sajmark:

I sent it to you on the 12 of June bro, go check your email.

luminouz:
This one has ears but clearly doesn't use them to hear anything!!!

No one should quote him please!!!

MJBOLT:

it would have been better if he opened it in his name then put his wife as a manager or something like that.

MJBOLT:

it would have been better if he opened it in his name then put his wife as a manager or something like that.

Kingsince95:




Everything you said is true...

I've been a guest on nairaland since 2014.

The truth is most guys her, only post their success stories to make others feel they are gods when it comes to female psychology... Nobody is an island of knowledge.
We all have flaws and loopholes.

'Your mistakes don't make you less of a man'
Always remember that... Thanks.

Polynek:
Many guys here including you are easy to criticize someone

Aaron12:
Alaye so I don't want to sound tribalistic but Igbo men are known for doing this nonsense by giving their monthly salaries to their wives, gfs and spouses. At the end of it all end up becoming poorer than church rats, it is like a generational things. Go to every Igbo Nigerian home you will see the difference between the man(husband) and the woman (wife) the wife is always healthy while the man is either older than his present age or mal-nurished or diseased looking

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ARE YOU SURE? I'VE FACED THE HIGHEST CRITICISM BY MILES IN THAT REGARD BOTH HERE AND ON OTHER THREADS BY STRANGERS WHO MENTION ME THERE REGARDING THE THINGS I SAY HERE.
WHAT YOU'RE SAYING IS TRUE. BUT THE RULES WILL CHANGE HENCEFORTH. ONE SNIDE REMARK TO A PERSON'S PERSONAL ESCAPADE AND WE'LL TREAT THAT PERSON LIKE WE TREAT TROLLS.

MY INBOX IS ALSO OPEN FOR ANYONE TO ANONYMOUSLY SHARE AN ISSUE THAT I'LL PRESENT HERE. THINGS HAVE TO CHANGE AROUND HERE, FOR MORE THAN HALF THE MEN READING THIS ARE SUFFERING AND DYING IN SILENCE WITHOUT KNOWING HOW TO ASK FOR HELP.

ubunja:
and a lot of those things are psychologically damaging. No wonder women out here battling mental health issues and depression. They doing terrible things behind closed doors. Last year a video clip trended in Southy of a girl having a frog removed from her pucc! And you've to ask yourself what was even happening? How did that thing get even there? Like what the actual phuck?! And you have to ask yourself what else is happening that's not being captured on video?! Smh.

The depravity of modern women will make your soul sick. You only have to test these women by pretending you're as depraved as them and you'll see how easy they go with the flow. Speak like one who's already partaking in those lewd activities and you'll see just how enthusiastic they get! Most guys can barely handle a 3sum because of moral limitations,, but for an average girl today a 3sum is actually only the beginning, a doorway really. These women are doing shít like they're demon possessed. You just have to sneak into their private secret groups on social media to hear them discuss their exploits.

Even the so-called innocent good girls are up to no good. Just WhatsApp some good girl using a new number pretending you're some big time player into deep depravity and just see how natural she responds to the depravities.
Which brings us to what Martinez said the other day about men being moral with sex: What we're calling "perversions" because we're moral with sex, women just call it "having fun" because to women sex and morality don't go together. Men have a tendency to feel guilty concerning sex, women don't have such limitations. A man sleeping with a new woman everyday will eventually stop when the guilt gets too much to bear and seek a proper relationship. Women don't have such moral brakes. Women will hoe till death if the situation permits. In fact one of the original aims of feminism was to create such an environment of endless fun, hence the government is used to replace the husband, abortion is made easy and pregnancy can be prevented with the dozen birth control methods engineered. The only problem is that women have PSYCHOLOGICAL limitations to hoering while men have MORAL limitations. Men are physically able, without any external interventions like the pill etc, to hoe till death,, its only their conscience that ends up blocking their fun and forcing them to stop. Whereas women don't have that moral dilemma, only a psychological one where they end up losing the ability to bond with any man and going batshit crazy after a life of steady cum-guzzling. Hence things like soul ties are always talked about concerning women. The psychological effect of hoering is severe for women.

Polynek:

The only experience you will see here is the positive one's or the one in progress, nobody can post his mistake here bcox He knows dat He will regret bringing such issue, even as am typing Dix words here, some will still call me names without criticizing constructively.

JUST ONCE, I LET DOWN MY GUARD, THAT ONCE CHANGED MY LIFE. I'LL GO FIRST. REALLY LENGTHY AND CAPSLOCKED!!!

I HAD THE PRIVILEGE OF ATTENDING AN ALL-BOYS HIGH SCHOOL. ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO MY LIFE. THE CONDITIONING WAS ON A DIFFERENT LEVEL. YOU HAVE THE MAJORITY OF US DOING THE SAME KIND OF THINGS AND BEHAVING IN A SIMILAR WAY. SOMEHOW, THE REDPILL TRAITS WAS IN ALL OF US. SEE, WE DISLIKED THE INTERNET AS TEENS, HOW MEN SIMPED FOR GIRLS ON SITES LIKE FACEBOOK AND ESKIMI. WE DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS "SIMPING" ACTUALLY, BUT WE CALLED IT IDIOCY TO BE CHASING WOMEN ON THE INTERNET AND BEGGING FOR ATTENTION FROM "WORTHLESS" WOMEN WE COULD LIVE WITHOUT. WE THOUGHT WE WERE DEMIGODS!! WE WOULDN'T EVEN ASK WOMEN OUT BECAUSE WE WERE STEADILY COMPETING WITH OURSELVES ON WHO LOOKS BETTER OR HAD BETTER GRADES. MY READERS WILL REMEMBER ME STATING SEVERALLY IN THE PAST THAT I DON'T HAVE ANY SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS. I DEACTIVATED THE LAST ONE IN 2010 BECAUSE I COULDN'T STAND THE PETTINESS. WE WERE SMALL BOYS THEN, AND WE EVENTUALLY LEARNED TO "HATE" GIRLS AND THE MEN THAT THREW THEMSELVES ON THE FLOOR BEGGING THEM FOR THINGS. WE BELIEVED IN RECIPROCATION OF GESTURES, AND ALSO IN EQUITY AND JUSTICE. PROBABLY WHY I IDENTIFIED AS A FENINIST IN 2011 WHEN I JOINED NL AND WAS PRO-FEMINISM BECAUSE I LIKE THE IDEA THAT PEOPLE SHOULD BE EQUAL, ESPECIALLY FOR THINGS LIKE EQUAL RESPONSIBILITY AND ACCOUNTABILITY.

HEADING TO TERTIARY SCHOOL MANY OF MY MEN MUST HAVE FELL OFF DUE TO NEW ENVIRONMENTS AND SOCIALISATION, BUT MY EGO WOULDN'T LET ME "SIMP". NOT FOR ONCE. I STILL HAVEN'T MESSAGED ANY "F" ON THE INTERNET TO DATE. I NEVER ASKED ANYBODY OUT. IF I REMEMBER CORRECTLY IN 5 YEARS OF COLLEGE I DIDN'T KEEP CONTACT OF UP TO 10 GIRLS, AND MAJORITY OF THESE WERE COURSE MATES AND GIRLFRIENDS. ZERO FEMALE FRIENDS. IF WE WEREN'T CONNECTED BY BUSINESS OR PLEASURE I WASN'T GOING TO SPEND ANYTIME TALKING TO YOU WHEN I COULD SPEND THAT TIME LEARNING BENEFICIAL SKILLS ON YOUTUBE. THIS BEHAVIOUR HELPED ME BECAUSE INSTEAD OF "SOCIALISING" OR CHIT-CHATTING I WAS BUILDING MYSELF ON THE INTERNET, AWAY FROM THE DISTRACTIONS. SAFE TO SAY THAT I'M ON THE LEVEL I AM TODAY BECAUSE OF THE LIFESTYLE I MAINTAINED DURING MY LATE TEENS.

IT WAS IN MY 3RD YEAR THAT I STARTED DATING, AND IT WAS THE WOMEN WHO CHOSE ME. IT WAS EASIER LIKE THIS BECAUSE THE WAY I CARRIED MYSELF, ONLY QUALITY GIRLS APPROACHED ME. THINGS LIKE LEECHES AND SCRAP WOMEN, I ONLY READ ABOUT ON THE INTERNET OR HEARD FROM FRIENDS' EXPERIENCES. MY GIRLS ALWAYS TREATED ME LIKE I WAS SOME PRIZE AND ACTUALLY INVESTED A LOT, BECAUSE I WAS FINE AND KNEW HOW TO DRESS AND TALK, OR JUST MAYBE BECAUSE I WAS CHOSEN. I NEVER SIMPED FOR ONCE. CAME FROM A GOOD FAMILY AND WAS SELF-SUFFICIENT TO AN EXTENT, SO THERE WAS NO WAY IN THE WORLD THAT I WOULD PUT MY PRIDE ASIDE TO DO AS MUCH BEG GIRLS FOR ATTENTION OR AFFECTION, OR SPEND A DIME ON THEM UNLESS WE WERE HAVING A THING. THERE WERE EMOTIONS AND HEARTBREAKS IN ALL THOSE YEARS THOUGH. NO MATTER HOW I PACKAGED MYSELF I STILL FELT WHAT THEY DESCRIBED AS "LOVE", BUT LETTING MYSELF DOWN EMOTIONALLY WAS NEVER IN THE BOOKS.

YEARS AFTER GRADUATING, NEARING 30, I THOUGHT I WAS GETTING MORE MATURED AND PERHAPS IT WAS TIME TO LISTEN TO FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND START PLANNING TOWARDS "SETTLING DOWN". I DECIDED THAT TELEVISION ROMANCE WAS WORTH EMULATING. BY THIS TIME I STARTED TO READ ABOUT TRP ON THE FORUM, BUT I DIDN'T PAY ATTENTION TO DETAILS CUZ I FELT THESE WEREN'T CONCERNING ME. ASIDES THAT IT SOUNDS TOO HARSH ON WOMEN, MAJORITY OF WHAT'S SAID WERE THINGS I ALREADY KNEW (SO I THOUGHT). SO I MET A YOUNGER COLLEAGUE AND AS USUAL WITH MY PAST RELATIONSHIPS, I WAS CHOSEN. OR IT SEEMED LIKE IT. THE "SHIT TESTS" STARTED ALMOST IMMEDIATELY BUT THE DESPERATION FOR LOVE AND "OUR" INTENTION TO SETTLE DOWN MADE ME THROW FRAME AWAY INTO THE DEEPEST OCEANS. MY G. HOW LOW I WENT, I'M SURE MY ANCESTORS WANTED ME TO DIE FASTER AND COME MEET THEM IN THE AFTERLIFE SO THEY CAN GANG-UP AND BEAT ME TO DEATH A SECOND TIME.

