What are you bringing on the table ,the lady replied my kpentus

Even me i can't marry a lady that doesn't have a source of income

Cha E!

God knows I can't stay with such a lady, let her use the brain God gave to her to work

Risky

Most women have no value aside procreation. This is why when they get married, frustration go full everywhere front and back. Due to pressure on the man who have to cater for a full grown useless adult, he starts beating the woman. THERE IS NO MAN THAT IS MARRIED TO A WOMAN WITH MONEY THAT BEATS HER. It never happens. In all the domestic violence against women i see, it is women that cannot be accountable for as little as buying salt and pepper in the house because they spent their young ages running from one man to the other. Now as domestic violence gets worse, woman is kicked out. She goes on to facebook begging for money. Even, man is likely to beat woman when he knows she cannot do without him that is to say she cannot afford a roof over her head left alone. No woman is kicked out with the children and her life is submerged in poverty, anguish, sufffering, penury and misery.

Woman, u can do better.

Tickles001:
Men don't want money from women.

What we want is chastity, clean heart and submission. The three is mostly never found in older women that have achieved something.

If not for the woke culture. It's never in the place of a woman to bring money to support the family.
That's why most men go for the chastity first because she could stay in his house and start business.

Modern day men do want money from women and some even milk the woman too, lots of faworaja boys looking for ladies to milk and suck dry. Besides a sizeable no of men can even fully provide so yes they need the woman's money to support the home.


Also Chasitity clean heart and su mission can be found in well accomplished women.

2nd bolded you are right, it's the economy that is the main culprit

Do women still do that?

Marry with no source of income? How have they been surviving as singles?

You are just a few of the good and intelligent ladies out there that sought to work and have a means of livelihood before jumping into marriage.

Do you know that some of those village girls you mentioned are far better than the madam graduates that is so full of pride and can't go out and make a decent living despite the fact that she's married. Some of those village girls are humble enough to learn handwork compare to Madam graduate, that stays on Snapchat, Instagram, FB etc ....from January to December round the clock and always demanding from the husband.

It's a witchcraft for a lady to jump into marriage without any source of income but only with the mind of opening her two legs wide for the man to impregnate her and have babies.....that ain't living but boolsheet.........




author=Darlingme post=111458973]Based on my own opinion, a young lady who has no job, skills that is fetching her money should NOT go into marriage with any man.
The general idea you read online about independent / career young ladies been arrogant, ''can't get married'', ''men detest them'', bla bla bla are all lies in reality. So long as you have good character and well behaved, men will be running after you to be your husband even if you are as rich as Dangote. (Who no like better thing?)
The young lady I met in the hospital yesterday, beaten up by her husband, truamatized and at the point of death, got me really mad and I feel like using a microphone to ask this question.
I pray she survive it.

My question is this?

Why do women goes into marriage without having any source of income on their own? Why?
And why do men prefer marrying young and fianancially helpless women, (village girls) then accuse her of not contributing fianancially, especially when fianancial obligations beomes too heavy in the marriage? Why?
What is your opinion on this?

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Pierocash:
If she gets to 35 and has no tangible means of income,she shouldn't marry when she sees a man ready to marry her abi?

The beating of that woman to a pulp by her husband is not because she is jobless,even gainfully employed ones dey collect better beating if she runs her mouth afoul towards a man that has beating talent


A woman that is jobless and has bad character ,and ingrate will for sure endure hardship in that marriage ,not because she is jobless ,but because she has no sense ..

Bahd guy.... beating talent? I wan laugh die for here ooo.

In Nigeria your husband is your source of income

Well, it is not that cut and dried... Some working women jettison their jobs after getting married, while serious ladies get financially empowered upon getting married either by getting a job or starting a business.

Marriage is a poverty alievation programme for many nigerian ladies . The man is supposed to take care of them

TOPCRUISE:
In Nigeria your husband is your source of income

Which part of Nigeria? Nigeria under the same Buhari regime? I doubt you really mean this.

Palema007:
Which part of Nigeria? Nigeria under the same Buhari regime? I doubt you really mean this.

You never hear full time house wife before.
You never read romance section where a pained dude will open thread say he buy iphone 14 for him wife, dash her 20,000 home upkeep, N20,000 pocket money and N10,000 to plait her hair every month and yet she refuse to open leg for him in the night during playtime.
You never hear dat before.

