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Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by danton(m): 6:47pm On May 03, 2022
Marriage is something you don't rush into without proper clearance, that been said.. Sex is a major ingredient to pilot it.. With your issue unresolved my brother it won't go well
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by okewumi: 7:02pm On May 03, 2022
Chai sad shocked

I pity you bro. Assuming l knew nairaland before marriage, l would have been so happy. Some of us saw the time bomb before marriage but we ignore with the aim that she will change and improve after but reverse is the case.

Use your head, don't be carried away
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by emmanuelpopson(m): 7:06pm On May 03, 2022
i did have an ex like that before but her own case was she was a victim of rape.. she was rape by her best male friend while they were young anything sex is a taboo. but she likes the romace.. now you have to let her open up to u.. kos something must have been making her not to want to have it.. its psychological and if she didnt open up to u.. u are OYO kos she will use the cheating against u in marriage if u dare cheat on her and no one will wanna hear your opinion kos you already know where u re going now before its too late.. u better halt d wedding now and let her explain the reasons and let her family know this one before its too late..
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by OfficialCribMD: 7:12pm On May 03, 2022
Your fiance has Genophobia, (fear of sex). It's psychological. You and your wife need to talk to a therapist. Also, before sex, try to get your relaxed (play relaxing music). If you want to need a therapist, you can have an online session with one here https://cribmd.com/
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by 8BitGee(m): 7:21pm On May 03, 2022
I don't think the girl really wants or finds you sexually appealing @OP, if you analyse your relationship critically, you may discover that you are the one driving it, and that you are the thinking and talking about marriage. You will be advised that sex is very important in a relationship because it's a powerful way of bonding.

Don't make the decision to continue based solely on the number of years youse have been together, bro. All the best to you.
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Avast(m): 7:21pm On May 03, 2022
OluwoR:
brother, see, I understand You, but you think it's easy to just cut off 8 years relationship just like that ?
What are you saying, just 8 years.

Do you want to regret getting married to her for the rest of your life.

I understand you love her, but she is not responding to your help. So brotherly I will advise you to walk away or meet her family and explain everything to them.
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by greattybee(m): 7:26pm On May 03, 2022
OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.
Lmao��
After marrying her you will later come her on NL to start complaining about ur failing marriage due to sex..
Omo...
Sometimes we create our own problems.
Rubbish.
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by bmdmix10: 7:38pm On May 03, 2022
OfficialCribMD:
Your fiance has Genophobia, (fear of sex). It's psychological. You and your wife need to talk to a therapist. Also, before sex, try to get your relaxed (play relaxing music). If you want to need a therapist, you can have an online session with one here https://cribmd.com/
lol in other words no quickie
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by cooooooks(m): 7:45pm On May 03, 2022
What of her parents? Have you spoken with them?

OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by crackhouse(m): 7:46pm On May 03, 2022
What can I say? I am not a health personel. But from the pastor's perspective I think she have a spiritual husband...
As you are having sex with her, her spiritual husband is whooping her with a spiritual cane and you know how painful it can be, I think that's why she always cry..
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Nobody: 7:49pm On May 03, 2022
OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.
Ask her if she has been raped before ?
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Whois(m): 7:49pm On May 03, 2022
Seems suffer no Dey tire some people. You don't have to be told She is not that into you and of cause She will continue to frustrate you even in married.
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Munzy14(m): 8:11pm On May 03, 2022
OluwoR:
you're such a brother
Thanks dude �
Welcome!
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Munzy14(m): 8:12pm On May 03, 2022
lomprico:
After 8 years? undecided
A lot can happen within the time frame.
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Munzy14(m): 8:15pm On May 03, 2022
Twoclans:
Chairmaaaaaannnnnn tongue

Odogwu umu nwanyi.


What could not happen in 8 years it's now it will happen.Story.
Bia twoclans gbara ogwu gi o...Onye wu Odogwu Umu nwaanyi? tongue


Is only Odogwu Money I can accept..As an upcoming Odogwu.. cheesy

Women, na only God go understand you people.. grin grin
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Munzy14(m): 8:16pm On May 03, 2022
Emjace:
From my experience. I totally agree with you
Same here...It was my best relationship so far.
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by DrBrainstorm(m): 8:52pm On May 03, 2022
4kizo:
Op you are an example of SIMPle man....

