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Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Elporo(m): 4:16pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
cococandy: This is an anomaly. Why should a wife and mother start a power tussle for influence over a man's attention, money and support? Nobody sees nothing wrong in this situation? Nairalanders come from dysfunctional homes? I love the right wing! |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Mindlog: 4:18pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: It is an uncomfortable reality that many adults around struggle with psychological separatedness (individuation) which is more prevalent with some sons and their mothers . |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Mariangeles(f): 4:24pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
ImaIma1: For some mothers, it takes time to come to terms with that. Especially with their first sons. |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Kobojunkie: 4:24pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
Mindlog:Nigeria matter dey give headache! |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Double0h7(f): 4:28pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
Nvm |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Tradegood: 4:41pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
Double0h7:Lol, why would any wife think to build "her" own house? I know women build and own properties but I have never really seen a woman admitting that her husband's house is his house. It is so weird. Maybe the husband made her feel so? It means the house your husband built is clearly only seen as his?? I ask because, my understanding is, when a man builds his house with his own money and he is married, both the man and wife see it as theirs. The wife nor the husband does not go about thinking, "it is his house" but "our house" get? So for you to be thinking of it as "his house" and with a future intention to owning "your house", man! The thing is confusing me. So, even though you both are married, there is still a dichotomy to his things? I don't really get... You don't really need to explain things to me, I am just trying to explain my state of mind when I read your post. 1 Like |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by emmanuelbrown26: 4:50pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
Mariangeles:It is what it is, why is it thw daughters of eve hate to hear d raw truth |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by emmanuelbrown26: 4:51pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
Tradegood:i dont know why daughters of eve hates to hear d raw truth |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Double0h7(f): 4:57pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
I'm confused by this thread... comments retracted |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Tradegood: 5:00pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26: Any one that refuses the red.piller ideology na daughter of Eve TiffanyJ: Oga emmanuelbrown26, possessed by the red.piller demon wants to prove by stronghead that he knows more about marriage than the GOD who created marriage and gave us the instruction for a successful union. Get thee behind me you red demon piller 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Tradegood: 5:04pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
Double0h7: Okay, I think I get now. It was all written from an argumentative point of view. Yeah, i understood the context with which you wrote it but it also seemed like it was very personal. If you noticed, my reply to you was a question, I wasn't so sure of what I was reading so i had to ask. |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by ImaIma1(f): 5:20pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
Mariangeles: Yeah. It might take a while for some. But any wise mum can't drag rights in her son's house. No one dragged rights with her in her own husband's house. Some mums just find a way to attach themselves to their sons thereby creating problems for the wives. If they had their lives separate from their sons, life would be better. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Spherical77(m): 5:40pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26:your mother has full right in her own husband's house. Your house belongs to your dear wife so she has the full right Your mother wouldn't even dare claim right in her son's house. She'd be enlightened if she does that 2 Likes |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by cococandy(f): 6:46pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
Elporo: What’s an anomaly is that two full grown adults decide to get married and build a home together yet somehow the woman is not regarded as a true partner in that home. It’s his house. Even though they built it together. And y’all are okay with such useless terminology. The man’s house. Under the man’s roof. No wonder some women are hesitant to invest with their men. It’s high time y’all stop. 3 Likes |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by emmanuelbrown26: 6:55pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
Tradegood:O YES? BCS I DIDNT SAY WHAT U WANTED TO HEAR |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Tradegood: 7:24pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
emmanuelbrown26: You cannot say what I want to hear. It is beyond the capacity of a red demon piller. How can a young, supposedly sane man like you not understand boundaries? Even when it is glaring to you that your refusal to set boundaries is causing a huge fire on the Mountain? And you can see the fire o. But your, "Soldier go, e go go, soldier come, e go come" mentality, an unchanging characteric of the red demon piller, go watch until house burn down because, the word "wife" alone dey pinch you for body. |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by talk2hb1(m): 10:05pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:No Matter how grown a child is, parent will always be parent |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Kobojunkie: 10:10pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
talk2hb1:So, it is OK then for a wife's parent to police their daughter in her husband's house same way the husband's parents police him in his house? 1 Like |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by talk2hb1(m): 10:17pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Who said That? |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Kobojunkie: 10:27pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
talk2hb1:Did you not post the comment below earlier in response to my asking whether the grown man in question was still a toddler or an imbe-cile? talk2hb1: 1 Like |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by ZIMDRILL(m): 10:37pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
Tradegood: some when built their own house as reaction to things around them 1 culture were women end up loosing what they built together as hubby and wife (eg brother ls of the late husband taking over things as per tradition and culture) 2 hubby has lots of children with different women the moment he dies whatever wealth will be divided among the kids and their mothers 3 having property or wealth being passed on direct to blood related people aka inheritance through blood line then finally both wife and hubby can pass on wealth and property to their children (bloodline) and their wife/husbands would be be entitled to such wealth and property but on their children in simple terms ( son/daughter -in - laws shouldnt inherit any bloodline pass on wealth/property |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Tradegood: 11:01pm On Apr 19, 2022 |
ZIMDRILL: Oh wow, can you revise what you wrote, I think there may have been typos. I didn't really get the first parts? |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by rickleye: 1:18am On Apr 20, 2022 |
But explain to me .. You left your parents home to build a life with your S.O. Isn't the home for both of you with equal authority. ? You may have the final authority but the hierarchy should be either of you and then a 3rd person. How would you feel if your mother-in-law moves in with you and asserts some kind of authority over the home, you and your spouse built. A wise parent in my book would never try to assert any form of authority in her children's home but rather make sure that her son is treating his wife with respect and love. |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by talk2hb1(m): 4:36am On Apr 20, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Of course I did, so acknowledgement of one parents as a parent qualifies one to be an slowpoke or toddler? Or am I missing where you are driving this to? |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Nobody: 10:15am On Apr 20, 2022 |
cococandy: What if the man finances the whole project, is it still their house? |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Nobody: 10:19am On Apr 20, 2022 |
No one can exert authority over me but I am more sympathetic to my mother. My mum loves me unconditionally, I can't say the same for a wife. There's always a special bond between mothers and their kids. Even if I was dirt poor and hungry, I know one person on earth would have my back 100%, and that matters to me a lot. |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Kobojunkie: 12:38pm On Apr 20, 2022 |
talk2hb1:This all started with your claim that even in marriage, parents retain full rights over their children, particularly the son , to which I posted the response below .. Kobojunkie: |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by talk2hb1(m): 1:26pm On Apr 20, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:It's a case of misunderstanding, only a bad parents will want to dabble or control their child marital home. But they still have great and limited influence on the marital home. |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Kobojunkie: 1:58pm On Apr 20, 2022 |
talk2hb1:And is it also OK then that the wife's parents also have the same "great and limited" influence on her marital home as well?, 1 Like |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by cococandy(f): 2:12pm On Apr 20, 2022 |
theForth:umm yes 1 Like |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Nobody: 2:14pm On Apr 20, 2022 |
cococandy: You're joking. Na who get document get house |
Re: Between A Man's Wife And His Mother, Who Has More Authority In His House? by Ishilove: 2:57pm On Apr 20, 2022 |
Mama should stay in her house to avoid controversy, and when she visits, she should not stay too long. |
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