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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by H0711(f): 5:35pm On Jul 31, 2022
Jovialjune1:



I will encourage her to leave from now till infinity cos if God forbid any of my sister's husband did this same trash as Op's husband, I will advice her to leave. You can tell your sisters and daughters to stay with a deceitful and secretive husband, no one cares

The Op will not give birth to a deformed child in Jesus mighty name, she will give birth to a healthy child full of life, I proclaim your negative thoughts to you, your family, and offspring, amen.

Amen ooo any negative words back to the sender in Jesus name

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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by FORWARDEVERLY: 5:37pm On Jul 31, 2022
H0711:


God forbid bad things but for my own child I will never get tired of him I will love him no matter what but for someone else child in that condition I won't. The worse is he didn't tell me from the onset maybe if he had told me I would have accepted her and be prepared but I wasn't prepared and I can't do it.

I support your decision to leave ��
As it is irritating to you is the same way it is for Men when they are told to accept a single mom..

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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by RosyIsBlessed: 5:43pm On Jul 31, 2022
H0711:


Well it is too late now because my elder brother said i will stay wity him until I go back to the village on the 4th. I will listen to him because he is my blood he doesn't want me to stay and suffer in an unhappy place carrying a burden which I didn't agreed for.

Is he (your elder brother) same one that was talking dirty with you because of 20k he gave you?

Referring to your other thread.

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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by H0711(f): 5:45pm On Jul 31, 2022
RosyIsBlessed:


Is he (your elder brother) same one that was talking dirty with you because of 20k he gave you?

My elder brother the stingy one who brought me to abuja to take care of his kids and the one who gave me 20k was his friend after he started talking dirty and wanted to sleep with me. I rebuke him

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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Ppp1p: 5:46pm On Jul 31, 2022
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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by chiomzy86(f): 5:55pm On Jul 31, 2022
Pls leave..until he finds a place to keep her...women dey take shit.if it's the other way round will they advice him to accept u and the child,? He should drop the child with his mum,,motherles babies home or plead with the mother of d child to take her back.and employ a help whom u will be paying
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by tempest2019: 6:01pm On Jul 31, 2022
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I understand what you are going through as a woman but taking such decisions is not the best for you at the moment

The child mother has tried and probably the man left the upkeep for her and married you, so since she lost the marriage, she has to return the child to disabilitize your marriage

Divorce is not even the best option

The best option is to take the child to a welfare center where the have the services the child needs or better still get an in-house Nanny to look after the child while he provides for the child care and pay the Nanny for her services

With the above, the child is not your business any more, nor your responsibilities and you still stay happily in your home

Worst case, he can take the child to his parents and they all will sort it out there in there family house

If you divorce him another woman will come in and oversea the suggestions I made mentioned above

Then you will be a single mum to be and you can still rock your life though

This is the best advise here. Try to follow it. You will not regret it
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by profjid(m): 6:01pm On Jul 31, 2022
Married two months ago but pregnant with 7months old child shocked, and planning to leave next Month. Hence, there are hidden stories in between the lines that we may not be able to ask you. Hence seek godly counsel before taking your final decision and then come to ask for help here again.

I think there is something not appropriately done somehow and somewhere...

It's Well

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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Eyegroup: 6:17pm On Jul 31, 2022
H0711:


God forbid bad things but for my own child I will never get tired of him I will love him no matter what but for someone else child in that condition I won't. The worse is he didn't tell me from the onset maybe if he had told me I would have accepted her and be prepared but I wasn't prepared and I can't do it.
The gods are wise woman so don't fool the gods of might be the same woman better stay in your marriage ...that's the problem of this generate of tittok woman...jumping from one man to another ..just few month in marriage you wan jump to another man ..na ashawo you be ooo
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Simple99: 6:21pm On Jul 31, 2022
[You have a convincing answer and replies to every questions that is being asked here]

Yes I have made up my mind because it has not been easy for me because i take care of her everyday from morning until hubby get home at 7-8pm . It's been a week only and my head want to explode and my body want to give up. I am tired and the level of stress is too much for me in this my condition I need rest not all of this burden . I can't do it anymore. I am not leaving him because of his poor condition it is because I can't take care of his special need child , his financial state hasn't been a problem to me because no condition is permanent I know one day everything will be fine but i can't take care of his special need child in this my condition.[/quote]
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by MadeMan01(m): 6:21pm On Jul 31, 2022
Jovialjune1:



Pls leave.

Since he can keep something as huge as a child, who knows what else he's keeping from you

You are justified to leave abeg.