I STOPPED BODY BUILDING CUZ SHE DIDN'T LIKE IT AND MY SPARE TIME WAS CHANNELS TO HER. I STOPPED DRESSING AS FIRE AS I USED TO. STRICTLY "FAMILY MAN" THING NOW. CUT OUT ANY FEMALE PRESENCE IN MY LIFE AND STOPPED HANGING OUT WITH THE BOYS. I THREW AWAY A US VISA CHANCE BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT TO BE FAR FROM HER. MIND THAT ALL THOSE TIMES I FOLLOWED THE THREADS OF MARTINEZ39S (AND UBUNJA) BECAUSE WE'VE BEEN CONNECTED ON NL FOR ALMOST A DECADE SO I MUST SEE EVERY POST, BUT I DON'T CONTRIBUTE. I THOUGHT I HAD THIS ONE UNDER CONTROL BECAUSE I WANTED TO DO "WHAT'S RIGHT". I DID NOT ONLY SUCCUMB TO HER PRESSURE FOR MARRIAGE, I STARTED WORKING 2X MORE AS WELL IN ORDER TO HASTEN UP. HASTEN UP TO WHAT EXACTLY? IF YOU ASK ME NOW I SWEAR I DON'T EVEN KNOW.

SUBSEQUENTLY I TOOK SECOND PLACE BETWEEN US AND EVENTUALLY DECLINED TO BEING THE STRING HOLDING US DESPITE THAT SHE WANTED OUT MANY TIMES. I'D BEG TO CONTINUE. THIS MEANT MORE INVESTMENTS FROM ME AND ALMOST NOTHING FROM HER. I HAD A JOB OFFER THAT I SNEAKED HER NAME IN TO MAKE HER HAPPY. I STILL MADE MORE THAN HER BUT THE NATURE OF THIS NEW JOB MEANT SHE STARTED TO ROLL WITH HIGHER CALIBRE OF PEOPLE. IT WAS A BIG ORGANISATION, AND I LOST IT ALL AFTER THEN. I CONTINUED TO FUND HER LIFESTYLE. I MEAN, WHY WOULDN'T I FUND MY FIANCEE? THE PRESSURE GOT OFF LIMIT AND IT STARTED TO BE CALLS WITH MANY MEN AND OUTINGS WITH HER "BIG GIRLS". CHEATING NECESSARILY WASN'T CALLED IN AT THIS POINT BUT IT WAS CLEAR SHE WAS IN A HIGHER LEAGUE. ON ONE OF THOSE DAYS I LOOKED MYSELF IN THE MIRROR AND COMPARED WITH THE MAN I WAS YEARS BACK IN COLLEGE. THE DIFFERENCES WERE CLEAR ENOUGH. BUT WE WERE GONNA GET MARRIED, RIGHT? WE'VE LASTED TWO YEARS AND I WAS LOOSING MY MIND. SO I WENT BACK TO MY OG MARTINEZ39S AND ACTUALLY PAID ATTENTION TO ALL THAT HE'S BEEN SAYING OVER THE YEARS. IT DIDN'T TAKE LONG FOR COMMON SENSE TO GET BACK TO ME BECAUSE I REALISED EXACTLY THE POINT I FELL OFF AND ALL THAT I'VE BEEN DOING COMPLETELY WRONGLY OVER THE YEARS. I MOVED BACK TO MY GIRL AND INFORMED HER OF MY REALISATION, AND THAT TO BE HONEST SHE WAS PRIVILEGED TO HAVE A QUALITY PERSON LIKE ME IN HER LIFE. I TOLD HER THAT I'VE SPENT 90% OF THE TIME "BEGGING" TO KEEP US GOING BUT LOOKING AT US FROM A NEUTRAL VIEW SHE WASN'T EVEN QUALIFIED TO WORK FOR ME AS A MAID. JUST READING THROUGH THREADS, LIKE MAGIC, MY EYES OPENED OVERNIGHT AND I DIDN'T STOP CRYING BECAUSE, "WHAT THE HELL WAS I DOING"?. I WAS MAD THAT I BECAME A SHADOW OF MYSELF. NO GOOD THINGS, NO INVESTMENTS, NO SAVINGS BECAUSE I WAS TAKING CARE OF FIANCEE WITH ALL I EARNED. I TOLD HER THAT I KNEW ABOUT HYPERGAMY AND WHAT WAS COMING AND DESPITE THAT SHE WAS ASKING TO CONTINUE AND SWEARING IT'LL ALWAYS BE ME, I KNEW AWALT AND THERE WAS NO WAY THIS WHOLE THING WASN'T A HUGE MESS ALREADY CUZ THERE WAS NO FRAME TO MY IMAGE.

I ENDED UP DOWNGRADING MYSELF TO UPGRADE HER (BECAUSE OF LOVE). SHE EVENTUALLY STARTED FALLING FOR UPGRADED MEN. IT DIDN'T TAKE A WEEK AFTER THAT EPISODE FOR ME TO FIND OUT SHE STARTED SEEING A COLLEAGUE OF HERS. A GUY THAT I KNEW PERSONALLY. HE EARNED LESS THAN I DID BUT WAS SUPER-POLISHED AND LOOKED LIKE HE WAS EVERYTHING A WOMAN WOULD EVER WANT. HE WAS BUILDING HIMSELF. I WAS BUILDING MY WOMAN. SHE WAS FALLING FOR THE MAN THAT WAS BUILDING HIMSELF.

THE MOMENT I REALISED THAT, I LET HER KNOW WHAT I FOUND OUT. SHE CAME DOING THE CROCODILE TEARS BUT I WAS LAUGHING ALL THROUGH THE EPISODE BECAUSE I WAS FOLLOWING THESE NAIRALAND THREADS BUMPER TO BUMPER AND EVERYTHING THEY PREDICTED WAS WHAT I WAS EXPERIENCING. IT WAS FUNNY ALL THE DRAMA SHE PUT UP, ALL THE LIES AND PLEADINGS, BEFORE EVENTUALLY OWNING UP. I DIDN'T EVEN PROVIDE MYSELF TO LISTEN ALL HER NONSENSE BECAUSE I WANTED HER TO BE GONE ASAP WITH THE TWO YEARS I HAVE WASTED. INSTEAD OF GETTING ANGRY AND CRYING/FIGHTING ABOUT IT OR DESTROYING THE HOUSE I RENTED AND FURNISHED FOR HER, I WENT BACK TO THE DRAWING BOARD IMMEDIATELY CUZ I NEEDED TO PICK MYSELF UP FROM WHERE I FELL. I WAS STARK POOR BECAUSE OF THIS PERSON. HER BIGGEST EXCUSE WAS THAT I DIDN'T LOOK LIKE I COULD CARTER FOR HER IN THE FUTURE AND I WAS WASTING TIME WITH THE MARRIAGE SHE DESPERATELY WANTED. BUT THEN I WAS DROWNING BECAUSE I SPENT 70% OF ALL I HAD TAKING CARE OF HER??!. SHE SPENT THE NEXT 6 MONTHS TEXTING ME BUT I HARDLY READ THEM OR BOTHERED TO REPLY. IT WAS RELIEVING FOR ME AT LEAST. COUNTED MY LOSSES IMMEDIATELY AND WENT BACK TO MY NATURAL POSITION. IN THE NEXT 6 MONTHS I WENT FROM BEING ON ZEROS TO MOVING MY NET WORTH ALMOST 100X BECAUSE I STOPPED THROWING MY MONEY AWAY, AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, I PAID MORE ATTENTION TO BUSINESSES AND BUILT BACK ALL THE CONNECTIONS I BROKE OR FAILED TO BUILD BECAUSE I WAS BUILDING A RELATIONSHIP.

IT'S BEEN 3 YEARS SINCE THAT TIME. THE ONES THAT HAVE COME AND GONE MET ME REFINED, LEFT AND I WAS EVEN BETTER BECAUSE EVERY STEP OF THE WAY I INVEST IN MYSELF AND PRIORITISE MYSELF AND ALL MY ENDEAVOURS. JUST ONCE I DECIDED TO DROP GUARD, IT ALMOST COST ME MY SANITY. THE LESSONS FROM THAT SINGULAR EXPERIENCE WAS ENOUGH TO JUSTIFY HOW I WAS LIVING PRIOR, AND WILL BE ENOUGH TO LAST THE REST OF MY LIFETIME. IT'S RIDICULOUS HOW MOST MEN GO THROUGH THINGS LIKE THAT NUMEROUS TIMES AND STILL CONTINUE TO LIVE LIKE FØØLS.

I TRIED BEING A "REAL MAN" ONCE. YOU TOO CAN SEE FROM MY ORDEAL, THE AMOUNT OF LOSSES IT BROUGHT ME. SO TAKE THAT I'M SPEAKING FROM MY EXPERIENCE AND THE EXPERIENCES OF MANY OTHER MEN WHENEVER I URGE MEN, ESPECIALLY THE YOUNGER ONES TO PRIORITISE THEMSELVES AND NEVER PLAY THE "REAL MAN" ROLE. IT ONLY PAYS WOMEN AND SUPPLIES YOU AN ENDLESS STREAM OF LOSSES.

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ARE YOU SURE? I'VE FACED THE HIGHEST CRITICISM BY MILES IN THAT REGARD BOTH HERE AND ON OTHER THREADS BY STRANGERS WHO MENTION ME THERE REGARDING THE THINGS I SAY HERE.
WHAT YOU'RE SAYING IS TRUE. BUT THE RULES WILL CHANGE HENCEFORTH. ONE SNIDE REMARK TO A PERSON'S PERSONAL ESCAPADE AND WE'LL TREAT THAT PERSON LIKE WE TREAT TROLLS.

MY INBOX IS ALSO OPEN FOR ANYONE TO ANONYMOUSLY SHARE AN ISSUE THAT I'LL PRESENT HERE. THINGS HAVE TO CHANGE AROUND HERE, FOR MORE THAN HALF THE MEN READING THIS ARE SUFFERING AND DYING IN SILENCE WITHOUT KNOWING HOW TO ASK FOR HELP.

MJBOLT:

it would have been better if he opened it in his name then put his wife as a manager or something like that.

Agp19:

I think this should be the hallmark of this thread now. People should share daily experience and situation that get them confuse in there day to day experience with woman. We are humans, we cannot know it all. We are bound to make mistakes. I for once, on several occasions would have love to share my experiences and ask questions. But with the way the thread is fashion lately, this has made me reframe from doing such to avoid orishishi talk.

I hope the dynamism of the thread change thou. To accommodate and enable guys to share there daily experience and seek solutions that will go a long way to educate other peeps if face with the same situation.

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JUST ONCE, I LET DOWN MY GUARD, THAT ONCE CHANGED MY LIFE. I'LL GO FIRST. REALLY LENGTHY AND CAPSLOCKED!!!

I HAD THE PRIVILEGE OF ATTENDING AN ALL-BOYS HIGH SCHOOL. ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO MY LIFE. THE CONDITIONING WAS ON A DIFFERENT LEVEL. YOU HAVE THE MAJORITY OF US DOING THE SAME KIND OF THINGS AND BEHAVING IN A SIMILAR WAY. SOMEHOW, THE REDPILL TRAITS WAS IN ALL OF US. SEE, WE DISLIKED THE INTERNET AS TEENS, HOW MEN SIMPED FOR GIRLS ON SITES LIKE FACEBOOK AND ESKIMI. WE DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS "SIMPING" ACTUALLY, BUT WE CALLED IT IDIOCY TO BE CHASING WOMEN ON THE INTERNET AND BEGGING FOR ATTENTION FROM "WORTHLESS" WOMEN WE COULD LIVE WITHOUT. WE THOUGHT WE WERE DEMIGODS!! WE WOULDN'T EVEN ASK WOMEN OUT BECAUSE WE WERE STEADILY COMPETING WITH OURSELVES ON WHO LOOKS BETTER OR HAD BETTER GRADES. MY READERS WILL REMEMBER ME STATING SEVERALLY IN THE PAST THAT I DON'T HAVE ANY SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS. I DEACTIVATED THE LAST ONE IN 2010 BECAUSE I COULDN'T STAND THE PETTINESS. WE WERE SMALL BOYS THEN, AND WE EVENTUALLY LEARNED TO "HATE" GIRLS AND THE MEN THAT THREW THEMSELVES ON THE FLOOR BEGGING THEM FOR THINGS. WE BELIEVED IN RECIPROCATION OF GESTURES, AND ALSO IN EQUITY AND JUSTICE. PROBABLY WHY I IDENTIFIED AS A FENINIST IN 2011 WHEN I JOINED NL AND WAS PRO-FEMINISM BECAUSE I LIKE THE IDEA THAT PEOPLE SHOULD BE EQUAL, ESPECIALLY FOR THINGS LIKE EQUAL RESPONSIBILITY AND ACCOUNTABILITY.

