bukatyne:


Same woman his father thought was useless while his mother is gold

Statistically, men abandon their wives than wives abandon their husbands.

Like I said, mother and wife relationships are vastly different. But I'm sure you know this, you're married after all

BTW, statistically, the moment a woman has children, her husband is already abandoned while she focuses on her kids. The numerous married men in Nigeria will tell you this. The reason most of these women stay oin their marriages is for economic sustenace.

bukatyne:


Same woman his father thought was useless while his mother is gold

Statistically, men abandon their wives than wives abandon their husbands.

BTW, don't we have like 12 mother's day cessation annually?

It is what it is

pocohantas:


Some day I would get to understand them.

That day might never come.

bukatyne:


Same woman his father thought was useless while his mother is gold

Statistically, men abandon their wives than wives abandon their husbands.

In David Attenborough voice:

This is the redpiller

In his childhood the redpiller's father abandoned the family

The family was abandoned for the fleeting pleasures of the side chick

The redpillers mother had to raise the redpiller alone

This has led to internal conflict in the redpillers regard of the female. The redpiller constantly oscillates between women are cruel evil father snatchers and women are saints who sacrifice all for the famiy

This is the burden the redpiller must carry

We must also ask the question - can the redpiller break the chain and end the cycle?

Or will he also be weak like his father before him and abandon his future family for a future side chick?

Only time can tell.

bukatyne:




If you read the OP, you would think all women do in marriages is have sex and get pregnant.

Maybe that's what their mothers did.

Because I don't know how someone grew in/saw a functional and loving home and still say women/men do nothing/contribute in marriages.

Lol. Very strange.

I believe most of them know the truth but they hate to admit this truth, openly.


I don't think any sane person would conclude that women benefit more in the typical Nigerian marriage setting. Same marriages we see everyday? The way I dey pity some married women ehn, but it's quite understandable why many women would want a marriage anyway.

Women sacrifice time, put their health and lives on the line, go for the lowest and most pitiable jobs just to create time for, more often than not, an unappreciative guy. Many will have to cook for the rest of their lives and no they won't get paid for it. There's so much more. A woman with 3 kids, for example, has practically sacrificed at least 8 years of her life on pregnancy, breastfeeding, nurturing (while also making money o), and throughout these years, the man does nothing but contribute money.

A man will drop 50k for the month and thinks he has done the woman a favour... Ahahaha! The easiest thing to contribute to a marriage is money.

cococandy:


And y’all better respect it. Because talking as if it’s JUST pregnancy tries to minimize the fact that it’s life she’s giving to the world.

If all she did was get pregnant and have kids, she’s already done more than you have or can do. regardless of how much money you make. If you doubt it, use your money to mold a human being inside of you.

End of!

Acidosis:



Lol. Very strange.

I believe most of them know the truth but they hate to admit this truth, openly.


I don't think any sane person would conclude that women benefit more in the typical Nigerian marriage setting. Same marriages we see everyday? The way I dey pity some married women ehn, but it's quite understandable why many women would want a marriage anyway.

Women sacrifice time, put their health and lives on the line, go for the lowest and most pitiable jobs just to create time for, more often than not, an unappreciative guy. Many will have to cook for the rest of their lives and no they won't get paid for it. There's so much more. A woman with 3 kids, for example, have practically sacrificed at least 8 years of her life on pregnancy, breastfeeding, nurturing (while also making money o), and throughout these years, the man does nothing but contribute money.

A man will drop 50k for the month and thinks he has done the woman a favour... Ahahaha! The easiest thing to contribute to a marriage is money.

Thank you!

A woman is lucky to have a man who understands what she goes through to raise a family. Your appreciation goes a long way.

bukatyne:




If you read the OP, you would think all women do in marriages is have sex and get pregnant.

Maybe that's what their mothers did.

Because I don't know how someone grew in/saw a functional and loving home and still say women/men do nothing/contribute in marriages.

I guess it is not possible.

Belafonte:


Like I said, mother and wife relationships are vastly different. But I'm sure you know this, you're married after all

BTW, statistically, the moment a woman has children, her husband is already abandoned while she focuses on her kids. The numerous married men in Nigeria will tell you this. The reason most of these women stay oin their marriages is for economic sustenace.

