The last time I posted, I spoke about me falling in love with the guy who disflowered me about 10 months ago, prior to us having sex, we had a very healthy friendship so I ask him to disflower me because I thought it was time to lose my virginity.
We later fall in love but our differences was something I couldn't look past, for one I'm not religious, don't want marriage and tradition life, he on the other hand was the opposite of me, he was religious, wanted marriage and a tradition Christian family.
I thought we wouldn't have a future together so I posted about it on nairaland hoping for some good advice and thinkful I got some.

Firstly I spoke to him we discussed about the religious, he's a very understanding person and as promised not to focus me into religion, he says he understands that not a lot of people love the idea of religion but he loves being aware that no matter what, someone, somewhere has his back, he says it gives he comfort knowing that he's not alone in life.
I'm a very realistic person and he is a idealistic, but I think the religion part is no longer a source of tension.
Secondly we had to talk about me not wanting marriage. He explained that he grew up in a Christian nuclear home, and he always wanted that for this family, he grew up happy and in a non toxic environment, he grew up being close to both of his parents, there was never a quarrel that ended their relationship, his family was always there for him, he explained that wanted that for his kids. A stable home
I on the other hand doesn't want that, I grew up in a very toxic environment and I Know what can happen if a marriage goes wrong.
So we decided that let's just wait and see. That maybe one day we might get married or not. Let's just see what works for us

I'm so happy I'm in this relationship, like I said we are friends before lovers

Note: I just want to thank some people on nairaland for giving me good and reasonable advise, thanks

Now I noticed a lot of people where asking for my age, telling me to repent, some called my boyfriend a simp, for not hitting and running.
Some said he just wanted to continue having sex with me. So called me names Because I choose to lose my virginity. Like Bleep of, it's my body, I choose what happens to it. Some asking me to repent because they don't have the common sense to understand that not everyone wants religion or believes in it.

I really hope it is all you guys internet persona, Because if u guys are really that intolerant of other people choices and Ideology, then we have a big problem in Nigeria.

Thanks for giving me good advice.

And so fvckin what? Now what did u want us to do. Mak we Fry water for u!

Well, that is what you get when you look for advice/opinions in a toxic place.

thank God

Really

Op you finally won .... congrats
Wish you both a blissful relationship.

Meanwhile sorry for the harsh comments from some, some persons on this forum are toxic and sadist. Enjoy yourself

As long as he is caring for you, then don't complain. The standard rating for men and women are not the same. Men are judged by their financial success, their status, their future and their personalities. Women are judged by their appearance, ability to bear children, their body counts, their past relationships and their submissiveness.
Men are polygamous by nature. After all there are more women than men in this world. A man is more happy and will live you more if you allow him keep other women. He will treat you better. 95% of men want this. You can check the statistics online, it is backed by scientific research.

Is sex the only compatibility btw the two of you, Kologirl?
Do you v chemistry, bond, similarities etc?
Are you two schooling, on apprenticeship, a working class or what's your source of income?
You should consider more important stuffs than religious difference & sexual enjoyment.

My own be say make sure the person you’re dating is also dating you. My advice fit no dey useful to you, but I bet somebody here is going to need it.

ZirdoRoray:
As long as he is caring for you, then don't complain. The standard rating for men and women are not the same. Men are judged by their financial success, their status, their future and their personalities. Women are judged by their appearance, ability to bear children, their body counts, their past relationships and their submissiveness.
Men are polygamous by nature. After all there are more women than men in this world. A man is more happy and will live you more if you allow him keep other women. He will treat you better. 95% of men want this. You can check the statistics online, it is backed by scientific research.

What gives me concern in your post is that you claimed to have researched whereas you did not do any research.

From which research have you seen the population of women greater than that of men? Can you show me the source.

I wonder why people just say whatever comes to their hearing through popular theory that lack fundamental proof.

Because people always say women are populous than men whereas the reverse is the case. You too quickly joined in the common saying without checking the statistics you are quoting.

A simple Google search will help you not to join them in mass in propagating popular lies.

Deepocean:

What gives me concern in your post is that you claimed to have researched whereas you did do any research.

From which research have you seen the population of women greater than that of men? Can you show me the source.

I wonder why people just say whatever comes to their hearing through popular theory that lack fundamental proof.

Because people always say women are populous than men whereas the reverse is the case. You too quickly joined in the common saying without checking the statistics you are quoting.

A simple Google search will help you not to join them in mass in propagating popular lies.

Thanks for the correction, It was a typographic error. It doesn't dissprove my point that the gender ratio is disproportionate.

Kologirl:
The last time I posted, I spoke about me falling in love with the guy who disflowered me about 10 months ago, prior to us having sex, we had a very healthy friendship so I ask him to disflower me because I thought it was time to lose my virginity.
We later fall in love but our differences was something I couldn't look past, for one I'm not religious, don't want marriage and tradition life, he on the other hand was the opposite of me, he was religious, wanted marriage and a tradition Christian family.
I thought we wouldn't have a future together so I posted about it on nairaland hoping for some good advice and thinkful I got some.