HEADING TO TERTIARY SCHOOL MANY OF MY MEN MUST HAVE FELL OFF DUE TO NEW ENVIRONMENTS AND SOCIALISATION, BUT MY EGO WOULDN'T LET ME "SIMP". NOT FOR ONCE. I STILL HAVEN'T MESSAGED ANY "F" ON THE INTERNET TO DATE. I NEVER ASKED ANYBODY OUT. IF I REMEMBER CORRECTLY IN 5 YEARS OF COLLEGE I DIDN'T KEEP CONTACT OF UP TO 10 GIRLS, AND MAJORITY OF THESE WERE COURSE MATES AND GIRLFRIENDS. ZERO FEMALE FRIENDS. IF WE WEREN'T CONNECTED BY BUSINESS OR PLEASURE I WASN'T GOING TO SPEND ANYTIME TALKING TO YOU WHEN I COULD SPEND THAT TIME LEARNING BENEFICIAL SKILLS ON YOUTUBE. THIS BEHAVIOUR HELPED ME BECAUSE INSTEAD OF "SOCIALISING" OR CHIT-CHATTING I WAS BUILDING MYSELF ON THE INTERNET, AWAY FROM THE DISTRACTIONS. SAFE TO SAY THAT I'M ON THE LEVEL I AM TODAY BECAUSE OF THE LIFESTYLE I MAINTAINED DURING MY LATE TEENS.

IT WAS IN MY 3RD YEAR THAT I STARTED DATING, AND IT WAS THE WOMEN WHO CHOSE ME. IT WAS EASIER LIKE THIS BECAUSE THE WAY I CARRIED MYSELF, ONLY QUALITY GIRLS APPROACHED ME. THINGS LIKE LEECHES AND SCRAP WOMEN, I ONLY READ ABOUT ON THE INTERNET OR HEARD FROM FRIENDS' EXPERIENCES. MY GIRLS ALWAYS TREATED ME LIKE I WAS SOME PRIZE AND ACTUALLY INVESTED A LOT, BECAUSE I WAS FINE AND KNEW HOW TO DRESS AND TALK, OR JUST MAYBE BECAUSE I WAS CHOSEN. I NEVER SIMPED FOR ONCE. CAME FROM A GOOD FAMILY AND WAS SELF-SUFFICIENT TO AN EXTENT, SO THERE WAS NO WAY IN THE WORLD THAT I WOULD PUT MY PRIDE ASIDE TO DO AS MUCH BEG GIRLS FOR ATTENTION OR AFFECTION, OR SPEND A DIME ON THEM UNLESS WE WERE HAVING A THING. THERE WERE EMOTIONS AND HEARTBREAKS IN ALL THOSE YEARS THOUGH. NO MATTER HOW I PACKAGED MYSELF I STILL FELT WHAT THEY DESCRIBED AS "LOVE", BUT LETTING MYSELF DOWN EMOTIONALLY WAS NEVER IN THE BOOKS.

YEARS AFTER GRADUATING, NEARING 30, I THOUGHT I WAS GETTING MORE MATURED AND PERHAPS IT WAS TIME TO LISTEN TO FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND START PLANNING TOWARDS "SETTLING DOWN". I DECIDED THAT TELEVISION ROMANCE WAS WORTH EMULATING. BY THIS TIME I STARTED TO READ ABOUT TRP ON THE FORUM, BUT I DIDN'T PAY ATTENTION TO DETAILS CUZ I FELT THESE WEREN'T CONCERNING ME. ASIDES THAT IT SOUNDS TOO HARSH ON WOMEN, MAJORITY OF WHAT'S SAID WERE THINGS I ALREADY KNEW (SO I THOUGHT). SO I MET A YOUNGER COLLEAGUE AND AS USUAL WITH MY PAST RELATIONSHIPS, I WAS CHOSEN. OR IT SEEMED LIKE IT. THE "SHIT TESTS" STARTED ALMOST IMMEDIATELY BUT THE DESPERATION FOR LOVE AND "OUR" INTENTION TO SETTLE DOWN MADE ME THROW FRAME AWAY INTO THE DEEPEST OCEANS. MY G. HOW LOW I WENT, I'M SURE MY ANCESTORS WANTED ME TO DIE FASTER AND COME MEET THEM IN THE AFTERLIFE SO THEY CAN GANG-UP AND BEAT ME TO DEATH A SECOND TIME.

I STOPPED BODY BUILDING CUZ SHE DIDN'T LIKE IT AND MY SPARE TIME WAS CHANNELS TO HER. I STOPPED DRESSING AS FIRE AS I USED TO. STRICTLY "FAMILY MAN" THING NOW. CUT OUT ANY FEMALE PRESENCE IN MY LIFE AND STOPPED HANGING OUT WITH THE BOYS. I THREW AWAY A US VISA CHANCE BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT TO BE FAR FROM HER. MIND THAT ALL THOSE TIMES I FOLLOWED THE THREADS OF MARTINEZ39S (AND UBUNJA) BECAUSE WE'VE BEEN CONNECTED ON NL FOR ALMOST A DECADE SO I MUST SEE EVERY POST, BUT I DON'T CONTRIBUTE. I THOUGHT I HAD THIS ONE UNDER CONTROL BECAUSE I WANTED TO DO "WHAT'S RIGHT". I DID NOT ONLY SUCCUMB TO HER PRESSURE FOR MARRIAGE, I STARTED WORKING 2X MORE AS WELL IN ORDER TO HASTEN UP. HASTEN UP TO WHAT EXACTLY? IF YOU ASK ME NOW I SWEAR I DON'T EVEN KNOW.

SUBSEQUENTLY I TOOK SECOND PLACE BETWEEN US AND EVENTUALLY DECLINED TO BEING THE STRING HOLDING US DESPITE THAT SHE WANTED OUT MANY TIMES. I'D BEG TO CONTINUE. THIS MEANT MORE INVESTMENTS FROM ME AND ALMOST NOTHING FROM HER. I HAD A JOB OFFER THAT I SNEAKED HER NAME IN TO MAKE HER HAPPY. I STILL MADE MORE THAN HER BUT THE NATURE OF THIS NEW JOB MEANT SHE STARTED TO ROLL WITH HIGHER CALIBRE OF PEOPLE. IT WAS A BIG ORGANISATION, AND I LOST IT ALL AFTER THEN. I CONTINUED TO FUND HER LIFESTYLE. I MEAN, WHY WOULDN'T I FUND MY FIANCEE? THE PRESSURE GOT OFF LIMIT AND IT STARTED TO BE CALLS WITH MANY MEN AND OUTINGS WITH HER "BIG GIRLS". CHEATING NECESSARILY WASN'T CALLED IN AT THIS POINT BUT IT WAS CLEAR SHE WAS IN A HIGHER LEAGUE. ON ONE OF THOSE DAYS I LOOKED MYSELF IN THE MIRROR AND COMPARED WITH THE MAN I WAS YEARS BACK IN COLLEGE. THE DIFFERENCES WERE CLEAR ENOUGH. BUT WE WERE GONNA GET MARRIED, RIGHT? WE'VE LASTED TWO YEARS AND I WAS LOOSING MY MIND. SO I WENT BACK TO MY OG MARTINEZ39S AND ACTUALLY PAID ATTENTION TO ALL THAT HE'S BEEN SAYING OVER THE YEARS. IT DIDN'T TAKE LONG FOR COMMON SENSE TO GET BACK TO ME BECAUSE I REALISED EXACTLY THE POINT I FELL OFF AND ALL THAT I'VE BEEN DOING COMPLETELY WRONGLY OVER THE YEARS. I MOVED BACK TO MY GIRL AND INFORMED HER OF MY REALISATION, AND THAT TO BE HONEST SHE WAS PRIVILEGED TO HAVE A QUALITY PERSON LIKE ME IN HER LIFE. I TOLD HER THAT I'VE SPENT 90% OF THE TIME "BEGGING" TO KEEP US GOING BUT LOOKING AT US FROM A NEUTRAL VIEW SHE WASN'T EVEN QUALIFIED TO WORK FOR ME AS A MAID. JUST READING THROUGH THREADS, LIKE MAGIC, MY EYES OPENED OVERNIGHT AND I DIDN'T STOP CRYING BECAUSE, "WHAT THE HELL WAS I DOING"?. I WAS MAD THAT I BECAME A SHADOW OF MYSELF. NO GOOD THINGS, NO INVESTMENTS, NO SAVINGS BECAUSE I WAS TAKING CARE OF FIANCEE WITH ALL I EARNED. I TOLD HER THAT I KNEW ABOUT HYPERGAMY AND WHAT WAS COMING AND DESPITE THAT SHE WAS ASKING TO CONTINUE AND SWEARING IT'LL ALWAYS BE ME, I KNEW AWALT AND THERE WAS NO WAY THIS WHOLE THING WASN'T A HUGE MESS ALREADY CUZ THERE WAS NO FRAME TO MY IMAGE.

I ENDED UP DOWNGRADING MYSELF TO UPGRADE HER (BECAUSE OF LOVE). SHE EVENTUALLY STARTED FALLING FOR UPGRADED MEN. IT DIDN'T TAKE A WEEK AFTER THAT EPISODE FOR ME TO FIND OUT SHE STARTED SEEING A COLLEAGUE OF HERS. A GUY THAT I KNEW PERSONALLY. HE EARNED LESS THAN I DID BUT WAS SUPER-POLISHED AND LOOKED LIKE HE WAS EVERYTHING A WOMAN WOULD EVER WANT. HE WAS BUILDING HIMSELF. I WAS BUILDING MY WOMAN. SHE WAS FALLING FOR THE MAN THAT WAS BUILDING HIMSELF.