1. Be careful of single girls advising you, a married woman to leave your husband.
2. You will now be 2nd hand. No responsible man wants a woman that has had a child for another man
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Aleora(f): 6:23pm On Jul 31, 2022
If this case is reversed will he accept your child in that condition if your ex husband con abandon pikin with am!!since he didn’t tell you about the child before hand just for your sanity and your unborn baby leave for now …

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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by braine(m): 6:24pm On Jul 31, 2022
That man is a very wicked person.

I would have said you should leave. But now you're carrying a child who needs a father.
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by H0711(f): 6:30pm On Jul 31, 2022
MadeMan01:


1. Be careful of single girls advising you, a married woman to leave your husband.
2. You will now be 2nd hand. No responsible man wants a woman that has had a child for another man


No problem it's better to be a second hand like you think than risking my own health and unborn child health raising another person responsibility which might lead me to develope high blood pressure and depression. I believe if your sister was in my situation you would have also advised her just like you advised me. Why don't you convince one of them to come and marry him and help him take care of the child because right now he is alone with the child he need a helping hand

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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by H0711(f): 6:30pm On Jul 31, 2022
braine:
That man is a very wicked person.

I would have said you should leave. But now you're carrying a child who needs a father.

I have already left I am in my brother house

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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by braine(m): 6:34pm On Jul 31, 2022
H0711:


I have already left I am in my brother child.

Good. The marriage was a deceitful one.

I dont support divorce,, but it would be hypocritical for me or anyone to tell you to stay. No one on this platform will take such.

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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by H0711(f): 6:35pm On Jul 31, 2022
braine:


Good. The marriage was a deceitful one.

I dont support divorce,, but it would be hypocritical for me or anyone to tell you to stay. No one on this platform will take such.

Thank you

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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by PrincessC11(f): 6:37pm On Jul 31, 2022
I understand how you feel. But I don't think divorce is the answer.

Ask him to find a help. That is the only solution. After all if you leave,he must find a solution. So insist on him finding a HELP that her work will solely to take care of the girl.

Remember, divorce is not the solution.
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by tibatobi: 6:37pm On Jul 31, 2022
H0711:


I will not do it , she didn't impregnate herself it is not like she left the child with strangers she left her at her father house. The have made her together so they should also share responsibility as a woman myself I will not blamed her because I have been with the child for a week it was hell and what about her who he rejected her because odf the child condition and has been doing alone for 7 years with no support from him ? Do you think it is easy no it isn't she deserve to rest, it is now the father turn to take over and feel what they mother has felt all those years. If taking care of the child was easy I just left the house this morning and he is been sending me plenty messages begging me to come back home. So please I have no business with the child mother and she is not my enemy.
it's obvious u don't want that marriage.initially..
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by H0711(f): 6:41pm On Jul 31, 2022
PrincessC11:
I understand how you feel. But I don't think divorce is the answer.

Ask him to find a help. That is the only solution. After all if you leave,he must find a solution. So insist on him finding a HELP that her work will solely to take care of the girl.

Remember, divorce is not the solution.

I have already answered the question he can't afford one because his salary is 15k and his side hustle is not going well.

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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by tibatobi: 6:41pm On Jul 31, 2022
tibatobi:
it's obvious u don't want that marriage.initially..because if u want it u will fight for it. But when u go out of the marriage the woman will come and carry the child,she just want to see you out of his life.being a single mother it's fustrating not a good way to start life ask those who has been in that condition.
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by tibatobi: 6:42pm On Jul 31, 2022
H0711:


I will not do it , she didn't impregnate herself it is not like she left the child with strangers she left her at her father house. The have made her together so they should also share responsibility as a woman myself I will not blamed her because I have been with the child for a week it was hell and what about her who he rejected her because odf the child condition and has been doing alone for 7 years with no support from him ? Do you think it is easy no it isn't she deserve to rest, it is now the father turn to take over and feel what they mother has felt all those years. If taking care of the child was easy I just left the house this morning and he is been sending me plenty messages begging me to come back home. So please I have no business with the child mother and she is not my enemy.
it's obvious u don't want that marriage.initially..because if u want it u will fight for it. But when u go out of the marriage the woman will come and carry the child,she just want to see you out of his life.being a single mother it's fustrating not a good way to start life ask those who has been in that condition.
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by H0711(f): 6:43pm On Jul 31, 2022
tibatobi:
it's obvious u don't want that marriage.initially..

