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Stayingtrueee:
I only explained the surface of what I and this guy have been through. The reason for this sudden decision is what I don't know and many of them here are bashing me cos I said I took money on our first night of meeting... I can take care of myself, infact my family too can. I'm not a kid but the thought of him not supporting me is what is killing me but no issues I leave it to God.

honestly dear i understand ur pain..

i don't knw if i might be right or wrong,i tink u shud visit him one more time to knw his stand on dis..but...don't pick up a fight or quarel with him..

Jmichael1:
honestly dear i understand ur pain..

i don't knw if i might be right or wrong,i tink u shud visit him one more time to knw his stand on dis..but...don't pick up a fight or quarel with him..

That's what I wanna do by next weekend. I just want to hear from him face to face. No quarrels!

U have gotten what you want . He payed for ur hook up service and your here talking rubbish. So stop disturbing us here. Nah Claver ashawo
u be . If Ur tired of runs work u go look for husband ok

Stayingtrueee:
Oga rest abi are u guilty of what I wrote Get a lady pregnant and won't take responsibility?? Abeg get out

Emma2Seconds:
U have gotten what you want . He payed for ur hook up service and your here talking rubbish. So stop disturbing us here. Nah Claver ashawo
u be . If Ur tired of runs work u go look for husband ok

Get lost agbaya lol

Stayingtrueee:
That's what I wanna do by next weekend. I just want to hear from him face to face. No quarrels!

alright dear...
be strong for ur unborn baby..ok.

cheers......

Which ppl dey do hook up work for your village Abii u don't say hook up na ashawo business and your here claiming right. Sex for payment is prostitution take it or leave it . Na professional ashawo u be ok . Get Sense for once ok enjoy your pregnancy in peace and
leave that innocent guy alone

Stayingtrueee:
Get lost agbaya lol

Emma2Seconds:
Which ppl dey do hook up work for your village Abii u don't say hook up na ashawo business and your here claiming right. Sex for payment is prostitution take it or leave it . Na professional ashawo u be ok . Get Sense for once ok enjoy your pregnancy in peace and
leave that innocent guy alone

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Stayingtrueee:
Good day nairalanders! Please I have a serious issue at hand and I just need different opinions.

I met this guy sometime in November infact the day we met we spent the night together it was more like a hook up thingy and he paid me my money and I left the next morning. Later that day I wrote him to know his whereabout and he said he was at home and I asked if I could come over cos I really enjoyed what we had that night. So he invited me over and I spent two days with him, along the line we grew fond of each other and we became really close. Infact I was always going to his house it was more like we were dating.

January this year I noticed I was pregnant but I wasn't sure so I actually waited till I'll see my period in February but my fear was confirmed. I was pregnant! I told him and he wanted the baby infact we both wanted it.

Fast forward to last month I came to visit as usual and I spent some weeks with him, he was really facing some financial challenges and he started transferring aggression on me. I tried to calm him down that it was only a phase and that it will pass. He loosened up a bit.
I traveled back to my state cos I live in Port Harcourt and he's in Abraka Delta state, we're both from Rivers though.

So he was expecting some funds on Monday which he promised to send something over for me for my upkeep, the money came in and he never sent a dime for me. I tried calling him to remind him and he started giving me attitude, putting up some flimsy quarrels. Then I asked him hope I'm not in all this alone, the answer I got from him was however I want to handle myself was solely my business, I should do what ever I want.

Right now I'm so confused, I'm thinking of traveling to Delta state to go see him at least he should say all these to my face. If he wants me to terminate the pregnancy which is still not late I have my own conditions to give him. I'll stay at his place and we'll both go together to have an abortion, I'll stay at his place till I'm perfectly fine and he has to pay me for damages.

What do you guys think? Am I doing the right thing

Pardon my typos please!!!

This is one of the reasons i always say u ladies shouldn't be a liability to men. If u were an asset or financially independent, u wouldn't have been treated this way.