I thought in a loving family both parents focus on their kids they consider a blessing. And while their marriage takes a back seat in the first years, they appreciate these years knowing how quickly kids grow and increasingly become independent which makes them have more time for each other very soon again to also take pride in how their kids thrive on the love and energy they both have invested in them.

I guess, you need to have them kids and a loving co-parent to know this.

pocohantas:


Tell him to divorce her. He is better alone. Marriage doesn’t benefit men.

Oh poor men!!!

Marriage is so non-beneficial to them that they can’t even be widowers for a year. They would quickly remarry.

Marriage doesn’t benefit them, that is why they marry 2,3,4,5 wives.

Chai! This nonsense marriage sha.

cococandy:


And y’all better respect it. Because talking as if it’s JUST pregnancy tries to minimize the fact that it’s life she’s giving to the world.

If all she did was get pregnant and have kids, she’s already done more than you have or can do. regardless of how much money you make. If you doubt it, use your money to mold a human being inside of you.

End of!

Bolded will be the rise of breast envy and transwomen in Nigeria on naira land. Lol.

You began it

Hathor5:


I thought in a loving family both parents focus on their kids they consider a blessing. And while their marriage takes a back seat in the first years, they appreciate these years knowing how quickly kids grow and increasingly become independent which makes them have more time for each other very soon again to also take pride in how their kids thrive on the love and energy they both have invested in them.

I guess, you need to have them kids and a loving co-parent to know this.

You can care for the kids adequately without depriving your spouse if attention and affection and prioritizing the kids over them. Of course, women proritise the kids to the detriment of the husband, and while some husbands accept to play second fiddle others seek the need for affection and attention elsewhere

Hathor5:


Thank you!

A woman is lucky to have a man who understands what she goes through to raise a family. Your appreciation goes a long way.

Isn't a man also lucky to have a woman understand what he goes through in being the leader of the home? Hmm

Belafonte:


You can care for the kids adequately without depriving your spouse if attention and affection and prioritizing the kids over them. Of course, women proritise the kids to the detriment of the husband, and while some husbands accept to play second fiddle others seek the need for affection and attention elsewhere

First of all, there are different stages in childhood. A newborn needs a whole lot of attention and it is impossible not to deprive a spouse of some of the attention when a little one is sucking at your boobies every two hours, cries from stomach ache and the mother still recovers from child birth with all the bleeding involved.

A normal father and caring husband will park his needs for a few months until the baby needs less care and learns to eat and sleep more and will support his wife and kid to make it easier. This is what a leader does instead of behaving like another child in the family.

If a child is not worth the sacrifice for you, don't have them. Last I checked, Nigeria's population was high in number.

Belafonte:


Isn't a man also lucky to have a woman understand what he goes through in being the leader of the home? Hmm

Such women don't exist according to this thread. It's not by force to be a husband.

Hathor5:


Such women don't exist according to this thread. It's not by force to be a husband.

GloriousGbola:


I see you Harley

Uncle Gbolahan, who be Harley?

Mindlog:

Uncle Gbolahan, who be Harley?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harley_Quinn

Quinn's origin story features her as a former psychiatrist at Gotham City's Arkham Asylum named Dr. Harleen Quinzel

i'm just shitposting - don't mind me

cococandy:
so I shouldn’t advice men to stay away from marriage?

Lol. It’s your prerogative to give whatever advice you deem fit. I was responding to your earlier comment where you said men didn’t have to tell you they are no longer interested in marriage.

Your advice is valid, you are doing God’s work. Male virgins awaits you in paradise ma’am.

This is why for me, I’ll bring money if a man wants but he must be a hands-on dad too.

Acidosis:



Lol. Very strange.

I believe most of them know the truth but they hate to admit this truth, openly.


I don't think any sane person would conclude that women benefit more in the typical Nigerian marriage setting. Same marriages we see everyday? The way I dey pity some married women ehn, but it's quite understandable why many women would want a marriage anyway.

