Be strong and move On with ur life.I loss somebody special 1 yr ago.For over 2 wks I nor chop.Nah so so water and coke but on 3rd weeks,I finished 4 wrap of fufu plus Egusisoup.Be strong

dboY1123:


Thank you..I really appreciate
I always feel that I could have done something to rescue her, I later found out it was Congestive heart failure..

When one's time is up nothing will stop that person from leaving this sinful world.

The highest level of human form is the ability to absorb the grief of a loved one

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

Lets talk, sent u a message

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

You'll be alright. Just know that she won't be happy that you are still sad. Hold onto the happy times you had with her, how she made you smile, and how you made her smile too.
And make sure you take care of yourself. Since you know what led to her demise, you can learn to live a healthy life too and go for regular check-ups.
Stay strong.

I and my siblings loved our dad so much. While alive he tot us not to cry over death. As death comes to all. When he died, we just thanked God n moved on.

Now I'm teaching my kids not to cry for me when I'm gone too. They shld just dust up n move on.

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

Oh your poor mom. So sorry. My condolences

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

I have been there before, and I still feel her absence.
It so painful!
Your life will never be same again, its the truth.
But gradually, you need to move on, you don't have to forget her though.
Reduce being alone for long, then be happy she left this difficult era, and is better of without this sad world.
But I strongly advise you not to look at her pictures for long, don't watch her videos, especial her burial video.
Since over 4 years that my loving mummy died, I have never watched the video of the burial, even though I have them
You are not alone on this, but know that wherever she is right now, SHE WOULD BE HEARTBROKEN IF YOU CONTINUE THIS WAY.....

dboY1123:
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These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

I'm the second to the last child, my Mom died in my hands, I felt that's the end of the world. Bro I almost gave up BUT trust me, TIME IS A HEALER.

Her memory would never wipe off but the pain will go down. Just move on and push on with life.

Even in death, pls make her proud

Is your mum bornagain and you? If yes, then there is no cause for alarm: for you both will be reunited again forever to part no more, in the bossom of Christ our Saviour who is the ressurection and life. Read below scripture verses and be comforted. Shalom!

1 Thessalonians 4:13
But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope.
4:14 For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him.
4:18 Wherefore comfort one another with these words.

John 11:21
Then said Martha unto Jesus, Lord, if thou hadst been here, my brother had not died.
11:23 Jesus saith unto her, Thy brother shall rise again.
11:24 Martha saith unto him, I know that he shall rise again in the resurrection at the last day. 11:25 Jesus said unto her, I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live:
11:26 And whosoever liveth and believeth in me shall never die. Believest thou this?

dboY1123:


Thank you..I really appreciate
I always feel that I could have done something to rescue her, I later found out it was Congestive heart failure..

Many people don't really understand why you are so affected.

You see, you loved her a lot, and you have personally seen to her care. Those who didn't hold her hands and cook her meals won't be as shaken as you are. You followed her to the hospital, prayed for her and really were vested in helping her to live. She was very close to you, and you to her. You are passing through grief and may need to see a counselor about it.

You are a good son. May God console you and heal your heart.

Pray about it, meditate and believe she she wouldn't want you to become stagnated over her transition. You will one day heal and thoughts of her will not weigh so heavily on you.

Read the comment above mine with understanding.

So many depressed souk roaming this cruel world

Time heals all wounds, people don't talk about death as much as they should but in reality, death is one of the characteristics of living things, it's a compulsory end to every one of us, life is the disease and death the cure. The more you realize this, the better prepared you are for life.

Life your life like it's the last, whether you grow old or you die by chance , it's the same death, just be prepared and keep your house in order at all times.

you never get over the death of your mum, loosing her is like loosing a part of you. But you have to be strong, time heals all wounds.

Hmm it's not easy though, if i tell you i normally go to the bush and pray to God that he should take my life before my parents while i was in secondary school you will feel am lying but i was doing that because i couldn't imagine myself without my mom or dad, infact the thought alone sends migraine down my spine but all that i was afraid of came over me, I lost my both parents within the space of a year but do you know what?? God literally took away my emotion and gave me one of the greatest comfort that i couldn't imagine till today infact i was the one comforting my elder siblings. Just pray to God through our lord Jesus Christ and you had see an immeasurable grace of upliftment pour on you cheers bro.

Sorry for your loss bro...
At the long run, we are all dead....!! Be strong bro because A wise man once told me

"Death is a debt we all owe and must pay with our lives one day..."

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

grow up

Amotolongbo:
Dear OP
My sincere condolence

Getting over the death of your mum is a choice.
That is, getting over your mum’s death is in your hands and no one else’s hands.
Definitely, it takes time to heal, but the time healing extent is a factor which you have the power to determine and influence. You may not heal if you decide living on the matter.

I know of a boy (last born like you) whose Mother died in 1999 when he was just 7years. Till today (at age 30) he hasn’t come off it and has no significant life achievement, now jumping from one prophet to another. Anytime I come across him, the song he sings often is “iku lo meja ka ko” (death is responsible for the fish bending), the death of his mother is responsible for his life predicaments.

There is one thing you have to bear in mind, nothing can be done to bring your mum back to life. But you have to move on with your life. Not getting over your mum’s death will surely make you stagnant in life and definitely death of your career and mental death. Your mum will never be happy seeing this if she has the opportunity to see how you are faring after her demise.

