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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by robosky02(m): 12:03pm On Apr 08, 2022
DuvanZappatta:
Worst thing is that I can't talk to a therapist about that because I can't bring myself to mention.. it's easy on here because this is a faceless media. My elder sister is married with kids she grew up and act like that never happened when we were growing up yet I remain the damaged one till today. My cousin married too and I'm not good enough for my future wife. I know only God can help me out



Its in the past bro

Forgive yourself and move on

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by cooooooks(m): 12:11pm On Apr 08, 2022
Stop replying iyaebe.

A sad attention seeker.

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by damosky12(m): 12:12pm On Apr 08, 2022
2braithe:


Was is not sweet to you then?
If no,then that lady does not know how to give bj.

Are you mentally okay at all?.?

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by AFONAMARO: 12:13pm On Apr 08, 2022
Iyaebe:
I don't believe in men's sexual abuse,if it was an abuse why did he sustain erection?

When your son or younger relatives gets molested by a maid or someone in trust, come back to repeat this obvious kooky words.

What a shame!

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by Theama(m): 12:13pm On Apr 08, 2022
Was around 4 or 5 years, different scenarios with two different ladies older than me and they were neighbours.

I was around 11 when one of the ladies(family friend) tried it again ...
Be like say Aunty no fear God sha angry

I was aware by that age, I ran out of the building! My playmates including her sis( who's still my friend till date) look say wetin carry this guy run


Well... One is dead and the other married(family friend)

I don't trust kids around neighbours
I no fit leave any child with anybody of opposite gender... No matter how long I've known them.

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by Nobody: 12:13pm On Apr 08, 2022
So there are this many sensitive men on NL ?

Maids are usually also children themselves. Most children do have sexual experimentation and curiosity it is natural. Oya go police station and report your maid for abuse.

When I was 6 I had a girl best friend who was about 8 and one day she got me to show her my privates and I did, my elder male cousin caught me laying between her legs and that was when me and her got separated by our respective families. I was teased about it in a congratulatory manner by all my older male cousins for a few years after that. To this day I recall it being even my idea to push into her.

As for me I still find hard to understand how these dudes consider themselves abused, sorry I cannot see it. I would like them to really explain it to me so I can understand.

I would understand the idea of females feeling abused more because usually it may feel more intrusive for females and also the stigma and shame of such incidents attract to females in our society would likely leave her feeling exploited and abused.

Most times we as adults forget children have sexual curiosity and you can not expect to have child maid bathing and dressing your children without that curiosity. This probably how these incidents could start.

Don't give your child maid the responsibility of bathing your children in your absence.

So in short i don't believe all these dudes claiming the feel abused and broken. Let somebody really explain it to me.

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by pek(m): 12:13pm On Apr 08, 2022
Iyaebe:
I don't believe in men's sexual abuse,if it was an abuse why did he sustain erection?
If you don't know what to say, shut up.

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by heniford2: 12:16pm On Apr 08, 2022
Was just 9years old went to visit one of our family friends in Calabar then,the experience is crazy even as am now older i keep seeing it in my dreams, at first i never understand why she was kind to me and i really fate more comfortable around her than my own parents,

one day our school just closed and we went on break she demanded i come visit her at first my dad would not accept it but with me and my mom plead he has no choice than to accept. cry cry the say the "devil usually buys your heart before it start to hunt you" the first week was amazing went to parks,she bought Sage game very expensive then with nice cloths she stays alone comfortable for a single spinster and has this slow voice that looks innocent, but behind that voice is the monster you don't want to unleash,

one tuesday night she called me over her bed start touching my prick and removed her cloth i was scared have never seen a grown woman naked i closed my eyes, she said i should not worry i should open my eyes she said i should lay down, she tied my hands backward and
opening her legs wide and sat ass upon my face asking me to lick her virginia i could not breath, she held my dick hard and was demanding i lick faster i could not breath my dick was paining me i kept praying to God to save me please God!! because i could not talk i started crying when someone knocked at the door

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by jaxxy(m): 12:16pm On Apr 08, 2022
Iyaebe:
I don't believe in men's sexual abuse,if it was an abuse why did he sustain erection?

