So I had some issues with my girlfriend and we were kind of not talking for 2 weeks, during that time, a lot happened in her life.

We settled and while we were telling each other about what happened during our time apart, she began to cry and opened up to me that she was raped. I will ordinarily not believe that lie if she was a virgin but she wasn't, I met her as one and I was her first, so there will be no point in her even revealing it to me if she wasn't as it was a one time thing and I will hardly notice. At that point, i felt like my world just stopped for some seconds, o felt dizzy and found somewhere to sit trying to process what I just heard. Funny thing was that on the night of that incident, I was feeling weird about her and called her to find out how she was, it was around 9:30 pm and she was a student of a higher institution on the mainland while I stay on the island. After I called her, she picked up and told me she was going to call me back as she was trying to get a bike to take her to where she was going to, and immediately she ended the call, a man put a knife behind her and threatened to kill her if she doesn't give him what he wants, she offered her phone and all but this man was just after sex, according to her, the area was quiet and there was almost nobody on the streets, he pulled her to a shop corner and forced his way. I was devastated and confused, this is the only lady I have ever seen myself marrying amongst all the ladies I have met, she checks all the boxes, she said it didn't last up to 5 minutes and she cried all through but the man didn't care. He was a fat elderly man with a pot belly, wearing a nose mask in the night so she could not even see his face.

I was so angry at her because first of all, I warned her several times not to move in the night in that area as it is very dangerous, we were once robbed on the same street around 8pm, so I wonder what went into her mind moving by almost 10pm. She said she was on night shift where she works and then her friend called her to join them for a party, so she took permission and wanted leaving and that was when it happened. Now the thing is, those friends of hers are very bad influence on her and I told her a long time ago, she said she doesn't follow them but just hangs around with them in school, little did I know that she went to the bar alongside them and their boyfriends a number of time without my knowledge. She showed me pictures of their outings and a stab on the hand from the rapist. I'm so angry, she has been crying and begging, I asked her to stop the job and she agreed,i have thought of getting a girl and some guys to disguise and go to the same area late night to see if the devil will push the bastard to try his lick again cos I swear, I will make sure I put a stick through his anus through to his mouth,revenge is all that is on my mind cos I love this girl so much


I have read rape stories but I never thought it would come so close to me, I have been put in countless situations where a girl changes her mind on letting me into her and I respected that, I wonder why this would happen to me, I don't know what to do, any advice is welcome.

Modified - for those claiming she lied, she came along with the doctors report and tests receipt.

Mystoree:
She showed me pictures of their outings and a stab on the hand from the rapist. I'm so angry, she has been crying and begging, I asked her to stop the job and she agreed,i have thought of getting a girl and some guys to disguise and go to the same area late night to see if the devil will push the bastard to try his lick again cos I swear, I will make sure I put a stick through his anus through to his mouth,revenge is all that is on my mind cos I love this girl so much

I have read rape stories but I never thought it would come so close to me, I have been put in countless situations where a girl changes her mind on letting me into her and I respected that, I wonder why this would happen to me, I don't know what to do, any advice is welcome.

A human being was violated and what you came here to do is sing us a dirge of sorts of how it all has to do with you and your ego?

Get over yourself.. if you don't love her, leave her alone so she can find someone who can love her without putting chains on her.

Kobojunkie:
A human being was violated and what you came here to do is sing us a dirge of sorts to us of how it all has to do with you and your ego?

Get over yourself.. if you don't love her, leave her alone so she can find someone who can love her without putting chains on her.

I am not putting chains on her, I forgave her already but that doesn't take out that dark part of our story. If I don't love her, I will not be feeling this bad.

Mystoree:
I am not putting chains on her, I forgave her already but that doesn't take out that dark part of our story . If I don't love her, I will not be feeling this bad.

You forgive her for the rape?


The last thing this woman needs is a self conceited eejit in her life.

What she needs now is you love and caring.......
Bad things do happen everyday...... she need you more now......

Kobojunkie:

You forgive her for the rape?


The last thing this woman needs is a self conceited eejit in her life at this point.

I don't blame her for the rape, I am angry about it but that was not what I forgave her for, I forgave her for going against all I have cautioned her about for the over 4 years of our dating.

I am not in any way feeling pity for her, she is learning life the hard way as she basically shut out everyone out of her life, her parents who she stays with does not even know about her night movements as they all think she is at work, she knows they will never allow that. she basically deceived everyone and didn't have anyone to put her in check all through that time and that is what I forgave her for.

Forgive her for the rape?
Was it her fault that she was raped?

Love is about sacrifice if you love her try to track those guys and get them arrested...

lanre9ja:
What she needs now is you love and caring.......
Bad things do happen everyday...... she need you more now......

