Pierocash:
yes ofcourse

Techsupport:


So a man does not raise children? I am a bit confused now

Pierocash:
that is the duty of a woman bro. A man can only provide the resources ,add one or two pieces of advise as occasion demands. But generally,and naturally,that is the job of a mother

Techsupport:


Because our society produces weak men, men who cannot stand up to adversity, cowards who hide under " God will fight my battles" instead of standing up and dealing with a situation. These men want their ego massaged at every minute, they want the little they bring to the table to be enough with praise and worship following them for doing something as mundane as paying for their kids' fees.
These men want to be the ones who save the damsel but the damsel has to be super poor and helpless so that their little contributions will look like a lot. They will never go for a working lady or a richer lady because they cannot phantom the idea of bettering themselves to match the woman's output.
these are the same ones clamoring for virgins and submissive women. these men have no stroke game. they want who they will wow with their 2 minutes action and when the person wants more, she is no longer submissive.

But the reality is this, that naive, virgin girl will open her eyes one day and see the BS in front of her as it is, and when that happens the weak man will end up beating her because that is his last line of dominance.

Ladies, beware of weak men, those that crave so much worship and adoration, that is their inadequacy and insecurity showing. Most of them come as "Brother Church member" those ones are the absolute worst of them.

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Because our society produces weak men, men who cannot stand up to adversity, cowards who hide under " God will fight my battles" instead of standing up and dealing with a situation. These men want their ego massaged at every minute, they want the little they bring to the table to be enough with praise and worship following them for doing something as mundane as paying for their kids' fees.
These men want to be the ones who save the damsel but the damsel has to be super poor and helpless so that their little contributions will look like a lot. They will never go for a working lady or a richer lady because they cannot phantom the idea of bettering themselves to match the woman's output.
these are the same ones clamoring for virgins and submissive women. these men have no stroke game. they want who they will wow with their 2 minutes action and when the person wants more, she is no longer submissive.

But the reality is this, that naive, virgin girl will open her eyes one day and see the BS in front of her as it is, and when that happens the weak man will end up beating her because that is his last line of dominance.

Ladies, beware of weak men, those that crave so much worship and adoration, that is their inadequacy and insecurity showing. Most of them come as "Brother Church member" those ones are the absolute worst of them.

Kobojunkie:
Good you don't want to marry such a woman but the Nigerian society however extols men who marry such women so if you must have an issue with anyone for allowing this culture, direct your attack and venom at society, not the women.

abobote:
In our culture it is not in a place of woman to provide for the family, but if there's a source of income that will not alter the family equation, it should be an added advantage.
Most ladies with source of income, don't understand the place of a woman in a home, they claim equal right, and want you to share domestic work with them, since they are contributing financially.
My wife doesn't have any source of income, and I'm okay with it
She is keeping the house clean, do the cooking, wake up early, get the kids ready and take them to school

IAMBlesssed:


Oga there are many good hardworking ladies out there but stereotype/ generalization won't allow men approach them.. How people believe a financial stable woman must have bad character amaze me..

SKhanmi:
We're not in a woke society. Like one poster said, In Nigeria/africa marriage is all about control. I fully agree except with the way she potrayed it. Few women can handle power/wealth without misbehaving, look around you or towards the western hemisphere.

A man has to have a modicum of control over his affairs, mind you I'm referring to control=firm hand & not the typical outright master/slave relationship. Everyone recognizes that subconsciously, even the so called women who are loudly against it. Listen to a woman's words at your own peril. Men lead, women follow. We're not equals, the Ukraine situation just exposed that woke ism shit! Hypocrites!

Most Nigerian men do not hate working class women, what they don't want is someone with a lot of ego which is quite common among these kind of ladies. When a typical woman makes more money she feels she doesn't need a man, women like this like to upset the cart with needless drama or power tussles.
Marriage is not a competition, women like that should grow balls & remain single, adopt children or look abroad for emasculated men that would allow such nonsense. It's not by force to get married. The nunnery is always open. Most men don't need their women's money either but there are certain conditions the man should be able to count on you to serve as a backup temporarily but we all know how 90% of such cases end. What's the use of marrying such a woman then if everything is one way? Getting a baby mama is better then.

So men go after the unemployed humble type but the only mistake they make is not setting up those women to work under them in their business/work remotely from home to improve her capability to support the home, a woman can't have two masters & still function effectively at home, yes you heard it right. Ever noticed why most women respect their pastors/bosses more than their husbands? There are natural reasons for all these.

Make sure the business is in your name/you own it to avoid the kind of tales we read of foolish ignorant men in the Romance section. If you're lucky to have one of the well brought up & evolved women who don't see men as competition or a tool to be used & discarded, she can have her own businesses & your full support.

One man I know sells gadgets, His wife works there with him, he can travel/look after his other businesses in peace, nor would she give him Yeye excuses when they get home.

So it's up to both genders to know what they want & follow it but unfortunately most folks live on auto mode, na anywhere belle face is their life rule, no definite plans, nothing.

