Sugargul:


There are 4 weeks in a month. That’s still 80k.

OP, I did not see anything budgeted for your wife. She has needs too. Her hair, clothes, shoes, body lotion to look good for you. If you don’t give her, she might be left with no choice than to remove from the 80k to meet her needs. 80k is not a lot of money in these hard times.

NOETHNICITY:
Na ur type dey cause the early death of men.

Kobojunkie:
Actually, you are doing a better job of that all for and by yourself.

NOETHNICITY:
How please. Kindly explain cos am anxious to learn.

Romanoff:


Please don't mention me again.

I won't be as graceful as I was with him seeing that no one called you into this conversation.

Sugargul:


There are 4 weeks in a month. That’s still 80k.

OP, I did not see anything budgeted for your wife. She has needs too. Her hair, clothes, shoes, body lotion to look good for you. If you don’t give her, she might be left with no choice than to remove from the 80k to meet her needs. 80k is not a lot of money in these hard times.

emmanuelbrown26:

F. U. Ck off bitch

Kobojunkie:
Marriage is meant to be a partnership and much simpler living than living single, isn't it? Well, here you marriage reveals your life is worse than it was when you were probably single. Not only do you seem to carry the bulk of the financial burden for 4 more, you also stress yourself over the meaningless and are already looking to carrying on task of doing all the grocery planning and shopping for your home as well. All so you can spite your wife in some way.

Stress is the quickest killer and you are already piling it on by the loads.

Raalsalghul:


SMH.

Naija married men dey try.

This one has diverted from the topic and started talking about the wife's needs.

Romanoff:


Your mum must be proud of what you've become.

Nuisance.

NOETHNICITY:
Na so the women here be ooooo. You feed them, clothe them, feed their family join, and they will still expect you to be romantic in bed.

NOETHNICITY:
What do suggest please. Because you seem to sympathize with me over the at bolded, while you seem to differ in your other comment

NOETHNICITY:
Na so the women here be ooooo. You feed them, clothe them, feed their family join, and they will still expect you to be romantic in bed.

emmanuelbrown26:

Most times, u don't hv to blame d women for d shit, u blame men most times. Bcs, some men are never men at all, they don't hv willpower to say NO to there woman's excess demand during courtship.
Just take a very look at what op wrote, u will definitely agree with me that op enticed d woman with money during courtship or op begged d woman to marry him and this is just d consequences of such act.
Another angle, d wife's sister is living with them,. Whereas if reverse was to be case d case, where d husband younger brother is staying with them, heaven would hv let loose.
Generation of women we have this day are terrible, know this and know peace.
One was even supporting d wife excesses all bcs things are expensive in d market.

NOETHNICITY:
Thank you bro. My very line of thinking actually.
However, I intend to inform her later today that beggining next month, I'll personally be buying everything we are going to be needing at home. I'll only ask her to prepare a weekly shopping list for me.

Sugargul:


There are 4 weeks in a month. That’s still 80k.

OP, I did not see anything budgeted for your wife. She has needs too. Her hair, clothes, shoes, body lotion to look good for you. If you don’t give her, she might be left with no choice than to remove from the 80k to meet her needs. 80k is not a lot of money in these hard times.

satandeterrible:

Yeah sure.
OP is running a less privileged scheme.
Her wife is do useless that she can't provide even the most basic items for herself.

OP carried a burden. He didn't marry a partner.

satandeterrible:

Yeah sure.
OP is running a less privileged scheme.
Her wife is do useless that she can't provide even the most basic items for herself.

OP carried a burden. He didn't marry a partner.

NOETHNICITY:
Oga sorry, I am the op actually. Believe me, I am not the type that impresses women with money. Infact my wife doesn't know my true financial worth. And these are the very reasons I've always kept her in the dark as per my financial capabilities. Because I know if she's aware she would want more money. And seriously ontop of this amount I spend I've been tagged a stringy man already. Even though she doesn't tell me that to my face, I see it in her eyes.
The only reason I give this much money is actually because of the kids. And also because I don't want the issue food to be any problem in the house. Growing up wasn't easy for me, so I don't want my kids lacking goodies in the house.
Truth is I wanted to actually find out if I'm doing enough and that is the reason I created the thread.

emmanuelbrown26:

Oga mak I tell u d truth here, anybody wey go cum tell u say u no dey try na devil and enemy of progress. U are really trying in providing for d family in this hard times.
D nature of my hustle cum mak me dey meet and interact with people on daily bases, en get some families wey dey collect 130k monthly both husband and wife and dem dey ok. So why won't 80k be 3nough for d family. Something is wrong somewhere sir and u hv to find out that

tensazangetsu20:

You guys getting married and having kids here are o really trying.