Br leave that lady na runz she dey do. Hook up work is for ashawo calibers . She will be here claiming right she never tell us how much she collected for her hook up business from the guy

Truvelisback:
This is one of the reasons i always say u ladies shouldn't be a liability to men. If u were an asset or financially independent, u wouldn't have been treated this way.

Stayingtrueee:
Good day nairalanders! Please I have a serious issue at hand and I just need different opinions.
!

you are so on point, make sure you visit unaware.

Stayingtrueee:
Good day nairalanders! Please I have a serious issue at hand and I just need different opinions.

I met this guy sometime in November infact the day we met we spent the night together it was more like a hook up thingy and he paid me my money and I left the next morning. Later that day I wrote him to know his whereabout and he said he was at home and I asked if I could come over cos I really enjoyed what we had that night. So he invited me over and I spent two days with him, along the line we grew fond of each other and we became really close. Infact I was always going to his house it was more like we were dating.

January this year I noticed I was pregnant but I wasn't sure so I actually waited till I'll see my period in February but my fear was confirmed. I was pregnant! I told him and he wanted the baby infact we both wanted it.

Fast forward to last month I came to visit as usual and I spent some weeks with him, he was really facing some financial challenges and he started transferring aggression on me. I tried to calm him down that it was only a phase and that it will pass. He loosened up a bit.
I traveled back to my state cos I live in Port Harcourt and he's in Abraka Delta state, we're both from Rivers though.

So he was expecting some funds on Monday which he promised to send something over for me for my upkeep, the money came in and he never sent a dime for me. I tried calling him to remind him and he started giving me attitude, putting up some flimsy quarrels. Then I asked him hope I'm not in all this alone, the answer I got from him was however I want to handle myself was solely my business, I should do what ever I want.

Right now I'm so confused, I'm thinking of traveling to Delta state to go see him at least he should say all these to my face. If he wants me to terminate the pregnancy which is still not late I have my own conditions to give him. I'll stay at his place and we'll both go together to have an abortion, I'll stay at his place till I'm perfectly fine and he has to pay me for damages.

What do you guys think? Am I doing the right thing

Pardon my typos please!!!

do girl normally pray for their boyfriend when things get serious? Like minimum of one hour of prayer in the mid night not 5min or 2min prayer oooo. It's not that God don't listen to 2min prayer but there are level of seriousness you need to display in prayer by praying for long time while your mind is focus

Or girls just stay with guy and enjoy every moment with them.

aktolly54:
do girl normally pray for their boyfriend when things get serious? Like minimum of one hour of prayer in the mid night not 5min or 2min prayer oooo. It's not that God don't listen to 2min prayer but there are level of seriousness you need to display in prayer by praying for long time while your mind is focus

Or girls just stay with guy and enjoy every moment with them.

My dear I do honestly! I know the importance of prayers, so l do.

Stayingtrueee:
My dear I do honestly! I know the importance of prayers, so l do.

be patient with him and take things slow. How you meet him don't matter because 70% of guy always have intention of hit and go but when we see some other interesting things in girl, we decided to stay.

Keep calm please

aktolly54:
be patient with him and take things slow. How you meet him don't matter because 70% of guy always have intention of hit and go but when we see some other interesting things in girl, we decided to stay.

Keep calm please

Thank you! I don't wanna give him issues, I just want him to be reasonable enough and do the right thing. I'm not forcing him to marry me or something. Just support, at least knowing fully well someone is there for you, supporting you all the way.

Emma2Seconds....
Even if you were harsh with your words, you deserve a bottle a chilled beer ....

OP...
I'm gonna be very real with you here...
You met a guy in the capacity of a wh.o.r.e and you expect him to take you serious? LMAO ...

What planet do you live in!!! ...

Sweetheart....
You're nothing but a fu.ckbud.dy to that guy...
You're just a wh.o.re turned FWB ...
And even if you didn't get pregnant, just know that NOTHING like marriage will result from your "relationship" with him, no matter how long you stayed with him ...

I'm not saying this to rub it in....
But just know that NO MAN I know, will marry a girl who is a wh.o.re, NEVER! Unless he didn't know about it before hand or maybe there's lots of benefits in it for him ...

