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RightToReject:
Cut the guy some slack. Your single sentence has two notable errors. A lot, not "alot" and sentences, not "sentence."

So, the correct version of your sentence should be: "A university graduate typed this episode with a lot of uncoordinated sentences."

The pot calling the kettle black.

Guy why now!!!
You have just given him brutality in mortal Kombat. Finish Him
Their over sabi dey always draw their leg come out for public. See how he just publicly disgraced his family name

baby124:
Doctor can also be mentally ill. You are a nobody and a nuisance like the OP’s brother. I am sure the OP’s brother too will come online and claim he’s an astronaut. Nobody in their right senses chat rubbish like you. I am damn sure you know a lot about Schizophrenia. You better go and seek help because you need it. You are already cursed and so are your children and all your family members. See this delusional nuisance o. Ashiere

Lol u re mental illness u re diagnosed with hypomania u need help i think I was talking to someone with brain b4 doh I pity ur generation they re curse nd will amount to nothing lol dead on arrival sorry for them sha

Moonshine101:
Hello Everyone!

I have a family issue but I don't have someone to speak to about it, so I'm very grateful for your inputs on this matter.

SOME BACKSTORY (You can skip this if you want):
I'm the youngest of my two siblings (26M). I have a sister and a brother. My sister's kinda okay. My brother (35) is a selfish, toxic and entitled person. He dropped out from the university, doesn't have a job and he steals from my parents like my dad's watches or property or my mum's jewellery and then sells them to buy weed or something.

One time he sold my mum's car and after some police and legal issue that basically went nowhere, she basically had to steal it back (The guy who bought it, passed away a little while after, so I guess that case is closed..), he once took my phone while I was sleeping because I refused to give him a different phone I had, that belongs to me after selling his own phone or something. It's like he acts solely on impulse. My dad (who's in his 70s now) is almost always on security alert when my brother is around. As for my mom, she just straight up enables him and bails him out of trouble every time, saying things like "He's your brother" or "God will change him" when I talk to her about it. My brother and I got into a fight, like a year before I left for university, because he wanted to look around my room to see if I had his usb cable despite me telling him I don't have it nor have I seen it. That was the last time I willingly spoke to him.

My family moved into a new house and I finally left for school (my brother stayed in the old house and my sister moved in with her husband after marriage, so it was just him over there). During my 3rd year, I called my dad, asking him for some money because I was broke, and during the phone call, my dad tells me that he's at the hospital cuz my brother and some girl just had a kid. okay.. I came back for holidays and found out that his baby mama (who's also toxic and insults people alot) and kid, my nephew, are staying with us, with my parents providing for them while my brother stays in the older house, renting it out to people (who messed up the house and compound to the point it just became a disgusting place to live in) obviously without permission from my parents (who don't even own that house, it belongs to my uncle). By the time I graduated and came back home, he was now living with us in the new house because free food and no bills, I guess.

I haven't gotten a job yet so I'm stuck here.

Recently, he's been staying away from me because I don't talk to him or even look at him.

BACK TO THE TOPIC:
Around a year ago, I had a serious wakeup call and decided that, if I was going to go forward in life I would have to better myself so I began a journey of meditation and self-improvement, and I think I've made some good progress. Now the issue is my brother---earlier today, I saw him scouting our house (after my parents went out) and I could instantly tell he was up to no good. I was cooking when I began to hear some noise from upstairs like he was hacking at something. He came downstairs and readied his car while my cousin who stays with us (19) carried the AC unit my brother was planning to sell.
Usually I'll just mind my business and avoid him because he's an adult-child (narcissist) and I think he'll just put his vindictive sights on me if I interfere, but this time I don't know what came over me..

I called my cousin and demanded where he was taking that AC to. I then asked my brother (first time in years I've spoken to him) why he was taking it, he just gave one nonsense flimsy excuse then I told my cousin to return it. When he tried to explain whatever, I didn't acknowledge his presence, I just ignored him and ate my food. He just stood there staring at me for like 3 minutes before he left while murmuring something.