THE MOMENT I REALISED THAT, I LET HER KNOW WHAT I FOUND OUT. SHE CAME DOING THE CROCODILE TEARS BUT I WAS LAUGHING ALL THROUGH THE EPISODE BECAUSE I WAS FOLLOWING THESE NAIRALAND THREADS BUMPER TO BUMPER AND EVERYTHING THEY PREDICTED WAS WHAT I WAS EXPERIENCING. IT WAS FUNNY ALL THE DRAMA SHE PUT UP, ALL THE LIES AND PLEADINGS, BEFORE EVENTUALLY OWNING UP. I DIDN'T EVEN PROVIDE MYSELF TO LISTEN ALL HER NONSENSE BECAUSE I WANTED HER TO BE GONE ASAP WITH THE TWO YEARS I HAVE WASTED. INSTEAD OF GETTING ANGRY AND CRYING/FIGHTING ABOUT IT OR DESTROYING THE HOUSE I RENTED AND FURNISHED FOR HER, I WENT BACK TO THE DRAWING BOARD IMMEDIATELY CUZ I NEEDED TO PICK MYSELF UP FROM WHERE I FELL. I WAS STARK POOR BECAUSE OF THIS PERSON. HER BIGGEST EXCUSE WAS THAT I DIDN'T LOOK LIKE I COULD CARTER FOR HER IN THE FUTURE AND I WAS WASTING TIME WITH THE MARRIAGE SHE DESPERATELY WANTED. BUT THEN I WAS DROWNING BECAUSE I SPENT 70% OF ALL I HAD TAKING CARE OF HER??!. SHE SPENT THE NEXT 6 MONTHS TEXTING ME BUT I HARDLY READ THEM OR BOTHERED TO REPLY. IT WAS RELIEVING FOR ME AT LEAST. COUNTED MY LOSSES IMMEDIATELY AND WENT BACK TO MY NATURAL POSITION. IN THE NEXT 6 MONTHS I WENT FROM BEING ON ZEROS TO MOVING MY NET WORTH ALMOST 100X BECAUSE I STOPPED THROWING MY MONEY AWAY, AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, I PAID MORE ATTENTION TO BUSINESSES AND BUILT BACK ALL THE CONNECTIONS I BROKE OR FAILED TO BUILD BECAUSE I WAS BUILDING A RELATIONSHIP.

IT'S BEEN 3 YEARS SINCE THAT TIME. THE ONES THAT HAVE COME AND GONE MET ME REFINED, LEFT AND I WAS EVEN BETTER BECAUSE EVERY STEP OF THE WAY I INVEST IN MYSELF AND PRIORITISE MYSELF AND ALL MY ENDEAVOURS. JUST ONCE I DECIDED TO DROP GUARD, IT ALMOST COST ME MY SANITY. THE LESSONS FROM THAT SINGULAR EXPERIENCE WAS ENOUGH TO JUSTIFY HOW I WAS LIVING PRIOR, AND WILL BE ENOUGH TO LAST THE REST OF MY LIFETIME. IT'S RIDICULOUS HOW MOST MEN GO THROUGH THINGS LIKE THAT NUMEROUS TIMES AND STILL CONTINUE TO LIVE LIKE FØØLS.

I TRIED BEING A "REAL MAN" ONCE. YOU TOO CAN SEE FROM MY ORDEAL, THE AMOUNT OF LOSSES IT BROUGHT ME. SO TAKE THAT I'M SPEAKING FROM MY EXPERIENCE AND THE EXPERIENCES OF MANY OTHER MEN WHENEVER I URGE MEN, ESPECIALLY THE YOUNGER ONES TO PRIORITISE THEMSELVES AND NEVER PLAY THE "REAL MAN" ROLE. IT ONLY PAYS WOMEN AND SUPPLIES YOU AN ENDLESS STREAM OF LOSSES.

XshegzzyeeiX:
BLOCKHEADED MORALISTS SHOULD CHOKE AGAIN ON THIS.

Fvcking a girl to stupor is actually a beautiful feeling.

Like besides the orgasm, watching her stumble to the bathroom cos shaky legs then coming back to collapse on your chest like a log of wood is such an amusingly pleasant experience.

XshegzzyeeiX:
BLOCKHEADED MORALISTS SHOULD CHOKE AGAIN ON THIS.

Fvcking a girl to stupor is actually a beautiful feeling.

Like besides the orgasm, watching her stumble to the bathroom cos shaky legs then coming back to collapse on your chest like a log of wood is such an amusingly pleasant experience.

CAPSLOCKED:


JUST ONCE, I LET DOWN MY GUARD, THAT ONCE CHANGED MY LIFE. I'LL GO FIRST. REALLY LENGTHY AND CAPSLOCKED!!!

I HAD THE PRIVILEGE OF ATTENDING AN ALL-BOYS HIGH SCHOOL. ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO MY LIFE. THE CONDITIONING WAS ON A DIFFERENT LEVEL. YOU HAVE THE MAJORITY OF US DOING THE SAME KIND OF THINGS AND BEHAVING IN A SIMILAR WAY. SOMEHOW, THE REDPILL TRAITS WAS IN ALL OF US. SEE, WE DISLIKED THE INTERNET AS TEENS, HOW MEN SIMPED FOR GIRLS ON SITES LIKE FACEBOOK AND ESKIMI. WE DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS "SIMPING" ACTUALLY, BUT WE CALLED IT IDIOCY TO BE CHASING WOMEN ON THE INTERNET AND BEGGING FOR ATTENTION FROM "WORTHLESS" WOMEN WE COULD LIVE WITHOUT. WE THOUGHT WE WERE DEMIGODS!! WE WOULDN'T EVEN ASK WOMEN OUT BECAUSE WE WERE STEADILY COMPETING WITH OURSELVES ON WHO LOOKS BETTER OR HAD BETTER GRADES. MY READERS WILL REMEMBER ME STATING SEVERALLY IN THE PAST THAT I DON'T HAVE ANY SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS. I DEACTIVATED THE LAST ONE IN 2010 BECAUSE I COULDN'T STAND THE PETTINESS. WE WERE SMALL BOYS THEN, AND WE EVENTUALLY LEARNED TO "HATE" GIRLS AND THE MEN THAT THREW THEMSELVES ON THE FLOOR BEGGING THEM FOR THINGS. WE BELIEVED IN RECIPROCATION OF GESTURES, AND ALSO IN EQUITY AND JUSTICE. PROBABLY WHY I IDENTIFIED AS A FENINIST IN 2011 WHEN I JOINED NL AND WAS PRO-FEMINISM BECAUSE I LIKE THE IDEA THAT PEOPLE SHOULD BE EQUAL, ESPECIALLY FOR THINGS LIKE EQUAL RESPONSIBILITY AND ACCOUNTABILITY.

HEADING TO TERTIARY SCHOOL MANY OF MY MEN MUST HAVE FELL OFF DUE TO NEW ENVIRONMENTS AND SOCIALISATION, BUT MY EGO WOULDN'T LET ME "SIMP". NOT FOR ONCE. I STILL HAVEN'T MESSAGED ANY "F" ON THE INTERNET TO DATE. I NEVER ASKED ANYBODY OUT. IF I REMEMBER CORRECTLY IN 5 YEARS OF COLLEGE I DIDN'T KEEP CONTACT OF UP TO 10 GIRLS, AND MAJORITY OF THESE WERE COURSE MATES AND GIRLFRIENDS. ZERO FEMALE FRIENDS. IF WE WEREN'T CONNECTED BY BUSINESS OR PLEASURE I WASN'T GOING TO SPEND ANYTIME TALKING TO YOU WHEN I COULD SPEND THAT TIME LEARNING BENEFICIAL SKILLS ON YOUTUBE. THIS BEHAVIOUR HELPED ME BECAUSE INSTEAD OF "SOCIALISING" OR CHIT-CHATTING I WAS BUILDING MYSELF ON THE INTERNET, AWAY FROM THE DISTRACTIONS. SAFE TO SAY THAT I'M ON THE LEVEL I AM TODAY BECAUSE OF THE LIFESTYLE I MAINTAINED DURING MY LATE TEENS.

IT WAS IN MY 3RD YEAR THAT I STARTED DATING, AND IT WAS THE WOMEN WHO CHOSE ME. IT WAS EASIER LIKE THIS BECAUSE THE WAY I CARRIED MYSELF, ONLY QUALITY GIRLS APPROACHED ME. THINGS LIKE LEECHES AND SCRAP WOMEN, I ONLY READ ABOUT ON THE INTERNET OR HEARD FROM FRIENDS' EXPERIENCES. MY GIRLS ALWAYS TREATED ME LIKE I WAS SOME PRIZE AND ACTUALLY INVESTED A LOT, BECAUSE I WAS FINE AND KNEW HOW TO DRESS AND TALK, OR JUST MAYBE BECAUSE I WAS CHOSEN. I NEVER SIMPED FOR ONCE. CAME FROM A GOOD FAMILY AND WAS SELF-SUFFICIENT TO AN EXTENT, SO THERE WAS NO WAY IN THE WORLD THAT I WOULD PUT MY PRIDE ASIDE TO DO AS MUCH BEG GIRLS FOR ATTENTION OR AFFECTION, OR SPEND A DIME ON THEM UNLESS WE WERE HAVING A THING. THERE WERE EMOTIONS AND HEARTBREAKS IN ALL THOSE YEARS THOUGH. NO MATTER HOW I PACKAGED MYSELF I STILL FELT WHAT THEY DESCRIBED AS "LOVE", BUT LETTING MYSELF DOWN EMOTIONALLY WAS NEVER IN THE BOOKS.

ubunja:
when you're cheating, your side Chick will always make every effort to expose your cheating by leaving her things (earrings, bangles, panties etc) in places in your house she knows your main chick will find them,, your side Chick will even try popping up in selfies (see pic below),,,
But when a woman is cheating, her side dude will never expose her and he always stays in his lane ,hidden and unseen. the reason side chicks feel the need to expose the man is that they want the main chick's position, they're not there for sex but wanna use sex as a way to get the man to leave his woman. they envy the main woman's relationship.

but a side dude will never expose a cheating GF/wife because he's there just for sex nothing more ,he's not trying to steal the woman from the other man. he just wants easy sex without a relationship. a relationship is very costly for a man in terms of time, money and effort, so dealing with a woman already in a relationship with another man is far easier and cheaper than having his own GF/wife.

(as Cave would say) AUTHORITY: cheat away from home.

CAPSLOCKED:


JUST ONCE, I LET DOWN MY GUARD, THAT ONCE CHANGED MY LIFE. I'LL GO FIRST. REALLY LENGTHY AND CAPSLOCKED!!!

I HAD THE PRIVILEGE OF ATTENDING AN ALL-BOYS HIGH SCHOOL. ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO MY LIFE. THE CONDITIONING WAS ON A DIFFERENT LEVEL. YOU HAVE THE MAJORITY OF US DOING THE SAME KIND OF THINGS AND BEHAVING IN A SIMILAR WAY. SOMEHOW, THE REDPILL TRAITS WAS IN ALL OF US. SEE, WE DISLIKED THE INTERNET AS TEENS, HOW MEN SIMPED FOR GIRLS ON SITES LIKE FACEBOOK AND ESKIMI. WE DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS "SIMPING" ACTUALLY, BUT WE CALLED IT IDIOCY TO BE CHASING WOMEN ON THE INTERNET AND BEGGING FOR ATTENTION FROM "WORTHLESS" WOMEN WE COULD LIVE WITHOUT. WE THOUGHT WE WERE DEMIGODS!! WE WOULDN'T EVEN ASK WOMEN OUT BECAUSE WE WERE STEADILY COMPETING WITH OURSELVES ON WHO LOOKS BETTER OR HAD BETTER GRADES. MY READERS WILL REMEMBER ME STATING SEVERALLY IN THE PAST THAT I DON'T HAVE ANY SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS. I DEACTIVATED THE LAST ONE IN 2010 BECAUSE I COULDN'T STAND THE PETTINESS. WE WERE SMALL BOYS THEN, AND WE EVENTUALLY LEARNED TO "HATE" GIRLS AND THE MEN THAT THREW THEMSELVES ON THE FLOOR BEGGING THEM FOR THINGS. WE BELIEVED IN RECIPROCATION OF GESTURES, AND ALSO IN EQUITY AND JUSTICE. PROBABLY WHY I IDENTIFIED AS A FENINIST IN 2011 WHEN I JOINED NL AND WAS PRO-FEMINISM BECAUSE I LIKE THE IDEA THAT PEOPLE SHOULD BE EQUAL, ESPECIALLY FOR THINGS LIKE EQUAL RESPONSIBILITY AND ACCOUNTABILITY.

