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dacblogger:
Did I tell you this is an excuse... This is an act I am trying to stop. I am not making excuses for myself.
Read to understand please and not to comment.

ChoCho54:
Dacblogger I dunno why your readers are greatly misunderstanding you. That's why most people are not open about themselves and most are hypocrites.

I'll advise you modify your comment to address those quoting you out of context and to forestall any further infringement.

dacblogger:
I will not lie, I dey insult Sha and if not for the kind of man my hubby is, him for don.commit suicide because of the things I tell him.
But the truth is that, I'm a very emotional person and I'm easily angered. Infact my hubby is the most annoying human being on planet Earth...
He has a way of getting at you and he does that on a daily basis .
So when he does that, I try to hold in the anger for days but when I can't hold it anymore, I explode... When I'm done telling him all those things, I feel better.
So you see , Venting is my coping mechanism.
We women we DNT do that intentionally, that is just our own way of expressing the anger that we have held for so long.
May God help each and everyone one of us Sha.

Modified: to all those he goats that are killing themselves on my post.... Feel free to hit your head on the wall
I'm still with my hubby and we are still in peace ... If you DNT like that fact, feel free to go home and beat up your wives that's if you have one.

judedwriter:
Nothing hurts a man so much as when his own wife disrespects him.

It is even more painful when she shows her disrespect publicly through insults, fighting, etc.

Marriage remains an enigma for some men, they see women as necessary evils.

But really, your choice of life partner matters a lot.

Dybala11:
Misunderstanding??
She clearly admitted to being mentally and emotionally abusive to her husband. Imagine if it's a man that just admitted to being emotionally abusive to his wife and called it his coping mechanism, I know that you yourself will point out how wrong the man is.
It's not too bad to ask for everyone irrespective of gender to be held to the same standard, is it??
That is the essence of feminism, right??

Demigod22:
I am very impressed to see a very healthy and resourceful thread on this forum without throwing tantrums or making it gender war. It shows we still have intelligent people here.

Over to the bone of contention. Verbal abuse have the same degree of effect with physical abuse. The African society believes that men are suppose to be strong, so most men hide their pains and misery.

Women should be properly cautioned to refrain from verbally abusing their partner as men are being discouraged from physically abusing women.

Personally, I can't tolerate women that doesn't have control over their mouth. If my wife think the best way to register her displeasure is by abusing me verbally, I will have no option than to halt the marriage.

Anything that cost you your peace of mind is too expensive. I will rather choose my peace of mind over everything. Mental health is very important to me.

ManOfSon:
Any man who cannot hold it together, cannot maintain sanity in the face of even the vilest provocation; if he thinks anger from a woman's verbal abuse is sufficient justification for physical violence - he should enjoy his life by himself, unmarried. Not everyone is mature enough for marriage. And marriage is not by force.

dacblogger:
I will not lie, I dey insult Sha and if not for the kind of man my hubby is, him for don.commit suicide because of the things I tell him.
But the truth is that, I'm a very emotional person and I'm easily angered. Infact my hubby is the most annoying human being on planet Earth...
He has a way of getting at you and he does that on a daily basis .
So when he does that, I try to hold in the anger for days but when I can't hold it anymore, I explode... When I'm done telling him all those things, I feel better.
So you see , Venting is my coping mechanism.
We women we DNT do that intentionally, that is just our own way of expressing the anger that we have held for so long.
May God help each and everyone one of us Sha.

Modified: to all those he goats that are killing themselves on my post.... Feel free to hit your head on the wall
I'm still with my hubby and we are still in peace ... If you DNT like that fact, feel free to go home and beat up your wives that's if you have one.

Blake755:
Omo fear women Nah them the cause all this abuses the one I dey from my mama ehen chaii thanks God for earpiece oo

VictorUSA:
Women are all useless regardless of their origin.

ChoCho54:
Yes misunderstanding, because folks here failed to see how bad she's feeling and her resolve to be better, even though we don't know what this man actually does to her daily.

For all the tea in China, I'm sure I won't last beyond 24 months with a husband like hers (the worst on the planet). But there she was coping in her own way which she acknowledged was wrong and wanting to be better.

I don't do feminism. I just want the best for everyone.

Demigod22:
I am very impressed to see a very healthy and resourceful thread on this forum without throwing tantrums or making it gender war. It shows we still have intelligent people here.

Over to the bone of contention. Verbal abuse have the same degree of effect with physical abuse. The African society believes that men are suppose to be strong, so most men hide their pains and misery.

Women should be properly cautioned to refrain from verbally abusing their partner as men are being discouraged from physically abusing women.

Personally, I can't tolerate women that doesn't have control over their mouth. If my wife think the best way to register her displeasure is by abusing me verbally, I will have no option than to halt the marriage.

Anything that cost you your peace of mind is too expensive. I will rather choose my peace of mind over everything. Mental health is very important to me.

Dybala11:
The fact that she's trying to change does not cure the damage she has/might have done with her verbal abuse ma'am. A wife beater or a man that emotionally abuse his wife is still worthy of being castigated even if he apologizes. That been said, it's a commendable act if she's truly trying to change like she said.
Let me ask you though, how do you believe that you can't cope with her husband since you've never even seen or been around him before??
What if she has a history of anger too, it's possible that her husband is not the only recipient of her fits of anger too.

ChoCho54:
Yes misunderstanding, because folks here failed to see how bad she's feeling and her resolve to be better, even though we don't know what this man actually does to her daily.

For all the tea in China, I'm sure I won't last beyond 24 months with a husband like hers (the worst on the planet). But there she was coping in her own way which she acknowledged was wrong and wanting to be better.

I don't do feminism. I just want the best for everyone.

luminouz:
The worst on the planet and she is still living? Even serial killers are not called the worst on the planet. She,like most women, embellish words and I'm sure her husband is not as bad as she claimed.