The main reason I've been avoiding him for long is because he's toxic and I decided that family or not, toxicity is still toxicity. He's very exploitative and once he familiarises with someone it's like an opening to trample the person's boundaries. I think I confronted him today because the more you ignore bad/evil the stronger it becomes and eventually it will come for you except now it'll be stronger from all the experience.

The issue is, I don't want to relapse into my old life of toxicity by further engaging him if he decides to steal from me on get physical because he's the kind of person that only listens to actions, not words.
Please, what do you think I do?

/
The blame lies solely on your parents. They overpampared their first son. They are reaping the results.
Take solace in knowing that the millennials are worse.
/

Killerbag36:
Lol u re mental ;Dillness u re diagnosed with hypomania u need help i think I was talking to someone with brain b4 doh I pity ur generation they re curse nd will amount to nothing lol dead on arrival sorry for them sha

Doctor indeed. Delusional cursed being from a family of cursed people. Keep cursing yourself deeper and deeper and exposing the illnesses you are battling. I see you are already battling with Ogun Idile. So I will let it destroy you, your children and all your family members . I don’t want to derail OP’s thread again, so I will leave you to keep writing senselessly with no head or tail.

CaveAdullam:
Even if you leave the house, your parents will still be under his torment, and probably will hasten their way to the grave. Both environment and parental upbringing play important roles in the life of a child, so let's assume that something went wrong along that line. No need to digress.

Meditation is not timidity, the essence is to accumulate tranquillity within so that you can be able to have enough energy to counter external chaos. So, don't think confronting your brother is wrong, since he's unable to act like an elder brother and a mature adult you must treat him as a child while seeing him as an adult.

Adults only change by their volition. Therapy, counseling, and advice only work if they choose to allow it. The best thing is to match their level and counter them there. There is no need to talk too much.

To treat toxic people, position yourself at a level of power where you can trample on their toxicity, don't take it likely with them, and feed them with their spoons. Counter toxicity with toxicity. If their degree of toxicity is 1 make your own 2 or 2+ or 2 pro or 2 max...doing this will make them steer clear. Narcissistic and toxic people don't respond to words of hope and encouragement, what they care about is themselves, and it is that image of themselves you must destroy. The more you try to make them see reasons with you, the more you elevate their ego, and the more they think they are worth shit. They normally misconstrue this as you being afraid of them. So, the best thing is to counter them, especially in tough scenarios like this where you can't simply avoid them.

Your brother is a pet snake turned wild, you can't destroy him because he's a pet and can't allow him to roam freely because he's now wild. The best thing to do is to cage him. Match his toxicity, block his freedom... "Just dey give am wotowoto, fire for fire".

Thanks.

@ bolded, I can fight fire with fire but toxicity takes a toll on me and really affects my self improvement.

Asquare84:
A university graduate typed this episode with alot of uncoordinated sentence.

oga shut up and give your advice

Teacher Washington
Is English your mothers tongue

Ona go just come internet begin type rubbish

Moonshine101:
Hello Everyone!

I have a family issue but I don't have someone to speak to about it, so I'm very grateful for your inputs on this matter.

SOME BACKSTORY (You can skip this if you want):
I'm the youngest of my two siblings (26M). I have a sister and a brother. My sister's kinda okay. My brother (35) is a selfish, toxic and entitled person. He dropped out from the university, doesn't have a job and he steals from my parents like my dad's watches or property or my mum's jewellery and then sells them to buy weed or something.

One time he sold my mum's car and after some police and legal issue that basically went nowhere, she basically had to steal it back (The guy who bought it, passed away a little while after, so I guess that case is closed..), he once took my phone while I was sleeping because I refused to give him a different phone I had, that belongs to me after selling his own phone or something. It's like he acts solely on impulse. My dad (who's in his 70s now) is almost always on security alert when my brother is around. As for my mom, she just straight up enables him and bails him out of trouble every time, saying things like "He's your brother" or "God will change him" when I talk to her about it. My brother and I got into a fight, like a year before I left for university, because he wanted to look around my room to see if I had his usb cable despite me telling him I don't have it nor have I seen it. That was the last time I willingly spoke to him.