Speak for yourself from your perspective of life. Instead of using the word Men same applies to those that generalise with word women too

Tickles001:
Men don't want money from women. What we want is chastity, clean heart and submission. The three is mostly never found in older women that have achieved something.

If not for the woke culture. It's never in the place of a woman to bring money to support the family.
That's why most men go for the chastity first because she could stay in his house and start business.

As if if u hv an income you would be eager to contribute

Darlingme:
Based on my own opinion, a young lady who has no job, skills that is fetching her money should NOT go into marriage with any man.
The general idea you read online about independent / career young ladies been arrogant, ''can't get married'', ''men detest them'', bla bla bla are all lies in reality. So long as you have good character and well behaved, men will be running after you to be your husband even if you are as rich as Dangote. (Who no like better thing?)
The young lady I met in the hospital yesterday, beaten up by her husband, truamatized and at the point of death, got me really mad and I feel like using a microphone to ask this question.
I pray she survive it.

My question is this?

Why do women goes into marriage without having any source of income on their own? Why?
And why do men prefer marrying young and fianancially helpless women, (village girls) then accuse her of not contributing fianancially, especially when fianancial obligations beomes too heavy in the marriage? Why?
What is your opinion on this?

We men prefer a working babe with stable income. Unfortunately job market hard and their are only a few of em. And among the few, many of em have this big ego (bad behaviour). As for me, I don't see myself ever marrying a lady without a stable income, no matter how long it will take me to find one. Amma wait for her. It's a complete turn off for me even when a girl visit me and start requesting money to buy ordinary things like salt, Maggi and eggs. Not to talk of wife, na frustration go kill me be dat

Darlingme:
This is exactly what most of you said, but in reality, it's not true. When she ask you for money for everything in the home, the same you go about complaining.
She has no fianancial source of income, but because she's naive, humble and you foresee submission ability in her, you married her.
When marital responsibilities set in, you begin to desire a helper, a supporter. You begin to long for a wife, who will buy Maggie, pepper, pay children school fees, subscribe electricity, buy gas, make nice meal without bothering you. Why? Don't you consider all that before you marry her?
Men need fianancially equipped woman to survive. She must be earning something.

I grew up from a family that believes that it's d duty of d man 2 fend 4 d family. Though my mum was wealthy, she never leave d home entirely 2 d hubby. Again my dad never see it that because d wife is wealthy, he will have 2 abandoned his responsibility.

Severally, i used 2 overheard my dad asked mum, how mush did u spend while i was away? Or pls replace this money wherever u took from 4 d family.

It's not bad 4 a woman 2 have something doing but leaving d entire responsibility to her or seeing it that it's her responsibility to cater, it's wrong. She's just a "helper".

Let me shortly say my own story and why I would let my wife be financially independent and even force her even though she doesn't want to
When I got to uni my mum was out of job and my dad wasn't sending enough it got so bad that I wouldn't need communicating with my mum for months because if she calls me I will mention I need something and she wouldn't be able to give me
I believe if my mum was also working she would have helped dad a little

Now I have step siblings doing well because there mum is a working class and she support them

From this I have come to a conclusion my wife must be okay on her own

Pierocash:
If she gets to 35 and has no tangible means of income,she shouldn't marry when she sees a man ready to marry her abi?

The beating of that woman to a pulp by her husband is not because she is jobless,even gainfully employed ones dey collect better beating if she runs her mouth afoul towards a man that has beating talent


A woman that is jobless and has bad character ,and ingrate will for sure endure hardship in that marriage ,not because she is jobless ,but because she has no sense ..

You cannot be jobless and married in. Nigeria today

You must find a way to be useful to yourself and your family in this country.

Let us stop encouraging irresponsible behaviour in this country. The country is overpopulated and poverty is the order of the day, if you marry and you don't have a source of income, you just contribute to the poverty indices, because I am very sure such people will want to marry and have kids they cannot cater for

Except your husband is Ned Nwoko, or someone that is rich enough to help you set up a means of income, it is very foolish to marry without a valid source of income.

Saintmary:




A man will gladly marry someone lesser than him to maintain control.


It's all about control.




The earlier you understand, the better for you as a lady.



For a Nigerian man o, I don't know about the rest. If they can't control you, they might find it difficult to settle down with you.



