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GboyegaD:
Why not allow her to be raising the baby for now and you provide what the baby needs?

Dont u read??

Abi u have comprehension issues

[quote author=InsideLife2022 post=113179023][/quote]You're a beggarly husband.

Someone out there has confused her with lust. Your gender chasing after a married woman. Not all married women can be true to marital vow. It's either you keep talking to her n believing her senses would return or u walk away.

Your wife has a spiritual problem seek for spiritual solution she isn't doing it intentional

InsideLife2022:
I have been an active member on this forum for the past eight years. I just created this account to bring this issue to limelight. Good evening gentlemen and ladies. I got married in late 2020. God being merciful, we are blessed with a baby of 5 months. My wife has been giving me attitudes of recent. I have tried to find out what the problem has been, she is not saying anything tangible. I am being confused and depressed. I have been begging her to come back to join me after delivery. She keeps traumazing me emotionally. She just told me our marriage is over. She couldn't say what the problem is.

She has not been taking care of the baby. She was medically advised to stop breastfeeding our baby permanently. Is not that she breastfeeds our baby. My mother in-law and sisters in-law have been complaining about her lack of motherly treats.

They told me she doesn't even know how to take care of the baby. They cannot allow my child to be in her custody because she can't take care of the baby as a mother. She has fought her mother for asking her to leave her house to join her husband. Every member of her family has been asking her what the problem is. She keeps telling them to come and marry me that it's over between us.

I haven't told any of my family members or my friends of what is going on in my marriage. I am a kind of person that do not like involving a third party in my new marriage of lest than two years.

Her family has never supported her actions. Her mom and her siblings have been asking me to come take my wife and baby. But, my wife is not ready to join me. It has been a serious issues in her family house each time they push her to go meet her husband.

Her family has ask me to come with some soldiers or the police to come carry my baby and leave her since she claims she is no longer interested in any marriage. I have been trying my best to make sure my wife never lacked anything during her pregnancy and even after delivery.

My in-laws have been very supportive and good to me. I know they have never and will not support her for her wrong actions and behaviors. My challenge is, my baby is just 5 months and I don't want to take the baby to my parents because of the questions people around will be asking. I don't want to be seen as someone who is separated from his wife. I hate divorce with passion. My wife does not have any concrete reason why she decides to stay off our marriage.

Her family is fully in support of my next actions of going to take my baby. Now, the question is this; is it advisable to keep the baby with me while I employ a nanny to raise the baby with me?

Please and please I need mature and sensible advise.

Cc: RoyalRoy

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aktolly54:
Op forget about nanny ,if your mother can't help you nurture the baby then find family member whom you trust to do the job.

Why can't OP do it himself? Is he a leper or something?,

Post natal depression.
Postnatal depression is a type of depression that many parents experience after having a baby.

It's a common problem, affecting more than 1 in every 10 women within a year of giving birth. It can also affect fathers and partners.

It's important to seek help as soon as possible if you think you might be depressed, as your symptoms could last months or get worse and have a significant impact on you, your baby and your family.

With the right support most people make a full recovery.

Take your child to your parents, and let your wife get the Bleep out of your life. You can't force anyone to love you. You are lucky she even told you the marriage is over. Count your losses and move on. Might not be easy now, but eventually, you will be glad you did.

Ps: your wife might be possessed.

Postpartum depression, take her for counseling, not her doin8.

Those are symptoms of post-partum depression. I beg you, take this serious. Find a way to get her to see a doctor and then a psychologist. What she is going through is a serious stuff, pretty common but under-played in this part of the world.
She doesn't hate you or the baby, right now, her mind is in a fix. I know you are hurt too, but help her

Did you forced her to marry?
Why didn't you let her deliver the baby and return to your house and let your mother or her come to your house to take care of her and the baby.
Have you treated her badly while you are staying together and did took good care of her and care for while you were still together?
Get ti visit her snd talk one on one and see whether you can work things out.

That baby is not yours.. she is feeling guilty of the act...

