LilMissFavvy:
I used to think issues like this should be a daughter and mom kind of thing, maybe I'm wrong.

jaszplus12:
I'd always loved her even before she was born. And when she came she was my third offspring.
Cute at birth and she grew up with great love and compassion at everything she did.
As a girl child I'd always expected her "firsts" especially growing to from child to preteen and adolescence...
About three weeks ago she came to me and told me she's having cramps at her lower abdomen...I was slightly dazed cos at 12 I least expected she'll begin to have these experiences. But I guess we don't know what to expect!
I was both excited and unsure...I prayed she was prepared for the new phase of life...
Today, just got back from work and I was informed she's menstruating!!
Again mixed feelings!
Well...I just said to her...now you're truly growing up!

I'll love to hear from everyone about how they felt when their daughter told them about the first menses! Please let's share!

oke2018:
I know why the mixed feelings but nothing to worry much , you can start lecturing her on sex education & personal hygiene .

jaszplus12:

Very much so! Thank you for the encouragement...
Already informed her on hygiene... gradually move on from there...

oke2018:
You're welcome good to see that we still have some responsible fathers in this present generation , God will strengthen you & give you the wisdom needed in grooming your daughter becoming the woman you want her to be.

jaszplus12:

A thunderous AMEN to your prayers! And wish for you even greater blessings!

oke2018:
You're welcome good to see that we still have some responsible fathers in this present generation , God will strengthen you & give you the wisdom needed in grooming your daughter becoming the woman you want her to be.

VEXT:


There are more responsible father's than
responsible mother's out there...

dahmie2013:
Congratulations, mine was at the age of 9.

VEXT:


There are more responsible father's than responsible mother's out there...

emmanuelbrown26:
Op where is d mother of your girl!?
She should be in a better position to lecture your daughter on d new phase of life in womanhood in her (though I don't pray to hv a female child).
@ Ishilove, your attention is needed

lavylilly:
smh

Nekky5:
Hahaha!!! every girl child deserves some love from her parents while growing up. It is in the course of teaching them to know their bodies, sex education and all that it entails, would makes us not lose them to the wrong people. They become our friends when you become theirs First.

HeyHey:
My experience was not pleasant.

When I started, it was on a Saturday. I was 11, I went to wee when I saw the stain.

I told my mum, she said I should get pieces cloth and use (in 2007-/08, when pad was every where). She said she didn’t have money for pad (which was a lie bc she owned 2 cars), later she gave me tissue paper to use. The tissue paper kept moving to the side and scattering on the floor while I was walking. Once she saw the tissue paper and started shouting for the whole house to hear that I was on period and scattering tissue round the house. After then, my male cousin will make remarks like “rotten egg is smelling “ etc. if I make any mistake that time, what I will hear is “you no be small pikin, no be breast Dey your chest so”, it was extremely embarrassing

I went to pay phone to call my sister, she came home from university. Gave me always and explained menstruation, ovulation, a cycle, hygiene and abstinence to me. She go me roll on, body sprays too. And encourage me to be very neat while it’s flows.

Sir, it’s good you are interested. Kindly let your daughter know (together with your madam), what is involved. How to take care of herself, wash up, hygiene generally. What the implications of menstruation are, the pain and how to deal with it ( a lot of people attribute bad behavior to menses, saying it’s mood swing etc. I believe people should be kind through their period instead of creating excuses) Though there is actually hormonal changes, lots of purging, pain, and sometimes stains. How to embrace her new changes and adapt to them

Pascopele:
ALL my daughter are given sex education from age 8
Sex education, I make sure they are still intact till eldest left for college. I monitor their periods like a hawk and any small thing na hospital straight. I personally teach them their cycles days, how to place the pad on their pants & make them understand if they wish to have sex it's their choice but condom is a MUST.

However, I kept some sex book in my room and would ask them to bring another book close to it for me. I know this would make them read the book since my adult kids are d curios type.

As for the boys, I know they already know something I give them a twenty leaf excercise book and tell them to write all they know about Hiv/Aids.

Once they are about to enter college we'd sit and talk and the subject might go into s.ex at some point and I'd tell my daughters not to sleep with any man and all that but if they wish to condom is a MUST.

As some grew older, I usually would ask if they'd a boyfriend. Once in a while I'd chip in the 'if you want to have sexx, make sure you use a condom. Don't let the man deceive you into not using a condom' advise.

I remember when went to visit my daughter one certain time in college. I told her I saw the por'n she'd been watching in my dvd and some more in my book rack. She was embarassed but I just laughed about it. All in all, I was okay.


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Lamanii22:
Wooow… I didn’t start mine til I was 16…. I like fathers that are very much present in the lives of their children… I have a daughter now and it gives me joy whenever she’s with her dad…..

Oyindamolah:
Mine: I started mine in school Jss 3 when I was , I already knew what it was so I went to the school canteen, bought a pad and cleaned myself up, when I told my mom, she said I should not allow men to touch me that I shouldn't even shake hands with them unless I will get pregnant and if I get pregnant that she will just carry her grand child and deny me, I used up to 5 pads that day not because it was heavy flow ooo, I just wanted to do big girl

lavylilly:
I saw mine SS1, before then we have been reading "hints magazine" so coupled with the little our home mistress told us,I was comfortable with myself the day I saw mine. I menstruated for over a year before my mum got to know. She couldn't even educate me,I guarded myself all through. I promised my girl kids education about this and sex education at their 10th year. I can't hide it from them.

Beremx:
I don’t have a daughter yet anyway but from my own experience I started menstruating at 11years, I didn’t have a cramp though.
I was having gists with my male cousin and siblings when all of a sudden I stood up and my male cousin told me there’s blood stains on my cloth. I checked my body and there was no injury. My female cousin who was far older than me quickly entered the house and told me to bathe and she got me a sanitary pad called Simple ( no longer in the market though) . I learned how to put it on mother care pants ( those who grew up in the 80s and 90s will know the pants).
Mum got to know my menstruation had started when she came back from work and the rest is history.
It’s a beautiful experience in every girl’s life

DrFunmisticGlow:
menstruation is not beautiful, it's icky and uncomfortable.

jaszplus12:

I'm learning from you sir! Great work!!

Beremx:
that’s your own wahala. Mine was a beautiful experience