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Some Women can be corny and deceptive!! You never can decipher their thoughts. That looks like a consensual sex to me. You did well by asking her those intelligent questions. Expect some measures of disingenuousness from that gender!!

killmods:
Lol.. different analysis. Nairaland detectives say she wasn't raped op

She obviously, wasn't.

Rape keep her thr?


Visiting such person wearing gown?




Make i Sha no talk

Iyaebe:
Just take your mind off the unfortunate incident and go ahead with your marriage plans, this is the time you should prove your love for her.Please do the needful and inform us of your wedding day, God bless you

were you born sideways?

U hv already asked her good questions. There is more to d story.. Do not fall for her cheap cry

Really?

She cheated, because I don’t count this as raped
She’s only feeling guilty because she killed an unborn child
Mr Man
You marry your own grave if you marry her
Talking from true life experience

IdanNla:
My girlfriend was raped around March but did not tell me anything about it not until I came back from school and I found out she is acting strange and I got to put up an act so she did tell me what happen after much act she didn’t tell me but lied about the whole thing but I still put more pressure and she later dropped a voice note telling me how it happened.

That a co worker of hers invited her to his home after work and the same guy had asked her for a relationship which she said no and the guy lockup the matter. So this fateful day she requested or invited her to his house getting there the guy's junior brother left for school cause they are daily part-time student, after his junior ones left, he rolled up weed and started smoking, so during the process of smoking or afterward the whole thing started and she claimed to fight him and scream but the guy overpowered him and had his way with her after which the guy pleaded saying he’s sorry and she left for home and called her best friend which she suggest she reported to the police but my babe told her she don’t wish to pursue any case that the deed has been done already and they both lockup the mater.

And she even talked to the guy the next day at work and the guy was like he’s sorry and bought her prevention drug which she collected and used. After that day the guy wanted to start a connection which she refused and the guy was like what else she did want cause he had already beg so what is with her attitude and the guy lockup with her.

Some weeks later she discovered she was pregnant and she told the guy which the guy gave her 4K for abortion and she collected the money and did the abortion.

After saying all this she pleaded I should not breakup with her cause she don’t know how to manage the aftermath of the breakup and what happened was not her intention that she was sorry such thing happened!! After hearing all these I simple asked her some questions about the incident which she don’t have an answer to:

*1= A guy asked you for a relationship and you said NO that is the more reason you should not give him chance of being close or being with him alone in a room!!!*

*2= You went to visit such guy at home and you wore a gown like a guy whom ask you for a relationship would not touch you when he had the chance of being alone with you in a room?*

*3= The said guy roll up weed and light it right in front of you and you sat there comfortably!!*

*4= You claimed you fight him but you got no bruises on you or your undies gettting torn nor your cloth*

*5= You talked to the same guy the next day after the incident*

*6= You concluded to act like nothing happen !!!*

If you are to be me what would you decide after processing all this Asin put your self in my shoe or If your Senior Brother came for advice from you stating all this what would you advice

Right now am devastated not knowing what to do cause this is the same girl am planning on marrying next year or so and I love her more than I can actually comprehend.. Right now she is avoiding me etc But what I wanted to do right now is filling a case at the police station as breaking up has not cross my heart yet but to punish the dude for what he did..

Reporting gets you no where because it has happened, and can't be reversed. let her move with her life.

I stopped reading when I got to
"He rolled up weed and started smoking..."

Assuming your story is true sha

Brother file a case...at least the guy would come to the station to say his own side of the story from which u can deduce the truth..

Chiraq77:
Your Comments dey always disgust me

she has mental health issues.

IdanNla:
thinking the same thing cause anytime I pressure more to know how it happen nah tears dey end ham and this is a girl I know she can fight like lioness if she no want sex and telling me a single guy overpowered her and no bruises or anything nah Wattin I know get!!

