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Theo51:
My ex that is married with 3kids does ask me for money too. Honestly, If I say I'm comfortable with such an act from her then I lieee.
However, I have managed to draw a line in that my communication with her no dey pass "How are you & family"? " How is Life"? Shelinah. And I'm also happy she doesn't stress the conversation whenever she called.

wait o ! So exs MUST turn enemies to make it ok. Is it the pains of asking for money or that it is coming from one who should have turned your enemy ? I don’t get

stickle:
What is your point exactly? That she should be left cheating while living under another's roof.
Or will you have her husband beating her?

I believe I made my point pretty clear in my initial comments.

Kobojunkie:
I personally don't agree with getting her family involved as I believe marriage is instead an affair between a man and his wife. Telling her sister of what she has been up to amounts to reporting her affairs to family as if a child, shaming if you would. She is an adult and shouldn't have to be subjected to such treatment regardless of what she has done.

I would instead recommend professional marriage counseling where an unbiased professional gets to help you properly reach a resolution that best fits you both.

Na that professional counseling go kee u las las

Una no dey ever use sense advise people. Yet whenna redpiller comes in, y'all start wailing like banshees.

Arkhanmu.... You complained and BEGGED your wife to stop communicating with her ex, in your own house? That's the height of simping for God's sake. Why are you the man ehn...to beg and cry before your wife listens to you?

I won't advise you on this issue. I'm tired of advising men who just don't wanna learn

@op be decisive... If you don't like something then don't condole it... Be a man, look at her eye ball to eye ball and give her one more chance and your verdict. Not in abusive way though, but be firm as a man in your decision.

Eriokanmi:
It's normal. My ex still asks me for money till moro. We're best of friends but with no strings attached. First love is hard to let go of.

Yet when I asked you, you blocked my line


Stingy asssss niggaaaa

Bro, no be only u dey enter dat Hot pot. Her Ex sabi smoov d tin pass u be dat o

Amumaigwe:
Who has solved a woman's problem completely? Very insatiable creature. That's why a woman will do runs and earn 50k a night, and on her way back another person tempts her with 2k, she will still open the same office for him. It is natural.

Hahahhahahaha

Faber:
One of my ex girlfriends told me clearly that any man that marries her will be in soup because she will continue to cheat on him with me and she means it.

She is with a new guy now and still wants to be visiting me in Benin City. She stays in Lagos...she keep sending her nudes. We broke up since 2018. Some girls are just hooked up to their ex. They only married their husbands for marriage sake.

Op there's nothing you can do other than a) kill her ex, track him down and kill him. b) Divorce . The choice is yours.

Do you bang her

akpascomartino:
God bless you for this. Cheating not perculiar to a tribe. I dated a girl from my tribe for four months. Unknown to me she was meeting another guy in Ajegunle. Perhaps she thought as I live in Lekki, I won't know her movement from her base Alausa to Ajegunle. This is a girl from same village.
Some girls of nowadays are terrible.

Lol sharp guy how do you know?

I don't understand, someone already let you know they belong to the streets. What other outcome were you expecting?

Arkhanmu:
During few times of my personal meeting before our wedding, I noticed huge communication between her and this man. I called her attention to it but she just waived it aside saying they are just friends as Ex (stuff). She joined me up in Lagos after the marriage but the communication between them still continued.


I don't really know what is going on again in my life as I am heartbroken.

naija4life247:
Very poor adulterers. I am a struggling Nigga, but in the last 5 years, I have not given anybody less than 10K. I don't even date side chicks that will ask for less than 10K. Please don't see this a bragging, keeping side chicks is a sin. But, if you want to sin, sin well. Don't sin with wretched Churh rats.

So you left Southern Nigeria to go and marry an Olosho Almajari. No pity for you. You never go Anambra or Imo state before? I did NYSC at Anambra and frequently visited Imo and Enugu, I almost did not want to return to Lagos because of the beautiful creatures that God created and allocated to Igbo land. You now left Southern Nigeria to go marry a promiscuous Almajari.

Hahahhahahaha so southern kaduna has become almajiri

WHITELIGHTER:
My sister asked me, Why do (African)men even get married? This was after she told me certain experiences she encountered with most married women at her place of business.

Whenever i see this kind of post coupled with the experiences of my younger brothers, i beg to agree with her question. Marriage wasn't built to favour an average African Man

My 2kobo

Please can you tell us what she told you, let's learn

"and they have nice experience together while dating back then"..... I can see your chest did not pain you when heard this, hence your shilly shally attitude.
Twins huh!?...

Nwaezehopr:
Some times I do give marriage second thought because I too jealous and I hardly forgive. ladies of these generation is something else. Imagine one of my friend's ex sending him nude pictures while with her husband in the night. Even asking him to come and Bleep her.

