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I am kind of heartbroken at the moment, please perdorn any typo error.

I am in my late 30. I work with federal agency. My intention is to get married before the end of next year.
I am not a flirting type, even though the environment I found myself made me crave for it sometime. Now, to the main issue.

A friend introduced me to a lady late last year (she's within the age bracket of 22&23),her mom is late. She will be rounding up from school of health sciences and technology middle of this year.

She has all I want in a woman....And everything was going on well until recently. Although I asked her from the beginning of our relationship, if she had been into any relationship in the past. She said" she had been in a relationship with two men in the past"the first man left and went to marry another lady.

The second man was compatibility issue... that they were always at logger head. Although the guy was familiar with the family and was buying gifts for the family then. But due to verbal abuse and ill treatment from the guy. She loose feeling for the guy. And the guy stop calling her all this while.

Due to the aforementioned reasons, her father cautioned her to study any man seeking her hand in marriage well and make sure they are compatible before bringing the person to him.

The above reasons was why I wasn't so much in a hurry to go and see the man all this while. But I intended going there before this year runs out.

Although my girl has telling me come see her people since but I was being reluctant about the whole thing. Now the second guy has resurface again. Saying he want to continue with the relationship with my girl.
Despite that my girl made it clear to her parents that we are getting married. But the father is not listening to us. This is my second failed relationship with women I loved so much. I am really tired of the whole stuff. Is this my fault??

sorry about that

The father is tired not because of you but because of her daughter's experience with men. Just relax and be patient. He will have a listening ear. Besides she likes you.

Awww!

See what pussyfooting can cause a man!

Don't beat yourself too much. Everything will be alright

Wait op

Is the second guy that resurface the same guy that was verbally abusing her?

If it's the second guy, she would be so foolish to settle down with him after seeing all the red flag.

I know she's so desperate to settle down, but being desperate to settle does not mean settling for the less.

I wish her and you Goodluck.

Nigerian ladies ain't useless after all.

Well, Dear Op. Don't worry I don't think you've lost her yet. Add small pressure by talking with the Dad. Las las you'll be alright.

Nearly, bro, cannot kill a bird. Never lose a good woman.

But I don't really understand how desperation will make a woman go back to a violent relationship.

placeofallure:
Awww!
See what pussyfooting can cause a man!

You are harsh!

VictorUSA:
You are harsh!

Ah! Harsh ke? What is harsh about what I said.

O da, e ma binu o.

placeofallure:
Ah! Harsh ke? What is harsh about what I said.
O da, e ma binu o.

O da e ma binu o. What's the meaning of that?