Stop being foolish

So u wants to fall for this story Na lie

Women and there defensive stories,bro she wasn't raped

IdanNla:
Oh that true she did not resist me OooO but the experience led to all this cause the way she dey do Ehn it like say I Dey do her bad thing and she seems sad self that I wan first mad say how you go dey have dat kind look for me nah how I take onow say something is wrong thi

Get the guy's no and call to hear his side. Not saying your girl is lying, but it will help in getting a better picture of the situation

She was never raped infact she's been banging the dude all the time. She just got pregnant and decided to form up a story. My advice

DITCH THE B!TCH

Mosdll:
Nigerian girls are useless......all of them.

You've been away abi? Ekàbó

She wasn’t raped, this is a clear Premeditated act and she is trying to manipulate you emotionally by twisting the whole thing.

Fok her to cleanse her pussy

IdanNla:
thinking the same thing cause anytime I pressure more to know how it happen nah tears dey end ham and this is a girl I know she can fight like lioness if she no want sex and telling me a single guy overpowered her and no bruises or anything nah Wattin I know get!!

tears of manipulation and deceit. Make sure you dumb her ass.

IdanNla:
My girlfriend was raped around March but did not tell me anything about it not until I came back from school and I found out she is acting strange and I got to put up an act so she did tell me what happen after much act she didn’t tell me but lied about the whole thing but I still put more pressure and she later dropped a voice note telling me how it happened.

That a co worker of hers invited her to his home after work and the same guy had asked her for a relationship which she said no and the guy lockup the matter. So this fateful day she requested or invited her to his house getting there the guy's junior brother left for school cause they are daily part-time student, after his junior ones left, he rolled up weed and started smoking, so during the process of smoking or afterward the whole thing started and she claimed to fight him and scream but the guy overpowered him and had his way with her after which the guy pleaded saying he’s sorry and she left for home and called her best friend which she suggest she reported to the police but my babe told her she don’t wish to pursue any case that the deed has been done already and they both lockup the mater.

And she even talked to the guy the next day at work and the guy was like he’s sorry and bought her prevention drug which she collected and used. After that day the guy wanted to start a connection which she refused and the guy was like what else she did want cause he had already beg so what is with her attitude and the guy lockup with her.

Some weeks later she discovered she was pregnant and she told the guy which the guy gave her 4K for abortion and she collected the money and did the abortion.

After saying all this she pleaded I should not breakup with her cause she don’t know how to manage the aftermath of the breakup and what happened was not her intention that she was sorry such thing happened!! After hearing all these I simple asked her some questions about the incident which she don’t have an answer to:

*1= A guy asked you for a relationship and you said NO that is the more reason you should not give him chance of being close or being with him alone in a room!!!*

*2= You went to visit such guy at home and you wore a gown like a guy whom ask you for a relationship would not touch you when he had the chance of being alone with you in a room?*

*3= The said guy roll up weed and light it right in front of you and you sat there comfortably!!*

*4= You claimed you fight him but you got no bruises on you or your undies gettting torn nor your cloth*

*5= You talked to the same guy the next day after the incident*

*6= You concluded to act like nothing happen !!!*

If you are to be me what would you decide after processing all this Asin put your self in my shoe or If your Senior Brother came for advice from you stating all this what would you advice

Right now am devastated not knowing what to do cause this is the same girl am planning on marrying next year or so and I love her more than I can actually comprehend.. Right now she is avoiding me etc But what I wanted to do right now is filling a case at the police station as breaking up has not cross my heart yet but to punish the dude for what he did..

My friend leave that foolish girl , a co worker invited you to his house she went knowing fully well what will happen if she Never wanted sexxxx she couldn't have visited that co worker in his house rather she will visit him in an open restaurant that's all and besides this your so called fake girlfriend is a cheat why did she agree to meet a co worker in his house even when she is dating you , it means this girl is not your girlfriend she is a cheat , let that Matter die break up with that cheat , use your Sense bro .

Unshackled:
she has mental health issues.

advanceDNA:
Comrade!!!
Where have you been....
Why you come ghost us like that
We miss you for all the violent thread for romance section....

Respect yourself oooo...no disappear like that again oooo

Fake Mosdii. The account was created 3daya ago

Some girls often use rape as last resort to escape being accused of cheating

IdanNla:
My girlfriend was raped around March but did not tell me anything about it not until I came back from school and I found out she is acting strange and I got to put up an act so she did tell me what happen after much act she didn’t tell me but lied about the whole thing but I still put more pressure and she later dropped a voice note telling me how it happened.

