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Maverick777:
Top of the day Fam!

A close buddy of mine is in deep shit, just 2 days back he confided in me telling me his maid (who the wife employed herself) is 14weeks pregnant!

HOW IT UNFOLDED
Earlier in the year, his wife got an invite to do her masters program in Scotland and they have a 5year old Son, so she elected they employ a maid since she couldn't take him along, she even did so herself.

The husband is a pilot and always never at home (the security the wife had I guess), now I don't know whatever went on in his tiny head, they got intimate (just once) and boom! she caught the shot expertly.. He said she's being showing symptoms since he got back from travel, so he took her for a test and its confirmed.

I guess she knew all along but did nothing on purpose, because I don't want to believe that a 22year old girl would be comfortable not flowing for 3 months (not like she's a novice).
Now, his wife is due back in September, and he's scheduled to travel again by Monday(to return only God knows when).

So technically, his wife might even return before him.

He asked for my suggestion and help, because he mentioned abortion to her and she refuted saying she nearly died after the last one she did, so the doctor warned her sternly against it.

I told him that the best I can advise/do for him is to take her in until she puts to bed. let him tell his wife she ran off with a guy or something of the sort. then we take it up from there after delivery.

The situation is one dicey and fragile one, if not handled carefully with wisdom, can ruin a lot!

I thought they existed in Nollywood only oh...

Any mature suggestion is welcome.

Prettychild:
The lady too needs to be blamed. Doesn’t she know he was married? If he was a poor man would she have opened her legs for him? What happened to women supporting women? Couldn’t she have slept with a single man?

UyaiIncomparabl:
Birds of a feather. See the kind of friends you keep. A friend who sleeps with his maid. I can't imagine the greater atrocities you will commit in your time.

What advice do you want from us? I guess you are looking for solidarity from us to give your friend a go-ahead to do what exactly? If I knew his wife, I'll personally break the news to her and have her divorce him. Husband from hell.

Best bet, let him marry her as a second wife because if na me, I no go agree to be babymama or else I go scatter your home. I can never be sidelined. In his next life, he will learn to have restraint and keep his infested diick in his pants.

Maverick777:
abortion might be risky for her(that's if she's being honest)
marrying her......

5ircreepy:
Clearly the man can afford a paternity test, he should confirm first. Some ladies be wilding.

Maverick777:
Top of the day Fam!

A close buddy of mine is in deep shit, just 2 days back he confided in me telling me his maid (who the wife employed herself) is 14weeks pregnant!

HOW IT UNFOLDED
Earlier in the year, his wife got an invite to do her masters program in Scotland and they have a 5year old Son, so she elected they employ a maid since she couldn't take him along, she even did so herself.

The husband is a pilot and always never at home (the security the wife had I guess), now I don't know whatever went on in his tiny head, they got intimate (just once) and boom! she caught the shot expertly.. He said she's being showing symptoms since he got back from travel, so he took her for a test and its confirmed.

I guess she knew all along but did nothing on purpose, because I don't want to believe that a 22year old girl would be comfortable not flowing for 3 months (not like she's a novice).
Now, his wife is due back in September, and he's scheduled to travel again by Monday(to return only God knows when).

So technically, his wife might even return before him.

He asked for my suggestion and help, because he mentioned abortion to her and she refuted saying she nearly died after the last one she did, so the doctor warned her sternly against it.

I told him that the best I can advise/do for him is to take her in until she puts to bed. let him tell his wife she ran off with a guy or something of the sort. then we take it up from there after delivery.

The situation is one dicey and fragile one, if not handled carefully with wisdom, can ruin a lot!

I thought they existed in Nollywood only oh...

Any mature suggestion is welcome.

maasoap:
You trust people's words too easily: your friend said that he did it once, you believed him. The girl said she was told that abortion is risky for her, you believed her too. Lol.
She used that pregnancy to trap your friend, simple. She needs to be made to willingly go for abortion whatever it takes. Even it means settling her with millions of naira!

DrDunamis:
So what about the possibility of her being pregnant for another person and forcing it on your friend. It's possible to do paternity test even if the child isn't yet born he should go for this option first.

NemoDatQuod:
Truth is the most powerful weapon on earth. I will advise he tell his wife immediately. She will ultimately find out. With the profile you have painted of that maid, his wife will find out before the end of this year. The maid does not plan on remaining a maid for long or on staying hidden for long. Moreover, for how long will he keep the existence of his own child hidden?

Let the truth set him free. Let the heavens fall today instead of in a few years time, when there will be more at risk. The longer a marriage endures, the more dangerous disastrous revelations such as this becomes for the man.

jamesversion:
If he doesn't want his wife to ever know about it, then he should 'tighten loose ends'.

Echoban:
The gateman might even d one responsible while ur friend my just b a victim of circumstances

idonuana:
You want to take her in so that you too will add to the pregnant? Pls tell me na big yansh the girl get wey dey charm you and your friend?