Now that sounds bad but that's the way it is.





Anyone who has a contrary opinion is only an exception.





P. S. If you've never been married, don't say you're different until you're married.
That's when we will know your true color.

You know this

Any man that says he does not want his wife to work, does it mainly because he wants to control her, he wants a woman that has no agency, so, that he can do anything to her and it will slide.

It is the control that they want, because in their eyes, you are no more than property, like buying a cow and keeping it to give you milk, or in this case, children, as well as wait on them hand and foot.

I have seen too many women get the short end of the stick in these arrangements to advice any woman to get married without a source of income.

Having a source of income earns you respect in any home.

a real man will not look at the pocket of a woman before getting marry to her
it is the right of a man to provide for the family,if the woman doesn't have business,it is the right of the man to establish her

why most guys of now how days need a woman who has money is because of how the country is

the bottom line is marry a good/hardworking man or woman who has understanding of marriage,family and life

a beautiful marriage doesn't determine that a woman most have her own money

Angelfrost:
Well, it is not that cut and dried... Some working women jettison their jobs after getting married, while serious ladies get financially empowered upon getting married either by getting a job or starting a business.

Many of them do so because their husbands demand the wife ought to sit as housewife rearing kids according to tradition.

Let's not conveniently ignore that bit of Nigerian reality, shall we. I know of Nigerian women who eventually quite because, "my husband said....".

MadamOk:
a real man will not look at the pocket of a woman before getting marry to her
it is the right of a man to provide for the family,if the woman doesn't have business,it is the right of the man to establish her

why most guys of now how days need a woman who has money is because of how the country is

the bottom line is marry a good/hardworking man or woman who has understanding of marriage,family and life

a beautiful marriage doesn't determine that a woman most have her own money

Desperate times they say...

Darlingme:
Based on my own opinion, a young lady who has no job, skills that is fetching her money should NOT go into marriage with any man.
The general idea you read online about independent / career young ladies been arrogant, ''can't get married'', ''men detest them'', bla bla bla are all lies in reality. So long as you have good character and well behaved, men will be running after you to be your husband even if you are as rich as Dangote. (Who no like better thing?)
The young lady I met in the hospital yesterday, beaten up by her husband, truamatized and at the point of death, got me really mad and I feel like using a microphone to ask this question.
I pray she survive it.

My question is this?

Why do women goes into marriage without having any source of income on their own? Why?
And why do men prefer marrying young and fianancially helpless women, (village girls) then accuse her of not contributing fianancially, especially when fianancial obligations beomes too heavy in the marriage? Why?
What is your opinion on this?

God bless you a million times for this your question

Pierocash:

A woman that is jobless and has bad character ,and ingrate will for sure endure hardship in that marriage ,not because she is jobless ,but because she has no sense ..

I don’t support domestic violence.

In this woman’s case, the reason she is jobless is very likely linked to the fact she doesn’t have sense.

Guys stay away from jobless women.

Kobojunkie:
Many of them do so because their husbands demand the wife ought to sit as housewife rearing kids according to tradition.

Let's not conveniently ignore that bit of Nigerian reality, shall we. I know of Nigerian women who eventually quite because, "my husband said....".

Yeah... You are right. There is this too.

Darlingme:
Based on my own opinion, a young lady who has no job, skills that is fetching her money should NOT go into marriage with any man.
The general idea you read online about independent / career young ladies been arrogant, ''can't get married'', ''men detest them'', bla bla bla are all lies in reality. So long as you have good character and well behaved, men will be running after you to be your husband even if you are as rich as Dangote. (Who no like better thing?)
The young lady I met in the hospital yesterday, beaten up by her husband, truamatized and at the point of death, got me really mad and I feel like using a microphone to ask this question.
I pray she survive it.

My question is this?

Why do women goes into marriage without having any source of income on their own? Why?
And why do men prefer marrying young and fianancially helpless women, (village girls) then accuse her of not contributing fianancially, especially when fianancial obligations beomes too heavy in the marriage? Why?
What is your opinion on this?

Well, our culture and religious belief encourage women to go into marriage without job or any source of income.

Men are move by what they see.....they initially marry these girls based on beauty or other physical attributes but later wanted more in terms of contribution to the family financially.
The economy is not smiling.

A man that's not under any financial pressure cares less if his woman is working or not