bukatyne:


The thunder that would fire them is doing press up.

They don't know what wives are doing yet revere their moms because she 'toiled and sacrificed' in the marriage.

My sister is angry

baby124:

Most of the men who down talk women and spread lies about marriage have been shown to be gay. Why? Why are gay men jealous of women? What do they think the best way to win a straight man is to put down a woman? If a man does not like you! He does not! No amount of putting a woman down will make that straight man attracted to you sexually.

I understand most gay men are promiscuous, so much so that the community is filled with heartache and loneliness. Then why cross over to women’s territory and make yourself a self acclaimed specialist on women?

Just like your fraudulent leader Kevin Samuels who eventually confessed that men don’t need women. Because in ancient times men used to sleep with little boys! This is the model for men who speak like the OP. Tell your fellow gays to address the issues in their community and leave women out of it.

Calling out gays who make it a point to want to insult and degrade women and marriage is not bullying, it’s just facts. Your jealousy, envy and self hatred always rises to the surface. We will keep calling it out till you look at the man in the mirror.

Twice I have tried to engage you in civil conversations, twice I have regretted it. Is this how you handle conflicts in real life?

In every country where data are properly documented, research as shown more people are opting for non traditional families. live - in couples, having kids without getting married and divorce are on the rise. Are all these people opting out of traditional marriages gay?

I heard of Kevin Samuel for the first time on nairaland after his death. You know more about him and his teachings than myself his supposed follower?

You can’t bully and insult anyone into wanting marriage, no matter how hard you try.

Wow, quite insightful and eye opening. Funny enough I have asked almost all those questions even as a child. But as a practical Christian I understand that if you most not marry you shouldn't go about having sex. So, I put and make this rules about any girl;

1. You most be a virgin.
2. You most be submissive and very
respectful.
3. You most laugh at all my jokes.

With these I will consider you. So for years I haven't even been in a relationship and I am not about to till I find that kind of person.

I am the price so I make the rules baby!

eazzzy1:


Twice I have tried to engage you in civil conversations, twice I have regretted it. Is this how you handle conflicts in real life?

In every country where data are properly documented, research as shown more people are opting for non traditional families. live - in couples, having kids without getting married and divorce are on the rise. Are all these people opting out of traditional marriages gay?

I heard of Kevin Samuel for the first time on nairaland after his death. You know more about him and his teachings than myself his supposed follower?

You can’t bully and insult anyone into wanting marriage, no matter how hard you try.

Most of those who down talk marriage are very very gay and for some reason frustrated for it. Instead of accepting themselves, they come online to try to destroy the institution with ideas of masculinity that they probably have no idea of.

Now, advise your gay brothers to focus on their community and it’s problems and leave married women, straight women and straight men alone to get married. The fact of the matter is, YOU cannot give advise on something that you have no desire or experience in.

Now, overwhelmingly we see men trying to be women and insulting women or trying so hard to take away their rights while pretending to be women. It goes on and on.

By the way, I don’t recall ever debating you because if you had anything sensible to say, I will remember your username.

Now, the truth is, if you do not want to marry and you think marriage is so bad and you made the right decision, you will not be online looking for validation or for a following of men to be unmarried with. What are you scared of if you are so comfortable with Bachelorhood like you will want to have us believe? Or are you just not content with your lifestyle, frustrated and angry cause you want these straight men WHO DONT WANT YOU?

Why do you detest a TRADITIONAL marriage? Did your parents have one? Did you ever see an example of a good one in your entire life that you speak so boldly? Will your sexuality let you survive in one that you are so jealous of?

LocalStandard1:
Wow, quite insightful and eye opening. Funny enough I have asked almost all those questions even as a child. But as a practical Christian I understand that if you most not marry you shouldn't go about having sex. So, I put and make this rules about any girl;

1. You most be a virgin.
2. You most be submissive and very
respectful.
3. You most laugh at all my jokes.

With these I will consider you. So for years I haven't even been in a relationship and I am not about to till I find that kind of person.

I am the price so I make the rules baby!