Hahahhahahaha

Arkhanmu:
About the kids,I doubt they are not mine.Too much semblance with my late dad.Well I still Sha,thanks

resemblance doesn't mean they are yours. Try get the DNA test before you waste you hard earned money training someone's children

Channah1:
If you're really taking care of your woman, she won't have any cause to look outside.


Perform your duties in the home like her ex and see her change otherwise she's a LovePeddler.

that's a big lie...! A cheat is a cheat period

Arkhanmu:
I married my wife in Kaduna two years ago. During those period we were dating, we were very much apart due to distance. She stayed in Kaduna while I worked in Lagos.

During few times of my personal meeting before our wedding, I noticed huge communication between her and this man. I called her attention to it but she just waived it aside saying they are just friends as Ex (stuff). She joined me up in Lagos after the marriage but the communication between them still continued.

This is a woman I have sacrificed so much for in my life by providing her basics need with the children even though not huge like that. She told me the Ex is a Doctor and they have nice experience together while dating back then. I have adviced even begged her to stop this communication as it it very hurtful and insulting to my personality but she won't stop. Instead she secretly calls and requests money from this guy in almost different occasions.

At a point in time in the past when she went to Kaduna to get her transfer from work place to Lagos, she still visit the guy even as she is heavily pregnant that time. I was able to get the idea through her bank account statement when the same guy send her money for what business I don't understand. It is almost 2 years of our marriage now, I am starting to regret why I marry her initially even as I noticed much difference between us; she is from Southern Kaduna while am from Ibadan.

I wish I have married my tribe whom I can easily understand. Just yesterday night I see another 4k alert from the same guy to my wife. I am really pained though I have not confront her. See guys, I have 2 boys, twin, I take care of them, buy food and all.

Though my work is not going fine but I try my best to make her happy but it seems she is not built for me. I don't really know what is going on again in my life as I am heartbroken.

Maybe the man is even in Lagos most times self. Many things are just running through my mind.

the Doctor in question is even a poor man. How can u send 4k to a grown up woman.
My guy don't worry it will stop. Just give her time and also try to make her comfortable because for her to collect 4k from her ex it sends a lot of massage to me.
2. Don't ever allow her to travel to that kaduna.

Another foolish yuroba Muslim bites the dust

Lightorder:
wait o ! So exs MUST turn enemies to make it ok. Is it the pains of asking for money or that it is coming from one who should have turned your enemy ? I don’t get

it's not that exes should turn to enemies but we are talking about boundaries here. What joined you together then is no longer there so there should be boundaries. Imagine your taior. If you stop sewing clothes will you still be going to his or her shop again? For what then?

Arkhanmu:
I married my wife in Kaduna two years ago. During those period we were dating, we were very much apart due to distance. She stayed in Kaduna while I worked in Lagos.

During few times of my personal meeting before our wedding, I noticed huge communication between her and this man. I called her attention to it but she just waived it aside saying they are just friends as Ex (stuff). She joined me up in Lagos after the marriage but the communication between them still continued.

This is a woman I have sacrificed so much for in my life by providing her basics need with the children even though not huge like that. She told me the Ex is a Doctor and they have nice experience together while dating back then. I have adviced even begged her to stop this communication as it it very hurtful and insulting to my personality but she won't stop. Instead she secretly calls and requests money from this guy in almost different occasions.

At a point in time in the past when she went to Kaduna to get her transfer from work place to Lagos, she still visit the guy even as she is heavily pregnant that time. I was able to get the idea through her bank account statement when the same guy send her money for what business I don't understand. It is almost 2 years of our marriage now, I am starting to regret why I marry her initially even as I noticed much difference between us; she is from Southern Kaduna while am from Ibadan.

I wish I have married my tribe whom I can easily understand. Just yesterday night I see another 4k alert from the same guy to my wife. I am really pained though I have not confront her. See guys, I have 2 boys, twin, I take care of them, buy food and all.

Though my work is not going fine but I try my best to make her happy but it seems she is not built for me. I don't really know what is going on again in my life as I am heartbroken.

Maybe the man is even in Lagos most times self. Many things are just running through my mind.

I will advise you leave that bondage (marriage) now and do your DNA test because I am sure you may die before BUHARI leaves NIGERIA for TINUBU

If you continue you will die very very soon

Most a lady finds it hard to let go the man who broke her hymen which could be the doctor in question.
Hearing that ex partners still meet makes me feel disgusting, if not that they have affair together, they infact should hate each because of the circumstances which have broken their relationship, that's my disputable view anyway.

Yankee101:
I would doubt
I can send gifts without any attachment
He can make sure of that for his self assurance

Not in this case.

