Nairalanders,

Please I need you to help me have a third eye into a personal matter. Although, I have taken a position, I just wanted to be sure I never overreacted.

I am a guy based in Europe and my wife is in Nigeria. I have only been away for a year.

There was a day I was calling my wife on phone and her other phone was ringing which I asked her to pick up but she never did only to say that it was my friend calling her. I was surprised and asked her immediately how did my friend get know her other number. She gave some not-so-convincing explanation but I let it slide.

Curiously, when I returned to Nigeria, I discovered that this friend sent money to her and she never told me about it. The so called friend also didn't tell me anything. In fact, he has always acted as if he wasn't having any contact with my wife.

When I saw the transaction, my wife wanted to manipulate the situation to make it look like I was invading her privacy. I stood my ground to know what purpose the money was meant for but no reasonable explanation.

I called the friend too to know what the money was meant for but only retorted if he couldn't give my wife money as a friend. He couldn't offer any reasonable explanation. With high sense of modesty, this is a guy that would wish to be in my position economic wise and I have always been very generous to my wife when it comes to money. Therefore, financial lack could not be an excuse.

After this experience, I severe my friendship with the guy and rein in on my wife too. I felt that was not the kind of friendship any reasonable person should keep because I felt betrayed by his actions and inactions in relating with my wife behind me. I also see both of them (friend and wife) to be dangerous to my well-being.

Please I will like to know if I overreacted.

Thank you.

MOD please take it to front page for wider views and opinions

Make I wait for elders

Wow. I dedicate this first time comment to all man u fans, I feel ur pains brother, come join the best club. Liverpool FC. Cos u will never walk alone

They have something going on that they are hiding from you.

It rather sounds suspicious though since no concrete explanation was given behind the transaction.

You may be wrong from your point of view. You need to establish further evidence. As of now, you aint got none.

We may not know a million percent of that which we think we know.
So friend, you are just gawking. Gawking is not seeing.

From 2010 upwards, na fool dey marry

Enjoy your woes

Osama2478:
Nairalanders,

Please I need you to help me have a third eye into a personal matter. Although, I have taken a position, I just wanted to be sure I never overreacted.

I am a guy based in Europe and my wife is in Nigeria. I have only been away for a year.

There was a day I was calling my wife on phone and her other phone was ringing which I asked her to pick up but she never did only to say that it was my friend calling her. I was surprised and asked her immediately how did my friend get know her other number. She gave some not-so-convincing explanation but I let it slide.

Curiously, when I returned to Nigeria, I discovered that this friend sent money to her and she never told me about it. The so called friend also didn't tell me anything. In fact, he has always acted as if he wasn't having any contact with my wife.

When I saw the transaction, my wife wanted to manipulate the situation to make it look like I was invading her privacy. I stood my ground to know what purpose the money was meant for but no reasonable explanation.

I called the friend too to know what the money was meant for but only retorted if he couldn't give my wife money as a friend. He couldn't offer any reasonable explanation. With high sense of modesty, this is a guy that would wish to be in my position economic wise and I have always been very generous to my wife when it comes to money. Therefore, financial lack could not be an excuse.

After this experience, I severe my friendship with the guy and rein in on my wife too. I felt that was not the kind of friendship any reasonable person should keep because I felt betrayed by his actions and inactions in relating with my wife behind me. I also see both of them (friend and wife) to be dangerous to my well-being.

Please I will like to know if I overreacted.

Thank you.

MOD please take it to front page for wider views and opinions

You didn't overreact, there is something going on between them, the way you handle it will make her confess. Meanwhile what is your plan for your wife, are you bringing her to join you? Do you intend to leave her here while you will getting your groove on over there and thinking money will keep her body and soul together.

So what you want to do other than let her go? As it is very obvious something fishing is going down. As for your friend. Cut ties, he is as dangerous as a green snake under the green grass.

Your wife and the so-called friend don't appear to be clean.There is something they are both hiding.
It is a good thing you severed your relationship with him.Stand your ground too that your wife can't have any communication with him.

I hope you have plans to bring your wife abroad to be with you.

Something dey worry you for head, no be every body dey useless like you

Antimarraige:
From 2010 upwards, na fool dey marry

Enjoy your woes

Op you did not over react, still keep your guard up and as for taking her abroad, hope you should know that there is risk involved as your wife is not remorseful from all you said here and if that is the case she might do worse knowing that the law there can be used against you. Think the pros and cons and be sure to put up measures in case things go south if you take her there.