PS712:
If she said she the last time she did abortion she almost died and so is bent on keeping this one then rest assured that pregnancy isn't his. He's just being hoodwinked by an olosho for economic gains since he'll henceforth assume responsibility for her upkeep.
Importantly, you (abi your pseudo friend) just dodged a bullet, they hatched plan B instead of plan A which would have been to kill you and get away with your wealth. She's not alone in this plan, her boyfriend who could be one of the stewards working with you or some random guy is in this plan with her.
What to do? Play smart. Don't make her suspect you or predict your next move...
Tell her to accompany you to shop some household items that madam said you should get that someone will come to the house to pick. When you drive go to a place you already arranged with one of your friends who will act as a medical personnel. Park before entry and then start talk to her..
If you and your wife don't have kids yet tell her you have chosen to be calm and nice to her despite the news she broke to you and her response, not because you don't know what you are doing, but because there is more she doesn't know..
Proceed to telling her you'll share your family's little secret with her and that is that you are the reason you don't have kids yet, that you were told by doctors that you are impotent. So the chance that you are responsible is very slim. But that you too desire and hope it is yours already because 3 days before meeting with her you completed first dose of some medications, and that you told the medical personnel who gave you the drugs he said it is unlikely the first line/dose starts work so immediately with your kind of condition but that he wants to meet with her to ask her some questions and also start diagnosis on her, it will include matching the foetus in her with your blood. Tell her the man is inside the building holding meeting so he said you should call him when you get there. And tell her you will from there go to the store. Then call your friend who will come and act as a medical personnel.
But if you have kids already, edit the story to include you didn't get your wife pregnant, it was through IVF with donor sperm. If the kids look exactly like you then edit it to just your inability to get a woman pregnant through the natural route, only via IVF and that this is the first.
You have to catch her off guard.

Berankis:
Your advice is a setup. They should just find a better way. Abort.

Bobloco:
This one Na format

jaxxy:
I'm sure he has other babies in different area codes since he's a pilot and never arround.

How can a grown ass man impregnate maid abi na jazz??

Maverick777:
you know women!
no one would hear the last of this if he tell her.
and he loves/wants his marriage...

infogenius:
Yeah, but it also depends how the impregnator plays it. Because if the woman suspects foul play ( which is more likely to happen), the woman may run the show herself or make use of other people.

Ardar:
"No one will hear the last of it if he tells his wife" so you want your friend to keep this show of shame as a secret from his wife?

A man who sleeps with a woman without protection, a woman who's medical history he's not aware off does not care about himself and most definitely, does not care about his wife.

I am very certain that that your friend have been sleeping around with different women, but this time around, e don hook am for neck.

Maverick777:
a maid is firstly a human/woman.

Maverick777:
people make mistakes, don't be so judgemental
And psychology tells me that, if he was so randy like you said, he wouldn't have been so naive, don't you think?

jaxxy:
so he can impregnate his daughter if she's a woman? or a teacher can impregnate a student cis she's 1st a woman? where are ur values, ethics and morals?

amakanancy:
This is unfair on the woman. why this wickedness

Maverick777:
how is murder a 'better' way?

Maverick777:
hopefully it wouldn't get to that.

Ardar:
what stupid mistake, if your story is real then that pilot man have been sleeping with other women even before the maid. This is how innocent people get infected by diseases all in the name of marriage.

Maverick777:
Top of the day Fam!

A close buddy of mine is in deep shit, just 2 days back he confided in me telling me his maid (who the wife employed herself) is 14weeks pregnant!

HOW IT UNFOLDED
Earlier in the year, his wife got an invite to do her masters program in Scotland and they have a 5year old Son, so she elected they employ a maid since she couldn't take him along, she even did so herself.

The husband is a pilot and always never at home (the security the wife had I guess), now I don't know whatever went on in his tiny head, they got intimate (just once) and boom! she caught the shot expertly.. He said she's being showing symptoms since he got back from travel, so he took her for a test and its confirmed.

I guess she knew all along but did nothing on purpose, because I don't want to believe that a 22year old girl would be comfortable not flowing for 3 months (not like she's a novice).
Now, his wife is due back in September, and he's scheduled to travel again by Monday(to return only God knows when).

So technically, his wife might even return before him.

He asked for my suggestion and help, because he mentioned abortion to her and she refuted saying she nearly died after the last one she did, so the doctor warned her sternly against it.

I told him that the best I can advise/do for him is to take her in until she puts to bed. let him tell his wife she ran off with a guy or something of the sort. then we take it up from there after delivery.

The situation is one dicey and fragile one, if not handled carefully with wisdom, can ruin a lot!

I thought they existed in Nollywood only oh...

Any mature suggestion is welcome.

hush15:
That's why there is condom