My family moved into a new house and I finally left for school (my brother stayed in the old house and my sister moved in with her husband after marriage, so it was just him over there). During my 3rd year, I called my dad, asking him for some money because I was broke, and during the phone call, my dad tells me that he's at the hospital cuz my brother and some girl just had a kid. okay.. I came back for holidays and found out that his baby mama (who's also toxic and insults people alot) and kid, my nephew, are staying with us, with my parents providing for them while my brother stays in the older house, renting it out to people (who messed up the house and compound to the point it just became a disgusting place to live in) obviously without permission from my parents (who don't even own that house, it belongs to my uncle). By the time I graduated and came back home, he was now living with us in the new house because free food and no bills, I guess.

I haven't gotten a job yet so I'm stuck here.

Recently, he's been staying away from me because I don't talk to him or even look at him.

BACK TO THE TOPIC:
Around a year ago, I had a serious wakeup call and decided that, if I was going to go forward in life I would have to better myself so I began a journey of meditation and self-improvement, and I think I've made some good progress. Now the issue is my brother---earlier today, I saw him scouting our house (after my parents went out) and I could instantly tell he was up to no good. I was cooking when I began to hear some noise from upstairs like he was hacking at something. He came downstairs and readied his car while my cousin who stays with us (19) carried the AC unit my brother was planning to sell.
Usually I'll just mind my business and avoid him because he's an adult-child (narcissist) and I think he'll just put his vindictive sights on me if I interfere, but this time I don't know what came over me..

I called my cousin and demanded where he was taking that AC to. I then asked my brother (first time in years I've spoken to him) why he was taking it, he just gave one nonsense flimsy excuse then I told my cousin to return it. When he tried to explain whatever, I didn't acknowledge his presence, I just ignored him and ate my food. He just stood there staring at me for like 3 minutes before he left while murmuring something.

The main reason I've been avoiding him for long is because he's toxic and I decided that family or not, toxicity is still toxicity. He's very exploitative and once he familiarises with someone it's like an opening to trample the person's boundaries. I think I confronted him today because the more you ignore bad/evil the stronger it becomes and eventually it will come for you except now it'll be stronger from all the experience.

The issue is, I don't want to relapse into my old life of toxicity by further engaging him if he decides to steal from me on get physical because he's the kind of person that only listens to actions, not words.
Please, what do you think I do?

I'm not too sure about what your question is but the little I know about training I should be able to chip in a bit.

First of all it takes a man to train a man, a mother's job is to nurture her son while a father's job is admonition. InDiscipline boys end up in prison, on the street or dead. Your father is solely responsible for the outcome of your brother, he didn't train him. Yes, teenager take a detour and start misbehaving, it's the responsibility of a father to guide them back to the light with whatever means possible.

Your mother should understand by now that God doesn't change children, God gave the parents the responsibility to train the children so that as they get old that training becomes their moral compass.

At this point your parents need to put their foot down and give your brother an ultimatum to decide on a skill to learn, to get alternative accommodation, and should anything go missing in the house he will be thrown out. The only language people like your brother understand is firm force.

Asquare84:
A university graduate typed this episode with alot of uncoordinated sentence.

Face the topic

Asquare84:
A university graduate typed this episode with alot of uncoordinated sentence.

you can tell he typed this with emotions

RightToReject:
Cut the guy some slack. Your single sentence has two notable errors. A lot, not "alot" and sentences, not "sentence."

So, the correct version of your sentence should be: "A university graduate typed this episode with a lot of uncoordinated sentences."

The pot calling the kettle black.

Klass99:
But his presence serves as a good deterrent and buffer for the aged parents na.

the parents need to learn the hard way… I hate foolishness especially from adults, the parents are even helping him to be wayward.

Asquare84:
A university graduate typed this episode with alot of uncoordinated sentence.

na the kind graduate wey Nigeria de produce be that na'im make ASUU say make Dem sidon for house

anthonyuncle:
get a gun,
it might come in handy very soon

Op before you listen to this comedian and save yourself the headache

Make sure you get a license at least

Your brother is probably on crack or meth. The best thing you can do is advise your parents to put him in rehab otherwise you could get a call one day that he has killed ur parents and sold the house. He needs to leave that house ASAP.