You did not over react, you under reacted sef. That your friend can kill you

Qtrpst4:
Something dey worry you for head, no be every body dey useless like you

you are the useless person here, empty head.

Just like your father and mother who should have know that ordinary condom would have saved us of something like you

Antimarraige:
you are the useless person here, empty head.

Qtrpst4:
Just like your father and mother who should have know that ordinary condom would have saved us of something like you

eleribu if only your useless dog of a father taught you how to mind your business you won't be here disgracing your parents anyhow, I know your pig of a mother was too busy whoring around she didn't have time to put sense into your big for nothing head

Olofo oniran kiran, your generation no get sense

At least I have a father, but do you have, since marriage is useless to you am sure stupidity runs in your leanage

Antimarraige:
eleribu if only your useless dog of a father taught you how to mind your business you won't be here disgracing your parents anyhow, I know your pig of a mother was too busy whoring around she didn't have time to put sense into your big for nothing head

Olofo oniran kiran, your generation no get sense

Qtrpst4:
At least I have a father, but do you have, since marriage is useless to you am sure stupidity runs in your leanage

eleribu my post says from 2010 upwards, you're obviously too dumb to know what that means that's why you're here displaying your inherited stupidity

Pained nigga using Panadol for another man's headache, if it's paining you come and give me wife by force na

Son of a wasted generation, your useless father's name will be terminated on you and your siblings head, that's a fact not a curse.

Carry your pervasions face front, if you like make e be 2054 that one concern you

Antimarraige:
eleribu my post says from 2010 upwards, you're obviously too dumb to know what that means that's why you're here displaying your inherited stupidity

Pained nigga using Panadol for another man's headache, if it's paining you come and give me wife by force na

Son of a wasted generation, your useless father's name will be terminated on you and your siblings head, that's a fact not a curse.

Qtrpst4:
Carry your pervasions face front, if you like make e be 2054 that one concern you

fück off my mentions and learn to mind your business next time, face wetin face you..

Obonte

So because your friend gave your wife money you just concluded that she is cheating on you without any concrete evidence ,nawa for some men sha,anyway,what i see there is that you never trusted your wife from the onset if not why would you just conclude that she's cheating on you .

Next time, when normal people dey talk, no put mouth, you are not normal

Antimarraige:
fück off my mentions and learn to mind your business next time, face wetin face you..

Obonte

Antimarriage and Qtrpst4 both of you should pls carry your mad.ness elsewhere,this is a serious thread that needs serious contributions,so you guys should stop spamming everywhere with nonsense.

The question is, are you going to leave her back in Nigeria and travel back to your base in Europe?

Qtrpst4:
Next time, when normal people dey talk, no put mouth, you are not normal

old fool Google the meaning of forum, dude it looks like you just can't stop displaying the foolishness you inherited from your dad lol, like peak, it's in You!

You sound like a nursery school pupil, your IQ must be very very very low

pray tell, are you also an urchin?

They're having sexual relations

Women cheat a lot....It's just that they're very secretive....

I see no gain in marriage these days....It's not an achievement and it ain't worth it

OP,you did the best thing and please don't have anything to do with that ratchet hoe you call a wife

Thank you for your contribution. I have only tried to shorten the story as much as possible. As of this moment, she is now with me in Europe. As someone also said above, she was never remorseful about the whole thing in fact, she never saw anything wrong in what she did.

Before I saw the fund transfer between them, I have been working on her traveling plans alongside the kids. When their visas were approved, I was still keeping the whole thing under wrap and was hoping to start telling people until they reach here or closer to their departure, I never knew that my wife had already told that my friend. Only for the guy to reach out to me to show him ways on how to travel and pretending as if he didn't know anything about the visas of my family.

From the way he was talking, he gave himself out until I found out that my wife had to him. It is one of the reasons why I ended my friendship with the guy as I don't consider him as a friend anymore. As for the wife too, I can't afford to close my two eyes while with her again. It is very obvious that I am dealing with a dangerous woman.

For this abroad, I am scared of having any significant investment to her knowledge because I am tired and wary of her. A marriage without trust is as good as dead.