Yes I don't because staying in the marriage will mean I have to carry the burden and I don't want to. My health and unborn child health matter the most

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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by TochiEzubebem(m): 6:48pm On Jul 31, 2022
You want to end your marriage right while you are seven months pregnant??
Do you know that no man will want to end up with you cause of the fact you have given birth to another man in your past? Don’t end your marriage because of your husband mistakes because divorce is not always the best route.
If your husband still loves you, cares for you and treats you right, then where are you going to?
You will only end up in regret if you take this decision of yours because it will drain you emotionally and mentally especially of the fact that you are pregnant of him. You claim to love children but trust me you will happen to hate your unborn baby because you will not stop thinking of your husband especially if he is doing well.
Please don’t quit because life is too short for jumping upandan
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by carinmom(f): 6:48pm On Jul 31, 2022
Jovialjune1:



Abeg shut the fvck up

A man will first of all beat the living day light out of his wife if he finds out his wife has a child outside, then fling her out of the house thereafter,

Ordinary cheating that you men cheat in marriage and go Scot free, if it was the wife that cheat, you all will be wailing and throwing tantrums about like your life has been cut short

Let me not talk of DNA testing that you guys like shouting about, yet you want to come and lie to us here that men endure in marriage, you people are always wanting to sound smart with lies, then end up sounding foolish in the process, everybody knows wives endure alot of bullshit in marriage, alot, so if you cannot advice your sister or daughter to stay in a deceitful marriage filled with lies and an extra child springing up from nowhere just like the case of Op, shut the fvck up, read comments, and learn.

I couldn't help but thank you for this comment. The best comment in this thread I read so far. God bless you sis.

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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Akalia(m): 6:50pm On Jul 31, 2022
PrincessC11:
I understand how you feel. But I don't think divorce is the answer.

Ask him to find a help. That is the only solution. After all if you leave,he must find a solution. So insist on him finding a HELP that her work will solely to take care of the girl.

Remember, divorce is not the solution.
You are the only sensible woman on this thread seen so far. I hope the OP stumbles upon your counsel and leverage it.
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by bamosagie(m): 6:53pm On Jul 31, 2022
All I keep seeing is he can't afford and not we can't afford.
If I may ask, what if he had won a huge sum of money; making him rich instantly, would you leave because he didn't tell you he is rich.
Is marriage not supposed to be for better or worst.
Now you are planning to run away after seeing worse (it has not even gotten to worst yet)
You better erase the thought of leaving and start thinking of how to be your husband's helpmate.
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by elipheleh(m): 6:53pm On Jul 31, 2022
H0711:


I am going back to the village I will find something to do and take care of myself and the child

Sis. If you divorce him. You are now a single mother. And you do not have one iota of idea the things single mothers pass through in this Nigeria plus economy.

Do you wish to remarry?

Will you tell the new man about your new child?

Will you expect him to take care of her or even buy her shishi or house her?

Will he now accept your own baby seeing it's not his responsibility?

Will you hide your baby on first date? Won't that be a betrayal to the new guy too? Exactly how another betrayed you?

Do you have an idea how much baggage single mothers are? Do you know how much men run away from them?

Will you remain single for life?

Will you start begging to come back if things get better for this man. And he now can afford a maid?

Will he accept you?

Will he see you as good wife?

When if you remarry and your new husband hears about the reason you left your first husband. Will he judge you right? Are you a dependable wife? What will he think of you?


IF YOU KNOW WHAT IS GOOD FOR YOU JUST PRAY AND CONTINUE PRAYING FOR FINANCIAL SUCCESS IN YOUR HOME. NOT DIVORCE.
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by xproducer: 6:53pm On Jul 31, 2022
BloomingDale:


Foolishness? If you say so. Na you sabi the Bible.

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GOD knows all things...

"Great is our Lord, and of great power: his understanding is infinite." - Psalm 147:5
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by H0711(f): 6:54pm On Jul 31, 2022
TochiEzubebem:
You want to end your marriage right while you are seven months pregnant??
Do you know that no man will want to end up with you cause of the fact you have given birth to another man in your past? Don’t end your marriage because of your husband mistakes because divorce is not always the best route.
If your husband still loves you, cares for you and treats you right, then where are you going to?
You will only end up in regret if you take this decision of yours because it will drain you emotionally and mentally especially of the fact that you are pregnant of him. You claim to love children but trust me you will happen to hate your unborn baby because you will not stop thinking of your husband especially if he is doing well.
Please don’t quit because life is too short for jumping upandan

I have already left. I am a hard working woman I will work hard to take care of my son and I will never hate him because he is the best thing that ever happened to me.

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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Nozino: 6:54pm On Jul 31, 2022
mekzyjoe:

If after u have left and divorced him, and God forbid,ur child turns out also to b disabled,what would you do? Think from both sides n seek God n ur pastor advice too


It is your children that will turn out to be disable.

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