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studentofTruth:
Not true. It's an obvious setup, and here's why:

No matter the menstrual period, menses start coming 14 days after ovulation. And it's after the period is missed (doesn't start on the expected day) that a woman becomes concerned about pregnancy — many women won't even bother until several days later to give room for normal body variation.

So, even if she ovulated on that 30th July, she wasn't supposed to expect her menses until 13th and could only get concerned by 14th (the whole of 13th must pass because it could have been by night) if she's that sensitive. If she ovulated on the 29th, there's a chance the egg has died by 30th because eggs last 12 hours (at most 24hrs) but even at that, she would be expecting the period on 12th and would only panic and go for test by the next day, 13th (the whole of 12th must have to pass because it could flow at any moment) if she's that concerned.

A test done on 12th shows it was a trap, and he walked into it.

At Op, the chances of being the father is low. Nobody does a random pregnancy test 13 days after sex.

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studentofTruth:
Not true. It's an obvious setup, and here's why:

No matter the menstrual period, menses start coming 14 days after ovulation. And it's after the period is missed (doesn't start on the expected day) that a woman becomes concerned about pregnancy — many women won't even bother until several days later to give room for normal body variation.

So, even if she ovulated on that 30th July, she wasn't supposed to expect her menses until 13th and could only get concerned by 14th (the whole of 13th must pass because it could have been by night) if she's that sensitive. If she ovulated on the 29th, there's a chance the egg has died by 30th because eggs last 12 hours (at most 24hrs) but even at that, she would be expecting the period on 12th and would only panic and go for test by the next day, 13th (the whole of 12th must have to pass because it could flow at any moment) if she's that concerned.

A test done on 12th shows it was a trap, and he walked into it.

At Op, the chances of being the father is low. Nobody does a random pregnancy test 13 days after sex.

I am telling you from experience that an early detector pregnancy test can tell you when you're 1-2 weeks pregnant. They only count it from conception though.

So a woman who's last period occurred 5 weeks ago (which is how long a doctor would determine her pregnancy to be) would actually see a result of 1-2 weeks on her pregnancy test.

Google "Clearblue Early detection test" if you don't believe me.

Coinwarrior:
you are a big foolish guy for allowing yourself to still be going to visit a female despite having a girlfriend that you had planned ur wedding on site.just follow the guidance of this person

[color=#ff5400]coinwarrior[/color]
Are you high on something?
No b me b [color=#ff4500]op[/color]
Am just [color=#0ffc00]FTC[/color]

JudgeNotHi:
I need help. Could she be saying the truth or she's trying to hook.

I'm in a very stable relationship and as a matter fact, I'll be getting married to the love of my world, the one whom my heart continuously long for daily in next month.

Nevertheless, there's this lady whom happened to be an old friend for about 2 years now. We've been very close chat buddies and virtually could discuss anything online to each other (I mean anything). On one occasion, she suggested we meet up at my place to watch a movie Twilight together. Well, since I wasn't doing anything in particular for the weekend and my fiance wasn't in town, why not? (Trust me, my intents was pure and genuine).

The Saturday came, and we did have a lovely time together until the devil struck. One thing led to another and we both ended up kissing and eventually had sex. I wasn't careless not to have not used a protection but I could remember the condom coming off at a Point and was quickly replaced with another new one. Trust me guyz, we both felt bad immediately after the incident and both apologized to one another and that was it.

Fast forward to the present, I got a call from her for the first time after that incident (I had to cut off all communication with her after what happened) and she broke the news to me that she was feeling a little different which prompted her to go do a test, and to my greatest shock, she said it came out positive, SHE IS PREGNANT!!!

How is this even possible? We made our precisely on the 30th of July and the test results shows she's about 2weeks pregnant (Note: the test results shows it was carried out on the 12th of August. Moreover, I never even released when the condom came off into her and we had to remove it. How is it possible?

Now, the mother called and even asked to see me in person that, the daughter already explained all that ensued between us, and I should come and let's discuss our next move, that no daughter of hers gives birth outside wedlock.

In all these, I am so confused. The honest truth is, I never told the lady in particular I was getting married in the month of September. My wife to be does know her as just a friend and that's all but kept my wedding plans away from the lady despite how opened we were to each other.