Post partum manifests itself in diff ways. Some pple abandon the baby, some don't but blank out. Others become withdrawn. Some pple even act normal but with humming sounds in their head. There's no classical behavior. Not all ppd cases result in neurotic behaviour

Mccullum:
Stop this rubbish of postpartum disorder,

If it's postpartum problem, she'll lost her senses immediately after given birth to that baby,

she'll be eccentric to every one around her, not to you specifically, she's suffering from indecision problem,

she is in a state of confusion on concluding her life with you, her mind may not be with you,

I suggest, you may leave her for a while, may be she can retrace her self back to you,

the baby still small to be collected from her mother, leave the child with her and your mother in-law,

distance your self from her, don't call her, just be sending money for the wellbeing of the baby,

try to get one or two persons that will be honest to assist you monitor her, this will enhance you to gather information on her next mission,

that will picture her real reasons for changing toward you, it'll also enhance your final decision on her.

OlawaleBammie:
Dont u read??

Abi u have comprehension issues

Before you jump into conclusions, why not ask the OP if he modified his post?

I went back now and realized more details have been added to the story. It will do you good to seek clarifications than just throwing tantrums.

Someone please explain to me... What exactly is postpartum depression... ?

Pushed out of my retirement just for your sake.
I have read your post, read between the lines and my submissions to you are not complicated.

You seem to be a passionate man, seem to be a cultural one too, a man who cherished the proper African family cultural values and glad you are. But without mincing word, its obvious and clear you have chosen a wife who is definitely lacking in these vitals. As sad as that is, as hard as you want this to work, as much as you don't want people to talk about your marriage failing.......i am sorry to let you know that is the most realistic new situation for you now.

Men are complicated, very complicated in most cases. A man is the only creature God created that will want a car that will not attract Armed robbers, a car that will not over speed, a car with high fuel economy and a car that will not cause envy in the neighborhood BUT at the same time will die to be able to buy a V12 Turbo, 800hp Sport Car with Lambo Doors. You want a very correct "African wife" who knows the value of breast feeding a baby, knows how to take absolute care of the entire home, able to train a child the proper way, be able to cook proper African dishes....However the same you will empty your savings running after a lady who pierced her nipples, had Ayamataga's nail fixed, with 6 nose rings and a 500k tik tok followers account. You go into the bathroom of these kind of ladies and the wide display of chemicals + formulas + liquid concussions + carrot + watermelon + guava + egg + everything else flavor soaps you see displayed will totally confuse you if our mother's didn't turn out as much beautiful with a just a Lux soap doing the same job.

From the days of Adam till now, a square peg will NEVER fit a round hole. We always get distracted as guys and constantly do this mistakes generation after generation.

The lady you have chosen, is beyond all doubts, not the kind for you. She is tired, exhausted and knows within herself she is not and might never be able to get to live that life that you expect. As a lady, as usual of most ladies, they are very honest with themselves. The men, the us, are usually the confused ones who are always deceiving ourselves. She cannot cope and she intends to keep everyone safe by refusing to come back to fit the round hole you have reserved for her square peg. You could go ahead and force her, bundle her back like your desperate in-laws have suggested, but it will end in either of 2 ways, she will still leave your house very violently or your baby's life may be sacrificed for your recklessness.

I am sorry but word truth doesn't have a short or long form, a full meaning or summary, an abbreviation or extension. The truth has always been the truth and in your case, you have chosen the wrong lady for a wife and she is not the one for you. Sadly.

Face the circumstance, let her be, leave her alone and take your 5 month old, innocent baby to your parent's home for proper upkeep for now. Get a very decent maid, if you can and if your parents permits, and let the maid leave with your parents to support them in the whole process of fending for that baby.

Allow the natural time for your heart to heal, face your work squarely, care for your baby the best you can and let the next 6 to 12 months decide what your next and best line of action will be.

As for your wife, in case you are wondering what becomes of her and how she will cope or whether she might still come back to beg or resume back her place as a wife.......Try to imagine a very beautiful and attractive bird caught and kept in a cage for 2 years and then one day returned back to the wild where it was captured and released from the cage. She will be perfectly and wonderfully fine.

Don't force things to go your way because of what people, neighbors and friends will say. You seem to be seriously concerned about this and that is rather unfortunate.

Cheers.

Most likely Postpartum depression. Get a qualified psychologist involved to help you both

She may have Post Delivery Depression.. Some women have after delivery. I think she needs to be checked by a mental proffessional.

InsideLife2022:
I have been an active member on this forum for the past eight years. I just created this account to bring this issue to limelight. Good evening gentlemen and ladies. I got married in late 2020. God being merciful, we are blessed with a baby of 5 months. My wife has been giving me attitudes of recent. I have tried to find out what the problem has been, she is not saying anything tangible. I am being confused and depressed. I have been begging her to come back to join me after delivery. She keeps traumazing me emotionally. She just told me our marriage is over. She couldn't say what the problem is.