Everyday when a girl does one tenth of what the op just outlined , you have silly people who say they never wish to have a female child.

Where are they now? Double standards

The other day it was a woman who talked about her two sons being very wayward and not knowing what to do with them.

The worst a female child can become is a prostitute. You see that other gender, they can even armed robbers, kidnappers, agberos, drug pushers, ritualists etc.

God help you people.

Moonshine101:
@ bolded, I can fight fire with fire but toxicity takes a toll on me and really affects my self improvement.

When handling a sword, you can commit murder, suicide, or protect with it or, even all. It is left for you to decide how you'll use this sword.

Thanks.

Moonshine let hook me, so I can help you med that your brother as e no get sense...

Peace ✌️

Have you ever thought about it, that you were born to help your brother get better, have you had heart to heart talk with him, have you ever thought if you were in his condition what would he have done? Think and act wisely. Blood is thicker than water. Help him out, in fact if you can, forward his contact I can help him get better

Have you ever thought about it, that you were born to help your brother get better, have you had heart to heart talk with him, have you ever thought if you were in his condition what would he have done? Think and act wisely. Blood is thicker than water. Help him out, in fact if you can, forward his contact I can help him get better.


Again I repeat, make him get back to loving ways

Asquare84:
A university graduate typed this episode with alot of uncoordinated sentence.

Nigerians always looking for ways to prove they are smart .
If you don't get his gist, click on the next gist.

Asquare84:
A university graduate typed this episode with alot of uncoordinated sentence.

you are a fool. idiot

Killerbag36:
Wow I taught its was only me dat know wats wrong with that guy b4 lol weed wen b 100 ok mk we say e de take loud which 3k nd e de high bt e no they put for speed lane na only crack concaine na get dat power to make u de sell property nd valuable obey na Charlie nd thyland they put ur brother for speed oga there's no cure for it okay only carry am go rehab nd wem he has gotten him sef from the trauma send him to a community where e no know anybody nd find hand work for him finish if not nothing go change

Of a truth be told nothing sweet pass crack cocoane with thyland e sweet pass woman toto

I can relate but it's also dangerous

your parents gave him the privilege that made him this bad...

from my understanding you are not from a poor family, tell your parents to start now to write their will and share the properties so that you can protect your own and bigger problems in future... he might end up selling the Houses and other properties...


as for your brother..... he can never change

try and setup yourself to be independent make sure you tell your parents to do the sharing now, let your parents know that one day they will die and they won't be alive to settle problem.... I have seen cases that are worse than this

Killerbag36:
Oga na CK ooo
Na crack nd tyland ok go seek help

Nahh, I smoke colos, trabaye once once but never go overboard
My brother doesn’t smoke, everything for life no be drugs

baby124:
Doctor indeed. Delusional cursed being from a family of cursed people. Keep cursing yourself deeper and deeper and exposing the illnesses you are battling. I see you are already battling with Ogun Idile. So I will let it destroy you, your children and all your family members . I don’t want to derail OP’s thread again, so I will leave you to keep writing senselessly with no head or tail.

Sorry I pity for ur curse linage they so cursed that its can never been broken even with the blood of your generation nd family members all together I for their children also with ur mother nd father bearing the guilt of given birth to curse generation like u living a curse life of poverty nd degeneration of brain cells sha be ur company for life

Moonshine101:
Hello Everyone!

I have a family issue but I don't have someone to speak to about it, so I'm very grateful for your inputs on this matter.

SOME BACKSTORY (You can skip this if you want):
I'm the youngest of my two siblings (26M). I have a sister and a brother. My sister's kinda okay. My brother (35) is a selfish, toxic and entitled person. He dropped out from the university, doesn't have a job and he steals from my parents like my dad's watches or property or my mum's jewellery and then sells them to buy weed or something.

One time he sold my mum's car and after some police and legal issue that basically went nowhere, she basically had to steal it back (The guy who bought it, passed away a little while after, so I guess that case is closed..), he once took my phone while I was sleeping because I refused to give him a different phone I had, that belongs to me after selling his own phone or something. It's like he acts solely on impulse. My dad (who's in his 70s now) is almost always on security alert when my brother is around. As for my mom, she just straight up enables him and bails him out of trouble every time, saying things like "He's your brother" or "God will change him" when I talk to her about it. My brother and I got into a fight, like a year before I left for university, because he wanted to look around my room to see if I had his usb cable despite me telling him I don't have it nor have I seen it. That was the last time I willingly spoke to him.