No matter how well you try to explain it, she goofed. What I like is her resolve to do better

BluntTheApostle:
You women always like to define informed decisions on your own terms. When it suits you, it is informed. When it doesn't, the man has poor decision-making skill.

ChoCho54:
Continue wearing earpiece. Na express you dey go so.

ChoCho54:

ChoCho54:
The man in question is her husband. She said he's the worst in the world. And he does his thing everyday.

The one I'm with is already bad enough, what should I do with the worst of them all?

dacblogger:
I will not lie, I dey insult Sha and if not for the kind of man my hubby is, him for don.commit suicide because of the things I tell him.
But the truth is that, I'm a very emotional person and I'm easily angered. Infact my hubby is the most annoying human being on planet Earth...
He has a way of getting at you and he does that on a daily basis .
So when he does that, I try to hold in the anger for days but when I can't hold it anymore, I explode... When I'm done telling him all those things, I feel better.
So you see , Venting is my coping mechanism.
We women we DNT do that intentionally, that is just our own way of expressing the anger that we have held for so long.
May God help each and everyone one of us Sha.

Modified: to all those he goats that are killing themselves on my post.... Feel free to hit your head on the wall
I'm still with my hubby and we are still in peace ... If you DNT like that fact, feel free to go home and beat up your wives that's if you have one.

Favfables1:
Nice write up chief...
Verbal abuse is as potent as physical abuse, if not more, yet no one talks about this all because the effects of verbal abuse is not immediate or as visible to everyone in the short run ...

The same way women are told to run away from men who abuse them physically, should be the same way men should be encouraged to run away from a woman who is verbally abusive!

I've said it before and I'll say it again...
The day my wife abuses me verbally is the day that marriage ends .... I'm never going to sacrifice my mental health on account of this thing called "marriage" ...

And also...
Just as we're advicing men to control their temper, also advice women to control their mouth!

Cause a woman's power is in her mouth and a man's is in his fist (contextually speaking), why then should a man be told to hold back and "control" himself, while the woman unleashes on him?

Actions have consequences, if you're gonna abuse a human being, then you should be ready to face the aftermath of that action...

Fact is...
One of the reason a woman can continue being verbally abusive is because she knows that there wouldn't be any consequence to her abuse...

Point it clearly to her that abuse won't be tolerated and watch her fall in line...

ChoCho54:
Yes misunderstanding, because folks here failed to see how bad she's feeling and her resolve to be better, even though we don't know what this man actually do to her daily.

For all the tea in China, I'm sure I won't last beyond 24 months with a husband like hers (the worst on the planet). But there she was coping in her own way which she acknowledged was wrong and wanting to be better.

I don't do feminism. I just want the best for everyone.

Emperordynasty:
You are the one that seems like the most annoying human being on Earth here..
Such an insultive person u are,
And the fact your husband is still with you shouldn't make u relaxed and keep abusing him, better change instead of just telling urself that u are trying to,whilst u keep draining his life with your bad mouth,
He might secretly be regretting that he married you and wondering were the humble and cultured girl he married went to...
May God not give me a wife that will insult me at home and call me the most annoying person in the world online..tufiaaa

dacblogger:
I will not lie, I dey insult Sha and if not for the kind of man my hubby is, him for don.commit suicide because of the things I tell him.
But the truth is that, I'm a very emotional person and I'm easily angered. Infact my hubby is the most annoying human being on planet Earth...
He has a way of getting at you and he does that on a daily basis .
So when he does that, I try to hold in the anger for days but when I can't hold it anymore, I explode... When I'm done telling him all those things, I feel better.
So you see , Venting is my coping mechanism.
We women we DNT do that intentionally, that is just our own way of expressing the anger that we have held for so long.
May God help each and everyone one of us Sha.

Modified: to all those he goats that are killing themselves on my post.... Feel free to hit your head on the wall
I'm still with my hubby and we are still in peace ... If you DNT like that fact, feel free to go home and beat up your wives that's if you have one.

MNDY:
You have spoken very well. I don't think a man can just start beating a woman unprovoked. Verbal abuse (and emotional abuse) initiate physical abuse. When there is a problem, you look at the root-cause.

Jeferious:
We are gradually getting there...that era where marriage would be unattractive to all and sundry. Na "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" till the death parts the couple.

But this my gender sef...if women are economically empowered more than men in our current society, you'd be shocked at how they'd thrash the idea of marriage. But since it's the other way round, they won't want to lose grip on the "cows" they are milking emotionally, psychologically, sexually and most importantly, financially. How men don't still get this memo up till now shocks me. Maybe some of them do, but their sexual thirst clouds their reasoning till it becomes their undoing.

The world is MAD. Everyone is playing safe in other not to get hurt. I don't see why the institution of marriage, as we know it to be today, should not be extinct by the next 50 years. I expect other forms of male-female relationship that won't require such high level of commitment to displace it.

Double0h7:
You're absolutely right but I'm just staying on topic. This thread is focused on the pain of husbands and it is insensitive to drag the focus away from that and discuss the pain of wives. That is another thread. Verbal abuse damages anyone on the receiving end whether it's a husband, wife, child, brother, sister... all humans are impacted by verbal abuse. So let's acknowledge the pain of husbands and condemn wives who verbally abuse their husbands.

VictorUSA:
I swear no girl ever tore my heart to shreds.I only did that to them.The last time I did that was dumping a married woman and never responded to her calls, texts and pleas.

VictorUSA:
The reason why I hate women is the rate at which I see married women flirting with me.Could you believe that imam wife was just casting seductive looks at me? She does things I don't understand, saying somethings that tells me clearly that she's interested in me.Imam's wife.Women are all useless regardless of their origin.