Sorry o!
Mr Price.

baby124:

Most of those who down talk marriage are very very gay and for some reason frustrated for it. Instead of accepting themselves, they come online to try to destroy the institution with ideas of masculinity that they probably have no idea of.

Now, advise your gay brothers to focus on their community and it’s problems and leave married women, straight women and straight men alone to get married. The fact of the matter is, YOU cannot give advise on something that you have no desire or experience in.

Now, overwhelmingly we see men trying to be women and insulting women or trying so hard to take away their rights while pretending to be women. It goes on and on.

By the way, I don’t recall ever debating you because if you had anything sensible to say, I will remember your username.

Now, the truth is, if you do not want to marry and you think marriage is so bad and you made the right decision, you will not be online looking for validation or for a following of men to be unmarried with. What are you scared of if you are so comfortable with Bachelorhood like you will want to have us believe? Or are you just not content with your lifestyle, frustrated and angry cause you want these straight men WHO DONT WANT YOU?

Why do you detest a TRADITIONAL marriage? Did your parents have one? Did you ever see an example of a good one in your entire life that you speak so boldly? Will your sexuality let you survive in one that you are so jealous of?

Yada yada yada, parents, gay bla bla bla. With an attitude like yours even the most patient man in the world would prefer to die single.

Calling someone gay would not be an insult to gay people, and you won’t have to continue shouting it if you thought I was one, that’s an antic of a seven year old dyslexic child, no wonder your moniker is baby and your 123 is wrong. Keep arguing like a market woman. Adios

eazzzy1:



Yada yada yada, parents, gay bla bla bla. With an attitude like yours even the most patient man in the world would prefer to die single.

Calling someone gay would not be an insult to gay people, and you won’t have to continue shouting it if you thought I was one, that’s an antic of a seven year old dyslexic child, no wonder your moniker is baby and your 123 is wrong. Keep arguing like a market woman. Adios

Thank you for proving my point. Please work on your gay community and leave traditional marriages alone for those who can actually get into it.

See you making bold statement on marriages but don’t even have one example in your life. Public market Nuisance.

baby124:

Thank you for proving my point. Please work on your gay community and leave traditional marriages alone for those who can actually get into it.

See you making bold statement on marriages but don’t even have one example in your life. Public market Nuisance.

You are making bold statements about gays, are you gay. You just proved my point about your dyslexia. You reason like a 7 year old. Perhaps if you stayed single and got more orgasms this bitterness wouldn’t be in your life. Keep throwing tantrums and tampons.

eazzzy1:


You are making bold statements about gays, are you gay. You just proved my point about your dyslexia. You reason like a 7 year old. Perhaps if you stayed single and got more orgasms this bitterness wouldn’t be in your life. Keep throwing tantrums and tampons.

Stick with knowledge of marriages in your gay community. You are frustrated because gay men hardly marry and lash everything moving. I have gay friends who let me know their frustration and how promiscuous their community is. This is where your frustration stems from. 9/10 of people who boldly talk down on marriage and women are gay. I am not generalizing here, it’s been proven over and over. Can you please tell me why from your experience?

You obviously missed road today with a few nuts lose in your brain. Nuisance.

baby124:

Stick with knowledge of marriages in your gay community. You are frustrated because gay men hardly marry and lash everything moving. I have gay friends who let me know their frustration and how promiscuous their community is. This is where your frustration stems from. 9/10 of people who boldly talk down on marriage and women are gay. I am not generalizing here, it’s been proven over and over. Can you please tell me why from your experience?

You obviously missed road today with a few nuts lose in your brain. Nuisance.

You have gay friends but gay people hate women and are trying to take their men. You are a bundle of contradictions and confusion. The Uber driver you are cheating on your husband with is in a better position to tell you why men are running from marriage. Go send nudes to kamoru mechanic from Facebook and stop quoting me.

eazzzy1:


You have gay friends but gay people hate women and are trying to take their men. You are a bundle of contradictions and confusion. The Uber driver you are cheating on your husband with is in a better position to tell you why men are running from marriage. Go send nudes to kamoru mechanic from Facebook and stop quoting me.

