the one you call God?

Kobojunkie:
1. Wrong! Not everyone is a sinner. There are in fact those who have, through continuous obedience of God's Law and Truth, Jesus Christ, been set free from bondage to sin and been transformed into Sons of God aka holy/perfect vessels fit for God's own Spirit to live in.

2. The issue raised was not about temptation but of sin itself. According to Jesus Christ, the one who is God's very own Law and Truth, you commit the sin of adultery when you sexually lust after another(one you are not one with) - Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28. So either you believe Jesus Christ or you don't.

3. Jesus Christ is the one who God Himself sent to give men His TRUTH and that Truth is that sexual lust is sin. Do you believe God's Truth or do you believe the musings of a man called Paul...you decide who your savior is..

Its now obvious that you just read to comment without thoroughly going through the content for better understanding.The woman didn’t say she has committed adultery ,she said she’s tempted to sometimes and the urge is high and she wouldn’t want to sin against God because she fears God.She asked for simple opinion on how people who have ever been in her shoes as a single mother overcame.
Instead of you to encourage her to marry than burn with lust,or continue to fight the good fight of faith,You’re telling her for burning with Lust she has committed adultery in her heart.
So Anger or getting angry is a sin then.

Achorise:
1.Its now obvious that you just read to comment without thoroughly going through the content for better understanding.The woman didn’t say she has committed adultery ,she said she’s tempted to sometimes and the urge is high and she wouldn’t want to sin against God because she fears God.

2. She asked for simple opinion on how people who have ever been in her shoes as a single mother overcame.
Instead of you to encourage her to marry than burn with lust,or continue to fight the good fight of faith,You’re telling her for burning with Lust she has committed adultery in her heart.
So Anger or getting angry is a sin then.

1. You are the one who is obviously not paying attention at all in this.

Again, according to Jesus Christ, the sin of adultery is committed when one sexually lusts in his heart after another. This is what Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 tells you. .

2. Why should I need to encourage her to marry? Are you under some delusion that everyone who has sexual urges are to marry or something?

And again, Jesus Christ, not I, is the one who told you that sexual lust is adultery, and anger is murder..... so if you have a problem with that, consider that you don't have a real relationship with Jesus Christ at all.

Arizoner:
so when am hórny, I shouldn't have sex?

Being Hot is biological. What you decide to do with it is what you will account for.
You can't stop yourself from getting hungry. Sexual urge is natural. What you do with it is what you decide.

Kobojunkie:
Sin is direct disobedience of God's commandments, in our case, as given to us by Jesus Christ, God's Law and Gospel in the Kingdom of God.

So where God said in Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28 that if you have sexual lust , you commiit the sin of adultery, if means if you do you commit the sin of adultery against God.

Many of you claim to know and even preach the Gospel yet have absolutely no knowledge of what the Gospel is of its details , how?

There is a huge difference between lust and being Hot. Do you agree?

agabaI23:
There is a huge difference between lust and being Hot. Do you agree?

For the umpteenth time on this thread.... Every capable human being of age has sexual urges thanks to the fact that we have hormones slushing around in us. Even Eunuchs , monks, abandoned wives, etc., experience such urges at least from time to time.

Sexual lust, the projecting of sexual urges on the image of another human being who one is not married to, is what Jesus Christ made clear is sin of adultery.

Kobojunkie:
For the umpteenth time on this thread.... Every capable human being of age has sexual urges thanks to the fact that we have hormones slushing around in us. Even Eunuchs , monks, abandoned wives, etc., experience such urges at least from time to time.

Sexual lust, the projecting of sexual urges on the image of another human being who one is not married to, is what Jesus Christ made clear is sin of adultery.

Thank you
The lady is having sexual urge according to her narrative. No sin there.

shalomm:
Agreed. But I read the post and she never mentioned marital infedilty as a cause of the divorce.

OK

agabaI23:
Thank you
The lady is having sexual urge according to her narrative. No sin there.

Stop showing your words in her mouth. She never said anything about not dealing with sexual lust...

AutoChick4U:
Yea

You caused the wack sex thing tho... that’s way too long. He didn’t complain throughout?

Kobojunkie:
Stop showing your words in her mouth. She never said anything about not dealing with sexual lust...

Did she say she was listing? No
Rather she said she has been fighting the urge and it is messing up her head. That was why she came to ask for a way out to avoid giving in

Mannymanny:
You caused the wack sex thing tho... that’s way too long. He didn’t complain throughout?

he didnt last up to 6 strokes o. Problem not from me, I simply picked a wrong male

AutoChick4U:
he didnt last up to 6 strokes o. Problem not from me, I simply picked a wrong male

Was that how he has been since? I mean Before you married

Optimistic4life:
I'm trying hard to live a life free from sin and sexual immorality and I am doing pretty well but of recent, my hormones/body have been raging and I am finding it difficult to cope.

It's 18months I have been separated and there is no getting back together.

Were you ever in my situation, how did you overcome without involving in sex/masturbation?

I just need some words of encouragement.

Its really not easy and it has become some sort of distraction.

The reason I do not want to have a male friend is because of my fear for God.

Optimistic4life apologies if you find this offensive perhaps you could go through my post here (link below) if you are interested just ckick on send a mail on my profile n i would comment with my phone number on any of your random post or comments on nairaland. I believe we all have some sexual fantasies n one way or the other , finding someone to match sake energy with isn't a bad idea at all.


https://www.nairaland.com/7049122/im-having-another-fantasy

Mannymanny:
Was that how he has been since? I mean Before you married

Married? Lolz. Anyways gave him those Bitters still no change. Very selfish anyhow lover. Ghosting in mind

Kobojunkie:
Well, if sex comes to your mind and you react by imagining yourself having sex with that your next door neighbor or that one that got away,you turn that simple thought into sin by that.

Does your heart accepts and wished it happened or not?.

AutoChick4U:
Married? Lolz. Anyways gave him those Bitters still no change. Very selfish anyhow lover. Ghosting in mind

Lol....still here I see!!!

Why not send me a PM?

N.B: I kinda pity him though. Maybe he was fat or something. My philosphy about sex is simple. If you wanna fuq a woman, fuq her good and watch her do wonders for you.

AutoChick4U:
Married? Lolz. Anyways gave him those Bitters still no change. Very selfish anyhow lover. Ghosting in mind

Lol. Sorry about that. Still, you could try to revamp your sexual life tho.

enonche85:
Does your heart accepts and wished it happened or not?.

um....The images came from your heart in the first place, so obviously your heart did initially OK It even if it eventually regretted it.

Mannymanny:
Lol. Sorry about that. Still, you could try to revamp your sexual life tho.

How?

luminouz:
Lol....still here I see!!!

Why not send me a PM?

N.B: I kinda pity him though. Maybe he was fat or something. My philosphy about sex is simple. If you wanna fuq a woman, fuq her good and watch her do wonders for you.

Thanks.

AutoChick4U:
How?

First of all, does he make moves to initiate sex? Is he interested?