Just like a woman can moan or climax during rape Involuntarily undecided

Involuntary action.
Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by Kababic: 12:17pm On Apr 08, 2022
I was sexual abused by my neighbor, she was in her early 20's then and I was about 7. I still have memory of the whole thing because it happened more than once. [color=#000099][/color]
ntipro:
Men are hurting deeply from their past experience of sexual abuse with househelps, relatives and even their fellow man. Their cases are more difficult to prove and the society don't just give a damn when the male child is sexually abused. It looks the world is made only to hear the cry of women. They even say real men don't cry...

Anyways, have you had this experience? Freely share. It's part of the healing process and it will go a long in educating the public.

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by Kirkman: 12:19pm On Apr 08, 2022
Kuriosmynd:

Go and ask Mohammed to buy food for u ...no body send u fast

Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by Nobody: 12:20pm On Apr 08, 2022
BabaJideAFONJA:
Silly Nairaland Robot. Unmarried old Slay queen. I dn waybill your package Use fucck urself. What's wrong with your mental health?
Omo! See waybill.

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by simplesearch: 12:20pm On Apr 08, 2022
mariovito:
The year was '93, location Igbuzo Delta state, I was barely 5, we were on holiday. A game of football stopped because the ball got into a compound which belonged to one "director" who is never around. You know one of those big houses they build and leave for only august occasions.

So I volunteered to go retrieve the ball by climbing the low fence which was topped with those fancy gates on top. The ball was retrieved quite alright, but after I handed it to my fellow comrades, a girl who happens to be the house help in one of the houses around called me. She was much older than me, should be in her teens then. Apparently, her house owners and members had all gone out for the day.

She first threatened me for jumping into the "director's" compound, I became very remorseful and pleaded with her. Next, she blackmailed me that the only way she won't tell is if I do something for her. I was already scared so I was willing to do whatever.

She took me inside, spread her legs and asked me to lick her snatch. I did. That was how I got initiated.

The next 3-4 years was me just trying my way with different neighborhood girls my age grade or slightly older.

There was one who was a daughter to a family friend, my age as well, one time she came to the house, I took her to behind the curtain, got her to open her legs and played with her, no insertion though.

I became haywire in my subsequent escapades. Then, we lived in this face me I face you, one of our neighbors had a litany of daughters, about three of them.

One Saturday late afternoon, while most people were out, I took one of them inside our house, we had this book; "A Village where there is no Doctor", a book about alternative medicine and first aid for communities without easy access to health centres. One of the pages was an illustration and guide to for pregnant women about to deliver, it depicted a woman lying on her back, with her legs open in anticipation of birth. I quickly opened to that page and asked her to lie and that position, and I did a little penetrating before i started hearing noises outside and we had to stop.

My saving grace was that we eventually left that town for Asaba, to a more serene neighborhood where I didn't have access to young girls my age that I could toy with.

Though that helped just a little because till now, I'm so fixated on cuninglingus and anything sexual.

Who knows, if that house help never got me to lick her, maybe I wouldn't have towed that reckless path.


Now that you know, there is no excuse for you to continue in that path. Give your life to Christ and that yoke will be broken.

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by Farid24224(m): 12:21pm On Apr 08, 2022
I was 7 years old then...Our cousin came to stay with us...She was 19 years then. Everything was just fine until she started bathing us...(I wasn't a clean type when I was little) Since the she started making moves to me...I didn't see it as anything wrong then so I submitted..She started from holding and stroking me to Smooching sex...As in naked...This really had a negative effect on me psychologically and sexually...I had an erection much mor earlier in life and I started masturbating...I never knew it was an assault till when I heard of Statutory rape...That's few years back..And the funniest part is that she's married now and we do meet.I think she's forgotten what she has done to me but I can never forget it..

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by VOsimhen144(m): 12:21pm On Apr 08, 2022
Iyaebe:
I don't believe in men's sexual abuse,if it was an abuse why did he sustain erection?
Saphiere and Jennyclay both of you fools should come and see Iyaebe post. Is she not a rapist?? Abi if the reversed was the case here you ditwits will be calling us rapist and rape apologist... Now look at Iyaebe posting rubbish. I swear na thunder from orphanage home go fire una.

There was a thread created by Yhungsarm, the said girl was trying to use false rape to frame him up. Just because I was trying to defend the guy just like how foolish Iyaebe is doing now.. Saphiere was calling me a rapist, she even went ahead to add my post to her foolish rape report news.