That a co worker of hers invited her to his home after work and the same guy had asked her for a relationship which she said no and the guy lockup the matter. So this fateful day she requested or invited her to his house getting there the guy's junior brother left for school cause they are daily part-time student, after his junior ones left, he rolled up weed and started smoking, so during the process of smoking or afterward the whole thing started and she claimed to fight him and scream but the guy overpowered him and had his way with her after which the guy pleaded saying he’s sorry and she left for home and called her best friend which she suggest she reported to the police but my babe told her she don’t wish to pursue any case that the deed has been done already and they both lockup the mater.

And she even talked to the guy the next day at work and the guy was like he’s sorry and bought her prevention drug which she collected and used. After that day the guy wanted to start a connection which she refused and the guy was like what else she did want cause he had already beg so what is with her attitude and the guy lockup with her.

Some weeks later she discovered she was pregnant and she told the guy which the guy gave her 4K for abortion and she collected the money and did the abortion.

After saying all this she pleaded I should not breakup with her cause she don’t know how to manage the aftermath of the breakup and what happened was not her intention that she was sorry such thing happened!! After hearing all these I simple asked her some questions about the incident which she don’t have an answer to:

*1= A guy asked you for a relationship and you said NO that is the more reason you should not give him chance of being close or being with him alone in a room!!!*

*2= You went to visit such guy at home and you wore a gown like a guy whom ask you for a relationship would not touch you when he had the chance of being alone with you in a room?*

*3= The said guy roll up weed and light it right in front of you and you sat there comfortably!!*

*4= You claimed you fight him but you got no bruises on you or your undies gettting torn nor your cloth*

*5= You talked to the same guy the next day after the incident*

*6= You concluded to act like nothing happen !!!*

If you are to be me what would you decide after processing all this Asin put your self in my shoe or If your Senior Brother came for advice from you stating all this what would you advice

Right now am devastated not knowing what to do cause this is the same girl am planning on marrying next year or so and I love her more than I can actually comprehend.. Right now she is avoiding me etc But what I wanted to do right now is filling a case at the police station as breaking up has not cross my heart yet but to punish the dude for what he did..

OP Ur girlfriend is not a good lier , but on a serious note if it's me considering my level of sensitivity towards things like this I don't think I can go ahead with the plans of marrying such a girl because anytime I look at her I will feel irritated, and believe me all those stories where cooked up by her.

Iyaebe:
Just take your mind off the unfortunate incident and go ahead with your marriage plans, this is the time you should prove your love for her.Please do the needful and inform us of your wedding day, God bless you

IdanNla, please don't fall for this emotional blackmail. You got absolutely no love to prove to anyone.
Do what's best for you & your own interest.
Learn to put your interest first,and if you can't deal with her past ,please move on.
You can't just take your mind off it,that scene will always haunt you ,and if you can't deal with that,both for your sanity and emotional well-being,move on.
You're not immature when you decide to move on from a situation you can't handle, especially those with long lasting effects.

You could forgive her if you feel her remorse and part of the story are true. But I have this funny feeling that she nursed a sense of masochism. She,in a sense,enjoyed the act. The guy,from your narration,forced her. He must have used some form of violence- mild or hard,like hitting her across the face ,ripping off her gown and panties...etc. In this sense,the guy is a sadomasochist- he enjoyed the pain he inflicted on her. On her part,her resisistance was weak. She could have wrecked a better havoc on him- kicked his groin,broken a bottle on his head or stabbed him.
A likely scenario is that after the guy penetrated her,she started enjoying it. It's only natural for women to enjoy sex once they get wet.I've met some women who claim to like being raped. Yes. I still even chat with one. It's weird ,but it's true.
Another thing is this: why doesn't she wanna press charges? It's curious. She should go ahead .
As for you,the ball is in your court. You could either move on or let bygones be bygones.

