There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.

Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.

Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.

Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.

1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)

2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.

3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me proof)

Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.

I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt.

The sign is clearly on the wall. Unfortunately he has chosen to move on with his life, hence him ignoring your messages. In all fairness he might be facing tough challenges in a foreign country, but the lifeblood of a long distance relationship is communication, and he has not availed himself to that.

The relationship is not just comatose, it is dead. Please move on and don't waste any more time on him. You deserve better treatment than this. It will not be easy because you are clearly so much into him, but your happiness and sanity also matter. I wish you well.

Bb

Cyntie speak to him privately,that guy is either playing games with you or is no longer interested in you.
I am a guy and let me tell you a bitter Truth,that boyfriend of yours might be playing on your intelligence,do not waste your time on a guy that has found another lover.

He can't be too busy to the extent that he won't have a proper time for you,no excuse for that.

He isn't just in a relationship over there, he has started a family already. He's not communicating is him expecting you to get the message and move on

Maybe things aren't okay for him over there now, but avoiding you isn't right

Diasporan folks are designed to give hypertension. Some are normal, some are not. Your guy is obviously one of the abnormal ones. I don’t know what sign or proof you are looking for again. I like to think he has spoken loudly with his silence.

The best you can do is spell it out to him that you would be moving on. That way you don’t cheat or have any guilt on your mind. Detach yourself emotionally first. Distract yourself with work and hobbies. Slowly but surely, you would forget his existence.

That said, abroad is hard. Italy is harder.
Sometimes a man got to do what he got to do. Free the young man and free yourself too.

Never be afraid to move on.
Be prepared for anything and everything.
A carpenter in Nigeria might end up making you feel more loved and cherished, but you would never know until you heal and try again.

pocohantas:
Diasporan folks are designed to give hypertension. Some are normal, some are not. Your guy is obviously one of the abnormal ones. I don’t know what sign or proof you are looking for again.

The best you can do is spell it out to him that you would be moving on. That way you don’t cheat or have any guilt on your mind. Detach yourself emotionally first. Distract yourself. Slowly but surely, you would forget his existence.

That said, abroad is hard. Italy is harder.
So sometimes a man got to do what he got to do. Free the young man and free yourself too.

Simple as that.

Move on

pocohantas:
Diasporan folks are designed to give hypertension. Some are normal, some are not. Your guy is obviously one of the abnormal ones. I don’t know what sign or proof you are looking for again.

The best you can do is spell it out to him that you would be moving on. That way you don’t cheat or have any guilt on your mind. Detach yourself emotionally first. Distract yourself. Slowly but surely, you would forget his existence.

maybe difficult circumstances

Move on sis.

If things are hard for him, you deserve to be carried along.

Move on o. No wait till you see him wedding IV .

pocohantas:
Diasporan folks are designed to give hypertension. Some are normal, some are not. Your guy is obviously one of the abnormal ones. I don’t know what sign or proof you are looking for again.

The best you can do is spell it out to him that you would be moving on. That way you don’t cheat or have any guilt on your mind. Detach yourself emotionally first. Distract yourself. Slowly but surely, you would forget his existence.

this can be erroneous assumption, she should just try and hear from him first so as not to jump the gun

God1000:
this can be erroneous assumption, she should just try and hear from him first so as not to jump the gun

Hear what from him? Same person that is not responding to messages or picking calls? Is she telepathic to know what is on his mind? Abeg!

Visiting his elder sister would reflect desperation. Like earlier suggested, send him audio/text that you will be moving on as it seems he has already left the relationship.

Should I tell her?...

Cyntie55:
There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.

Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.

Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.

Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.

1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)

2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.

3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me prove)

Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.

I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt.

My dear sister, please move on... I pray you find someone who will respect and prioritize you

Madam, are you waiting for prophet Elijah to tell you that your man is fvcking a white woman's pussy in Italy just to secure his permanent stay??

Your guy has moved on, the street is not funny, your man is in search for a better life and he's ready to settle down with a white woman for green card... Biko move on with your life Dear. I be guyman and I must tell you the truth.

Hmmn.

pocohantas:

Never be afraid to move on.
Be prepared for anything and everything.
A carpenter in Nigeria might end up making you feel more loved and cherished, but you would never know until you heal and try again.

Can I be your carpenter? I promise to knack you well.

Maxwell775:
Can I be your carpenter? I promise to knack you well.

You no get respect?

Chiefbutcher007:

You no get respect?

Lol... Na just simple question I ask nw.

Maxwell775:
Lol... Na just simple question I ask nw.

But e no make sense na.
O.T

Chiefbutcher007:

But e no make sense na.
O.T

Stop Simping Dude!

Maxwell775:
Stop Simping Dude!

Haha simping,so me telling you to respect yourself and that lady is simping?
You know who you dey follow yarn so?

This is the reason why I don't cherish long distance relationships. Since there's lack of communication from his end. I think you should move on. I know it's hard but trust me you won't regret your move. Communication is the key, No matter the situation he's going through. My sister you better move on, otherwise you'll keep waiting for years and he won't show up.

If you go away on this summer day
Then you might as well take the sun away
All the birds that flew in the summer sky
When our love was new and our hearts were high
When the day was young and the night was long
And the moon stood still for the night-bird' s song
If you go away, if you go away If you go away

But if you stay, I'll make you a day
Like no day has been, or will be again
We will sail the sun, we will ride on the rain
We will talk to the trees, and worship the wind
Then if you go, I'll understand, leave me just
Enough love to fill up my mind
If you go away, if you go away, if you go away

If you go away, as I know you will
You must tell the world to stop turning till
You return again, if you ever do
For what good is love without loving you
Can I tell you now, as you turn to go
I' ll be dying slowly till the next hello
If you go away, if you go away, if you go away

But if you stay, I'll make you a night
Like no night has been, or will be again
I'll sail on your smile, I'll ride on your touch
I'll talk to your eyes, that I love so much
But if you go, go, I won' t cry, though the
Good is gone from the word goodbye
If you go away, if you go away, if you go away

If you go away, as I know you must
There will be nothing left in the world to trust
Just an empty room, full of empty space
Like the empty look I see on your face
I' d have been the shadow of your shadow if I thought
It might have kept me by your side
If you go away
Please don' t go away
Please don't go away

Cyntie55:
There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.

Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.

Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.

Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.

1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)

2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.

3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me prove)

Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.

I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt.

I am very sure you are knocking someone now. Just move on with the person, y distrbin urself

Move on

Cyntie55:
There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.

Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.

Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.

Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.

1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)

2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.

3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me prove)

Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.

I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt.

wow fine girl like you. I think he is finding things hard especially with rise in energy cost. I would say you should move on

If there is anything that captivate my attention in this post the part you said he would be online and still won't reply your chat or pick your calls.
All I can say to you at this junction, is that you deserve better. You deserve happiness too.
It seem like you are the only one still in that relationship...