HEADING TO TERTIARY SCHOOL MANY OF MY MEN MUST HAVE FELL OFF DUE TO NEW ENVIRONMENTS AND SOCIALISATION, BUT MY EGO WOULDN'T LET ME "SIMP". NOT FOR ONCE. I STILL HAVEN'T MESSAGED ANY "F" ON THE INTERNET TO DATE. I NEVER ASKED ANYBODY OUT. IF I REMEMBER CORRECTLY IN 5 YEARS OF COLLEGE I DIDN'T KEEP CONTACT OF UP TO 10 GIRLS, AND MAJORITY OF THESE WERE COURSE MATES AND GIRLFRIENDS. ZERO FEMALE FRIENDS. IF WE WEREN'T CONNECTED BY BUSINESS OR PLEASURE I WASN'T GOING TO SPEND ANYTIME TALKING TO YOU WHEN I COULD SPEND THAT TIME LEARNING BENEFICIAL SKILLS ON YOUTUBE. THIS BEHAVIOUR HELPED ME BECAUSE INSTEAD OF "SOCIALISING" OR CHIT-CHATTING I WAS BUILDING MYSELF ON THE INTERNET, AWAY FROM THE DISTRACTIONS. SAFE TO SAY THAT I'M ON THE LEVEL I AM TODAY BECAUSE OF THE LIFESTYLE I MAINTAINED DURING MY LATE TEENS.

IT WAS IN MY 3RD YEAR THAT I STARTED DATING, AND IT WAS THE WOMEN WHO CHOSE ME. IT WAS EASIER LIKE THIS BECAUSE THE WAY I CARRIED MYSELF, ONLY QUALITY GIRLS APPROACHED ME. THINGS LIKE LEECHES AND SCRAP WOMEN, I ONLY READ ABOUT ON THE INTERNET OR HEARD FROM FRIENDS' EXPERIENCES. MY GIRLS ALWAYS TREATED ME LIKE I WAS SOME PRIZE AND ACTUALLY INVESTED A LOT, BECAUSE I WAS FINE AND KNEW HOW TO DRESS AND TALK, OR JUST MAYBE BECAUSE I WAS CHOSEN. I NEVER SIMPED FOR ONCE. CAME FROM A GOOD FAMILY AND WAS SELF-SUFFICIENT TO AN EXTENT, SO THERE WAS NO WAY IN THE WORLD THAT I WOULD PUT MY PRIDE ASIDE TO DO AS MUCH BEG GIRLS FOR ATTENTION OR AFFECTION, OR SPEND A DIME ON THEM UNLESS WE WERE HAVING A THING. THERE WERE EMOTIONS AND HEARTBREAKS IN ALL THOSE YEARS THOUGH. NO MATTER HOW I PACKAGED MYSELF I STILL FELT WHAT THEY DESCRIBED AS "LOVE", BUT LETTING MYSELF DOWN EMOTIONALLY WAS NEVER IN THE BOOKS.

YEARS AFTER GRADUATING, NEARING 30, I THOUGHT I WAS GETTING MORE MATURED AND PERHAPS IT WAS TIME TO LISTEN TO FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND START PLANNING TOWARDS "SETTLING DOWN". I DECIDED THAT TELEVISION ROMANCE WAS WORTH EMULATING. BY THIS TIME I STARTED TO READ ABOUT TRP ON THE FORUM, BUT I DIDN'T PAY ATTENTION TO DETAILS CUZ I FELT THESE WEREN'T CONCERNING ME. ASIDES THAT IT SOUNDS TOO HARSH ON WOMEN, MAJORITY OF WHAT'S SAID WERE THINGS I ALREADY KNEW (SO I THOUGHT). SO I MET A YOUNGER COLLEAGUE AND AS USUAL WITH MY PAST RELATIONSHIPS, I WAS CHOSEN. OR IT SEEMED LIKE IT. THE "SHIT TESTS" STARTED ALMOST IMMEDIATELY BUT THE DESPERATION FOR LOVE AND "OUR" INTENTION TO SETTLE DOWN MADE ME THROW FRAME AWAY INTO THE DEEPEST OCEANS. MY G. HOW LOW I WENT, I'M SURE MY ANCESTORS WANTED ME TO DIE FASTER AND COME MEET THEM IN THE AFTERLIFE SO THEY CAN GANG-UP AND BEAT ME TO DEATH A SECOND TIME.

I STOPPED BODY BUILDING CUZ SHE DIDN'T LIKE IT AND MY SPARE TIME WAS CHANNELS TO HER. I STOPPED DRESSING AS FIRE AS I USED TO. STRICTLY "FAMILY MAN" THING NOW. CUT OUT ANY FEMALE PRESENCE IN MY LIFE AND STOPPED HANGING OUT WITH THE BOYS. I THREW AWAY A US VISA CHANCE BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT TO BE FAR FROM HER. MIND THAT ALL THOSE TIMES I FOLLOWED THE THREADS OF MARTINEZ39S (AND UBUNJA) BECAUSE WE'VE BEEN CONNECTED ON NL FOR ALMOST A DECADE SO I MUST SEE EVERY POST, BUT I DON'T CONTRIBUTE. I THOUGHT I HAD THIS ONE UNDER CONTROL BECAUSE I WANTED TO DO "WHAT'S RIGHT". I DID NOT ONLY SUCCUMB TO HER PRESSURE FOR MARRIAGE, I STARTED WORKING 2X MORE AS WELL IN ORDER TO HASTEN UP. HASTEN UP TO WHAT EXACTLY? IF YOU ASK ME NOW I SWEAR I DON'T EVEN KNOW.

SUBSEQUENTLY I TOOK SECOND PLACE BETWEEN US AND EVENTUALLY DECLINED TO BEING THE STRING HOLDING US DESPITE THAT SHE WANTED OUT MANY TIMES. I'D BEG TO CONTINUE. THIS MEANT MORE INVESTMENTS FROM ME AND ALMOST NOTHING FROM HER. I HAD A JOB OFFER THAT I SNEAKED HER NAME IN TO MAKE HER HAPPY. I STILL MADE MORE THAN HER BUT THE NATURE OF THIS NEW JOB MEANT SHE STARTED TO ROLL WITH HIGHER CALIBRE OF PEOPLE. IT WAS A BIG ORGANISATION, AND I LOST IT ALL AFTER THEN. I CONTINUED TO FUND HER LIFESTYLE. I MEAN, WHY WOULDN'T I FUND MY FIANCEE? THE PRESSURE GOT OFF LIMIT AND IT STARTED TO BE CALLS WITH MANY MEN AND OUTINGS WITH HER "BIG GIRLS". CHEATING NECESSARILY WASN'T CALLED IN AT THIS POINT BUT IT WAS CLEAR SHE WAS IN A HIGHER LEAGUE. ON ONE OF THOSE DAYS I LOOKED MYSELF IN THE MIRROR AND COMPARED WITH THE MAN I WAS YEARS BACK IN COLLEGE. THE DIFFERENCES WERE CLEAR ENOUGH. BUT WE WERE GONNA GET MARRIED, RIGHT? WE'VE LASTED TWO YEARS AND I WAS LOOSING MY MIND. SO I WENT BACK TO MY OG MARTINEZ39S AND ACTUALLY PAID ATTENTION TO ALL THAT HE'S BEEN SAYING OVER THE YEARS. IT DIDN'T TAKE LONG FOR COMMON SENSE TO GET BACK TO ME BECAUSE I REALISED EXACTLY THE POINT I FELL OFF AND ALL THAT I'VE BEEN DOING COMPLETELY WRONGLY OVER THE YEARS. I MOVED BACK TO MY GIRL AND INFORMED HER OF MY REALISATION, AND THAT TO BE HONEST SHE WAS PRIVILEGED TO HAVE A QUALITY PERSON LIKE ME IN HER LIFE. I TOLD HER THAT I'VE SPENT 90% OF THE TIME "BEGGING" TO KEEP US GOING BUT LOOKING AT US FROM A NEUTRAL VIEW SHE WASN'T EVEN QUALIFIED TO WORK FOR ME AS A MAID. JUST READING THROUGH THREADS, LIKE MAGIC, MY EYES OPENED OVERNIGHT AND I DIDN'T STOP CRYING BECAUSE, "WHAT THE HELL WAS I DOING"?. I WAS MAD THAT I BECAME A SHADOW OF MYSELF. NO GOOD THINGS, NO INVESTMENTS, NO SAVINGS BECAUSE I WAS TAKING CARE OF FIANCEE WITH ALL I EARNED. I TOLD HER THAT I KNEW ABOUT HYPERGAMY AND WHAT WAS COMING AND DESPITE THAT SHE WAS ASKING TO CONTINUE AND SWEARING IT'LL ALWAYS BE ME, I KNEW AWALT AND THERE WAS NO WAY THIS WHOLE THING WASN'T A HUGE MESS ALREADY CUZ THERE WAS NO FRAME TO MY IMAGE.

I ENDED UP DOWNGRADING MYSELF TO UPGRADE HER (BECAUSE OF LOVE). SHE EVENTUALLY STARTED FALLING FOR UPGRADED MEN. IT DIDN'T TAKE A WEEK AFTER THAT EPISODE FOR ME TO FIND OUT SHE STARTED SEEING A COLLEAGUE OF HERS. A GUY THAT I KNEW PERSONALLY. HE EARNED LESS THAN I DID BUT WAS SUPER-POLISHED AND LOOKED LIKE HE WAS EVERYTHING A WOMAN WOULD EVER WANT. HE WAS BUILDING HIMSELF. I WAS BUILDING MY WOMAN. SHE WAS FALLING FOR THE MAN THAT WAS BUILDING HIMSELF.