If you want a traditional man, prepare to be a fully submissive traditional wife.

You want a partner? Make sure you're one also in all ramifications.

Want a man to lord it over, find a gigolo or something, many guys are up for that.

Most women prefer the first option but would typically try to have their cake & eat it at the same time. Want to be taken care of as queens without rendering any serious responsibilities/services like a Chihuahua.

Brian47:
Most men don't care about a lady's finance or job. They just want to marry a yes woman. But thank God men are waking up now.
When a lady is working a lot and making money, men tends to see it as a masculine trait, because they believe that they supposed to be the one working and the provider.
So that's where the problem is.

Kobojunkie:
Here... meet TI1919, another man in Nigeria, who says a woman that has no source of income..

toprealman:

Your story is all over the place. Are you taking about domestic violence or marital financial pressure or matters of the heart or what exactly?
You can build a logical progression and make that piece more interesting. You started well beside but your emotion took over after the first few lines

Goldentulip2:

Smh that’s his business. E no concern me

lordally:


So men who worked hard to have their own business or learn a skill and established themselves have two heads abi Why can't a woman do same for her own self?? Why must dey wait for a man to set a business up for her?

folake4u:
I nor fit marry if I nor get my OWN MONEY oh.

Me wey like enjoyment, cruise, food and soft life.

folake4u:
I nor fit marry if I nor get my OWN MONEY oh.

Me wey like enjoyment, cruise, food and soft life.

Acidosis:



Your husband's money is your money.

Gloriagee:
U want buy bag , u go start taking permission. Maybe, in my next life...not this time around.

Acidosis:



Your husband's money is your money.

abobote:
In our culture it is not in a place of woman to provide for the family, but if there's a source of income that will not alter the family equation, it should be an added advantage.
Most ladies with source of income, don't understand the place of a woman in a home, they claim equal right, and want you to share domestic work with them, since they are contributing financially.
My wife doesn't have any source of income, and I'm okay with it
She is keeping the house clean, do the cooking, wake up early, get the kids ready and take them to school

Tickles001:


This is not true. It only happens when she's taking your money and sending it to family and friends like they usually do. Every man wants to provide for a woman. I haven't seen a man living within his means with his wife making such complaints about wife not bringing money.



No. If a man complain about such responsibilities, then he didn't prepare or living larger than his growth permits.
I have been paying all those bills you listed (except the children cost) and I've not died. So I think I can cope without wife's money, if I keep things within my financial capacity. In marriage, upkeep money is usually set aside and handed to the wife so she doesn't always have to ask or inform the husband for little expenses.



Only men who are not capable make such consideration, and it never works. What capable men consider is their own capacity and preparedness.



Wrong again. In practice. A woman's money is exclusively her money, and never in direct service to the husband.

See. It's not like men don't like when a woman has money to spend, but it comes with a cost that makes the union more like a punishment to the man.

We want a girl that will grow in our sight. Take her when she's young and happy. Then find something she can do and fix her there. Not necessarily for money but to keep her active like everyone else. She could still help if she wants to.

folake4u:



Lmao, not in this life or the next to come sef. I nor fit try am, Sis.

Gloriagee:
. To avoid all manner of see finish

folake4u:


Yes oh. I fit deck person teeth sef.

folake4u:


I see what you're doing.

Mariangeles:


True.

Men make money, then find the right woman (for them) to spend it with.

ImaIma1:


Are you married? Or this is just based on theory and hypothesis?

Tickles001:


I'm not married, but I'm family friends with a few married people (men and women). What I tell you is not theory. It's insider information based on observations.

ImaIma1:

It's not enough to be close to married people. Are you in their private moments? Are you in their bedrooms? You only go by what you are told/what they want you to know.

ImaIma1:
When you are married, you will be able to contribute with facts. Any man who wants to be the only one to provide financially just wants to control his woman.

ImaIma1:
God forbid that you leave this world with her to take care of the children, you will ne leaving a "useless" woman that will be running from pillar to post to provide for the kids.

Tickles001:


I didn't say friend, but family friend. That would tell you I'm not just close, but a member. I like getting very involved in my friends lives some times.



You don't necessarily need to become something before you can understand that thing to a satisfactory level. A great number of single person understand marriage more than the married ones sef.
Understand this. Men don't want to be the only provider, but they got no choice. It's either he gets a woman he won't enjoy living with hoping on the little money she's got that she never actually gives, or a young naturally clean happy girl that he will enjoy staying with and later fix her up with something.

How many financially capable modest (not the I have changed type) young girls do you see around you. Not much.

Now, you mentioned control. Why would you want someone you can't control to become part of you. It's a man that absorbs a woman, and at that a little control is needed. Except you're talking about some other kind of control.



I won't live beyond my means, and won't raise an isolated family. If I die, they'll be much (people and resource) for her to fall back on. And I remember saying I'd fix her up with something within few years of marriage.