Iyaebe na rapist

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by emmykk(m): 12:21pm On Apr 08, 2022
Boogyman557:
Holly Gram cool I 4 like put small disco LITE 4 dis MATTERZ but I no get ENERGY DRINK to CAPRISUN 4 dis MATTERZ now..


because the ASHAWOO BANI wey I NACK dis morning really do me justice!


She nearly CHOP off my PREEK wit her TOTTO..


She use her too legs take tie me!


but the NACKING SWEET Shar!


LITE UP my WEED in peace


WTF MAN!

Oga I seriously envy the weed you drag into your oblongata

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by SocialJustice: 12:21pm On Apr 08, 2022
Iyaebe:
I don't believe in men's sexual abuse,if it was an abuse why did he sustain erection?
You need help.
Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by ikevictor: 12:22pm On Apr 08, 2022
You want the real truth...here it comes.

At age 2, my mum always left me at home with a nanny. She(nanny) used to lay me down on the bed, climb on top of me and be doing some things i didnt understand. all i knew seemed she was moaning and smiling while i was crying. I could not tell my mum cos i had not the words to explain that act, but deep in me i knew it was bad. At that time I interpreted it as she was beating or maltreating me....Until i grew up to understand. At least you cannot maltreate a child while you:re stark naked and on riding on top of his small dick. The worst is that she de even beat me join sef, especially when i refuse to do what she wants while in bed with me. I just cried and wished someone will come home to save me from her. By the way she was about 14 or 15 at that time.

Secondly, By the time i was 7...I went to visit a friend. he was not home so i decided to sit and wait in their sitting room alone. Waited for about 20 mins then decided to leave. being a face me i face you i can only leave the siting room through the bedroom which is same way i entered. Unfortunately, i walked in on one of the sis pleasuring herself. Sadly, we were all alone. She used me for all the experiments i could not explain that day. Licking, fingering, everything...I could not tell my mum cos i was sure that will lead to a serious issue between the two families. And we have been family friends since i was born. She was about 18 at that time BTW.

Third one, I cannot remember but I am sure i was less than 12...This time it was a man. A contractor working on a new building around my house. He used to call me a handsome guy and that made me feel good at that time. But I didnt know what was coming, we used to run rat race as kids in the uncompleted building(dangerous BTW). Somehow the other kids hid somewhere while i searched for them, unfortunately again, I walked into the room where the contractor was alone I cant tell what he was doing there. But i remember he grabbed me and using my hands to rub his D. He was erect and so pleasured, some how was i was able to free myself before further act and ran home straight.

The fourth one was from someone related to me somehow...I wont give details for privacy reasons but she was touching me inappropriately...multiple times, This happens when i travel for holidays.Some day she wanted to put my D in her P. I think i was about 11 at that time. That was the day i told the papa say the holiday don do me, i wan go back house. The man could not explain why and me too - i no ready to explain...at least for national peace.....

Once again i could not tell my mum because i did not want to add to her pains while she dealt with the pains of losing her husband - my dad whom she loved so much. These events made me so fearful about being alone in private spaces with women even till date.

These past experineces helped me understand and engage my daughters better today. They tell me EVERYTHING. I discuss EVERYTHING with them. Despite my dislike for children wahala i give them all the time they need. We laugh about their mistakes at times while I systematically align and inform them on a better way to handle stuff.

Note, that your kids are quiet does not mean things are not happening to them, make it easy for them to confide in you. so its easy to tell when things starts hapening.

BTW, I do not trust ANYONE, i trust the process i established. And it has made it easy for me to manage the world, especially Nigeria which is full of perverts! Good Bye.

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by Chochovini: 12:22pm On Apr 08, 2022
DECENTBWOY:
Okay, it high time they chain you to a pool, you are running mad...

. POOL:- A collection of water at a stationery position.
POLE:- A long cylindrical piece of iron or wood, usually slim use for or as a support for a building extention.

I take a stroll...

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by qtguru(m): 12:22pm On Apr 08, 2022
Happened to me at age 5 or 6 by female househelp. but didn't affect me tho,

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by damosky12(m): 12:24pm On Apr 08, 2022
tymicjay77:
Me I want to ask ooo, how can a lady rape a grown up man say 30+ above, hmm just asking for a asking for a friend ni oooo grin grin grin grin shocked shocked shocked shocked

The lady must not be ugly oo,better still the lady can have this feature: big boobs big yarnsh, figure 8 and maybe she should be talk too any complexion is okay too tongue embarassed tongue


Somethings aren't funny bro.