THE MOMENT I REALISED THAT, I LET HER KNOW WHAT I FOUND OUT. SHE CAME DOING THE CROCODILE TEARS BUT I WAS LAUGHING ALL THROUGH THE EPISODE BECAUSE I WAS FOLLOWING THESE NAIRALAND THREADS BUMPER TO BUMPER AND EVERYTHING THEY PREDICTED WAS WHAT I WAS EXPERIENCING. IT WAS FUNNY ALL THE DRAMA SHE PUT UP, ALL THE LIES AND PLEADINGS, BEFORE EVENTUALLY OWNING UP. I DIDN'T EVEN PROVIDE MYSELF TO LISTEN ALL HER NONSENSE BECAUSE I WANTED HER TO BE GONE ASAP WITH THE TWO YEARS I HAVE WASTED. INSTEAD OF GETTING ANGRY AND CRYING/FIGHTING ABOUT IT OR DESTROYING THE HOUSE I RENTED AND FURNISHED FOR HER, I WENT BACK TO THE DRAWING BOARD IMMEDIATELY CUZ I NEEDED TO PICK MYSELF UP FROM WHERE I FELL. I WAS STARK POOR BECAUSE OF THIS PERSON. HER BIGGEST EXCUSE WAS THAT I DIDN'T LOOK LIKE I COULD CARTER FOR HER IN THE FUTURE AND I WAS WASTING TIME WITH THE MARRIAGE SHE DESPERATELY WANTED. BUT THEN I WAS DROWNING BECAUSE I SPENT 70% OF ALL I HAD TAKING CARE OF HER??!. SHE SPENT THE NEXT 6 MONTHS TEXTING ME BUT I HARDLY READ THEM OR BOTHERED TO REPLY. IT WAS RELIEVING FOR ME AT LEAST. COUNTED MY LOSSES IMMEDIATELY AND WENT BACK TO MY NATURAL POSITION. IN THE NEXT 6 MONTHS I WENT FROM BEING ON ZEROS TO MOVING MY NET WORTH ALMOST 100X BECAUSE I STOPPED THROWING MY MONEY AWAY, AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, I PAID MORE ATTENTION TO BUSINESSES AND BUILT BACK ALL THE CONNECTIONS I BROKE OR FAILED TO BUILD BECAUSE I WAS BUILDING A RELATIONSHIP.

IT'S BEEN 3 YEARS SINCE THAT TIME. THE ONES THAT HAVE COME AND GONE MET ME REFINED, LEFT AND I WAS EVEN BETTER BECAUSE EVERY STEP OF THE WAY I INVEST IN MYSELF AND PRIORITISE MYSELF AND ALL MY ENDEAVOURS. JUST ONCE I DECIDED TO DROP GUARD, IT ALMOST COST ME MY SANITY. THE LESSONS FROM THAT SINGULAR EXPERIENCE WAS ENOUGH TO JUSTIFY HOW I WAS LIVING PRIOR, AND WILL BE ENOUGH TO LAST THE REST OF MY LIFETIME. IT'S RIDICULOUS HOW MOST MEN GO THROUGH THINGS LIKE THAT NUMEROUS TIMES AND STILL CONTINUE TO LIVE LIKE FØØLS.

I TRIED BEING A "REAL MAN" ONCE. YOU TOO CAN SEE FROM MY ORDEAL, THE AMOUNT OF LOSSES IT BROUGHT ME. SO TAKE THAT I'M SPEAKING FROM MY EXPERIENCE AND THE EXPERIENCES OF MANY OTHER MEN WHENEVER I URGE MEN, ESPECIALLY THE YOUNGER ONES TO PRIORITISE THEMSELVES AND NEVER PLAY THE "REAL MAN" ROLE. IT ONLY PAYS WOMEN AND SUPPLIES YOU AN ENDLESS STREAM OF LOSSES.

CAPSLOCKED:


JUST ONCE, I LET DOWN MY GUARD, THAT ONCE CHANGED MY LIFE. I'LL GO FIRST. REALLY LENGTHY AND CAPSLOCKED!!!

I HAD THE PRIVILEGE OF ATTENDING AN ALL-BOYS HIGH SCHOOL. ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO MY LIFE. THE CONDITIONING WAS ON A DIFFERENT LEVEL. YOU HAVE THE MAJORITY OF US DOING THE SAME KIND OF THINGS AND BEHAVING IN A SIMILAR WAY. SOMEHOW, THE REDPILL TRAITS WAS IN ALL OF US. SEE, WE DISLIKED THE INTERNET AS TEENS, HOW MEN SIMPED FOR GIRLS ON SITES LIKE FACEBOOK AND ESKIMI. WE DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS "SIMPING" ACTUALLY, BUT WE CALLED IT IDIOCY TO BE CHASING WOMEN ON THE INTERNET AND BEGGING FOR ATTENTION FROM "WORTHLESS" WOMEN WE COULD LIVE WITHOUT. WE THOUGHT WE WERE DEMIGODS!! WE WOULDN'T EVEN ASK WOMEN OUT BECAUSE WE WERE STEADILY COMPETING WITH OURSELVES ON WHO LOOKS BETTER OR HAD BETTER GRADES. MY READERS WILL REMEMBER ME STATING SEVERALLY IN THE PAST THAT I DON'T HAVE ANY SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS. I DEACTIVATED THE LAST ONE IN 2010 BECAUSE I COULDN'T STAND THE PETTINESS. WE WERE SMALL BOYS THEN, AND WE EVENTUALLY LEARNED TO "HATE" GIRLS AND THE MEN THAT THREW THEMSELVES ON THE FLOOR BEGGING THEM FOR THINGS. WE BELIEVED IN RECIPROCATION OF GESTURES, AND ALSO IN EQUITY AND JUSTICE. PROBABLY WHY I IDENTIFIED AS A FENINIST IN 2011 WHEN I JOINED NL AND WAS PRO-FEMINISM BECAUSE I LIKE THE IDEA THAT PEOPLE SHOULD BE EQUAL, ESPECIALLY FOR THINGS LIKE EQUAL RESPONSIBILITY AND ACCOUNTABILITY.

HEADING TO TERTIARY SCHOOL MANY OF MY MEN MUST HAVE FELL OFF DUE TO NEW ENVIRONMENTS AND SOCIALISATION, BUT MY EGO WOULDN'T LET ME "SIMP". NOT FOR ONCE. I STILL HAVEN'T MESSAGED ANY "F" ON THE INTERNET TO DATE. I NEVER ASKED ANYBODY OUT. IF I REMEMBER CORRECTLY IN 5 YEARS OF COLLEGE I DIDN'T KEEP CONTACT OF UP TO 10 GIRLS, AND MAJORITY OF THESE WERE COURSE MATES AND GIRLFRIENDS. ZERO FEMALE FRIENDS. IF WE WEREN'T CONNECTED BY BUSINESS OR PLEASURE I WASN'T GOING TO SPEND ANYTIME TALKING TO YOU WHEN I COULD SPEND THAT TIME LEARNING BENEFICIAL SKILLS ON YOUTUBE. THIS BEHAVIOUR HELPED ME BECAUSE INSTEAD OF "SOCIALISING" OR CHIT-CHATTING I WAS BUILDING MYSELF ON THE INTERNET, AWAY FROM THE DISTRACTIONS. SAFE TO SAY THAT I'M ON THE LEVEL I AM TODAY BECAUSE OF THE LIFESTYLE I MAINTAINED DURING MY LATE TEENS.

IT WAS IN MY 3RD YEAR THAT I STARTED DATING, AND IT WAS THE WOMEN WHO CHOSE ME. IT WAS EASIER LIKE THIS BECAUSE THE WAY I CARRIED MYSELF, ONLY QUALITY GIRLS APPROACHED ME. THINGS LIKE LEECHES AND SCRAP WOMEN, I ONLY READ ABOUT ON THE INTERNET OR HEARD FROM FRIENDS' EXPERIENCES. MY GIRLS ALWAYS TREATED ME LIKE I WAS SOME PRIZE AND ACTUALLY INVESTED A LOT, BECAUSE I WAS FINE AND KNEW HOW TO DRESS AND TALK, OR JUST MAYBE BECAUSE I WAS CHOSEN. I NEVER SIMPED FOR ONCE. CAME FROM A GOOD FAMILY AND WAS SELF-SUFFICIENT TO AN EXTENT, SO THERE WAS NO WAY IN THE WORLD THAT I WOULD PUT MY PRIDE ASIDE TO DO AS MUCH BEG GIRLS FOR ATTENTION OR AFFECTION, OR SPEND A DIME ON THEM UNLESS WE WERE HAVING A THING. THERE WERE EMOTIONS AND HEARTBREAKS IN ALL THOSE YEARS THOUGH. NO MATTER HOW I PACKAGED MYSELF I STILL FELT WHAT THEY DESCRIBED AS "LOVE", BUT LETTING MYSELF DOWN EMOTIONALLY WAS NEVER IN THE BOOKS.

YEARS AFTER GRADUATING, NEARING 30, I THOUGHT I WAS GETTING MORE MATURED AND PERHAPS IT WAS TIME TO LISTEN TO FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND START PLANNING TOWARDS "SETTLING DOWN". I DECIDED THAT TELEVISION ROMANCE WAS WORTH EMULATING. BY THIS TIME I STARTED TO READ ABOUT TRP ON THE FORUM, BUT I DIDN'T PAY ATTENTION TO DETAILS CUZ I FELT THESE WEREN'T CONCERNING ME. ASIDES THAT IT SOUNDS TOO HARSH ON WOMEN, MAJORITY OF WHAT'S SAID WERE THINGS I ALREADY KNEW (SO I THOUGHT). SO I MET A YOUNGER COLLEAGUE AND AS USUAL WITH MY PAST RELATIONSHIPS, I WAS CHOSEN. OR IT SEEMED LIKE IT. THE "SHIT TESTS" STARTED ALMOST IMMEDIATELY BUT THE DESPERATION FOR LOVE AND "OUR" INTENTION TO SETTLE DOWN MADE ME THROW FRAME AWAY INTO THE DEEPEST OCEANS. MY G. HOW LOW I WENT, I'M SURE MY ANCESTORS WANTED ME TO DIE FASTER AND COME MEET THEM IN THE AFTERLIFE SO THEY CAN GANG-UP AND BEAT ME TO DEATH A SECOND TIME.

I STOPPED BODY BUILDING CUZ SHE DIDN'T LIKE IT AND MY SPARE TIME WAS CHANNELS TO HER. I STOPPED DRESSING AS FIRE AS I USED TO. STRICTLY "FAMILY MAN" THING NOW. CUT OUT ANY FEMALE PRESENCE IN MY LIFE AND STOPPED HANGING OUT WITH THE BOYS. I THREW AWAY A US VISA CHANCE BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT TO BE FAR FROM HER. MIND THAT ALL THOSE TIMES I FOLLOWED THE THREADS OF MARTINEZ39S (AND UBUNJA) BECAUSE WE'VE BEEN CONNECTED ON NL FOR ALMOST A DECADE SO I MUST SEE EVERY POST, BUT I DON'T CONTRIBUTE. I THOUGHT I HAD THIS ONE UNDER CONTROL BECAUSE I WANTED TO DO "WHAT'S RIGHT". I DID NOT ONLY SUCCUMB TO HER PRESSURE FOR MARRIAGE, I STARTED WORKING 2X MORE AS WELL IN ORDER TO HASTEN UP. HASTEN UP TO WHAT EXACTLY? IF YOU ASK ME NOW I SWEAR I DON'T EVEN KNOW.