When you came here writing rubbish. I knew you were completely bonkers and crazy. Because only a crazy nuisance will come here typing the nonsense you were typing. I am sure you know many Kamoru’s who have gone in and out of your mothers room. Which is why you don’t see marriage as anything. Maybe you also give those Kamoru’s a little bit of you as saara!

I know your community very well and the reason for your frustration. Facts, leave women and marriage alone for people that are sane and deserve it. Not mad nuisances like you who are delusional and confused. Frustration go soon kill you. No worry. . Better go and drug a gay man to marry you! Loser

bukatyne:


Money is the easiest thing to contribute in a marriage.

Especially when the man earns enough to live as worst an average life.

I know someone who the husband legit only drops money.

She does EVERYTHING herself.

Thunder should fire the mouth of an average Nigerian husband the moment he asks 'what is she doing'?

No fear of God!

Does he do any other thing?

What about providing in-house maids, washing machines, other tools to aid the whole process?

Because all these things can basically be implemented with enough money.

I remember my Sis hired 2 in-house maids, no stress. They cook, clean & do every other thing.

baby124:

When you came here writing rubbish. I knew you were completely bonkers and crazy. Because only a crazy nuisance will come here typing the nonsense you were typing. I am sure you know many Kamoru’s who have gone in and out of your mothers room. Which is why you don’t see marriage as anything. Maybe you also give those Kamoru’s a little bit of you as saara!

I know your community very well and the reason for your frustration. Facts, leave women and marriage alone for people that are sane and deserve it. Not mad nuisances like you who are delusional and confused. Frustration go soon kill you. No worry. . Better go and drug a gay man to marry you! Loser

Seeing the village hunters penis in your mom’s mouth did a number on you eh? You hate your dad because your mum had to do what she had to do to put food on the table.

You are no long 10 baby, get over yourself. You didn’t have to practice your mother’s trade, I guess somethings are just passed down from generation to generation. Why are you obsessed about men not wanting to marry? Kamoru, uche Uber and your houseboy turned husband aren’t enough for you? How many husbands would you want to marry in your life time baby?

Mariangeles:


Sorry o!
Mr Price.

Yep, you got that right babe.

eazzzy1:


Seeing the village hunters penis in your mom’s mouth did a number on you eh? You hate your dad because your mum had to do what she had to do to put food on the table.

You are no long 10 baby, get over yourself. You didn’t have to practice your mother’s trade, I guess somethings are just passed down from generation to generation. Why are you obsessed about men not wanting to marry? Kamoru, uche Uber and your houseboy turned husband aren’t enough for you? How many husbands would you want to marry in your life time baby?

You really love Penis don’t you? I mean I will personally never insult anyone and mention their mouth on a vagina and imagine such dirty and nasty things. All these names you are calling, you seem to have a lot of experience with them. .

Don’t worry about my husbands. I like my men straight. Worry about your boyfriends and why they are yet to take you seriously. I am happy with my life, you are obviously sexually frustrated and deviant. You need help .

I get time today, keep it coming. I have been so busy, hardly have time for NL nuisances these days. .

eazzzy1:


With an attitude like yours even the most patient man in the world would prefer to die single.

, no wonder your moniker is baby and your 123 is wrong. Keep arguing like a market woman. Adios

Wicked. Hehehe

baby124:

You really love Penis don’t you? I mean I will personally never insult anyone and mention their mouth on a vagina and imagine such dirty and nasty things. All these names you are calling, you seem to have a lot of experience with them. .

Don’t worry about my husbands. I like my men straight. Worry about your boyfriends and why they are yet to take you seriously. I am happy with my life, you are obviously sexually frustrated and deviant. You need help .

I get time today, keep it coming. I have been so busy, hardly have time for NL nuisances these days. .

Lmao, you got time today, bitch you got time everyday. Asides jerking off random men you meet on Facebook, what else do you do with your time?

You are always here looking for the next man to insult. Why are you obsessed about single people not wanting to marry? Are you sourcing for another husband because your husband is dying soon from years of enduring your foul mouth? Or one of your gay friends is making move on him and you fear they would get him?