I plan on giving her just that, I have began already, we spent a complete day together and had fun, but it is going to take a while before everything settles in, we all need to remember that the human mind does not have a delete button.

XXXXTENTACION:
Love is about sacrifice if you love her try to track those guys and get them arrested...

It was just one big fool and she is just too fragile to fight back. I plan on doing that tho, I am sure the idiot stays around the area and will come again for another one.we gonna do it streetwise this time and life must be lost

You'll both get over it. But make sure she doesn't make you feel like it's your fault.

Once you notice that is happening, then something isn't right

I bet she did not go to report to police so they can take dna to track this rapist down!

Kobojunkie, I'm loving you more each day, please note.

budaatum:
I bet she did not go to report to police so they can take dna to track this rapist down!

Kobojunkie, I'm loving you more each day, please note.

She didn't, not even her mum knows, it's just I and the doctor who treated her afterwards.

budaatum:
I bet she did not go to report to police so they can take dna to track this rapist down!

Kobojunkie, I'm loving you more each day, please note.

Are you living in this country at all?

Really, police? Dna? Track him down?
Really? The police is the most useless organization in Nigeria. They'll even blame her for getting raped, collect money for statement and use the money to drink beer while laughing at her woes!

Mystoree:


It was just one big fool and she is just too fragile to fight back. I plan on doing that tho, I am sure the idiot stays around the area and will come again for another one.we gonna do it streetwise this time and life must be lost

Life must be lost? Please o! Do not take laws into your hands.

Mystoree:


She didn't, not even her mum knows, it's just I and the doctor who treated her afterwards.

Did the doctor keep samples of the rapist's dna? If so, it should be handed over to the police because he will rape others too and this info would help jail the pig.

Im single and searching @OP.

budaatum:


Did the doctor keep samples of the rapist's dna? If so, it should be handed over to the police because he will rape others too and this info would help jail the pig.

But i wonder which data base exist for genetic profiling.

Don’t take laws into your hands, you can make a report at the police station in the area if need be. I’m sure they know the culprit if you describe properly. Most times Police know these things but these people can’t be tucked away because most people are ignorant on how to press charges or believe getting the culprit arrested by police is all they need to do.

Also, get over it. Its a big deal but you two must convince yourselves it’s not. That would be a easy way or escape for you both to move on from it otherwise it could change the relationship or both of your lives in a negative way. It’s important that you both move away from this ugly incident ASAP. Wishing you the best.

mariahAngel:


Life must be lost? Please o! Do not take laws into your hands.

I saved a pic of a certain lecturer that did same to my God daughter. if i ever get the chance, i will play out SAW very well. i will take it slowly and enjoy every moment of it.. vengence is mine, said the lord. it is mine

SportsHD:

Are you living in this country at all?

Really, police? Dna? Track him down?
Really? The police is the most useless organization in Nigeria. They'll even blame her for getting raped, collect money for statement and use the money to drink beer while laughing at her woes!

If the police is as useless as you claim, I'd personally sue them for negligence of duty because that's their job.

But I bet you'd claim the courts are useless too, instead of realising it's your duty to hold them to account.

kkins25:
But i wonder which data base exist for genetic profiling.

Probably none. Most people likely think like SportsHD does, and would never report it so a database can exist.

budaatum:


Probably none. Most people likely think like SportsHD does, and would never report it so a database can exist.

Government isn't providing the resources for that, are they?

Mystoree:


It was just one big fool and she is just too fragile to fight back. I plan on doing that tho, I am sure the idiot stays around the area and will come again for another one.we gonna do it streetwise this time and life must be lost

Forgiveness is a sin...
the streets no be your friend...
prove your manhood and Bleep those guys up....

Report the case and don't take laws into your hands.Meanwhile why do guys find it so hard to overlook a rape case on their gf,very childish, she's traumatized already and the best thing to do is help her heal.Anyways I wanted to respond to your post my usual way but something touched my heart.Just thread carefully sha

kkins25:
Government isn't providing the resources for that, are they?

We the people are not demanding that Government provide the resources. But they will one day, when women march tits out to Aso Rock to demand it be prioritised.

XXXXTENTACION:
Forgiveness is a sin...
the streets no be your friend...
prove your manhood and Bleep those guys up....

You need to see a shrink, you are not normal

She was raped
No doctors report

Just Bruise and tears
You believed

Congratulations Sir

2dice01:
She was raped
No doctors report

Just Bruise and tears
You believed

Congratulations Sir

Well I saw the report, the tests and everything so no need to try to make it a joke on me.

Mystoree:


Well I saw the report, the tests and everything so no need to try to make it a joke on me.

You didnt talk about the Doctor and Police report earlier

Anyway
Get your Babe a pocket knife
Teach her how to defend herself

You know the rest

My brother sorry to digress.

Is the Queen of England alive?