greypencils:
I swear. Mine too. Na vex I take enter nairaland 5 mins ago.

as i they type this now I dey my other room because of my wife

People especially single men that are living alone may think many married men are extravagating here...

What you don't know is BIGGER than you...

You can cut them some slacks, you see that thing called ovulation? It messes with a woman's brain, that was how one day my woman told me that she's just hating me right now not like I did anything but she doesn't know why it is so.

Understanding is deep that's why we all just have to tolerant these species. Men and women see things differently and that is the difference between them

knowing what brings about the provocation is of great help, my spouse always stars getting touchy and begins to argue whenever the conversation is not swinging in her favor, so what i do is just keep my opinion to myself abd ignore a lot of things that she says.
all is say is...ok,no problems, etc...that does not readily put you into any corner.
better to just limit your discussion with her if she dey carry everything for head. not that you will now abandon all conversations but think twice before you bring any matter up...its safer for your blood pressure.

wordapostle:
Once in a month or maybe 2 months, though if I notice too much peace I will create problems so she can come and beg me and after the begging... Marriage is sweet with the right woman. This is my 9th year, though it seems we are just starting.

Seriously?

Only my in-laws provoke us. My wife is jeje je person. Is your husband at home? My wife answers No. Discussion continues. She answered Yes the discussion stopped!!!

nastyesco:
15 minutes into any conversation

Frontpage: I dedicate this post to my ex girlfriend Kemi Nurse, if we marry shebi we suppose don travel go UK, but me and you still dey Buhari land and we no marry. Who come benefit

werey! Non of una benefit oh

todaynewsreview:
As married nairalanders, how often do your spouse provoke you? And how do you handle such provocations?

Provocation to me comes daily, though depending on the level of provocation from the other partner.

No marriage is perfect but our ability handle each others flaws is what matters more. Considering every provocation as a yardstick to acrimonious living may only lead to broken homes.

How do you handle yours?

Daily

McTobe:
70 times 70 times. Seriously I have learnt not to take everything my spouse says seriously but she must not discover that otherwise it will hurt her. Also I have vowed more than 20 times not to argue with her but you see yourself arguing again and again. My last working solution is to just listen as if to a radio when her argument button is activated. But honestly why the big gap of understanding between men & women?

Because the reality is that we are different, we are wired differently. Women reason emotionally, men reason logically. It is like speaking different languages. So both parties have to learn to speak each other's languages.

wordapostle:
Once in a month or maybe 2 months, though if I notice too much peace I will create problems so she can come and beg me and after the begging... Marriage is sweet with the right woman. This is my 9th year, though it seems we are just starting.

Haha this is so funny.

wordapostle:


I know you want to preach to her, no need my brother I am a preacher and I preach very well, in fact she is now an evangelist. Forget her number, you can send me your wife's whatsapp number let me send her devotional

Haha.. you're really so funny.

rollandben:
I couldn't just say why God created women beside Men!!
Mine provoke me very many times a day, its only when I tried hard to resist her trouble by leaving the house for her, then she reduce it to like 2-3 times a day.

I'm just looking for where to hide after work so I can be coming home by weekends to reduces her provocation to a minimal.

Haha.. funny.

Diffferences upon differences, but mutual respect for each other should help

We cannot count can't

Still single but let me listen to comments.. what will cause the fight in the first place.?

ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
such relationship no dey sweet because the day you go vex, na to burst head remain

We dey enjoy our relationship, thank you!!

Is reducing as we get older in the marriage. Patience and understanding are key.

akaahs:

We dey enjoy our relationship, thank you!!

sadist no dey enjoy relationship at all

Ay04z:
3 month into my marriage.... And i can say... Marriage been sweet.. Married my best friend... Though we nag.... Once in a while... But trust me everything end within seconds. And we always bang real gud...

Born pinkin first before you start to dey make mouth

In marriage just know there will always be things that will anger you and cause rage but you just have to be patient cos if not you go over do and wotowoto fit spread. women are provoking specie , my wife always provoke me like mad and i do react to all her provocation but i later realize this is not good for my wellbeing and blood pressure, now any nonsense she do i go just ignore her, na she go calm down later, that has been helping me and reducing the number of time we have issues and shout at each other like monkeys......... women hmmmmm

womenareapess:
Born pinkin first before you start to dey make mouth

on God...

Paramount01:



For real?
Pls what is the secret?
Is she working?
Are u footing all the bills?
She is from where

I think she is the secret, she easily say sorry which I don't always like because her early apologies doesn't give me room to shout sometimes.

wordapostle:


I think she is the secret, she easily say sorry which I don't always like because her early apologies doesn't give me room to shout sometimes.

Bros!!! I envy ur marriage
Is she working? Are u footing all the bills?
You are married for how many years now

Paramount01:



Bros!!! I envy ur marriage
Is she working? Are u footing all the bills?
You are married for how many years now

She works at my state house of rep.
She handles feeding and school fees kf the 3 children and every other thing is my head... This is my 9th year.

wordapostle:


She works at my state house of rep.
She handles feeding and school fees kf the 3 children and every other thing is my head... This is my 9th year.

Brother!!! You are very lucky
Honestly, blessed are u among men and blessed is ur family

Your wife work and still foot some bills and never crate any problems at home?

God let the wife I want to marry be emulate this woman in character

You are right, but how can I reason with emotion? Won’t it amount to indulging the woman when you decide to take decisions out of emotion and not reason. Well we compromise sometimes but there are issues that reason must prevail

akinade28:

Because the reality is that we are different, we are wired differently. Women reason emotionally, men reason logically. It is like speaking different languages. So both parties have to learn to speak each other's languages.

Exactly. But between reason and emotion on what should we base decisions? Even when you compromise they get use to making judgments out of emotion. Nevertheless I have come across very few women that use their sense of reasoning on issues and I realize in such situations they reason even finer

kay29000:


Because women always want men to reason like them, and men also want women to reason like that... But that's impossible... We are wired differently.

You were not brought up in the same home or the same background.

Pusyiter:
That is why it is called marriage
The second name is provocation
Embrace it

embrace what? But you will not tell anyone to embrace domestic violence...so why tell anyone to embrace provocation? If your spouse provokes you beyond what you can take divorce sharply. Is that not what we tell ladies enduring domestic violence?

Prolific007:
You can cut them some slacks, you see that thing called ovulation? It messes with a woman's brain, that was how one day my woman told me that she's just hating me right now not like I did anything but she doesn't know why it is so.

Understanding is deep that's why we all just have to tolerant these species. Men and women see things differently and that is the difference between them

The problem is determining where to draw the line. How much provocation is enough? How much tolerance is needed and how much tolerance is too much? Ladies in abusive marriages started by tolerating their abusive husband until shit got real same happens with men tolerating their abusive wives. As for me i will say if you are not given the grace to manage your fiancee run before you marry a sociopath and die a useless death!