You scared kamoru mechanic would see this and won’t want to take you as 6th wife after your husbands demise?

eazzzy1:


Lmao, you got time today, bitch you got time everyday. Asides jerking off random men you meet on Facebook, what else do you do with your time?

You are always here looking for the next man to insult. Why are you obsessed about single people not wanting to marry? Are you sourcing for another husband because your husband is dying soon from years of enduring your foul mouth? Or one of your gay friends is making move on him and you fear they would get him?

You scared kamoru mechanic would see this and won’t want to take you as 6th wife after your husbands demise?

You are very sick sha. LMAO. Thank you for showing everybody you are a MAD pervert . Get yourself a boyfriend that will propose to you first, then we can talk. You no get anybody for this life that will not die a miserable death especially your mother and including you! Which is coming. Just get a man to propose to you first. I see Kamoru is your spec. Make you try toast am and pretend to be his 6th wife, since you want a MAN so bad

That action you described with Penis though!!! It comes with serious experience! I hail! You de suck P sha! Even I learnt something! I hear gay men have strong jaws, true?

baby124:

You are very sick sha. LMAO. Thank you for showing everybody you are a MAD pervert . Get yourself a boyfriend that will propose to you first, then we can talk. You no get anybody for this life that will not die a miserable death especially your mother and including you! Which is coming. Just get a man to propose to you first. I see Kamoru is your spec. Make you try toast am and pretend to be his 6th wife, since you want a MAN so bad

That action you described with Penis though!!! It comes with serious experience! I hail! You de suck P sha! Even I learnt something! I hear gay men have strong jaws, true?

What have you not heard about gay men? Are you investigating your husband? Your clitoris is bigger than your husband penis, is that the source of your bitterness?

When you have sex it feels like scissoring? Is that why you have chosen to masturbate with a tuber of yam with kerosene as lubricant every night?

eazzzy1:


What have you not heard about gay men? Are you investigating your husband? Your clitoris is bigger than your husband penis, is that the source of your bitterness?

When you have sex it feels like scissoring? Is that why you have chosen to masturbate with a tuber of yam with kerosene as lubricant every night?

Is that what you do with yams? This guy your sexual appetite and practices is alarming! My gay friends are shaking as I send them your messages. You are a sexual pervert and predator for sure . No wonder you no see even gay man to marry you

baby124:

Is that what you do with yams? This guy your sexual appetite and practices is alarming! My gay friends are shaking as I send them your messages. You are a sexual pervert and predator for sure . No wonder you no see even gay man to marry you

Your gay friends or your husband boyfriends? Married woman where is your husband? He would rather spend the night in the uncompleted building of the street lunatic than be by your side.

I am sure he’s very excited I had your attention for the last couple of hours. Tell him I said he’s welcome, he shouldn’t mention.

Shey you see front page topic about women wey Dey pray for husband? You still no believe say many men don Comot hand for marriage eh. If your husband could turn back the hand of the clock you sef for dey prayer meeting now. Go sleep bush baby. I don tire for you.

eazzzy1:


Your gay friends or your husband boyfriends? Married woman where is your husband? He would rather spend the night in the uncompleted building of the street lunatic than be by your side.

I am sure he’s very excited I had your attention for the last couple of hours. Tell him I said he’s welcome, he shouldn’t mention.

Shey you see front page topic about women wey Dey pray for husband? You still no believe say many men don Comot hand for marriage eh. If your husband could turn back the hand of the clock you sef for dey prayer meeting now. Go sleep bush baby. I don tire for you.

What a dry joke. LMAO. You are the one in family section crying as no MAN has deemed you fit to play with his P. So you came to bash women and marriage with your wild delusions and imaginations. You are obsessed with my husband. He’s a straight man, not interested in you dear. He likes to sleep by my side and has refused your uncompleted building offer, you razz street urchin with low taste in men . Upgrade your tastes if uncompleted building is where they pump you! Maybe yoU can find a boyfriend that will stay. Eyah . I know it’s hard for an undercover gay.

baby124:

What a dry joke. LMAO. You are the one in family section crying as no MAN has deemed you fit to play with his P. So you came to bash women and marriage with your wild delusions and imaginations. You are obsessed with my husband. He’s a straight man, not interested in you dear. He likes to sleep by my side and has refused your uncompleted building offer, you razz street urchin with low taste in men . Upgrade your tastes if uncompleted building is where they pump you! Maybe yoU can find a boyfriend that will stay. Eyah . I know it’s hard for an undercover gay.

