ednut1:
This is like having a chicken as pet. One day you go chop am

Karleb:
The man and woman know say one day dem go chop each other, so what's your headache?

Kennedyli:
I have a female friend who's single. She's a good person, but I noticed an unusual closeness with this man, who happened to be married.

She says the man was just a friend from church and they had nothing going on.
She said the wife was suspicious at first; but the husband explained to her and now they are fine.

However, I noticed that they call each other everyday; which was okay.
I warned her to stop allowing the man call her, especially at night. Which she promised to work on.

I was trying to check something on her phone, when I noticed that not only was the man just calling her. She calls him close to midnight, sometimes, repeatedly until he picks.

My question is, can or should a lady have such relationship with a married man. Kind of a married man bestie who she go places with and calls in midnight?

Blessedmercy8:
Not ideal. Speaking from experience. I'll share mine in a bit to buttress my point.

I was once close to a married man and this was because I was working with him.
This one was even a pastor. So ministry work brought us together.
I was a Sunday school teacher, and assistant head choir, assisting the wife in that department too.

So, at the time, I was more like his assistant because the assistant ( a guy) was not always around. So since I was always around and available, he took to me and was confiding in me.

Now, the wife was aware that we were close and doesn't express any form of disapproval because she trusted us together.

He drops me home most times and we would sit in his car and talk for hours before he'll start heading home only after I've started giving him body language that I want to go inside my house.

Initially we used to discuss generally about life and what goes on in the ministry but after a while, he started discussing family issues with me to which I wasn't comfortable about.
He would complain about how the wife is not supporting him in the ministry the way I do. And how he's tired of her stubbornness and all. In my mind, I'll be like why is he telling me all these.

The day I knew I have to draw the line was the day he told me the wife had been denying him of sex for a very long time and all that. I was somehow embarrassed cos I never expected him to disclose that part of his life to me as a pastor and someone I respect so much.

Another time, we were talking and he said, sister, see let me tell you, if anything happens to my wife now ( he now said God forbid, God forbid) and I have oyibo lady like you that is fresh by my side, ah, what do you think will happen? I'll just... you know, its easy, we'll just"... And I was like Huh... Pastor!!!... I now laughed to cover it up and he was like.. " nooo.. it will just happen. That was when I knew, I had to cut my closeness with him. This one he's already imagining death for his wife. Hm.

So, all I'm saying is, men cannot be trusted with being just friends with a lady. One day, the devil will minister to him to try his luck.

Married women, don't let your husband tell you, she's just a friend, trust me, nothing. Ha! Tell him right away, you can't be friends with her o.

My 10 Kobo na im I drop give una so.

Trueprophet91:


Young lady, hold it there.
Men are not the only ones, women, sometimes even married ones,also generate terrible motives

Blessedmercy8:


Yeah but the topic is pointing to men in particular here.

Kennedyli:
I have a female friend who's single. She's a good person, but I noticed an unusual closeness with this man, who happened to be married.

She says the man was just a friend from church and they had nothing going on.
She said the wife was suspicious at first; but the husband explained to her and now they are fine.

However, I noticed that they call each other everyday; which was okay.
I warned her to stop allowing the man call her, especially at night. Which she promised to work on.

I was trying to check something on her phone, when I noticed that not only was the man just calling her. She calls him close to midnight, sometimes, repeatedly until he picks.

My question is, can or should a lady have such relationship with a married man. Kind of a married man bestie who she go places with and calls in midnight?

Blessedmercy8:
Not ideal. Speaking from experience. I'll share mine in a bit to buttress my point.

I was once close to a married man and this was because I was working with him.
This one was even a pastor. So ministry work brought us together.
I was a Sunday school teacher, and assistant head choir, assisting the wife in that department too.

So, at the time, I was more like his assistant because the assistant ( a guy) was not always around. So since I was always around and available, he took to me and was confiding in me.

Now, the wife was aware that we were close and doesn't express any form of disapproval because she trusted us together.

He drops me home most times and we would sit in his car and talk for hours before he'll start heading home only after I've started giving him body language that I want to go inside my house.

Initially we used to discuss generally about life and what goes on in the ministry but after a while, he started discussing family issues with me to which I wasn't comfortable about.
He would complain about how the wife is not supporting him in the ministry the way I do. And how he's tired of her stubbornness and all. In my mind, I'll be like why is he telling me all these.

The day I knew I have to draw the line was the day he told me the wife had been denying him of sex for a very long time and all that. I was somehow embarrassed cos I never expected him to disclose that part of his life to me as a pastor and someone I respect so much.