Women sacrifice time, put their health and lives on the line, go for the lowest and most pitiable jobs just to create time for, more often than not, an unappreciative guy. Many will have to cook for the rest of their lives and no they won't get paid for it. There's so much more. A woman with 3 kids, for example, has practically sacrificed at least 8 years of her life on pregnancy, breastfeeding, nurturing (while also making money o), and throughout these years, the man does nothing but contribute money.

A man will drop 50k for the month and thinks he has done the woman a favour... Ahahaha! The easiest thing to contribute to a marriage is money.

JovialJune:



But this is a forum free for all,anyone can open a thread, comment on it as they see fit, and advice as the case may be, so I don't see any harm in saying men should marry themselves, because there are plenty options in the world, animals, trees and furnitures are also available for marriage, so instead of the constant cries of women this and that, marrying yourselves and non living things isn't far-fetched.

The topic was opened to decry marriage specifically. Not marriage to a woman. He’s only talking about a woman because he’s a heterosexual male. When did the solution to not getting married become getting married to a man or inanimate objects?

The intent of such comments is to bully. If a woman opened a thread to talk about how she hate men, would you dish out the same advice?

You are right, people can comment as they deem fit, I didn’t quote anyone to tell them they couldn’t. My comment was to tell men not to be bullied to silence by people who think anyone against marriage must be gay.

GloriousGbola:


https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harley_Quinn

Quinn's origin story features her as a former psychiatrist at Gotham City's Arkham Asylum named Dr. Harleen Quinzel

i'm just shitposting - don't mind me

She fell in love with her patient? That one na professional misconduct o!

eazzzy1:


The topic was opened to decry marriage specifically. Not marriage to a woman. He’s only talking about a woman because he’s a heterosexual male. When did the solution to not getting married become getting married to a man or inanimate objects?

The intent of such comments is to bully. If a woman opened a thread to talk about how she hate men, would you dish out the same advice?

You are right, people can comment as they deem fit, I didn’t quote anyone to tell them they couldn’t. My comment was to tell men not to be bullied to silence by people who think anyone against marriage must be gay.

Most of the men who down talk women and spread lies about marriage have been shown to be gay. Why? Why are gay men jealous of women? What do they think the best way to win a straight man is to put down a woman? If a man does not like you! He does not! No amount of putting a woman down will make that straight man attracted to you sexually.

I understand most gay men are promiscuous, so much so that the community is filled with heartache and loneliness. Then why cross over to women’s territory and make yourself a self acclaimed specialist on women?

Just like your fraudulent leader Kevin Samuels who eventually confessed that men don’t need women. Because in ancient times men used to sleep with little boys! This is the model for men who speak like the OP. Tell your fellow gays to address the issues in their community and leave women out of it.

Calling out gays who make it a point to want to insult and degrade women and marriage is not bullying, it’s just facts. Your jealousy, envy and self hatred always rises to the surface. We will keep calling it out till you look at the man in the mirror.

GloriousGbola:


In David Attenborough voice:

This is the redpiller

In his childhood the redpiller's father abandoned the family

The family was abandoned for the fleeting pleasures of the side chick

The redpillers mother had to raise the redpiller alone

This has led to internal conflict in the redpillers regard of the female. The redpiller constantly oscillates between women are cruel evil father snatchers and women are saints who sacrifice all for the famiy

This is the burden the redpiller must carry

We must also ask the question - can the redpiller break the chain and end the cycle?

Or will he also be weak like his father before him and abandon his future family for a future side chick?

Only time can tell.

Well captured.

Belafonte:


BTW, don't we have like 12 mother's day cessation annually?

It is what it is

Then men do not have the moral right to talk about loyalty.

Belafonte:


Like I said, mother and wife relationships are vastly different. But I'm sure you know this, you're married after all

1. BTW, statistically, the moment a woman has children, her husband is already abandoned while she focuses on her kids.

2. The numerous married men in Nigeria will tell you this.

3. The reason most of these women stay oin their marriages is for economic sustenace.

1 & 2. If the husband is a serious fellow and ready to be a husband and leader of his home, then he would speak up about the anomaly. After speaking up, he will address the issue fairly, sensibly & efficiently (RCCG peeps go code the last sentence ). Does the wife need help? Has she forgotten she is a wife before mother? Is it lack of prioritization? Is the father the absent one in the equation? Etc etc.