Your gay friends are only your friends because they want your husband. Nobody in their right mind would be friends with the village lunatic. Keep getting passed around like the offering basket by your husband’s friends. One day the mangina you have at home will gather the courage to leave before the stench of the tampon socket you call a vagina kills him.

eazzzy1:


Your gay friends are only your friends because they want your husband. Nobody in their right mind would be friends with the village lunatic. Keep getting passed around like the offering basket by your husband’s friends. One day the mangina you have at home will gather the courage to leave before the stench of the tampon socket you call a vagina kills him.

You would know what my gay friends will like wouldn’t you? Look at you, giving up all this experience. No wonder you know too well about uncompleted buildings. Yea, only a gay man will call a vagina a TAMPON SOCKET . Thank you for exposing yourself.

My husband, a MAN, which you know nothing about what it takes, finds your comment very unusual for a so called real man. . You are the only one uncomfortable around gay men because, you don’t trust yourself. Razz public depository like you. Dem de yansh you for floor of uncompleted building.

When you get yourself a gay man that will take you out of that uncompleted building, mention me. I don’t go back and forth with cheap prostitutes.

Acidosis:
Am I the only man with a different and totally opposing view? Women are the main burden bearers in marriages. When I see some married women, I feel nothing but pity for them. More often than not, I think "these" women will do a lot more for themselves if they weren't married or if they could learn to know their worth.

In some marital union, the wife bears the burden more than the husband.

While in some, the husband does more.

As for OP's case presented, I come to realize some men tends to be with the wrong women...From a problem mother, to a problem sisters, to problem girl friends and finally a problem wife...

Next is to sit down, think negatively and put up some thoughts as hypothesis and project on feeble minds.

It is really a blessing being in a home with functional parents, then stepping up to have a functional girl friend/boy friend and lastly a next level with a functional wife/husband....

Some people never get to experience that...

One must be mindful of what they read, listen to or watch...it will surely have a big influence in the long run.

bukatyne:




If you read the OP, you would think all women do in marriages is have sex and get pregnant.

Maybe that's what their mothers did.

Because I don't know how someone grew in/saw a functional and loving home and still say women/men do nothing/contribute in marriages.

For a gender whose motto is brewed from the mentality "Her money is her money" which will alway be a factorial i don't think its out of place if men feel 90% of ladies bring or contribute nothing in marriage, as matter of experience i have lost count of times i hear men say they owe there wives money, imagine a statement like naa from mummy favour i borrowed money to pay favour school fees .... so when a wife borrow her husband money to pay their child school fee/rent, can you tag that as "contribute"
when threads like "what do women bring to the table come up" ... forget what men say what do women even say there lies the truth

Acidosis:



Lol. Very strange.

I believe most of them know the truth but they hate to admit this truth, openly.


I don't think any sane person would conclude that women benefit more in the typical Nigerian marriage setting. Same marriages we see everyday? The way I dey pity some married women ehn, but it's quite understandable why many women would want a marriage anyway.

Women sacrifice time, put their health and lives on the line, go for the lowest and most pitiable jobs just to create time for, more often than not, an unappreciative guy. Many will have to cook for the rest of their lives and no they won't get paid for it. There's so much more. A woman with 3 kids, for example, has practically sacrificed at least 8 years of her life on pregnancy, breastfeeding, nurturing (while also making money o), and throughout these years, the man does nothing but contribute money.

A man will drop 50k for the month and thinks he has done the woman a favour... Ahahaha! The easiest thing to contribute to a marriage is money.