No one can help you to move on after losing your mum, they can only try. Brace up and move on to face the next challenges of life as a motherless man and not a motherless baby/boy at 29.

Very comprehensive advice. You are great councillor and adviser

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

sorryfor your loss dear ,time will heal your pain and you will be fine just continue to be strong.

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

Only time heals all wounds, with time you'll definitely come over it

I understand how you feel man, I lost my mum and dad in just one year,
Lost mum November 7th 2020
Lost my dad November 8th 2021... They both died in my arms and I’m yet to heal but I just have to keep moving

29yrs old and you are behaving like a kid
Do you know how many years I was when I lost my Dad?
My little cousin is currently in Jss1 (11yrs) And His mom gave up the ghost due to kidney problem and the little boy never drop any tears on the burial day, people were so surprised bcox He is the only child.
Oga abeg stop lamenting bcox u don pax Dix stage, I hate to see adult behaving like a kid.
MAN-UP and move on that is the reality of life.
Maybe it depends on the type of heart you have tho.
May the soul of your mom continue to Rest in peace, take heart Bro, you will get over it with time.
Don't mind my tone of writing oo

The LORD is your strength. May her soul rest in peace

Pray and quote these verse. May God continue to comfort you.

Psalm 147:3

He health the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.

Sh*t happened to me too, I thought my life has ended. But here I am, my mum is almost becoming a memory as she's fading away from my head. I still once in a while glance through my gallery to look at her beautiful face and smile to her. With time you will heal brother, am 1yr and 1month after her death.
Take heart brother it would pass away.

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

March 4 this year made it 1 year since I lost my dad. I was really pained and heartbroken cos this man was my biggest fan, and unlike my other siblings, I was the only he could call on phone and we'd discuss at depth from family to politics, literally any and everything. I was the last born so I spent more time with him growing up as my older ones elected to live away from home due to one thing or the other, I truly shared a special connection with him.

I was a shadow of my former self after his death, I stopped living. Life was meaningless to me and I even stopped going to church as I kept asking God why a healthy and strong man who has almost never gotten ill just died all of a sudden. I became violent after that and even caused a scene at his burial. To make matter worst, I lost an opportunity to travel out of the country via a job that came with relocation benefits, this was after I made it to the last stage of the process.

It was not easy for me, but life must go on. I just started going to church again last month and even though I still miss my dad, I have learned to live without him. I have been showering my mum with so much love that my dad would be proud and happy from up there.

Jointheir7:
Please, accept my heartfelt condolences... your loss is still fresh. Please, give yourself time and try not to be alone as much as possible... may God's healing and comfort flow into your heart.

The same god that caused his mother’s death. The same god who cherry-pick and choose to let death persist even though his mother didn’t commit the original sin?
The same god who decided to watch op cry and laugh because if he had made his mom perfect he’d not be here relieving his experience?

Please you people should stop all this god bullshi.t. That moist isn’t slightly the way y’all try to make him look.

It's not easy. I lost my dad 2017. He died in my hands at fmc yenagoa. We weren't best of friends but till now, I haven't gotten over it. My case was worst because I kept seeing him in my dream, so angry, pointing to d left , showing me who killed him. I haven't still gotten over his death especially when family pressure arises. He absorbed so many family pressure on my behalf. I still use the wrapper they use in covering his lifeless body to sleep every night.

Apksh6:
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are you ok?

ChybuzzDD:



Who went to Heaven to do the videoing

I wanted to ask the same question.. But since OP issue is saddening I just let go

dboY1123:
It is a month already that my mom died in my hands.. I am really depressed!! I have been seeing life as nothing and vanity, I can't get over her, memories with her kept coming back really hard I tried to keep myself busy by watching movies, playing games and so on..But that doesn't stop my mind from remembering her.

These days, nothing bothers me again, not even life or death, I still have a father but it doesn't change things..

There was a time I went to school (my ppa), my proprietor was trying to pacify me by talking about when he lost his wife back then and everything, I started feeling uneasy and extremely tired..it wasn't stress at all my stomach started aching and I felt like vomiting or even passing out..he noticed it and I quickly left his presence and I went back home to shower and rest..

Please how can I get over my mom, I'm so obsessed with her and her memories kept coming in my head that every time I felt I could have done something to rescue her despite everything I did, taking her to state hospitals and even private.. I am the last born and I am about 29years..I have elder ones like 45(first born) but I took so much responsibilities when she was sick and I was only the one she could call everytime she's depressed due to memory loss..I later found out her sickness was related to heart failure and it was congestive heart failure she was going through.. All those times we thought she had nocturnal asthma like early last year..

It was only last month we knew that it was cardiomyopathy or cardiomegaly heart related.. The general hospitals we took her too didn't say anything like that, one of them only said her liver seemed bigger than the normal one..And we thought it was edema cz her legs were swollen.. So, it was heart related disease and it led to cardiac arrest or heart attack cz she just vomited and stopped breathing all of a sudden..

My thoughts and prayers with your family when your mums leg started swelling that is a huge sign of fluid retention I noticed my mum was limping and gave her a massage she didn’t like how hard my hand was around the area but that’s the only way to spread the fluid back.

Please let’s also encourage our mothers to take walks or keep their feet propped up when sitting for long hours at the shop and also massage their hands it’s because in retirement they hardly move or sit for a long time so water flows down to the feet and stays there if there’s any member of your family with the same please tell them being active helps


When I was young they use to call me waka waka lol but now na lifesaver o