Iyaebe:
Just take your mind off the unfortunate incident and go ahead with your marriage plans, this is the time you should prove your love for her.Please do the needful and inform us of your wedding day, God bless you

This lady, it's time you stopped being compassionate with the woman cause and always learn to say the truth no matter the gender...That lady doesn't love the guy .. You were rapped to the extent of getting pregnant and you went about all the actions including abortion without letting the man know...she can cope with the after math of break up..she did well for rape which is even worse.. I advise the guy to find another lady..
She wasn't rapped. She had consentual sex with that her colleague..if you break up she will continue with him sharply.

I agree with you

AsomArchitectNG:
Story doesn't add up. Your gf is lying as she wasn't raped, Investigate further to get out the whole truth..

Now here are my reasons:

1.) You've gone to visit a guy asking you at his place twice now which i think is morally wrong

2.) If actually she got raped she could have confided in you immediately. It was purely a consensual s*x hence she couldn't get to open up

3.) if u hadn't pressed further u wouldn't have gotten the truth from her thereby she been able to keep it means it was consensual.

In all I'll advise you take things slowly and also be wise cos the other gender can be very manipulative

Best advice for you my dear.
Forget all that happened. No girl has no ugly past. They all the same...insecure, cheats, greedy..you name it!
Last, last, we will still put them in the house as wives!

Iyaebe:
Just take your mind off the unfortunate incident and go ahead with your marriage plans, this is the time you should prove your love for her.Please do the needful and inform us of your wedding day, God bless you

IdanNla:
My girlfriend was raped around March but did not tell me anything about it not until I came back from school and I found out she is acting strange and I got to put up an act so she did tell me what happen after much act she didn’t tell me but lied about the whole thing but I still put more pressure and she later dropped a voice note telling me how it happened.

That a co worker of hers invited her to his home after work and the same guy had asked her for a relationship which she said no and the guy lockup the matter. So this fateful day she requested or invited her to his house getting there the guy's junior brother left for school cause they are daily part-time student, after his junior ones left, he rolled up weed and started smoking, so during the process of smoking or afterward the whole thing started and she claimed to fight him and scream but the guy overpowered him and had his way with her after which the guy pleaded saying he’s sorry and she left for home and called her best friend which she suggest she reported to the police but my babe told her she don’t wish to pursue any case that the deed has been done already and they both lockup the mater.

And she even talked to the guy the next day at work and the guy was like he’s sorry and bought her prevention drug which she collected and used. After that day the guy wanted to start a connection which she refused and the guy was like what else she did want cause he had already beg so what is with her attitude and the guy lockup with her.

Some weeks later she discovered she was pregnant and she told the guy which the guy gave her 4K for abortion and she collected the money and did the abortion.

After saying all this she pleaded I should not breakup with her cause she don’t know how to manage the aftermath of the breakup and what happened was not her intention that she was sorry such thing happened!! After hearing all these I simple asked her some questions about the incident which she don’t have an answer to:

*1= A guy asked you for a relationship and you said NO that is the more reason you should not give him chance of being close or being with him alone in a room!!!*

*2= You went to visit such guy at home and you wore a gown like a guy whom ask you for a relationship would not touch you when he had the chance of being alone with you in a room?*

*3= The said guy roll up weed and light it right in front of you and you sat there comfortably!!*

*4= You claimed you fight him but you got no bruises on you or your undies gettting torn nor your cloth*

*5= You talked to the same guy the next day after the incident*

*6= You concluded to act like nothing happen !!!*

If you are to be me what would you decide after processing all this Asin put your self in my shoe or If your Senior Brother came for advice from you stating all this what would you advice

Right now am devastated not knowing what to do cause this is the same girl am planning on marrying next year or so and I love her more than I can actually comprehend.. Right now she is avoiding me etc But what I wanted to do right now is filling a case at the police station as breaking up has not cross my heart yet but to punish the dude for what he did..

My brother let her go ó

Give her all necessary support now.
Abeg no file any case.
Start looking for a plan B'
She won't be your wife bro.

IdanNla:
Right now am devastated not knowing what to do cause this is the same girl am planning on marrying next year or so and I love her more than I can actually comprehend.. Right now she is avoiding me etc But what I wanted to do right now is filling a case at the police station as breaking up has not cross my heart yet but to punish the dude for what he did..