I keep wondering why men reason this way. If the man is not in any serious relationship, I'll look the other way. But a man in a serious relationship, marriage say, thinking it is ok to have numerous cheating partners in the names of 'girlfirend', 'mistress', 'another woman', etc, to me is abominable.

If the man and the wife agree to both cheat on each other, I'll look the other way, na them sabi. But what I see in Nigeria most times that gets me distressed is just unjust and unfair to women. Don't get me wrong, cheating is not to be encouraged in any way.

A man once said to his wife: 'if you catch me with another woman, or I catch you with another man, either way, you pack your load and leave'. He means the wife should not pry into his affairs with other women, while he expects her to remain faithful to him.

Once in a while you see a man contract STD from outside and bring it on his wife. Sometimes it is a deadly disease that would kill both of them. It's appalling. Since I cannot encourage women to cheat to be even, I strongly caution men who cheat to stop it forthwith. Make your wife your fantasy and enjoy her the way you wish, stop making them your maids that keep your house and take care of your children while you patronize other women whenever you feel like it.

Let me also announce to all, whoever you enter a sexual relationship with has become connected to you spiritually, don't say 'it was just a fling', 'a one night stand', 'no strings attached', etc, na lie, you have become connected, and sooner or later, that connection will take a heavy toll on you, weather you keeping having s.ex or not, only once is enough.

Women are humans too and should not be treated like they are not. Cheating shouldn't be the right of any man. Once I was talking with two female colleagues when I was younger and single and they said 'all men cheat'. One said she only prays her husband doesn't bring them home, and, she keeps condom in his pigeon hole and her husband 'acts embarrassed' about that. Can you imagine what the society has done to the psych of some women? I was shocked.

It is a mark of respect that you remain faithful to your wife. Buy her the perfume that will make her smell the way you want, the clothes you like seeing her wear. Customize her for yourself. Me I like pineapple fragrance oozing around when I'm having a nice time with my wife. I have remained faithful to her after 6 six years, and I commit to remain so. You don't know the heartache and adrenalin rush you save yourself when you stop cheating.

Ok

Because, it's a (wo)man's world

Be they looking into people relationship
Don't go and build your own the way you want it
The women saw the man cheating and accepted him like that
Or you wan beat her??

Ashawo dey your eyes

blazingblender:
Be they looking into people relationship
Don't go and build your own the way you want it
The women saw the man cheating and accepted him like that
Or you wan beat her??

It's an advice. The world can be a better place for everyone. Civilization is not magic.

Zonefree:
Ashawo dey your eyes

I'm blinking it off.

That is the double standard of our society

Nobody condones a man cheating. But sincerely,men and women aren't the same. Any man that have an adulterous wife will die quick under mysterious circumstances. I have seen many.

A man can have multiple wives, a woman cannot have even a boyfriend beside her husband not to talk of 2 husbands.

From the Bible age,it has been so. So don't say because a husband cheated the wife has equal right,no,she doesn't. Nature and the gods as local as they are frowns at an adulterous woman.

It is a man's world and there is nothing anyone can do about it

Pierohandsome:
Nobody condones a man cheating. But sincerely,men and women aren't the same. Any man that have and adulterous wife will die quick under mysterious circumstances. I have seen many.

A man can have multiple wives, a woman cannot have even a boyfriend beside her husband not to talk of 2 husbands.

From the Bible age,it has been so. So don't say because a husband cheated the wife has equal right,no,she doesn't. Nature and the gods as local as they are frowns at an adulterous woman.

It is a man's world and there is nothing anyone can do about it

you may check some parts of Nepal, South America, Kenya, India, even Irigwe in Northern Nigeria up till around 1968, where women are allowed to have more than one partner legally.
This is not the old testament if you refer to the bible, and this is 21st century. Some people marry multiple wives because their culture or religion permits it. But what about those who are not in this category? Or whose religion permit only marriage but not cheating? A Christian man has not moral or legal right to marry multiple wives, or even cheat on his partner. Let's call it what it is.

Men are emotional baggages, they cannot accept what they dish out to others, that's why they usually wail out their eyes when their women cheat on them,

The beautiful part of it all is that, as long as they try to excuse and justify their cheating tendencies and behaviors, women will keep doing same and much more, till they get sense and stop, but until then, women cheating has come to stay, everyone should accept this in peace.

Lionize:


you may check some parts of Nepal, South America, Kenya, India, even Irigwe in Northern Nigeria up till around 1968, where women are allowed to have more than one partner legally.
This is not the old testament if you refer to the bible, and this is 21st century. Some people marry multiple wives because their culture or religion permits it. But what about those who are not in this category? Or whose religion permit only marriage but not cheating? A Christian man has not moral or legal right to marry multiple wives, or even cheat on his partner. Let's call it what it is.