Firstly I spoke to him we discussed about the religious, he's a very understanding person and as promised not to focus me into religion, he says he understands that not a lot of people love the idea of religion but he loves being aware that no matter what, someone, somewhere has his back, he says it gives he comfort knowing that he's not alone in life.
I'm a very realistic person and he is a idealistic, but I think the religion part is no longer a source of tension.
Secondly we had to talk about me not wanting marriage. He explained that he grew up in a Christian nuclear home, and he always wanted that for this family, he grew up happy and in a non toxic environment, he grew up being close to both of his parents, there was never a quarrel that ended their relationship, his family was always there for him, he explained that wanted that for his kids. A stable home
I on the other hand doesn't want that, I grew up in a very toxic environment and I Know what can happen if a marriage goes wrong.
So we decided that let's just wait and see. That maybe one day we might get married or not. Let's just see what works for us

I'm so happy I'm in this relationship, like I said we are friends before lovers

Note: I just want to thank some people on nairaland for giving me good and reasonable advise, thanks

Now I noticed a lot of people where asking for my age, telling me to repent, some called my boyfriend a simp, for not hitting and running.
So said he just wanted to continue having sex with me. So called me names Because I choose to lose my virginity. Like Bleep of, it's my body, I choose what happens to it. Some asking me to repent because they don't have the common sense to understand that not everyone wants religion or believes in it.

I really hope it was all you guys internet persona, Because if u guys are really that intolerant of other people choices and Ideology, then we have a big problem in Nigeria.

Thanks for giving me good advice.

The Internet is full of bigots, that's why I don't bother sharing personal experience

ZirdoRoray:

Thanks for the correction, It was a typographic error. It doesn't dissprove my point that the gender ratio is disproportionate.

Alright sir.

But I won't agree with you that it was a typographical error because you have said exactly the same thing before in this particular thread below

https://www.nairaland.com/7145826/5-signs-attractive-penis-women#113182839

Deepocean:


Alright sir.

But I won't agree with you that it was a typographical error because you have said exactly the same thing before in this particular thread below

https://www.nairaland.com/7145826/5-signs-attractive-penis-women#113182839

I copied and pasted. Edited it. Thanks

It's normal to fall in love with the person who was first to access your body. That union is spiritual and the bonding will be strong. Congratulations.

Finding a woman to a man with no or less body count is a treasure men keep.

Body count is of high value to men because the woman will loose it after children then start sexually reconnecting to wealthy exes.

As long as you're happy

Kologirl:
The last time I posted, I spoke about me falling in love with the guy who disflowered me about 10 months ago, prior to us having sex, we had a very healthy friendship so I ask him to disflower me because I thought it was time to lose my virginity.
We later fall in love but our differences was something I couldn't look past, for one I'm not religious, don't want marriage and tradition life, he on the other hand was the opposite of me, he was religious, wanted marriage and a tradition Christian family.
I thought we wouldn't have a future together so I posted about it on nairaland hoping for some good advice and thinkful I got some.

Firstly I spoke to him we discussed about the religious, he's a very understanding person and as promised not to focus me into religion, he says he understands that not a lot of people love the idea of religion but he loves being aware that no matter what, someone, somewhere has his back, he says it gives he comfort knowing that he's not alone in life.
I'm a very realistic person and he is a idealistic, but I think the religion part is no longer a source of tension.
Secondly we had to talk about me not wanting marriage. He explained that he grew up in a Christian nuclear home, and he always wanted that for this family, he grew up happy and in a non toxic environment, he grew up being close to both of his parents, there was never a quarrel that ended their relationship, his family was always there for him, he explained that wanted that for his kids. A stable home
I on the other hand doesn't want that, I grew up in a very toxic environment and I Know what can happen if a marriage goes wrong.
So we decided that let's just wait and see. That maybe one day we might get married or not. Let's just see what works for us

I'm so happy I'm in this relationship, like I said we are friends before lovers

Note: I just want to thank some people on nairaland for giving me good and reasonable advise, thanks

Now I noticed a lot of people where asking for my age, telling me to repent, some called my boyfriend a simp, for not hitting and running.
So said he just wanted to continue having sex with me. So called me names Because I choose to lose my virginity. Like Bleep of, it's my body, I choose what happens to it. Some asking me to repent because they don't have the common sense to understand that not everyone wants religion or believes in it.

I really hope it was all you guys internet persona, Because if u guys are really that intolerant of other people choices and Ideology, then we have a big problem in Nigeria.

Thanks for giving me good advice.

you should understand some people are not happy with their life here, if they see anything good they will pour thier hate on it, here is not a goid place to seek advice

the redpillers are number one people to avoid their comment, those people have been hurt severally and they keep living in circles being hurt all over again because they decide to Harbour their hate to innocent people

if youre not wise you may pick their hateful advice Nairaland redpillers never like hearing about a successful relationship

My dear kologirl it's your life, live it the way you want.


But can you take this candid advice from me?

DON'T ALLOW YOUR FAMILY BACKGROUND TO DETERMINE YOUR FUTURE.

YOUR FUTURE HAPPINESS DEPENDS SOLELY ON THE DECISION YOU MAKE TODAY.