3ple9iner:
Oga you get money oo, You should probably ask her to make a list of what she buys with the money so as for you to know how much is going to each items and you can also remove things that are not important.

satandeterrible:


Your misandry and bias was so evident that it warranted an insult.

Sorry, but I'm not sorry.
You deserved it.

How can you tell a man who provides all the provisions, the rice and other heavy foodstuff for the house - Including even the toiletries and stuff - that his 80k monthly to his wife is not enough?
That is wicked stupidity on your part.

This man buys fruits, bread and other things at home too oo.
Yet you tell me that 80k is not enough for the wife to provide soup and other very minor stuff in the house for a month?

That is wickedness, bias, misandry and intense stupidity on your part.

Kobojunkie:
Those who are instead in marriages are shared by both partners indeed have it easier than the "African husbands" out there who think they earn hero status by carrying it all on their heads.

In today's economic climate, marriage continues to make sense. Having two sources of income, where both partners work and contribute to the household bills, upkeep etc., makes more sense than being single and going it all alone. Indeed two heads are better than one. It is until you add children, egos etc., to the equation, then it shifts....

tensazangetsu20:
It only makes sense if the woman can pull her weight financially. Besides once kids come in, someone has to sacrifice their career to stay and raise the kids so the responsibility will still fall back on the mans head.

satandeterrible:


Your misandry and bias was so evident that it warranted an insult.

Sorry, but I'm not sorry.
You deserved it.

How can you tell a man who provides all the provisions, the rice and other heavy foodstuff for the house - Including even the toiletries and stuff - that his 80k monthly to his wife is not enough?
That is wicked stupidity on your part.

This man buys fruits, bread and other things at home too oo.
Yet you tell me that 80k is not enough for the wife to provide soup and other very minor stuff in the house for a month?

That is wickedness, bias, misandry and intense stupidity on your part.

lilyheaven:
When someone salary is 35k,
Another cannot manage 80k.
Some women are like that.
I have a neighbor, she will leave her generator on from 6pm to 9am.. even if Nepa bring light, she will tell you she doesn’t have strength to switch off gen. To cook soup they will eat for three days, she will need 20k
Her husband was complaining to me, to teach her home management, but when I met her mom, I found out where water follow enter boat.
Her husband needs not to complain, but to reduce the amount.

NOETHNICITY:
Please house, I use God almighty to beg una. I need urgent and sincere advice here please. Because I might make a terrible decision soon.

I've a family of 3kids, the eldest is 5 and the youngest will be 2 next month. My wife's younger sister lives with us.
One the first of this month, I gave my wife 80k for for food in the house. Please take note, that that money does not include provisions, like milk and milo and drinking water. At the end of every month, I spend about 30k stocking the house with all the provisions and things like all the soap we are gonna need for the month. In addition to this, I am responsible for making sure that a bag of rice is always available at all times. And also most days I don't eat breakfast before leaving the house. So I end up eating just dinner at home.
My wife just told my this morning that the feeding money is exhausted

Please I want advise, I use God beg una

Edited! Note that in addition to all this, I buy bread for the house every 2days because my kids take tea as breakfast every morning. I also give my wife's sister 10k every month for her recharge car. And some weekends I buy things like chicken, fish and turkey just to augment and make the family happy. Daily I spend on average 1k buying fruits for house. Yet 80k is not enough

Kobojunkie:
▪︎The "African husband" mentality makes sense in marriage for men who earn enough to bear the entire financial burden on their own without grudge or complain. We shouldn't forget that no one is forced into marriage of this kind against their own will.

▪︎ in the case that both partners earn and contribute their fair share to finances and upkeep, it also makes sense since with two sources of income, the burden is reduced on both of them.

Now, when kids show up, the choice to give up on career depends on the decisions and choices made by the couple. More and more neither the woman or the man have need to give up on career when children arrive as there are better ways to handle such changes from having family care for the kids, one partner or both working from home, or even taking advantage of available child daycare facilities.

So, depending on choices made, these things don't have to fall on the man unless he makes the choice to have it as such. So the statement in bold is only true if and when, again, the man chooses to carry it all alone.

satandeterrible:

Balderdash.

The woman is certainly over stressing her husband. What's worse? She doesn't even contribute a dime to the household financially.
Yet she wants to live way above her standards
Standards that her parents couldn't provide for her. Now she wants to kill the young man before his time.

And we should applaud her for that?

You no get talk Oga.