My family moved into a new house and I finally left for school (my brother stayed in the old house and my sister moved in with her husband after marriage, so it was just him over there). During my 3rd year, I called my dad, asking him for some money because I was broke, and during the phone call, my dad tells me that he's at the hospital cuz my brother and some girl just had a kid. okay.. I came back for holidays and found out that his baby mama (who's also toxic and insults people alot) and kid, my nephew, are staying with us, with my parents providing for them while my brother stays in the older house, renting it out to people (who messed up the house and compound to the point it just became a disgusting place to live in) obviously without permission from my parents (who don't even own that house, it belongs to my uncle). By the time I graduated and came back home, he was now living with us in the new house because free food and no bills, I guess.

I haven't gotten a job yet so I'm stuck here.

Recently, he's been staying away from me because I don't talk to him or even look at him.

BACK TO THE TOPIC:
Around a year ago, I had a serious wakeup call and decided that, if I was going to go forward in life I would have to better myself so I began a journey of meditation and self-improvement, and I think I've made some good progress. Now the issue is my brother---earlier today, I saw him scouting our house (after my parents went out) and I could instantly tell he was up to no good. I was cooking when I began to hear some noise from upstairs like he was hacking at something. He came downstairs and readied his car while my cousin who stays with us (19) carried the AC unit my brother was planning to sell.
Usually I'll just mind my business and avoid him because he's an adult-child (narcissist) and I think he'll just put his vindictive sights on me if I interfere, but this time I don't know what came over me..

I called my cousin and demanded where he was taking that AC to. I then asked my brother (first time in years I've spoken to him) why he was taking it, he just gave one nonsense flimsy excuse then I told my cousin to return it. When he tried to explain whatever, I didn't acknowledge his presence, I just ignored him and ate my food. He just stood there staring at me for like 3 minutes before he left while murmuring something.

The main reason I've been avoiding him for long is because he's toxic and I decided that family or not, toxicity is still toxicity. He's very exploitative and once he familiarises with someone it's like an opening to trample the person's boundaries. I think I confronted him today because the more you ignore bad/evil the stronger it becomes and eventually it will come for you except now it'll be stronger from all the experience.

The issue is, I don't want to relapse into my old life of toxicity by further engaging him if he decides to steal from me on get physical because he's the kind of person that only listens to actions, not words.
Please, what do you think I do?

To help your brother- BIG REHABILITATION CENTER

To help yourself- HUSTLE OR DO YAHOO

EmmyDJourno:
Nahh, I smoke colos, trabaye once once but never go overboard
My brother doesn’t smoke, everything for life no be drugs

But it's can be a mental illness google.com its real bro..

Killerbag36:
But it's can be a mental illness google.com its real bro..

No need to Google anything, mental health issues are prevalent and in the open, thanks for your concern

Miyachi:
Just so you know, there's no word like "alot". It's "a lot". We all can be pedantic a-holes.

Tut.. tut... Such vawulence

I almost thought u were describing my brother. Sad u have one of "this" in ur family. They never change and are usually a bone in their parents throat. Like your mom, my mom always make the silly excuses of "he's your brother " bla bla bla, and no your mom is not promoting his behavior, mothers just have a different bond with their kids irrespective of their age and I'm sure ur mothers greatest heart desire and prayers is for him to change.

For our parents sanity, my siblings and I contributed and rented an apartment for a year for my wayward brother and his baby mama just so my parents could get a break from him being in their face in their house and causing havoc everytime.

U see the silent attitude u are giving him, it's the best for ur own sanity. However, just as u did, never keep quiet when u see an obvious theft.

Sad news is that they never change. My brother is now 41 and no single bit of responsible behavior in him.

Courage my dear. Just focus on u.

Moonshine101:
Hello Everyone!

I have a family issue but I don't have someone to speak to about it, so I'm very grateful for your inputs on this matter.