Nairalanders, I am so confused. I have cried, begged her, pleaded with her to come clean with me, but she insists I was the only one she meet within that time frame. Even in the presence of her mother, she kept asking her, are you sure? She kept insisting I was the only one she had sex with last month.

My world is presently on pause mode as I don't know what to thing anymore. But I am 99.9% sure I am not responsible for the pregnancy. I even requested she used my hospital for a second test and it still came out positive.

I am currently, planning on telling my wife to be the whole truth and before then, involve our counselling pastor. I can't bring myself to tell my family despite the fact her mother keep insisting she comes to see my mother.

My inner most being tells me I am been set up, because I remember vividly on that night, she kept insisting I remove the condom that it was hurting her but I insisted.

Could the pregnancy be truly mine? Do I come clean to my babe? Do I just runaway? So many questions and I am deeply depressed and sad on how I got myself into the terrible mess. At this moment, I deserve whatever insults is thrown at me. I truly deserve them, BUT I NEVER FOR ONCE DOUBT my love for my wife to be, I truly love her...

I wanted to insult u really bad but come to think of it anybody could make this kind of silly mistake..

How old are you first and foremost if u have matured in age and reasoning I expect you to tell the girl's mother point blank that you have no intention of marrying her daughter, not now not ever, that she should send her daughter over for a better test and maybe ultrasound etc, and if it is proven it is yours, she would have to give birth to it out of wedlock because both of you never planed for this to happen and you are not getting married to her never... The mother's reaction is what we prompt your next move. NEVER EVER EVER ALLOW THEM PRESSURE YOU TO MARRY ANYBODY BECAUSE OF UNWANTED PREGNANCY, IT IS CALLED UNWANTED BECAUSE YOU WERE CAREFUL ENOUGH TO USE CONDOM.. guy bring your mind down, nothing go happen... Make this move I'm telling u first and see the mum's reaction before u come clean to tell your wife to be.... Even if it prove she's really pregnant, go on with your marriage if your finance can forgive you quick enuf and when she finally give birth, don't fail to do a DNA test first before you start claiming after r birth responsibility, too many paternity fraud these days. That of cause if they choose not to abort it after telling them you can't marry her..... I REPEAT DO NOT EVER MARRY HER BECAUSE OF A CHILD... if she wan born am na her headache and her mama own be that. Do the best u can for the unborn baby and don't do further after birth without a DNA test.. If

Ajofiapero:
Your intent was pure and genuine but you came prepared with enough condoms.

Yeye dey smell....�

The condom even slipped and he still had the time to replace it.

ibedu29:
You never loved your finance as you claimed.
Your wedding is next Month and you are still cheating her, the same act you will still continue even in ur marriage.
Just work on urself
Work on self control
Pregnancy or no pregnancy
Just accept that you bleeped up
And you appear cheap and low character.
Be focus brother

Bruh as if you know what I want to type. You're so on point... He claim he was not planning to have sex wit her but he was with condom... Why would you even invite a lady over when your wife to be is not around? Apart from sex this can cause a misunderstanding. Imagining it was the wife to be that cheated, you will be seeing kick her out, leave her immediately, Nigerian lady are these and that. Guys they can't keep their third leg in one place... Having sex wit other few days or weeks to ur wedding i wonder how ur girl will feel if she know abt this. I really hope you're not responsible for the pregnancy so that you can learn ur lesson. No matter how a guy claim to love you they will still cheat actually I really don't feel his love for his wife to be.

Small cock' big wahala..

I'm eating now mbok

MrOON:
Your Fiancée is 3 months pregnant and you are already making plans to marry her. If the girl can accept to be the second wife, she can wait till you get married to the one that got pregnant first.

Its an advice not just a comment.

what are you saying mr no network?? Take a deep breath and read what the op wrote word for word. 3 month pregnant ko 2 years pikin ni.

JudgeNotHi:
I have made it clear to her mum, I have no intentions of marrying her daughter & we never for once even discussed US. We were simply just friends. Yes i know, sound so stupid of me, but that's just the truth. It just happened and I told the mother just that without mincing words. But she just kept saying BUT DID YOU SLEEP WITH HER YES OR NO? I felt terrible...