As regards whether or not you should keep the pregnancy, well that's your business ...

But if you do decide to keep the baby....
Know that very few men will marry a single mother and just Incase you don't wanna get married, Sha know that statistics has shown that single mothers literally ruin their children's life....

But if you do decide to terminate...
Know that you've become a murder and even if there are no complications in the course of the abortion, youve got to take this secret to your grave, cause lots of men out there will not want to be with an "abortionist" ...

Favfables1:
Emma2Seconds....
Even if you were harsh with your words, you deserve a bottle a chilled beer ....

OP...
I'm gonna be very real with you here...
You met a guy in the capacity of a wh.o.r.e and you expect him to take you serious? LMAO ...

What planet do you live in!!! ...

Sweetheart....
You're nothing but a fu.ckbud.dy to that guy...
You're just a wh.o.re turned FWB ...
And even if you didn't get pregnant, just know that NOTHING like marriage will result from your "relationship" with him, no matter how long you stayed with him ...

I'm not saying this to rub it in....
But just know that NO MAN I know, will marry a girl who is a wh.o.re, NEVER! Unless he didn't know about it before hand or maybe there's lots of benefits in it for him ...

As regards whether or not you should keep the pregnancy, well that's your business ...

But if you do decide to keep the baby....
Know that very few men will marry a single mother and just Incase you don't wanna get married, Sha know that statistics has shown that single mothers literally ruin their children's life....

But if you do decide to terminate...
Know that you've become a murder and even if there are no complications in the course of the abortion, youve got to take this secret to your grave, cause lots of men out there will not want to be with an "abortionist" ...

mtchewwwwwwwww! And u just made sense

Stayingtrueee:
Good day nairalanders! Please I have a serious issue at hand and I just need different opinions.

I met this guy sometime in November infact the day we met we spent the night together it was more like a hook up thingy and he paid me my money and I left the next morning. Later that day I wrote him to know his whereabout and he said he was at home and I asked if I could come over cos I really enjoyed what we had that night. So he invited me over and I spent two days with him, along the line we grew fond of each other and we became really close. Infact I was always going to his house it was more like we were dating.

January this year I noticed I was pregnant but I wasn't sure so I actually waited till I'll see my period in February but my fear was confirmed. I was pregnant! I told him and he wanted the baby infact we both wanted it.

Fast forward to last month I came to visit as usual and I spent some weeks with him, he was really facing some financial challenges and he started transferring aggression on me. I tried to calm him down that it was only a phase and that it will pass. He loosened up a bit.
I traveled back to my state cos I live in Port Harcourt and he's in Abraka Delta state, we're both from Rivers though.

So he was expecting some funds on Monday which he promised to send something over for me for my upkeep, the money came in and he never sent a dime for me. I tried calling him to remind him and he started giving me attitude, putting up some flimsy quarrels. Then I asked him hope I'm not in all this alone, the answer I got from him was however I want to handle myself was solely my business, I should do what ever I want.

Right now I'm so confused, I'm thinking of traveling to Delta state to go see him at least he should say all these to my face. If he wants me to terminate the pregnancy which is still not late I have my own conditions to give him. I'll stay at his place and we'll both go together to have an abortion, I'll stay at his place till I'm perfectly fine and he has to pay me for damages.

What do you guys think? Am I doing the right thing

Pardon my typos please!!!

Don't abort that child. That is all I can tell you

ntipro:
Don't abort that child. That is all I can tell you

I don't want to honestly!

Stayingtrueee:
mtchewwwwwwwww! And u just made sense

Hahahahaha ....

I expected this , it's typical of an average female ...

And if you haven't already, please stop exchanging your body for money, no one takes a who.r.e seriously ....

I pray God helps you ...

Favfables1:
Emma2Seconds....
Even if you were harsh with your words, you deserve a bottle a chilled beer ....

OP...
I'm gonna be very real with you here...
You met a guy in the capacity of a wh.o.r.e and you expect him to take you serious? LMAO ...

What planet do you live in!!! ...