She has not been taking care of the baby. She was medically advised to stop breastfeeding our baby permanently. Is not that she breastfeeds our baby. My mother in-law and sisters in-law have been complaining about her lack of motherly treats.

They told me she doesn't even know how to take care of the baby. They cannot allow my child to be in her custody because she can't take care of the baby as a mother. She has fought her mother for asking her to leave her house to join her husband. Every member of her family has been asking her what the problem is. She keeps telling them to come and marry me that it's over between us.

I haven't told any of my family members or my friends of what is going on in my marriage. I am a kind of person that do not like involving a third party in my new marriage of lest than two years.

Her family has never supported her actions. Her mom and her siblings have been asking me to come take my wife and baby. But, my wife is not ready to join me. It has been a serious issues in her family house each time they push her to go meet her husband.

Her family has ask me to come with some soldiers or the police to come carry my baby and leave her since she claims she is no longer interested in any marriage. I have been trying my best to make sure my wife never lacked anything during her pregnancy and even after delivery.

My in-laws have been very supportive and good to me. I know they have never and will not support her for her wrong actions and behaviors. My challenge is, my baby is just 5 months and I don't want to take the baby to my parents because of the questions people around will be asking. I don't want to be seen as someone who is separated from his wife. I hate divorce with passion. My wife does not have any concrete reason why she decides to stay off our marriage.

Her family is fully in support of my next actions of going to take my baby. Now, the question is this; is it advisable to keep the baby with me while I employ a nanny to raise the baby with me?

Please and please I need mature and sensible advise.

Cc: RoyalRoy

I want this thread to be moved to the right and appropriate section. Thank you!

InsideLife2022:
I have been an active member on this forum for the past eight years. I just created this account to bring this issue to limelight. Good evening gentlemen and ladies. I got married in late 2020. God being merciful, we are blessed with a baby of 5 months. My wife has been giving me attitudes of recent. I have tried to find out what the problem has been, she is not saying anything tangible. I am being confused and depressed. I have been begging her to come back to join me after delivery. She keeps traumazing me emotionally. She just told me our marriage is over. She couldn't say what the problem is.

She has not been taking care of the baby. She was medically advised to stop breastfeeding our baby permanently. Is not that she breastfeeds our baby. My mother in-law and sisters in-law have been complaining about her lack of motherly treats.

They told me she doesn't even know how to take care of the baby. They cannot allow my child to be in her custody because she can't take care of the baby as a mother. She has fought her mother for asking her to leave her house to join her husband. Every member of her family has been asking her what the problem is. She keeps telling them to come and marry me that it's over between us.

I haven't told any of my family members or my friends of what is going on in my marriage. I am a kind of person that do not like involving a third party in my new marriage of lest than two years.

Her family has never supported her actions. Her mom and her siblings have been asking me to come take my wife and baby. But, my wife is not ready to join me. It has been a serious issues in her family house each time they push her to go meet her husband.

Her family has ask me to come with some soldiers or the police to come carry my baby and leave her since she claims she is no longer interested in any marriage. I have been trying my best to make sure my wife never lacked anything during her pregnancy and even after delivery.

My in-laws have been very supportive and good to me. I know they have never and will not support her for her wrong actions and behaviors. My challenge is, my baby is just 5 months and I don't want to take the baby to my parents because of the questions people around will be asking. I don't want to be seen as someone who is separated from his wife. I hate divorce with passion. My wife does not have any concrete reason why she decides to stay off our marriage.

Her family is fully in support of my next actions of going to take my baby. Now, the question is this; is it advisable to keep the baby with me while I employ a nanny to raise the baby with me?

Please and please I need mature and sensible advise.

Cc: RoyalRoy

I want this thread to be moved to the right and appropriate section. Thank you!

She's depressed. Post Natal Depression Abi what do they call it?


Or she's possessed.

She may have post padtum depression.
She needs medical help

@OP don't listen to all these kids telling you to leave your wife and all that nonsense.

First of all your wife is going through PPD. She needs you now than ever before. So you know her better than anyone, do things to help her, make her know you love her. She also needs counselling. See if you can get a professional to help. Please read about PPD.