Whatever happens, just know you are not obligated to marry anyone because you got them pregnant. If you do, you will resent her forever.

Ngozi123:
I am telling you from experience that an early detector pregnancy test can tell you when you're 1-2 weeks pregnant. They only count it from conception though.

So a woman who's last period occurred 5 weeks ago (which is how long a doctor would determine her pregnancy to be) would actually see a result of 1-2 weeks on her pregnancy test.

Google "Clearblue Early detection test" if you don't believe me.

You aren't following my argument. I said no normal lady would do a random PT 13days after sex.

But if someone has a plan or is expecting something, she would. For example, someone on fertility treatment or praying for a long time for pregnancy might start checking earlier out of anticipation.

The lady here doing a test on the 12th shows she's anticipating something that's why she couldn't even wait until she misses her period before doing the test.

Op want to chop and clean mouth but las las e hook am. if na your fiancee go run Netflix with her ex how would you feel knowing fully well that her wedding is in few weeks?

Have u also gone for a HIV test?

MrBrownJay1:
pregnancy test positive 12 days after having sex?!?!?! what kind of pregnancy is that??!!? bro, the babe was either pregnant already and istrying to pin someone else's baby on you and/or she is NOT pregnant and just want to blackmail you into marrying her with this fake pregnancy story....either way, you will probably lose your gf in the same process, and hopefully that will be a great lesson for you to learn.

either way, you have shown the world that you cant be trusted, unfaithful, deceitful and lack control. what person in their right mind would want to marry someone like that?!?!

BTW if your girl goes to watch movies in a cozy setting with dudes, would you like that?!?!?

guy this our guy need advice.You need to see the temptation that follows marriage that which he said happened to me 5 years ago i told my wife to be she carried all days,when the sidechick delivered will did DNA test and it was mine i toke my son and lifes go on.

JudgeNotHi:
It was just this once. I deserve all that's thrown at me at this moment but for the records, I have NEVER cheated on my fiancee in the last two years we have been together, not for once. But then again, this means nothing after this one slip especially knowing fully well I was even getting married in days. I feel worse already okay. Let he who is without sin...

Bro man up, mother and daughter trying to play you, man up and be the one in control

Ninisun:
Thanks for this!

#saynotoabortion

You're welcome

Mr man the probability that you are the one responsible for that pregnancy is very very low.

You had sex on 30th July, then after 14 days, exactly 12 August, a test is showing two weeks pregnancy how?

The number of days scen normally shows starts from the day she started her last menses. Did you had the sex while she was on her period? If the answer is no, then you are not responsible for that pregnancy. If yes, then it could be you.

Op, you're not being honest. From your post you made us understand that you both talk about basically everything. But somehow somehow, you left out the part where you'll be getting married. There can be only one reason for this. The reason is you always had the intention of sleeping with her because I don't see why you couldn't have told her you were getting married in September. You knew if you had informed her of this, she won't let you have your way. You can't always eat your cake and have it.

Chai. Simply put your cum shot offside.

studentofTruth:
You aren't following my argument. I said no normal lady would do a random PT 13days after sex.

But if someone has a plan or is expecting something, she would. For example, someone on fertility treatment or praying for a long time for pregnancy might start checking earlier out of anticipation.

The lady here doing a test on the 12th shows she's anticipating something that's why she couldn't even wait until she misses her period before doing the test.

My bad, I misunderstood you before. You're right. No woman would take a pregnancy test that soon unless she wanted to get pregnant or knew that she was already pregnant and wanted to put it on another man.

JudgeNotHi:
I do not blame the devil, I did this, I slept with her not the devil.

I doubt you're the owner...even ovulation doesn't guarantee...that's why we have many TTC women...

I'm not trying to relieve you, but I will say you should stand your ground and stop being suegbe...

When you get out of this, learn not to keep unnecessary relationships...keep us updated

Chillax bro. No be you get the belle. Pregnancy test after 2 weeks, but no pour? If she is pregnant, I'll bet 2k it's not yours.

It can happen, but very rare for it to happen, according to what you said. However, IF she went behind your back and poured the contents of the second condom... well that's a different kettle of fish.

At any rate, let the baby come, then do paternity test. If you are, welcome to fatherhood. If not, well, why stress?