They are fuvvkking

He is the father of one of your kids.

TerAdo:
it's not that exes should turn to enemies but we are talking about boundaries here. What joined you together then is no longer there so there should be boundaries. Imagine your taior. If you stop sewing clothes will you still be going to his or her shop again? For what then?

lol ! I have a tailor who no longer sows for me but we are friends. I bought a house in 2019 and he turned out to be an insider among the omoniles who made it very easy , smooth and authentic for me. But I understand that there are boundaries to avoid temptations . Though most people sound as if when dey are married , exs become killer terrorists who shouldn’t exist when they have done nothing wrong

Arkhanmu:
I married my wife in Kaduna two years ago. During those period we were dating, we were very much apart due to distance. She stayed in Kaduna while I worked in Lagos.

During few times of my personal meeting before our wedding, I noticed huge communication between her and this man. I called her attention to it but she just waived it aside saying they are just friends as Ex (stuff). She joined me up in Lagos after the marriage but the communication between them still continued.

This is a woman I have sacrificed so much for in my life by providing her basics need with the children even though not huge like that. She told me the Ex is a Doctor and they have nice experience together while dating back then. I have adviced even begged her to stop this communication as it it very hurtful and insulting to my personality but she won't stop. Instead she secretly calls and requests money from this guy in almost different occasions.

At a point in time in the past when she went to Kaduna to get her transfer from work place to Lagos, she still visit the guy even as she is heavily pregnant that time. I was able to get the idea through her bank account statement when the same guy send her money for what business I don't understand. It is almost 2 years of our marriage now, I am starting to regret why I marry her initially even as I noticed much difference between us; she is from Southern Kaduna while am from Ibadan.

I wish I have married my tribe whom I can easily understand. Just yesterday night I see another 4k alert from the same guy to my wife. I am really pained though I have not confront her. See guys, I have 2 boys, twin, I take care of them, buy food and all.

Though my work is not going fine but I try my best to make her happy but it seems she is not built for me. I don't really know what is going on again in my life as I am heartbroken.

Maybe the man is even in Lagos most times self. Many things are just running through my mind.

As obnoxious as RP is on the internet, this is the point.

To help men not settle for rubbish. Cuz wetin be this

OP, your marriage life is effectively over except you become toxic on your matrimonial bed

But you're too blue pilled to understand what that means or how to even apply it.

You're a cautionary tale. Sorry.

Lightorder:
wait o ! So exs MUST turn enemies to make it ok. Is it the pains of asking for money or that it is coming from one who should have turned your enemy ? I don’t get

una go just open mouth dey talk rubbish bc majority of men don't know how to put their women in one place

assetsovermoney:
una go just open mouth dey talk rubbish bc majority of men don't know how to put their women in one place

I don’t understand you o

The first time you saw that before u married her, God show you so that u can run but u were carried away by the love! Now your eye done clear, carry your cross no divorce till death! Live us alone, we are single and happy! Enjoy your marriage.

Arkhanmu:
I married my wife in Kaduna two years ago. During those period we were dating, we were very much apart due to distance. She stayed in Kaduna while I worked in Lagos.

During few times of my personal meeting before our wedding, I noticed huge communication between her and this man. I called her attention to it but she just waived it aside saying they are just friends as Ex (stuff). She joined me up in Lagos after the marriage but the communication between them still continued.

This is a woman I have sacrificed so much for in my life by providing her basics need with the children even though not huge like that. She told me the Ex is a Doctor and they have nice experience together while dating back then. I have adviced even begged her to stop this communication as it it very hurtful and insulting to my personality but she won't stop. Instead she secretly calls and requests money from this guy in almost different occasions.

At a point in time in the past when she went to Kaduna to get her transfer from work place to Lagos, she still visit the guy even as she is heavily pregnant that time. I was able to get the idea through her bank account statement when the same guy send her money for what business I don't understand. It is almost 2 years of our marriage now, I am starting to regret why I marry her initially even as I noticed much difference between us; she is from Southern Kaduna while am from Ibadan.

I wish I have married my tribe whom I can easily understand. Just yesterday night I see another 4k alert from the same guy to my wife. I am really pained though I have not confront her. See guys, I have 2 boys, twin, I take care of them, buy food and all.

Though my work is not going fine but I try my best to make her happy but it seems she is not built for me. I don't really know what is going on again in my life as I am heartbroken.

Maybe the man is even in Lagos most times self. Many things are just running through my mind.

Guy
She will never learn if you don't teach her a lesson.

Gather all your evidence to court and divorce her. The evidence will help you get the children to your side.

A hoe will always be a hoe.

For school dat year Southern Kaduna girls are the easiest to have free to cheap sex with. Na confam thing ask any ABU guy.

Of course your wife dey different