Sweetheart....
You're nothing but a fu.ckbud.dy to that guy...
You're just a wh.o.re turned FWB ...
And even if you didn't get pregnant, just know that NOTHING like marriage will result from your "relationship" with him, no matter how long you stayed with him ...

I'm not saying this to rub it in....
But just know that NO MAN I know, will marry a girl who is a wh.o.re, NEVER! Unless he didn't know about it before hand or maybe there's lots of benefits in it for him ...

As regards whether or not you should keep the pregnancy, well that's your business ...

But if you do decide to keep the baby....
Know that very few men will marry a single mother and just Incase you don't wanna get married, Sha know that statistics has shown that single mothers literally ruin their children's life....

But if you do decide to terminate...
Know that you've become a murder and even if there are no complications in the course of the abortion, youve got to take this secret to your grave, cause lots of men out there will not want to be with an "abortionist" ...

you just tight d girl on both side , Abeg waiting you her to do naw

Kestolove:
ashawo won form right...

see this blatant northern animal...are you any better....smelly hypocrite.

Stayingtrueee:
I only explained the surface of what I and this guy have been through. The reason for this sudden decision is what I don't know and many of them here are bashing me cos I said I took money on our first night of meeting... I can take care of myself, infact my family too can. I'm not a kid but the thought of him not supporting me is what is killing me but no issues I leave it to God.

Aunty, someone already offered to father the child....

Due to the nature of your hustle you already know how to prevent pregnancy, so getting pregnant was intentional, probably to hook him in a situation and guilt him into commitment.

But see a guy can like you and you guys can click and vibe but he will always remember under what circumstances he met you...and because of his first encounter with you as a runs girl he cannot take you seriously.

Do what you think is necessary for your own peace of mind.

SarutobiEky:
Aunty, someone already offered to father the child....

Stayingtrueee:

You're laughing abi. Be like you dey whyne us here to see our reactions.

There's war going on in the west, women (and simps) voting enmasse for abortion to be legalized and they encourage females to abort babies willy nilly up to a week after birth if they don't want the baby.

They said abortion should be legalized because men rape women. As if 80% of abortion is because men are raping women? When in reality these women 99.99999% put themselves in bad situation because of selfishness and unperturbed desire for excitement and thrill they get from jumping on raw Deek knowing fully well they are doing the wrong thing.

Abortion is not supposed to be a form of birth control.


To the op, sorry my post does not offer solution to your present situation.

SarutobiEky:
You're laughing abi. Be like you dey whyne us here to see our reactions.

Nah I'm not! But I can't cry na

PerfectStranger:
sharrrap!
Dude was doing well but the moment you came into his life,he started having badluck and financial crises.
I blame him for treating a farm tool like a wife. If only he moved on after the first hookup session.

Stayingtrueee:
A part of me really wants this child but the thought the father doesn't want to have anything to do with it is killing me

Are you sure, don't kill the child.

Many people who are currently barren now and looking for children did some dangerous abortion in the past. I hope your present decision of terminating the pregnancy wouldn't affect you in the future. We all make mistakes, so I wouldn't judge you. As a medical doctor, I'll advise you to keep the baby. The Nigeria law doesn't permit abortion and that's why we have a lot of cases of unsafe abortion. Don't play with your life, that's the best I can tell you. Take care

dontrulee:
Are you sure, don't kill the child.

Many people who are currently barren now and looking for children did some dangerous abortion in the past. I hope your present decision of terminating the pregnancy wouldn't affect you in the future. We all make mistakes, so I wouldn't judge you. As a medical doctor, I'll advise you to keep the baby. The Nigeria law doesn't permit abortion and that's why we have a lot of cases of unsafe abortion. Don't play with your life, that's the best I can tell you. Take care

I've taken a decision Sir! I'm keeping my baby ❤️

Stayingtrueee:
I don't want to honestly!

Good girl

Stayingtrueee:
I've taken a decision Sir! I'm keeping my baby ❤️

I know how tough it is.
If you need help, reach me on 09024387119.
I'll help you whatever way I can for free. Thank you for making the decision to keep the child. God will see you through.

By the way, have you been going for Antenatal??