Another time, we were talking and he said, sister, see let me tell you, if anything happens to my wife now ( he now said God forbid, God forbid) and I have oyibo lady like you that is fresh by my side, ah, what do you think will happen? I'll just... you know, its easy, we'll just"... And I was like Huh... Pastor!!!... I now laughed to cover it up and he was like.. " nooo.. it will just happen. That was when I knew, I had to cut my closeness with him. This one he's already imagining death for his wife. Hm.

So, all I'm saying is, men cannot be trusted with being just friends with a lady. One day, the devil will minister to him to try his luck.

Married women, don't let your husband tell you, she's just a friend, trust me, nothing. Ha! Tell him right away, you can't be friends with her o.

My 10 Kobo na im I drop give una so.

Trueprophet91:


Well,it goes both ways.

Judging from the story, both of them are even moving at the same pace in the same direction. They're even so close to the randezvous... All they need is an enabling environment and boom!!
The rest is history

Blessedmercy8:
Not ideal. Speaking from experience. I'll share mine in a bit to buttress my point.

I was once close to a married man and this was because I was working with him.
This one was even a pastor. So ministry work brought us together.
I was a Sunday school teacher, and assistant head choir, assisting the wife in that department too.

So, at the time, I was more like his assistant because the assistant ( a guy) was not always around. So since I was always around and available, he took to me and was confiding in me.

Now, the wife was aware that we were close and doesn't express any form of disapproval because she trusted us together.

He drops me home most times and we would sit in his car and talk for hours before he'll start heading home only after I've started giving him body language that I want to go inside my house.

Initially we used to discuss generally about life and what goes on in the ministry but after a while, he started discussing family issues with me to which I wasn't comfortable about.
He would complain about how the wife is not supporting him in the ministry the way I do. And how he's tired of her stubbornness and all. In my mind, I'll be like why is he telling me all these.

The day I knew I have to draw the line was the day he told me the wife had been denying him of sex for a very long time and all that. I was somehow embarrassed cos I never expected him to disclose that part of his life to me as a pastor and someone I respect so much.

Another time, we were talking and he said, sister, see let me tell you, if anything happens to my wife now ( he now said God forbid, God forbid) and I have oyibo lady like you that is fresh by my side, ah, what do you think will happen? I'll just... you know, its easy, we'll just"... And I was like Huh... Pastor!!!... I now laughed to cover it up and he was like.. " nooo.. it will just happen. That was when I knew, I had to cut my closeness with him. This one he's already imagining death for his wife. Hm.

So, all I'm saying is, men cannot be trusted with being just friends with a lady. One day, the devil will minister to him to try his luck.

Married women, don't let your husband tell you, she's just a friend, trust me, nothing. Ha! Tell him right away, you can't be friends with her o.

My 10 Kobo na im I drop give una so.

Blessedmercy8:
Not ideal. Speaking from experience. I'll share mine in a bit to buttress my point.

I was once close to a married man and this was because I was working with him.
This one was even a pastor. So ministry work brought us together.
I was a Sunday school teacher, and assistant head choir, assisting the wife in that department too.

So, at the time, I was more like his assistant because the assistant ( a guy) was not always around. Since I was always around and available, he took to me and was confiding in me.

Now, the wife was aware that we were close and doesn't express any form of disapproval because she trusted us together.

He drops me home most times and we would sit in his car and talk for hours before he'll start heading home only after I've started giving him body language that I want to go inside my house.

Initially we used to discuss generally about life and what goes on in the ministry but after a while, he started discussing family issues with me to which I wasn't comfortable about.
He would complain about how the wife is not supporting him in the ministry the way I do. And how he's tired of her stubbornness and all. In my mind, I'll be like why is he telling me all these.

The day I knew I have to draw the line was the day he told me the wife had been denying him of sex for a very long time and all that. I was somehow embarrassed cos I never expected him to disclose that part of his life to me as a pastor and someone I respect so much.

Another time, we were talking and he said, sister, see let me tell you, if anything happens to my wife now ( he now said God forbid, God forbid) and I have oyibo lady like you that is fresh by my side, ah, what do you think will happen? I'll just... you know, its easy, we'll just"... And I was like Huh... Pastor!!!... I now laughed to cover it up and he was like.. " nooo.. it will just happen. That was when I knew, I had to cut my closeness with him. This one he's already imagining death for his wife. Hm.

So, all I'm saying is, men cannot be trusted with being just friends with a lady. One day, the devil will minister to him to try his luck.

Married women, don't let your husband tell you, she's just a friend, trust me, nothing. Ha! Tell him right away, you can't be friends with her o.

My 10 Kobo na im I drop give una so.

Blessedmercy8:


Yeah. They both knew where they were heading but trying to play it smart.