JudgeNotHi:
I need help. Could she be saying the truth or she's trying to hook.

I'm in a very stable relationship and as a matter fact, I'll be getting married to the love of my world, the one whom my heart continuously long for daily in next month.

Nevertheless, there's this lady whom happened to be an old friend for about 2 years now. We've been very close chat buddies and virtually could discuss anything online to each other (I mean anything). On one occasion, she suggested we meet up at my place to watch a movie Twilight together. Well, since I wasn't doing anything in particular for the weekend and my fiance wasn't in town, why not? (Trust me, my intents was pure and genuine).

The Saturday came, and we did have a lovely time together until the devil struck. One thing led to another and we both ended up kissing and eventually had sex. I wasn't careless not to have not used a protection but I could remember the condom coming off at a Point and was quickly replaced with another new one. Trust me guyz, we both felt bad immediately after the incident and both apologized to one another and that was it.

Fast forward to the present, I got a call from her for the first time after that incident (I had to cut off all communication with her after what happened) and she broke the news to me that she was feeling a little different which prompted her to go do a test, and to my greatest shock, she said it came out positive, SHE IS PREGNANT!!!

How is this even possible? We made our precisely on the 30th of July and the test results shows she's about 2weeks pregnant (Note: the test results shows it was carried out on the 12th of August. Moreover, I never even released when the condom came off into her and we had to remove it. How is it possible?

Now, the mother called and even asked to see me in person that, the daughter already explained all that ensued between us, and I should come and let's discuss our next move, that no daughter of hers gives birth outside wedlock.

In all these, I am so confused. The honest truth is, I never told the lady in particular I was getting married in the month of September. My wife to be does know her as just a friend and that's all but kept my wedding plans away from the lady despite how opened we were to each other.

Nairalanders, I am so confused. I have cried, begged her, pleaded with her to come clean with me, but she insists I was the only one she meet within that time frame. Even in the presence of her mother, she kept asking her, are you sure? She kept insisting I was the only one she had sex with last month.

My world is presently on pause mode as I don't know what to thing anymore. But I am 99.9% sure I am not responsible for the pregnancy. I even requested she used my hospital for a second test and it still came out positive.

I am currently, planning on telling my wife to be the whole truth and before then, involve our counselling pastor. I can't bring myself to tell my family despite the fact her mother keep insisting she comes to see my mother.

My inner most being tells me I am been set up, because I remember vividly on that night, she kept insisting I remove the condom that it was hurting her but I insisted.

Could the pregnancy be truly mine? Do I come clean to my babe? Do I just runaway? So many questions and I am deeply depressed and sad on how I got myself into the terrible mess. At this moment, I deserve whatever insults is thrown at me. I truly deserve them, BUT I NEVER FOR ONCE DOUBT my love for my wife to be, I truly love her...

You have been used, don't ever marry out of sympathy. Tell the and her mother that you are not ready to get married and you will only be responsible for the child upkeep after a DNA test

No one has sex by accident. Every sexual encounter is always premeditated. You had fantasized about having sex with her one time or the other and eventually when the occasion presented you couldn't stop yourself because your brain had long decided on it.

Now you have damaged your relationship with your fiance all for some 5 minutes of pleasure.


However I think it was a setup, but since you had sex with her you can't escape the consequence. Sex on 30th and pregnant on the 12th. That's fishy. She has not even had a chance to miss her period before going to confirm pregnancy which means she was sure she was going to be pregnant. Like she already knew.

Remind her that there is paternity test and that if the baby is yours that you'll take full responsibility.

You made your bed, now lie on it.

Flee fornication.

JudgeNotHi:
I need help. Could she be saying the truth or she's trying to hook.

I'm in a very stable relationship and as a matter fact, I'll be getting married to the love of my world, the one whom my heart continuously long for daily in next month.

Nevertheless, there's this lady whom happened to be an old friend for about 2 years now. We've been very close chat buddies and virtually could discuss anything online to each other (I mean anything). On one occasion, she suggested we meet up at my place to watch a movie Twilight together. Well, since I wasn't doing anything in particular for the weekend and my fiance wasn't in town, why not? (Trust me, my intents was pure and genuine).