Second, try to see if you can get a help that can come stay with your wife and see if you can convince her to come home with you but if she's refuses, just let her be for now and give her time. Be as supportive as you can. She really needs help and it seems nobody is understanding her.

God bless you for looking for a solution instead of discarding her like some unreasonable men here are advising you to do.

The people that give advice on this nairaland sef. Someone's marriage is what you want him to end just like that. A whole marriage...I pity anyone that takes you guys seriously.

InsideLife2022:
I have been an active member on this forum for the past eight years. I just created this account to bring this issue to limelight. Good evening gentlemen and ladies. I got married in late 2020. God being merciful, we are blessed with a baby of 5 months. My wife has been giving me attitudes of recent. I have tried to find out what the problem has been, she is not saying anything tangible. I am being confused and depressed. I have been begging her to come back to join me after delivery. She keeps traumazing me emotionally. She just told me our marriage is over. She couldn't say what the problem is.

She has not been taking care of the baby. She was medically advised to stop breastfeeding our baby permanently. Is not that she breastfeeds our baby. My mother in-law and sisters in-law have been complaining about her lack of motherly treats.

They told me she doesn't even know how to take care of the baby. They cannot allow my child to be in her custody because she can't take care of the baby as a mother. She has fought her mother for asking her to leave her house to join her husband. Every member of her family has been asking her what the problem is. She keeps telling them to come and marry me that it's over between us.

I haven't told any of my family members or my friends of what is going on in my marriage. I am a kind of person that do not like involving a third party in my new marriage of lest than two years.

Her family has never supported her actions. Her mom and her siblings have been asking me to come take my wife and baby. But, my wife is not ready to join me. It has been a serious issues in her family house each time they push her to go meet her husband.

Her family has ask me to come with some soldiers or the police to come carry my baby and leave her since she claims she is no longer interested in any marriage. I have been trying my best to make sure my wife never lacked anything during her pregnancy and even after delivery.

My in-laws have been very supportive and good to me. I know they have never and will not support her for her wrong actions and behaviors. My challenge is, my baby is just 5 months and I don't want to take the baby to my parents because of the questions people around will be asking. I don't want to be seen as someone who is separated from his wife. I hate divorce with passion. My wife does not have any concrete reason why she decides to stay off our marriage.

Her family is fully in support of my next actions of going to take my baby. Now, the question is this; is it advisable to keep the baby with me while I employ a nanny to raise the baby with me?

Please and please I need mature and sensible advise.

Cc: RoyalRoy

I want this thread to be moved to the right and appropriate section. Thank you!

1. You don't have sense for thinking of employing a nanny to take care of your 5months old baby when your mum is still alive.

2. It's either your estranged wife is mentally ill due to the pregnancy and child birth (I don't know if that is medically possible) or

3. Your wife has found a new bf and wants to do anything possible to leave you.

There are children who's mothers died during child birth but are doing perfectly fine today and are adults now. They were not looked after by any nanny neither were they taken to an orphanage home.

My advice to you is to take that baby to your family for better care, and let your wife be.

GboyegaD:
Why not allow her to be raising the baby for now and you provide what the baby needs?

You din't see where he said she does not breastfeeds and does not even look after the baby?.

Her family is fully in support of my next actions of going to take my baby. Now, the question is this; is it advisable to keep the baby with me while I employ a nanny to raise the baby with

who’s caring for the kid now?

Why attempt to carry an infant you can’t care for?

Oga go do DNA test, the baby might not be yours self.

Gbam!

after4:
she is in love with someone else!
no kill yourself over her

Why don't you explore getting mental help for her. Post Parfums depression/psychosis is real and some women without help might not recover. Just pursue this angle first.

With all due respect Oga, putting your marriage stuff on social media to me is wrong. I know you looking for solution to your problem but I will suggest putting it in GOD hands by PRAYING and call to attention your sponsor too. I pray God will heal your marriage.. AMEN...TRUST IN GOD

Another man or guy don dey scam her or shyke her head

Girls generaly no get sense! Dem dey believe who never Bleep dem pass person wey don over Bleep and stilll continou loving them

Leave her, she go learn her lesson

Obviously she didn't need the marriage before sef might be some kind of pessure that got to her

InsideLife2022:
I have been an active member on this forum for the past eight years. I just created this account to bring this issue to limelight. Good evening gentlemen and ladies. I got married in late 2020. God being merciful, we are blessed with a baby of 5 months. My wife has been giving me attitudes of recent. I have tried to find out what the problem has been, she is not saying anything tangible. I am being confused and depressed. I have been begging her to come back to join me after delivery. She keeps traumazing me emotionally. She just told me our marriage is over. She couldn't say what the problem is.