Blunttruth:


You didn't overreact, there is something going on between them, the way you handle it will make her confess. Meanwhile, what is your plan for your wife, are you bringing her to join you? Do you intend to leave her here while you will getting your groove on over there and thinking money will keep her body and soul together?

Your wife would’ve divulged such private travel plans with your friend while they were in bed cos it’s only about that time most people divulge family secrets

Osama2478:
Nairalanders,

Please I need you to help me have a third eye into a personal matter. Although, I have taken a position, I just wanted to be sure I never overreacted.

I am a guy based in Europe and my wife is in Nigeria. I have only been away for a year.

There was a day I was calling my wife on phone and her other phone was ringing which I asked her to pick up but she never did only to say that it was my friend calling her. I was surprised and asked her immediately how did my friend get know her other number. She gave some not-so-convincing explanation but I let it slide.

Curiously, when I returned to Nigeria, I discovered that this friend sent money to her and she never told me about it. The so called friend also didn't tell me anything. In fact, he has always acted as if he wasn't having any contact with my wife.

When I saw the transaction, my wife wanted to manipulate the situation to make it look like I was invading her privacy. I stood my ground to know what purpose the money was meant for but no reasonable explanation.

I called the friend too to know what the money was meant for but only retorted if he couldn't give my wife money as a friend. He couldn't offer any reasonable explanation. With high sense of modesty, this is a guy that would wish to be in my position economic wise and I have always been very generous to my wife when it comes to money. Therefore, financial lack could not be an excuse.

After this experience, I severe my friendship with the guy and rein in on my wife too. I felt that was not the kind of friendship any reasonable person should keep because I felt betrayed by his actions and inactions in relating with my wife behind me. I also see both of them (friend and wife) to be dangerous to my well-being.

Please I will like to know if I overreacted.

Thank you.

MOD please take it to front page for wider views and opinions

You are over reacting. Giving financial gifts to my friends families are no issue. You have no evidence that proofs that your Wife is cheating on you with your Friend. If I were you, I'll let it slide.

She might not be cheating as you assumed. Perhaps she is one of those women who like to beg even when they are provided for. Don't leave that type of woman here while you are away, sooner or later she will get laid by another cock. She acts sneaky already.

the woman you married wished that your friend was the rich one -and not you.
she married you because you were ready for marriage (and not him).

i pity you

Osama2478:
Nairalanders,

Please I need you to help me have a third eye into a personal matter. Although, I have taken a position, I just wanted to be sure I never overreacted.

I am a guy based in Europe and my wife is in Nigeria. I have only been away for a year.

There was a day I was calling my wife on phone and her other phone was ringing which I asked her to pick up but she never did only to say that it was my friend calling her. I was surprised and asked her immediately how did my friend get know her other number. She gave some not-so-convincing explanation but I let it slide.

Curiously, when I returned to Nigeria, I discovered that this friend sent money to her and she never told me about it. The so called friend also didn't tell me anything. In fact, he has always acted as if he wasn't having any contact with my wife.

When I saw the transaction, my wife wanted to manipulate the situation to make it look like I was invading her privacy. I stood my ground to know what purpose the money was meant for but no reasonable explanation.

I called the friend too to know what the money was meant for but only retorted if he couldn't give my wife money as a friend. He couldn't offer any reasonable explanation. With high sense of modesty, this is a guy that would wish to be in my position economic wise and I have always been very generous to my wife when it comes to money. Therefore, financial lack could not be an excuse.

After this experience, I severe my friendship with the guy and rein in on my wife too. I felt that was not the kind of friendship any reasonable person should keep because I felt betrayed by his actions and inactions in relating with my wife behind me. I also see both of them (friend and wife) to be dangerous to my well-being.

Please I will like to know if I overreacted.

Thank you.

MOD please take it to front page for wider views and opinions

. Divorce your wife, your friend is sleeping with your wife

Baronthecelebri:
. Divorce your wife, your friend is sleeping with your wife

Qtrpst4:
Op you did not over react, still keep your guard up and as for taking her abroad, hope you should know that there is risk involved as your wife is not remorseful from all you said here and if that is the case she might do worse knowing that the law there can be used against you. Think the pros and cons and be sure to put up measures in case things go south if you take her there.

You did not over react, you under reacted sef. That your friend can kill you

he should divorce her