Easy to MAKE Easy to CONTRIBUTE, oshey ! leaves me wondering why women still hold on to "her money is OFF limit" and why single moms are mostly bitter & complaining ... maybe paying bills is not "Easy" in reality

bukatyne:


1. I read the sentence again and I apologize as it was not my intention to claim that all black men frustrate their wives. A better way to convey my message is this: An average black/Nigerian/African man does not have the 'moral standing' to say 'what does women bring in marriage'? He doesn't. I have been opportuned to observe firsthand the marital beliefs/roles of different cultures in Nigeria and women do more in ALL of them.

Especially in cultures like Yoruba where stay at home moms are devalued.

It is only online you hear Nigerian men ask what women bring to the mystical table; only online.

Men offline admit that women do more however fall into different buckets of appreciating, not appreciating, feeling entitled etc.

When you know a husband who earns, does childcare, domestics, social engagement, in-law engagement, religious engagement, school run, medical care etc ALONE while married to fit wife, we will discuss.

Several women do the above while still earning & a man online opens his mouth to ask 'what is a woman doing'?

If the man is the major breadwunner in the home in Nigeria(the poverty capital of the world), he's doing more than the wife is

bukatyne:


1 & 2. If the husband is a serious fellow and ready to be a husband and leader of his home, then he would speak up about the anomaly. After speaking up, he will address the issue fairly, sensibly & efficiently (RCCG peeps go code the last sentence ). Does the wife need help? Has she forgotten she is a wife before mother? Is it lack of prioritization? Is the father the absent one in the equation? Etc etc.

3. Not true. Many wives are the breadwinners and still taking shit in their marriages largely because they believe 'that's how it is'.

1 & 2: are you saying all it takes to solve marital problems is communication? Are you saying the myriad broken marriages in Nigeria didn't employ communication before opting for divorce?
The truth is any spouse can talk till they're blue in the face, if their partner doesn't shape up they either condone said partner's excesses or end things; and many men are tired of talking and have, in fact, come to belive that it is only natural that a woman prioritises her children over husband, hence baba seeking affection elsewhere.
And what do you mean by absenteeism? The woman had her roles as does her husband, the husband's roles do not traditionally include childcare. If wife considers that good grounds for neglecting her husband, she should take whatever she sees


3. What is the percentage of breadwinning wives in Nigerian marriages?

Munzy14:

In some marital union, the wife bears the burden more than the husband.

While in some, the husband does more.

As for OP's case presented, I come to realize some men tends to be with the wrong women...From a problem mother, to a problem sisters, to problem girl friends and finally a problem wife...

Next is to sit down, think negatively and put up some thoughts as hypothesis and project on feeble minds.

It is really a blessing being in a home with functional parents, then stepping up to have a functional girl friend/boy friend and lastly a next level with a functional wife/husband....

Some people never get to experience that...

One must be mindful of what they read, listen to or watch...it will surely have a big influence in the long run.

Exactly. Individual experiences go a long way in shaping people's views online.

kayperry:





Easy to MAKE Easy to CONTRIBUTE, oshey ! leaves me wondering why women still hold on to "her money is OFF limit" and why single moms are mostly bitter & complaining ... maybe paying bills is not "Easy" in reality

You cannot contribute what you do not have na. By contribution, I am assuming the man has the money.


If I have the option to contribute money OR my cleaning and cooking skills, I def will prefer the former.

Belafonte:


1 & 2: are you saying all it takes to solve marital problems is communication? Are you saying the myriad broken marriages in Nigeria didn't employ communication before opting for divorce?
The truth is any spouse can talk till they're blue in the face, if their partner doesn't shape up they either condone said partner's excesses or end things; and many men are tired of talking and have, in fact, come to belive that it is only natural that a woman prioritises her children over husband, hence baba seeking affection elsewhere.

And what do you mean by absenteeism? The woman had her roles as does her husband, the husband's roles do not traditionally include childcare. If wife considers that good grounds for neglecting her husband, she should take whatever she sees

Maybe if the man prioritized his own children just like the woman, he wouldn't have time to seek attention, then the woman also will have time for him and him for her.
Don't you agree?

It is not only the woman's responsibility to care for the children. It's a lot to handle.

Also, why do most men seek the attention of side chicks instead of giving attention to their children and their wives - their family?
Are most men just attention seekers or they do it to spite their wives?
Most men are known to be jealous of their own children too.