SUBSEQUENTLY I TOOK SECOND PLACE BETWEEN US AND EVENTUALLY DECLINED TO BEING THE STRING HOLDING US DESPITE THAT SHE WANTED OUT MANY TIMES. I'D BEG TO CONTINUE. THIS MEANT MORE INVESTMENTS FROM ME AND ALMOST NOTHING FROM HER. I HAD A JOB OFFER THAT I SNEAKED HER NAME IN TO MAKE HER HAPPY. I STILL MADE MORE THAN HER BUT THE NATURE OF THIS NEW JOB MEANT SHE STARTED TO ROLL WITH HIGHER CALIBRE OF PEOPLE. IT WAS A BIG ORGANISATION, AND I LOST IT ALL AFTER THEN. I CONTINUED TO FUND HER LIFESTYLE. I MEAN, WHY WOULDN'T I FUND MY FIANCEE? THE PRESSURE GOT OFF LIMIT AND IT STARTED TO BE CALLS WITH MANY MEN AND OUTINGS WITH HER "BIG GIRLS". CHEATING NECESSARILY WASN'T CALLED IN AT THIS POINT BUT IT WAS CLEAR SHE WAS IN A HIGHER LEAGUE. ON ONE OF THOSE DAYS I LOOKED MYSELF IN THE MIRROR AND COMPARED WITH THE MAN I WAS YEARS BACK IN COLLEGE. THE DIFFERENCES WERE CLEAR ENOUGH. BUT WE WERE GONNA GET MARRIED, RIGHT? WE'VE LASTED TWO YEARS AND I WAS LOOSING MY MIND. SO I WENT BACK TO MY OG MARTINEZ39S AND ACTUALLY PAID ATTENTION TO ALL THAT HE'S BEEN SAYING OVER THE YEARS. IT DIDN'T TAKE LONG FOR COMMON SENSE TO GET BACK TO ME BECAUSE I REALISED EXACTLY THE POINT I FELL OFF AND ALL THAT I'VE BEEN DOING COMPLETELY WRONGLY OVER THE YEARS. I MOVED BACK TO MY GIRL AND INFORMED HER OF MY REALISATION, AND THAT TO BE HONEST SHE WAS PRIVILEGED TO HAVE A QUALITY PERSON LIKE ME IN HER LIFE. I TOLD HER THAT I'VE SPENT 90% OF THE TIME "BEGGING" TO KEEP US GOING BUT LOOKING AT US FROM A NEUTRAL VIEW SHE WASN'T EVEN QUALIFIED TO WORK FOR ME AS A MAID. JUST READING THROUGH THREADS, LIKE MAGIC, MY EYES OPENED OVERNIGHT AND I DIDN'T STOP CRYING BECAUSE, "WHAT THE HELL WAS I DOING"?. I WAS MAD THAT I BECAME A SHADOW OF MYSELF. NO GOOD THINGS, NO INVESTMENTS, NO SAVINGS BECAUSE I WAS TAKING CARE OF FIANCEE WITH ALL I EARNED. I TOLD HER THAT I KNEW ABOUT HYPERGAMY AND WHAT WAS COMING AND DESPITE THAT SHE WAS ASKING TO CONTINUE AND SWEARING IT'LL ALWAYS BE ME, I KNEW AWALT AND THERE WAS NO WAY THIS WHOLE THING WASN'T A HUGE MESS ALREADY CUZ THERE WAS NO FRAME TO MY IMAGE.

I ENDED UP DOWNGRADING MYSELF TO UPGRADE HER (BECAUSE OF LOVE). SHE EVENTUALLY STARTED FALLING FOR UPGRADED MEN. IT DIDN'T TAKE A WEEK AFTER THAT EPISODE FOR ME TO FIND OUT SHE STARTED SEEING A COLLEAGUE OF HERS. A GUY THAT I KNEW PERSONALLY. HE EARNED LESS THAN I DID BUT WAS SUPER-POLISHED AND LOOKED LIKE HE WAS EVERYTHING A WOMAN WOULD EVER WANT. HE WAS BUILDING HIMSELF. I WAS BUILDING MY WOMAN. SHE WAS FALLING FOR THE MAN THAT WAS BUILDING HIMSELF.

THE MOMENT I REALISED THAT, I LET HER KNOW WHAT I FOUND OUT. SHE CAME DOING THE CROCODILE TEARS BUT I WAS LAUGHING ALL THROUGH THE EPISODE BECAUSE I WAS FOLLOWING THESE NAIRALAND THREADS BUMPER TO BUMPER AND EVERYTHING THEY PREDICTED WAS WHAT I WAS EXPERIENCING. IT WAS FUNNY ALL THE DRAMA SHE PUT UP, ALL THE LIES AND PLEADINGS, BEFORE EVENTUALLY OWNING UP. I DIDN'T EVEN PROVIDE MYSELF TO LISTEN ALL HER NONSENSE BECAUSE I WANTED HER TO BE GONE ASAP WITH THE TWO YEARS I HAVE WASTED. INSTEAD OF GETTING ANGRY AND CRYING/FIGHTING ABOUT IT OR DESTROYING THE HOUSE I RENTED AND FURNISHED FOR HER, I WENT BACK TO THE DRAWING BOARD IMMEDIATELY CUZ I NEEDED TO PICK MYSELF UP FROM WHERE I FELL. I WAS STARK POOR BECAUSE OF THIS PERSON. HER BIGGEST EXCUSE WAS THAT I DIDN'T LOOK LIKE I COULD CARTER FOR HER IN THE FUTURE AND I WAS WASTING TIME WITH THE MARRIAGE SHE DESPERATELY WANTED. BUT THEN I WAS DROWNING BECAUSE I SPENT 70% OF ALL I HAD TAKING CARE OF HER??!. SHE SPENT THE NEXT 6 MONTHS TEXTING ME BUT I HARDLY READ THEM OR BOTHERED TO REPLY. IT WAS RELIEVING FOR ME AT LEAST. COUNTED MY LOSSES IMMEDIATELY AND WENT BACK TO MY NATURAL POSITION. IN THE NEXT 6 MONTHS I WENT FROM BEING ON ZEROS TO MOVING MY NET WORTH ALMOST 100X BECAUSE I STOPPED THROWING MY MONEY AWAY, AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, I PAID MORE ATTENTION TO BUSINESSES AND BUILT BACK ALL THE CONNECTIONS I BROKE OR FAILED TO BUILD BECAUSE I WAS BUILDING A RELATIONSHIP.

IT'S BEEN 3 YEARS SINCE THAT TIME. THE ONES THAT HAVE COME AND GONE MET ME REFINED, LEFT AND I WAS EVEN BETTER BECAUSE EVERY STEP OF THE WAY I INVEST IN MYSELF AND PRIORITISE MYSELF AND ALL MY ENDEAVOURS. JUST ONCE I DECIDED TO DROP GUARD, IT ALMOST COST ME MY SANITY. THE LESSONS FROM THAT SINGULAR EXPERIENCE WAS ENOUGH TO JUSTIFY HOW I WAS LIVING PRIOR, AND WILL BE ENOUGH TO LAST THE REST OF MY LIFETIME. IT'S RIDICULOUS HOW MOST MEN GO THROUGH THINGS LIKE THAT NUMEROUS TIMES AND STILL CONTINUE TO LIVE LIKE FØØLS.

I TRIED BEING A "REAL MAN" ONCE. YOU TOO CAN SEE FROM MY ORDEAL, THE AMOUNT OF LOSSES IT BROUGHT ME. SO TAKE THAT I'M SPEAKING FROM MY EXPERIENCE AND THE EXPERIENCES OF MANY OTHER MEN WHENEVER I URGE MEN, ESPECIALLY THE YOUNGER ONES TO PRIORITISE THEMSELVES AND NEVER PLAY THE "REAL MAN" ROLE. IT ONLY PAYS WOMEN AND SUPPLIES YOU AN ENDLESS STREAM OF LOSSES.

CAPSLOCKED:


JUST ONCE, I LET DOWN MY GUARD, THAT ONCE CHANGED MY LIFE. I'LL GO FIRST. REALLY LENGTHY AND CAPSLOCKED!!!

I HAD THE PRIVILEGE OF ATTENDING AN ALL-BOYS HIGH SCHOOL. ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO MY LIFE. THE CONDITIONING WAS ON A DIFFERENT LEVEL. YOU HAVE THE MAJORITY OF US DOING THE SAME KIND OF THINGS AND BEHAVING IN A SIMILAR WAY. SOMEHOW, THE REDPILL TRAITS WAS IN ALL OF US. SEE, WE DISLIKED THE INTERNET AS TEENS, HOW MEN SIMPED FOR GIRLS ON SITES LIKE FACEBOOK AND ESKIMI. WE DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS "SIMPING" ACTUALLY, BUT WE CALLED IT IDIOCY TO BE CHASING WOMEN ON THE INTERNET AND BEGGING FOR ATTENTION FROM "WORTHLESS" WOMEN WE COULD LIVE WITHOUT. WE THOUGHT WE WERE DEMIGODS!! WE WOULDN'T EVEN ASK WOMEN OUT BECAUSE WE WERE STEADILY COMPETING WITH OURSELVES ON WHO LOOKS BETTER OR HAD BETTER GRADES. MY READERS WILL REMEMBER ME STATING SEVERALLY IN THE PAST THAT I DON'T HAVE ANY SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS. I DEACTIVATED THE LAST ONE IN 2010 BECAUSE I COULDN'T STAND THE PETTINESS. WE WERE SMALL BOYS THEN, AND WE EVENTUALLY LEARNED TO "HATE" GIRLS AND THE MEN THAT THREW THEMSELVES ON THE FLOOR BEGGING THEM FOR THINGS. WE BELIEVED IN RECIPROCATION OF GESTURES, AND ALSO IN EQUITY AND JUSTICE. PROBABLY WHY I IDENTIFIED AS A FENINIST IN 2011 WHEN I JOINED NL AND WAS PRO-FEMINISM BECAUSE I LIKE THE IDEA THAT PEOPLE SHOULD BE EQUAL, ESPECIALLY FOR THINGS LIKE EQUAL RESPONSIBILITY AND ACCOUNTABILITY.

HEADING TO TERTIARY SCHOOL MANY OF MY MEN MUST HAVE FELL OFF DUE TO NEW ENVIRONMENTS AND SOCIALISATION, BUT MY EGO WOULDN'T LET ME "SIMP". NOT FOR ONCE. I STILL HAVEN'T MESSAGED ANY "F" ON THE INTERNET TO DATE. I NEVER ASKED ANYBODY OUT. IF I REMEMBER CORRECTLY IN 5 YEARS OF COLLEGE I DIDN'T KEEP CONTACT OF UP TO 10 GIRLS, AND MAJORITY OF THESE WERE COURSE MATES AND GIRLFRIENDS. ZERO FEMALE FRIENDS. IF WE WEREN'T CONNECTED BY BUSINESS OR PLEASURE I WASN'T GOING TO SPEND ANYTIME TALKING TO YOU WHEN I COULD SPEND THAT TIME LEARNING BENEFICIAL SKILLS ON YOUTUBE. THIS BEHAVIOUR HELPED ME BECAUSE INSTEAD OF "SOCIALISING" OR CHIT-CHATTING I WAS BUILDING MYSELF ON THE INTERNET, AWAY FROM THE DISTRACTIONS. SAFE TO SAY THAT I'M ON THE LEVEL I AM TODAY BECAUSE OF THE LIFESTYLE I MAINTAINED DURING MY LATE TEENS.