I suggest admins dem should be ignoring some topics ah swear

Op in my life eh, I never see a fool like you ah swear

Gerrout!!!!
Fool
I wish I can lay my hands on you right now.....your brain go reset

Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by nini007(m): 9:02pm On May 03, 2022
youngsahito:
you are planning introduction when u know that u have a fire on your roof, shey na love make u mumu like this or just want to create problem for yourself? Don't come here to cry like a baby ooo when everything burst.
well said
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Slynation(m): 9:04pm On May 03, 2022
You knew all this yet continued with the ship and even went ahead to propose, she even declined help after paying 50K yet you patted her on the back and said well done sweetheart...Oboy carry your cross
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Nobody: 9:15pm On May 03, 2022
oke2018:
Ask her if she has been raped before ?
nope Sir, I was her first
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by MhizzKay: 9:18pm On May 03, 2022
OluwoR:
Good evening my brothers and sisters,

I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.

Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not.
I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.

Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand,
please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.
I really don't post on nairaland that much but I read your story and decided to just give you a simple advise .
See nothing is wrong with your babe, a lot of mentally unstable people are advising you to leave her, please don't do that.
I m a single lady and I Ve been in a similar situation before so I want to use my own experience to talk to you and to advise as many single ladies who may find themselves in this condition.
If she's a dedicated Christian, it could be that she's not okay with sex before marriage, that's one.
Another thing about her condition is that you have to keep having sex with her on a regular basis maybe 3 to four times a week so that she can be opened..if you don't have sex with her regularly , the whole place will become tight again. So sex has to be a regular thing.
I personally went to see the doctor too, I felt I had a problem, at a point I felt it was going to take me time to get pregnant.I was extremely worried.

It's nothing to worry about
Just have a decent conversation with her
Go see the doctor together and make sure you both are on the same page except she doesn't like you ...but if she does , it's just a matter of calming down and then talking to her ... She will adjust eventually ...I can assure you that nothing serious is wrong with her .... It's just a rare condition.... U guys will overcome by Gods grace ..it's frustrating and tiring too but love conquers all..don't destroy your relationship because of SS3 students giving u advise ..a lot of idiots have access to social media now , remember. But most importantly practice safe sex,sex within the confines of marriage and also let her know that what she's going through might be a problem in the marriage so that she can adjust too..because having sex has to do with the right mindset.
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Nobody: 9:21pm On May 03, 2022
Divoc19:
She may have been raped.
There's something psychological about it.
You need a good counsel not gynaecologist
I was her first Sir
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Nobody: 9:22pm On May 03, 2022
tegrianonigltd:
She is getting it outside. You are not just her type sexually, make we no lie. She is not sexually attracted to you
sincerely, I don't think so
she just hate anything that has to do with sex
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Frales6(f): 9:23pm On May 03, 2022
No vex ooo. Dem tie you rope say you must marry her?? You know say nacking dey very important for marriage and you dey here dey romance the issue instead of you to find person wey ready to do normal things normal.
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Nobody: 9:23pm On May 03, 2022
olaniyilukman:
I understand your situation bro and I know you are pained right now, but let me tell you the bitter truth, it is good to cut off the relationship now than regret later, my wife is the type of your woman, I hardly enjoy any sex with her. Everytime we had sex she will started crying like a baby to the extent that I am fed up of the whole situation.... I managed to have one girl that is giving happiness right now in that aspect....
so, their are only two solutions
leave the relationship or get another person outside
right ?
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Nobody: 9:24pm On May 03, 2022
gabicon:
It's important that you find out if she just wants to be celibate and just pulling a stunt to achieve the goal or if there really is a problem.
I think it's the later
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Nobody: 9:25pm On May 03, 2022
mayor1814:
Try to make her see a doctor. It may be fibroids causing the pain during sex. Or other medical examination may reveal the whole truth.
she just doesn't want to go to the hospital Sir, I personally booked an appointment with a Dr @ UCH
she didn't go
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Nobody: 9:25pm On May 03, 2022
mrgreen4real:
I must ask you this before I contribute. Do you have a very very big or a monster cock?
lol, not really Sir
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Nobody: 9:26pm On May 03, 2022
FlyingKing:
Maybe she has spiritual husband, you might not believed but if you are a man of the spirit do spiritual investigation and untie her. I know what I'm talking about.

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talked about this with her few days ago
she fashi it
Re: My Fiancee Can't Have Sex by Nobody: 9:27pm On May 03, 2022
Help2020:
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lol, I aiidy did, maybe a year ago
she disposed it
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