She has not been taking care of the baby. She was medically advised to stop breastfeeding our baby permanently. Is not that she breastfeeds our baby. My mother in-law and sisters in-law have been complaining about her lack of motherly treats.

They told me she doesn't even know how to take care of the baby. They cannot allow my child to be in her custody because she can't take care of the baby as a mother. She has fought her mother for asking her to leave her house to join her husband. Every member of her family has been asking her what the problem is. She keeps telling them to come and marry me that it's over between us.

I haven't told any of my family members or my friends of what is going on in my marriage. I am a kind of person that do not like involving a third party in my new marriage of lest than two years.

Her family has never supported her actions. Her mom and her siblings have been asking me to come take my wife and baby. But, my wife is not ready to join me. It has been a serious issues in her family house each time they push her to go meet her husband.

Her family has ask me to come with some soldiers or the police to come carry my baby and leave her since she claims she is no longer interested in any marriage. I have been trying my best to make sure my wife never lacked anything during her pregnancy and even after delivery.

My in-laws have been very supportive and good to me. I know they have never and will not support her for her wrong actions and behaviors. My challenge is, my baby is just 5 months and I don't want to take the baby to my parents because of the questions people around will be asking. I don't want to be seen as someone who is separated from his wife. I hate divorce with passion. My wife does not have any concrete reason why she decides to stay off our marriage.

Her family is fully in support of my next actions of going to take my baby. Now, the question is this; is it advisable to keep the baby with me while I employ a nanny to raise the baby with me?

Please and please I need mature and sensible advise.

Cc: RoyalRoy

I want this thread to be moved to the right and appropriate section. Thank you!

your wife has post patum depression

InsideLife2022:
I have been an active member on this forum for the past eight years. I just created this account to bring this issue to limelight. Good evening gentlemen and ladies. I got married in late 2020. God being merciful, we are blessed with a baby of 5 months. My wife has been giving me attitudes of recent. I have tried to find out what the problem has been, she is not saying anything tangible. I am being confused and depressed. I have been begging her to come back to join me after delivery. She keeps traumazing me emotionally. She just told me our marriage is over. She couldn't say what the problem is.

She has not been taking care of the baby. She was medically advised to stop breastfeeding our baby permanently. Is not that she breastfeeds our baby. My mother in-law and sisters in-law have been complaining about her lack of motherly treats.

They told me she doesn't even know how to take care of the baby. They cannot allow my child to be in her custody because she can't take care of the baby as a mother. She has fought her mother for asking her to leave her house to join her husband. Every member of her family has been asking her what the problem is. She keeps telling them to come and marry me that it's over between us.

I haven't told any of my family members or my friends of what is going on in my marriage. I am a kind of person that do not like involving a third party in my new marriage of lest than two years.

Her family has never supported her actions. Her mom and her siblings have been asking me to come take my wife and baby. But, my wife is not ready to join me. It has been a serious issues in her family house each time they push her to go meet her husband.

Her family has ask me to come with some soldiers or the police to come carry my baby and leave her since she claims she is no longer interested in any marriage. I have been trying my best to make sure my wife never lacked anything during her pregnancy and even after delivery.

My in-laws have been very supportive and good to me. I know they have never and will not support her for her wrong actions and behaviors. My challenge is, my baby is just 5 months and I don't want to take the baby to my parents because of the questions people around will be asking. I don't want to be seen as someone who is separated from his wife. I hate divorce with passion. My wife does not have any concrete reason why she decides to stay off our marriage.

Her family is fully in support of my next actions of going to take my baby. Now, the question is this; is it advisable to keep the baby with me while I employ a nanny to raise the baby with me?

Please and please I need mature and sensible advise.

Cc: RoyalRoy

I want this thread to be moved to the right and appropriate section. Thank you!

Wahala too much for this life, marriage way ppl day attend adoration/Shiloh to get e reach her turn, she no wan do again. Well seek d advice of an expert

Go and bring our Baby home brother. With time Sense will catch up with her, by then she would realize how important you are and won't take advantage of you again.

This is what being a Man is all about