Even the polygamous ones marrying multiple wives, didn't they woo, befriend, have sex with the women before marrying them? It is still a sin, they only made the sin legal by marrying them, in the sight of God, they sinned.

Oke solu ngwere maa mmiri ....... Hope you know the implications nah ? If I catch you doing it because am doing I will share the house expenses in to two you take one part and I will take one or else I will send you back to your ppl. Doing Get Levels ok!!!! Don't expect what works for A to work for B the same way. If you know you know

Emma2Seconds:
Oke solu ngwere maa mmiri ....... Hope you know the implications nah ? If I catch you doing it because am doing I will share the house expenses in to two you take one part and I will take one or else I will send you back to your ppl. Doing Get Levels ok!!!! Don't expect who works for A to work for B the same way. If you know you know

@the bolded, now you hit the nail on the head. This is the reason women in Europe have the power they have, they work to pay their bills. But I think Naija women are coming up on this. The reason they tear eye quick when they go abroad. But because you pay the bills doesn't give you right to cheat. I feel for women who are too weak economically, they take a lot of shit.

JovialJune:



Even the polygamous ones marrying multiple wives, didn't they woo, befriend, have sex with the women before marrying them? It is still a sin, they only made the sin legal by marrying them, in the sight of God, they sinned.

For a Christian, polygamy is a sin, fornication is a sin. If you must woo, it is to be without sin. Separation is allowed, but not divorce because when you separate, you must not meet anyone else except that person you had chosen to be your wife/husband.

Doing Get Levels !!!

Lionize:

@the bolded, now you hit the nail on the head. This is the reason women in Europe have the power they have, they work to pay their bills. But I think Naija women are coming up on this. The reason they tear eye quick when they go abroad. But because you pay the bills doesn't give you right to cheat. I feel for women who are too weak economically, they take a lot of shit.

Emma2Seconds:
Doing Get Levels !!!

I hear am. So women are beginning to say now. That's why sometimes I am happy for European women.

Ihe NDI N'eri Ka NDI Naso . That's European here is Africa ok

Lionize:

I hear am. So women are beginning to say now. That's why sometimes I am happy for European women.

Lionize:


you may check some parts of Nepal, South America, Kenya, India, even Irigwe in Northern Nigeria up till around 1968, where women are allowed to have more than one partner legally.
This is not the old testament if you refer to the bible, and this is 21st century. Some people marry multiple wives because their culture or religion permits it. But what about those who are not in this category? Or whose religion permit only marriage but not cheating? A Christian man has not moral or legal right to marry multiple wives, or even cheat on his partner. Let's call it what it is.

you say culture and tradition. Culture and tradition is derived from religeous reference books.

No religion in the world that permits a woman having 2 partners ,forget perverts trying hard to scuttle morality. That gays and homosexuality is legal in some countries doesn't make it acceptable. Infact, Christianity is the only religion that promotes monogamy,even at that,it is still debatable,not everyone is a Christian. Other religions permits polygamy . In other religions men don't cheat because they see it as normal

Please,let us stop comparing men and women.women aren't given that right,it is for men only.

A man can have multiple partners but still love his wife,he won't trade his wife for any other woman except a bad wife. But the moment a woman starts cheating,the man is finished. Once a woman starts cheating,her love and affection has died for her husband, that is evil on his door,throw that woman out or you are gone within a short time

Pierohandsome:
you say culture and tradition. Culture and tradition is derived from religeous reference books.

No religion in the world that permits a woman having 2 partners ,forget perverts trying hard to scuttle morality. That gays and homosexuality is legal in some countries doesn't make it acceptable. Infact, Christianity is the only religion that promotes monogamy,even at that,it is still debatable,not everyone is a Christian. Other religions permits polygamy . In other religions men don't cheat because they see it as normal

Please,let us stop comparing men and women.women aren't given that right,it is for men only.

A man can have multiple partners but still love his wife, he won't trade his wife for any other woman except a bad wife. But the moment a woman starts cheating,the man is finished. Once a woman starts cheating,her love and affection has died for her husband, that is evil on his door,throw that woman out or you are gone within a short time

@thebolded, you may wanna add 'known to you'. Religious beliefs are formed everyday, some may start teaching that. If one really loves his wife, knowing cheating or having another partner aside her definitely makes her jealous and feel bad, then he shouldn't do it. No man can love two women with an undivided heart. If the man must cheat, then he shouldn't feel bad when the woman flirts and cheats, after all, nothing commot from the thing, it is still there for him after she has cheated. Na draw be that.

Lionize:

@thebolded, you may wanna add 'known to you'. Religious beliefs are formed everyday, some may start teaching that. If one really loves his wife, knowing cheating or having another partner aside her definitely makes her jealous and feel bad, then he shouldn't do it. No man can love two women with an undivided heart. If the man must cheat, then he shouldn't feel bad when the woman flirts and cheats, after all, nothing commot from the thing, it is still there for him after she has cheated. Na draw be that.

it means you didn't understand everything explained.