A case happened in Zimbabwe where ladies infected with HIV tied down a guy and took turns on him. The torment was in the fact that he knew they were infected.

Also heard of cases where girls would spike a guy's drink to have him. It's either to infect the guy, blackmail him, or just mess him up psychologically.

Whichever the case, male rape is never fun. It's not what you see in porn. No male, no matter how sexually active, wants to be assaulted against his will.

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by Mrtaye: 12:25pm On Apr 08, 2022
Administration1:
Mehn, mine was during my It days with Total E & P
What happened and you were already an adult

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by donb06: 12:25pm On Apr 08, 2022
BigRocky:


Does women not cum sometimes when they are raped?

Does a woman not get aroused when touch even against her consent?

Whatever men have done to you in the past,is not enough for you to be making a fool of yourself on a public forum.

Grow up.

In the RED PILL VOLUME..

Rule 1. Don't give her the necessary attention she craves.

Answering her gives her the much needed attention. Just IGNORE her always resist that urge to reply

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by delpee(f): 12:26pm On Apr 08, 2022
DuvanZappatta:
Worst thing is that I can't talk to a therapist about that because I can't bring myself to mention.. it's easy on here because this is a faceless media. My elder sister is married with kids she grew up and act like that never happened when we were growing up yet I remain the damaged one till today. My cousin married too and I'm not good enough for my future wife. I know only God can help me out

Please work on your mind and talk to a therapist. Prayers will help but it's wise to do the needful and move on to a better life. God will surely guide and help you.

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by donb06: 12:27pm On Apr 08, 2022
BabaJideAFONJA:
Silly Nairaland Robot. Unmarried old Slay queen. I dn waybill your package Use fucck urself. What's wrong with your mental health?
In the RED PILL VOLUME..

Rule 1. Don't give her the necessary attention she craves.

Answering her gives her the much needed attention. Just IGNORE her always resist that urge to reply

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by pyro62(m): 12:27pm On Apr 08, 2022
Johnnycastro18:
some of you here claiming men can't be abused I pity you your ignorance, I was a victim myself at a tender age of 6-7 years old i was subjected to abuse by some older ladies in my compound then. Whenever I go visiting to there house to play, they would sieze the opportunity to pull my short nicker and begin to manhandle my small dick, one even graduated to sucking my dick as small as it was then, sad they suffocated me with there private parts and........I could have say more but I am so emotional right now, those ladies really messed up my childhood cry cry cry

I know what you mean bro. We've been there, but I liked it. Infact I was the one molesting the aunty sef. grin

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by Osashalom: 12:27pm On Apr 08, 2022
Iyaebe:
I don't believe in men's sexual abuse,if it was an abuse why did he sustain erection?
See what you have done to yourself by following this your God forsaken gang on nairaland. You are finally beyond repair, it's a pity we lost you and your gang. Fellow nairalanders let's observe a minute silence for this girl and her gang.

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by ntipro: 12:27pm On Apr 08, 2022
DuvanZappatta:
Worst thing is that I can't talk to a therapist about that because I can't bring myself to mention.. it's easy on here because this is a faceless media. My elder sister is married with kids she grew up and act like that never happened when we were growing up yet I remain the damaged one till today. My cousin married too and I'm not good enough for my future wife. I know only God can help me out

You are good enough. In fact, more than enough.
You didn't initiate the act. They did.
Please, try to get over it

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by Lightorder: 12:29pm On Apr 08, 2022
Iyaebe:
I don't believe in men's sexual abuse,if it was an abuse why did he sustain erection?
and report has it that some women who got raped and even beaten , attained orgasm in the process

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by mariovito(m): 12:30pm On Apr 08, 2022
Can you religious folks for once not be opportunistic?

I just narrated my experience and you think the best you can do is sell me your snake oil?

simplesearch:



Now that you know, there is no excuse for you to continue in that path. Give your life to Christ and that yoke will be broken.

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Re: Guys, Share Your Experience Of Sexual Abuse by PurpleSoftHub(m): 12:31pm On Apr 08, 2022
Iyaebe:
I don't believe in men's sexual abuse,if it was an abuse why did he sustain erection?

This is a very terrible thing to say.

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