SOME BACKSTORY (You can skip this if you want):
I'm the youngest of my two siblings (26M). I have a sister and a brother. My sister's kinda okay. My brother (35) is a selfish, toxic and entitled person. He dropped out from the university, doesn't have a job and he steals from my parents like my dad's watches or property or my mum's jewellery and then sells them to buy weed or something.

One time he sold my mum's car and after some police and legal issue that basically went nowhere, she basically had to steal it back (The guy who bought it, passed away a little while after, so I guess that case is closed..), he once took my phone while I was sleeping because I refused to give him a different phone I had, that belongs to me after selling his own phone or something. It's like he acts solely on impulse. My dad (who's in his 70s now) is almost always on security alert when my brother is around. As for my mom, she just straight up enables him and bails him out of trouble every time, saying things like "He's your brother" or "God will change him" when I talk to her about it. My brother and I got into a fight, like a year before I left for university, because he wanted to look around my room to see if I had his usb cable despite me telling him I don't have it nor have I seen it. That was the last time I willingly spoke to him.

My family moved into a new house and I finally left for school (my brother stayed in the old house and my sister moved in with her husband after marriage, so it was just him over there). During my 3rd year, I called my dad, asking him for some money because I was broke, and during the phone call, my dad tells me that he's at the hospital cuz my brother and some girl just had a kid. okay.. I came back for holidays and found out that his baby mama (who's also toxic and insults people alot) and kid, my nephew, are staying with us, with my parents providing for them while my brother stays in the older house, renting it out to people (who messed up the house and compound to the point it just became a disgusting place to live in) obviously without permission from my parents (who don't even own that house, it belongs to my uncle). By the time I graduated and came back home, he was now living with us in the new house because free food and no bills, I guess.

I haven't gotten a job yet so I'm stuck here.

Recently, he's been staying away from me because I don't talk to him or even look at him.

BACK TO THE TOPIC:
Around a year ago, I had a serious wakeup call and decided that, if I was going to go forward in life I would have to better myself so I began a journey of meditation and self-improvement, and I think I've made some good progress. Now the issue is my brother---earlier today, I saw him scouting our house (after my parents went out) and I could instantly tell he was up to no good. I was cooking when I began to hear some noise from upstairs like he was hacking at something. He came downstairs and readied his car while my cousin who stays with us (19) carried the AC unit my brother was planning to sell.
Usually I'll just mind my business and avoid him because he's an adult-child (narcissist) and I think he'll just put his vindictive sights on me if I interfere, but this time I don't know what came over me..

I called my cousin and demanded where he was taking that AC to. I then asked my brother (first time in years I've spoken to him) why he was taking it, he just gave one nonsense flimsy excuse then I told my cousin to return it. When he tried to explain whatever, I didn't acknowledge his presence, I just ignored him and ate my food. He just stood there staring at me for like 3 minutes before he left while murmuring something.

The main reason I've been avoiding him for long is because he's toxic and I decided that family or not, toxicity is still toxicity. He's very exploitative and once he familiarises with someone it's like an opening to trample the person's boundaries. I think I confronted him today because the more you ignore bad/evil the stronger it becomes and eventually it will come for you except now it'll be stronger from all the experience.

The issue is, I don't want to relapse into my old life of toxicity by further engaging him if he decides to steal from me on get physical because he's the kind of person that only listens to actions, not words.
Please, what do you think I do?

check dis page on ig @afriproud, sho talk about awareness for mental & emotional health as well as gaslighting abuse.. u could even consult with her. Meanwhile get ur pepper spray. Take no chances. Malignant narcissist re cold & calculated they do not care. Go completely grey Rock since u still live under d same roof with him.

Killerbag36:
Bri im a doctor ooo
I do ck also I've money oo
So wen I say I've seen the symptoms I know ok
Nd the painful part its in all family its called schizophrenia nd if probably not managed its turn to madness
So if u say they should chase him out of his house cus of this then means curse be on to u nd ur house hold wen the clinical manifestation start shoeing in ur house hold please ensure u chase ur brother away or ur sister nd stop advising the op wrongly Street urchin like u.

At the bolded…..I guess you must be a native doctor.