Until a religion starts teaching polyandry and it is acceptable ,then we can talk. But for now,no religion promotes that,infact it is only Christianity that forgives .in other religions, If a woman is caught with another man,they will stone her to death. This grandstanding you are putting up is baseless and doesn't shift the reality of what I am telling you.

If a woman you know wants to test the severity of this abomination you are promoting, let her commit adultery, then you will understand the brutal consequences she will face ,even if her husband is a Chronic womanizer,that will not count on that day.


The society including her fellow women will curse and mock her,if it is in Kano, or other society not Christians,they will stone her to death and burn her to ashes,maybe by then,you will understand better

Pierohandsome:
it means you didn't understand everything explained.

Until a religion starts teaching polyandry and it is acceptable ,then we can talk. But for now,no religion promotes that,infact it is only Christianity that forgives .in other religions, If a woman is caught with another man,they will stone her to death. This grandstanding you are putting up is baseless and doesn't shift the reality of what I am telling you.

If a woman you know wants to test the severity of this abomination you are promoting, let her commit adultery, then you will understand the brutal consequences she will face ,even if her husband is a Chronic womanizer,that will not count on that day.


The society including her fellow women will curse and mock her,if it is in Kano, or other society not Christians, they will stone her to death and burn her to ashes,maybe by then,you will understand better

The point I am making also is that not all religions are known to all people. And, in some other climes, the woman will cheat and apologise if necessary, or indicate a desire to quit the marriage, but it is never the man's exclusive right to cheat.

I tell you, things are changing in Nigeria. Women are cheating now without the risk of any stone in some circles. I am not encouraging women to cheat, but I am calling out men to stop cheating, there are consequences too, heavy ones.

Lionize:

^{I tell you, things are changing in Nigeria. Women are cheating now without the risk of any stone in some circles. I am not encouraging women to cheat, but I am calling out men to stop cheating, there are consequences too, heavy ones.}

There absolutely nothing you can do about so far men still pay bride price.

Over there in Europe a man doesn't need to pay bride price and the bride family don't give list

Here in Africa do you no what men go through and have to pay for before getting a wife.....is that equity

The employer decides how he wants things to an employee....if the employee isn't ok with the term he/she can resign......hope you understand

Traditionally, men are expected to provide for the family and we all agree with that. Same tradition also permits men to marry more than one wife and also have concubines. Modern women want to pick the former and jettison the later.

That's not possible!

Godoverevery:
There absolutely nothing you can do about so far men still pay bride price.

Over there in Europe a man doesn't need to pay bride price and the bride family don't give list

Here in Africa do you no what men go through and have to pay for before getting a wife.....is that equity

The employer decides how he wants things to an employee....if the employee isn't ok with the term he/she can resign......hope you understand

Lol. So na buy you buy her? Ok na. But taking a decision to 'buy' is translated to mean you love her enough to go for the 'purchase'. And if you love her, then you don't have to hurt her.

Jman06:
Traditionally, men are expected to provide for the family and we all agree with that. Same tradition also permits men to marry more than one wife and also have concubines. Modern women want to pick the former and jettison the later.

That's not possible!

Hmn, that tradition. Things change when it is no longer fashionable.

The reason why men get hurt from cheating is one word betrayal. The coolest man to ever walk the earth Jesus was so forgiving, he forgave everybody. From the adulterous woman to the robber at his side on the cross, to the people who killed him, to Thomas who doubted him. Everybody got forgiven except Judas the betrayer.

Usually when a man chooses to claim a woman he has expectations that she is the faithful kind, that’s why we ask questions about your body count and if you ever cheated in past relationships etc.

Men do not care about what women do with their privates, if you present yourself as someone who is up for fun, most men will take their share and give your number to their friends, some will ask for a three way with their friends. Men are very sharing and generous with women. The hurt stem from thinking a woman is ‘good’ then discovering you didn’t have to do all this work to sleep with her.

Like Jovial said, women cheating has come to stay. Most men now put in more time and effort into getting other peoples girls than getting theirs. It’s win win for the woman and the cheating man. The only loser is the ‘owner’ of the woman.

Who wants to buy a car, repair it, fuel it, service it diligently only for the neighbour to borrow it every weekend when he needs it? This is the reason for the decline in relationships and the rise in hookup culture among millennials.

Keep in mind it is the ladies who chase committed relationships, give a man a stable gigana and he has no incentive to commit. So you get the relationship and then sleep with someone else casually. That is betrayal. All ye Judas’ with boobs.

A woman that does that is a LovePeddler.

That one is even small my own question is " why would you approach me and then demand I do something to keep your attention " and what still pains me is some girls really fall for this thing , I lost my appetite to even consider a conversation with anyone from the opposite gender

Men will bleach your black if you're not careful

Becos we run things