3. Not true. Many wives are the breadwinners and still taking shit in their marriages largely because they believe 'that's how it is'.

Belafonte:


For the sake of the respect I've held for you (which doesn't really carry much weight asides the sentimental value I derive from it), I'm going to hold back on my response.

1. In one breath, you say redpillers value mother over wife, and in the same you say the black man is the epitome (perhaps catalyst) of dysfunctional marriages. You condemn redpillers generalisations while ironically dropping your own generalisations unabashedly :

Still love you though (super platonically of course)

1. I read the sentence again and I apologize as it was not my intention to claim that all black men frustrate their wives. A better way to convey my message is this: An average black/Nigerian/African man does not have the 'moral standing' to say 'what does women bring in marriage'? He doesn't. I have been opportuned to observe firsthand the marital beliefs/roles of different cultures in Nigeria and women do more in ALL of them.

Especially in cultures like Yoruba where stay at home moms are devalued.

It is only online you hear Nigerian men ask what women bring to the mystical table; only online.

Men offline admit that women do more however fall into different buckets of appreciating, not appreciating, feeling entitled etc.

When you know a husband who earns, does childcare, domestics, social engagement, in-law engagement, religious engagement, school run, medical care etc ALONE while married to fit wife, we will discuss.

Several women do the above while still earning & a man online opens his mouth to ask 'what is a woman doing'?

Acidosis:



Lol. Very strange.

I believe most of them know the truth but they hate to admit this truth, openly.


I don't think any sane person would conclude that women benefit more in the typical Nigerian marriage setting. Same marriages we see everyday? The way I dey pity some married women ehn, but it's quite understandable why many women would want a marriage anyway.

Women sacrifice time, put their health and lives on the line, go for the lowest and most pitiable jobs just to create time for, more often than not, an unappreciative guy. Many will have to cook for the rest of their lives and no they won't get paid for it. There's so much more. A woman with 3 kids, for example, has practically sacrificed at least 8 years of her life on pregnancy, breastfeeding, nurturing (while also making money o), and throughout these years, the man does nothing but contribute money.

A man will drop 50k for the month and thinks he has done the woman a favour... Ahahaha! The easiest thing to contribute to a marriage is money.

Money is the easiest thing to contribute in a marriage.

Especially when the man earns enough to live as worst an average life.

I know someone who the husband legit only drops money.

She does EVERYTHING herself.

Thunder should fire the mouth of an average Nigerian husband the moment he asks 'what is she doing'?

No fear of God!

bukatyne:


1. I read the sentence again and I apologize as it was not my intention to claim that all black men frustrate their wives. A better way to convey my message is this: An average black/Nigerian/African man does not have the 'moral standing' to say 'what does women bring in marriage'? He doesn't. I have been opportuned to observe firsthand the marital beliefs/roles of different cultures in Nigeria and women do more in ALL of them.

Especially in cultures like Yoruba where stay at home moms are devalued.

It is only online you hear Nigerian men ask what women bring to the mystical table; only online.

Men offline admit that women do more however fall into different buckets of appreciating, not appreciating, feeling entitled etc.

When you know a husband who earns, does childcare, domestics, social engagement, in-law engagement, religious engagement, school run, medical care etc ALONE while married to fit wife, we will discuss.

Several women do the above while still earning & a man online opens his mouth to ask 'what is a woman doing'?

That is just undiluted wickedness!

Mariangeles:


That is just undiluted wickedness!

The thunder that would fire them is doing press up.

They don't know what wives are doing yet revere their moms because she 'toiled and sacrificed' in the marriage.

bukatyne:


Money is the easiest thing to contribute in a marriage.

Especially when the man earns enough to live as worst an average life.

I know someone who the husband legit only drops money.

She does EVERYTHING herself.

Thunder should fire the mouth of an average Nigerian husband the moment he asks 'what is she doing'?

No fear of God!

Oh! My gawd!

E ti binu!

bukatyne:


The thunder that would fire them is doing press up.

They don't know what wives are doing yet revere their moms because she 'toiled and sacrificed' in the marriage.

Don't let those ones get you worked up.

Trust me, they're not worth losing who you are.
You don't know where their issues are coming from.