IT WAS IN MY 3RD YEAR THAT I STARTED DATING, AND IT WAS THE WOMEN WHO CHOSE ME. IT WAS EASIER LIKE THIS BECAUSE THE WAY I CARRIED MYSELF, ONLY QUALITY GIRLS APPROACHED ME. THINGS LIKE LEECHES AND SCRAP WOMEN, I ONLY READ ABOUT ON THE INTERNET OR HEARD FROM FRIENDS' EXPERIENCES. MY GIRLS ALWAYS TREATED ME LIKE I WAS SOME PRIZE AND ACTUALLY INVESTED A LOT, BECAUSE I WAS FINE AND KNEW HOW TO DRESS AND TALK, OR JUST MAYBE BECAUSE I WAS CHOSEN. I NEVER SIMPED FOR ONCE. CAME FROM A GOOD FAMILY AND WAS SELF-SUFFICIENT TO AN EXTENT, SO THERE WAS NO WAY IN THE WORLD THAT I WOULD PUT MY PRIDE ASIDE TO DO AS MUCH BEG GIRLS FOR ATTENTION OR AFFECTION, OR SPEND A DIME ON THEM UNLESS WE WERE HAVING A THING. THERE WERE EMOTIONS AND HEARTBREAKS IN ALL THOSE YEARS THOUGH. NO MATTER HOW I PACKAGED MYSELF I STILL FELT WHAT THEY DESCRIBED AS "LOVE", BUT LETTING MYSELF DOWN EMOTIONALLY WAS NEVER IN THE BOOKS.

YEARS AFTER GRADUATING, NEARING 30, I THOUGHT I WAS GETTING MORE MATURED AND PERHAPS IT WAS TIME TO LISTEN TO FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND START PLANNING TOWARDS "SETTLING DOWN". I DECIDED THAT TELEVISION ROMANCE WAS WORTH EMULATING. BY THIS TIME I STARTED TO READ ABOUT TRP ON THE FORUM, BUT I DIDN'T PAY ATTENTION TO DETAILS CUZ I FELT THESE WEREN'T CONCERNING ME. ASIDES THAT IT SOUNDS TOO HARSH ON WOMEN, MAJORITY OF WHAT'S SAID WERE THINGS I ALREADY KNEW (SO I THOUGHT). SO I MET A YOUNGER COLLEAGUE AND AS USUAL WITH MY PAST RELATIONSHIPS, I WAS CHOSEN. OR IT SEEMED LIKE IT. THE "SHIT TESTS" STARTED ALMOST IMMEDIATELY BUT THE DESPERATION FOR LOVE AND "OUR" INTENTION TO SETTLE DOWN MADE ME THROW FRAME AWAY INTO THE DEEPEST OCEANS. MY G. HOW LOW I WENT, I'M SURE MY ANCESTORS WANTED ME TO DIE FASTER AND COME MEET THEM IN THE AFTERLIFE SO THEY CAN GANG-UP AND BEAT ME TO DEATH A SECOND TIME.

I STOPPED BODY BUILDING CUZ SHE DIDN'T LIKE IT AND MY SPARE TIME WAS CHANNELS TO HER. I STOPPED DRESSING AS FIRE AS I USED TO. STRICTLY "FAMILY MAN" THING NOW. CUT OUT ANY FEMALE PRESENCE IN MY LIFE AND STOPPED HANGING OUT WITH THE BOYS. I THREW AWAY A US VISA CHANCE BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT TO BE FAR FROM HER. MIND THAT ALL THOSE TIMES I FOLLOWED THE THREADS OF MARTINEZ39S (AND UBUNJA) BECAUSE WE'VE BEEN CONNECTED ON NL FOR ALMOST A DECADE SO I MUST SEE EVERY POST, BUT I DON'T CONTRIBUTE. I THOUGHT I HAD THIS ONE UNDER CONTROL BECAUSE I WANTED TO DO "WHAT'S RIGHT". I DID NOT ONLY SUCCUMB TO HER PRESSURE FOR MARRIAGE, I STARTED WORKING 2X MORE AS WELL IN ORDER TO HASTEN UP. HASTEN UP TO WHAT EXACTLY? IF YOU ASK ME NOW I SWEAR I DON'T EVEN KNOW.

SUBSEQUENTLY I TOOK SECOND PLACE BETWEEN US AND EVENTUALLY DECLINED TO BEING THE STRING HOLDING US DESPITE THAT SHE WANTED OUT MANY TIMES. I'D BEG TO CONTINUE. THIS MEANT MORE INVESTMENTS FROM ME AND ALMOST NOTHING FROM HER. I HAD A JOB OFFER THAT I SNEAKED HER NAME IN TO MAKE HER HAPPY. I STILL MADE MORE THAN HER BUT THE NATURE OF THIS NEW JOB MEANT SHE STARTED TO ROLL WITH HIGHER CALIBRE OF PEOPLE. IT WAS A BIG ORGANISATION, AND I LOST IT ALL AFTER THEN. I CONTINUED TO FUND HER LIFESTYLE. I MEAN, WHY WOULDN'T I FUND MY FIANCEE? THE PRESSURE GOT OFF LIMIT AND IT STARTED TO BE CALLS WITH MANY MEN AND OUTINGS WITH HER "BIG GIRLS". CHEATING NECESSARILY WASN'T CALLED IN AT THIS POINT BUT IT WAS CLEAR SHE WAS IN A HIGHER LEAGUE. ON ONE OF THOSE DAYS I LOOKED MYSELF IN THE MIRROR AND COMPARED WITH THE MAN I WAS YEARS BACK IN COLLEGE. THE DIFFERENCES WERE CLEAR ENOUGH. BUT WE WERE GONNA GET MARRIED, RIGHT? WE'VE LASTED TWO YEARS AND I WAS LOOSING MY MIND. SO I WENT BACK TO MY OG MARTINEZ39S AND ACTUALLY PAID ATTENTION TO ALL THAT HE'S BEEN SAYING OVER THE YEARS. IT DIDN'T TAKE LONG FOR COMMON SENSE TO GET BACK TO ME BECAUSE I REALISED EXACTLY THE POINT I FELL OFF AND ALL THAT I'VE BEEN DOING COMPLETELY WRONGLY OVER THE YEARS. I MOVED BACK TO MY GIRL AND INFORMED HER OF MY REALISATION, AND THAT TO BE HONEST SHE WAS PRIVILEGED TO HAVE A QUALITY PERSON LIKE ME IN HER LIFE. I TOLD HER THAT I'VE SPENT 90% OF THE TIME "BEGGING" TO KEEP US GOING BUT LOOKING AT US FROM A NEUTRAL VIEW SHE WASN'T EVEN QUALIFIED TO WORK FOR ME AS A MAID. JUST READING THROUGH THREADS, LIKE MAGIC, MY EYES OPENED OVERNIGHT AND I DIDN'T STOP CRYING BECAUSE, "WHAT THE HELL WAS I DOING"?. I WAS MAD THAT I BECAME A SHADOW OF MYSELF. NO GOOD THINGS, NO INVESTMENTS, NO SAVINGS BECAUSE I WAS TAKING CARE OF FIANCEE WITH ALL I EARNED. I TOLD HER THAT I KNEW ABOUT HYPERGAMY AND WHAT WAS COMING AND DESPITE THAT SHE WAS ASKING TO CONTINUE AND SWEARING IT'LL ALWAYS BE ME, I KNEW AWALT AND THERE WAS NO WAY THIS WHOLE THING WASN'T A HUGE MESS ALREADY CUZ THERE WAS NO FRAME TO MY IMAGE.

I ENDED UP DOWNGRADING MYSELF TO UPGRADE HER (BECAUSE OF LOVE). SHE EVENTUALLY STARTED FALLING FOR UPGRADED MEN. IT DIDN'T TAKE A WEEK AFTER THAT EPISODE FOR ME TO FIND OUT SHE STARTED SEEING A COLLEAGUE OF HERS. A GUY THAT I KNEW PERSONALLY. HE EARNED LESS THAN I DID BUT WAS SUPER-POLISHED AND LOOKED LIKE HE WAS EVERYTHING A WOMAN WOULD EVER WANT. HE WAS BUILDING HIMSELF. I WAS BUILDING MY WOMAN. SHE WAS FALLING FOR THE MAN THAT WAS BUILDING HIMSELF.

THE MOMENT I REALISED THAT, I LET HER KNOW WHAT I FOUND OUT. SHE CAME DOING THE CROCODILE TEARS BUT I WAS LAUGHING ALL THROUGH THE EPISODE BECAUSE I WAS FOLLOWING THESE NAIRALAND THREADS BUMPER TO BUMPER AND EVERYTHING THEY PREDICTED WAS WHAT I WAS EXPERIENCING. IT WAS FUNNY ALL THE DRAMA SHE PUT UP, ALL THE LIES AND PLEADINGS, BEFORE EVENTUALLY OWNING UP. I DIDN'T EVEN PROVIDE MYSELF TO LISTEN ALL HER NONSENSE BECAUSE I WANTED HER TO BE GONE ASAP WITH THE TWO YEARS I HAVE WASTED. INSTEAD OF GETTING ANGRY AND CRYING/FIGHTING ABOUT IT OR DESTROYING THE HOUSE I RENTED AND FURNISHED FOR HER, I WENT BACK TO THE DRAWING BOARD IMMEDIATELY CUZ I NEEDED TO PICK MYSELF UP FROM WHERE I FELL. I WAS STARK POOR BECAUSE OF THIS PERSON. HER BIGGEST EXCUSE WAS THAT I DIDN'T LOOK LIKE I COULD CARTER FOR HER IN THE FUTURE AND I WAS WASTING TIME WITH THE MARRIAGE SHE DESPERATELY WANTED. BUT THEN I WAS DROWNING BECAUSE I SPENT 70% OF ALL I HAD TAKING CARE OF HER??!. SHE SPENT THE NEXT 6 MONTHS TEXTING ME BUT I HARDLY READ THEM OR BOTHERED TO REPLY. IT WAS RELIEVING FOR ME AT LEAST. COUNTED MY LOSSES IMMEDIATELY AND WENT BACK TO MY NATURAL POSITION. IN THE NEXT 6 MONTHS I WENT FROM BEING ON ZEROS TO MOVING MY NET WORTH ALMOST 100X BECAUSE I STOPPED THROWING MY MONEY AWAY, AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, I PAID MORE ATTENTION TO BUSINESSES AND BUILT BACK ALL THE CONNECTIONS I BROKE OR FAILED TO BUILD BECAUSE I WAS BUILDING A RELATIONSHIP.

IT'S BEEN 3 YEARS SINCE THAT TIME. THE ONES THAT HAVE COME AND GONE MET ME REFINED, LEFT AND I WAS EVEN BETTER BECAUSE EVERY STEP OF THE WAY I INVEST IN MYSELF AND PRIORITISE MYSELF AND ALL MY ENDEAVOURS. JUST ONCE I DECIDED TO DROP GUARD, IT ALMOST COST ME MY SANITY. THE LESSONS FROM THAT SINGULAR EXPERIENCE WAS ENOUGH TO JUSTIFY HOW I WAS LIVING PRIOR, AND WILL BE ENOUGH TO LAST THE REST OF MY LIFETIME. IT'S RIDICULOUS HOW MOST MEN GO THROUGH THINGS LIKE THAT NUMEROUS TIMES AND STILL CONTINUE TO LIVE LIKE FØØLS.

I TRIED BEING A "REAL MAN" ONCE. YOU TOO CAN SEE FROM MY ORDEAL, THE AMOUNT OF LOSSES IT BROUGHT ME. SO TAKE THAT I'M SPEAKING FROM MY EXPERIENCE AND THE EXPERIENCES OF MANY OTHER MEN WHENEVER I URGE MEN, ESPECIALLY THE YOUNGER ONES TO PRIORITISE THEMSELVES AND NEVER PLAY THE "REAL MAN" ROLE. IT ONLY PAYS WOMEN AND SUPPLIES YOU AN ENDLESS STREAM OF LOSSES.

XshegzzyeeiX:
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