Everybody is hung up on domestic abuse by men against women.

Nobody spares a moment to find solutions to the equally devastating verbal abuse men suffer at the hands of their wives.
It is worse because men can't discuss what their wives do to them for fear of scorn and derision.

Many men are suffering in silence

Unfortunately, Nigerian society has little or no support systems for this kind of situation. Little or no counseling services. It's been mostly left to the Church or Mosque to deal with.

What happens when the man doesn't go to Church or Mosque?.
What happens when the woman doesn't believe in spiritual intervention?.

These women are raising daughters. Their daughters are hearing and seeing how they speak to and treat their husbands.

What kind of wives will they grow up to become?.
Those that treat their husbands as kings or those that believe husbands are nothing but verbal punching bags?.

We have all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife from raining verbal missiles at the husband?.

Leave the house?

Okay. But you will return and it will continue.

What next?.
Leave again?.
For how long?

Recently, I visited a senior friend, an important man in the society, and while we were downstairs discussing, the voice of his wife could be heard upstairs. She was spewing unimaginable bile against the man.

She called him all sorts of unprintable names.

Impotent
Wretched fool
Miserable man that was nothing when she married him etc.

This is a well-respected man. A father of 4 children. She tore at his very core and mocked everything society respected him for. She said he would soon crash and she will be there to laugh at him.

I was so uncomfortable as I beheld the man. He was shrunken before me. He was deflated. He tried to game fully continue the gist to distract me but it was not working. The woman's vitriol was a ceaseless torrent. An uncomfortable silence ensued. I excused myself and left his house.

I was really sad.

Do you want to know the truth?

This is what most men go through in their houses. The labor and toil and build respect but when they return home, the one who ought to speak to the king in them tears them to shreds and tries to deflate their self-esteem.

When they are outside, they try to act cheerful and happy but back home, they are shriveled because the person they live with makes it a point of duty to verbally assault them.

A sad story comes to mind.

There was recently a Nigerian Ambassador who was recalled because his wife released a story to the press that he beat her. She also released pictures showing fresh injuries on her body ostensibly inflicted by the man.

In a dramatic twist, their children came out to debunk the stories and said their mother faked the injuries to embarrass their dad.
_Grown-up children._

A particular sentence by the 1st son saddened me.

He said it was as if their mum woke up every morning with one mission in life:

"How to make their dad miserable."

They said they were witnesses to how their mum constantly harassed and abused their dad and wanted the whole world to know that their dad was not who their mum was painting him to be.

Yes, opinion shifted on the scandal but the damage had been done. The Ambassador was recalled and nobody heard from him again.

A family is currently at odds with the widow of their son and brother. The wife was constantly verbally assaulting him. Nobody wanted to visit them because each time they were around, it was always quarrels and the wife would call him unprintable names. Even in their presence.

When they try to interfere, she will give them their own. The man died recently of a heart attack caused by high blood pressure. He was in his late 40s. The family insists his wife sent him to his early grave with her verbal torments.

Our bars are filled with men who are afraid to go home to their wives for fear of what verbal torment they will go through. Men are finding every excuse to travel because they will rather be anywhere than in their own homes.

Everybody is focusing on men as culprits in domestic abuse.
Who is talking to the women?.```

I'M _JUST ASKING.

Nigerian society doesnt think men suffer abuse

Hmmmmmm!

If all men was like me .. Girls 4 no see who to carry their burden(marriage) give..

But will they..

Abegii make dem carry their cross, cos dem no dey like hear word?

Then it's simple, don't marry.

Men marry cuz of food, but you can hire the best chefs in the world or learn to cook yourself.

Men marry cuz of companionship & friendship, but you can always buy friendship with money easily.

Men marry cuz of kids. But you can always adopt or get a sorrugate or grow a test tube baby in the lab with money.

Men marry cuz of sex. Sex is overrated, a commodity that can be bought with money.

Must you get married in 2022 and suffer verbal abuse?

After wasting money and time on wedding ceremony, only to divorce later. Is it not a waste of precious time?

Lastly, if you are a Womanizer or Manizer and you know it, please don't marry. Remain single.

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May God help all the married men out there, but seriously marriage is so overrated.

MEN should stop getting married since the probability of landing a slaywitch is now higher than possibility of securing a Good President for Nigeria.
Commonest cause of High BP:
Commonest cause of stroke among
Nigerian MEN is Nagging wife.

Commonest cause of High BP among Nigerian women is Pregnancy!

I can testify

MALIGNANTGuest:
MEN should stop getting married since the probability of landing a slaywitch is now higher than possibility of securing a Good President for Nigeria.
Commonest cause of High BP:
Commonest cause of stroke among
Nigerian MEN is Nagging wife.

Commonest cause of High BP among Nigerian women is Pregnancy!

Reason why I've always told friends around me that I don't see myself getting married in the next 12-15 years. Child bearing isn't in my long-term plan too. Some think I sound weird , but peace is what I yearn for in the future. I can only know myself enough, and not my wife. Worse will be daughters who go astray, like the crazy news we hear of daughters these days. That one will break my heart into pieces, even worse than the news of a cheating wife. Reason why I have this goal to marry abroad and hope she doesn't want kids. It's less common with our African women not to want to bear children. We can still be a happy couple, if she has understanding and wisdom.

The problem is that when a man report issues of domestic violence by his wife that involve her slapping , beating o heating him, you would hear a lot of people(especially there fellow men) calling them names or woman wrapper for been a crying baby instead of reacting, and it maybe that the man is only trying to avoid heating his wife in return, the society would called a man reporting domestic voilence as a weak man,fragile and un serious, many would not even believe the man, the society really need to change it perception about domestic violence towards men.

Fear woman. FEAR WOMAN!

This is one of the inevitable scenarios when people reject God. The Bible solution -
1.Husbands love your wives sacrificially (unconditionally)
2. Wives submit to your Husbands as if to Christ.
I guess that's too chauvinistic for most people in our liberated age!