The Saturday came, and we did have a lovely time together until the devil struck. One thing led to another and we both ended up kissing and eventually had sex. I wasn't careless not to have not used a protection but I could remember the condom coming off at a Point and was quickly replaced with another new one. Trust me guyz, we both felt bad immediately after the incident and both apologized to one another and that was it.

Fast forward to the present, I got a call from her for the first time after that incident (I had to cut off all communication with her after what happened) and she broke the news to me that she was feeling a little different which prompted her to go do a test, and to my greatest shock, she said it came out positive, SHE IS PREGNANT!!!

How is this even possible? We made our precisely on the 30th of July and the test results shows she's about 2weeks pregnant (Note: the test results shows it was carried out on the 12th of August. Moreover, I never even released when the condom came off into her and we had to remove it. How is it possible?

Now, the mother called and even asked to see me in person that, the daughter already explained all that ensued between us, and I should come and let's discuss our next move, that no daughter of hers gives birth outside wedlock.

In all these, I am so confused. The honest truth is, I never told the lady in particular I was getting married in the month of September. My wife to be does know her as just a friend and that's all but kept my wedding plans away from the lady despite how opened we were to each other.

Nairalanders, I am so confused. I have cried, begged her, pleaded with her to come clean with me, but she insists I was the only one she meet within that time frame. Even in the presence of her mother, she kept asking her, are you sure? She kept insisting I was the only one she had sex with last month.

My world is presently on pause mode as I don't know what to thing anymore. But I am 99.9% sure I am not responsible for the pregnancy. I even requested she used my hospital for a second test and it still came out positive.

I am currently, planning on telling my wife to be the whole truth and before then, involve our counselling pastor. I can't bring myself to tell my family despite the fact her mother keep insisting she comes to see my mother.

My inner most being tells me I am been set up, because I remember vividly on that night, she kept insisting I remove the condom that it was hurting her but I insisted.

Could the pregnancy be truly mine? Do I come clean to my babe? Do I just runaway? So many questions and I am deeply depressed and sad on how I got myself into the terrible mess. At this moment, I deserve whatever insults is thrown at me. I truly deserve them, BUT I NEVER FOR ONCE DOUBT my love for my wife to be, I truly love her...

First and foremost, take her to a hospital and re-conduct the pregnancy test to ascertain that she's truly pregnant. And then you can confirm if the time frame matches with when you both had sex. Do not let yourself be blackmailed since you have doubts. Do not also be hasty to make any decisions. And even if the timelines match, do not fail to conduct a DNA test whenever the baby is born. Also, inform your partner of the development if she's truly pregnant. Let her decide if she would still like to get on with the marriage. Do not be forced or threatened to marry this lady because of sentiments. Good luck.

I have been in this situation last two years so with my experience buddy I will advice you to check on the particular date you met with the girl, note the date down nd then take her to he hospital to be sure of how many weeks pregnant she's then with that you will check if you're really the father of the unborn child, some girl can meet different guys in a month without condom and at the end they get confused on who is the father of the child. So buddy try do what I just explain here and better don't tell your future wife this until you know the outcome

JudgeNotHi:
She has a step dad. This is her mom's 3rd marriage not that it means anything or relates to what's at hand.

Haaaa! Not related báwo...op, jara ẹ...wake up...stop being a mumu for crying out loud...the way you sound sef shows why she easily pinned it on you.

Stand you ground. It's not your baby if it's just two weeks. But there's going to be a huge scandal cos they won't just keep quiet about it. Lifetime consequences for a few minutes of pleasure. Either way, you're in a deep mess.

Ngozi123:
It's possible. Especially if she's pregnant with twins or multiples.

@OP, she might be telling the truth. There's some early detector pregnancy tests that will show a positive result even 1-2 weeks after conception. You should have her do an ultrasound to get a more accurate result, though.

Not with Nigerian women...if we follow everything Google brings up, we go get heart attack.

@JudgeNotHi

I've gone through your posts and the truth is that this was definitely going to happen, even if not now, later in your marriage. You say this is the first time but the truth is that you have been cheating on your wife-to-be a long time ago. What you were doing when you were talking to that your friend about everything is called emotional cheating. Look it up. That bond that was supposed to be for only you and your wife-to-be, you were giving it to another woman.

So many clues and red flags everywhere. First is how you never told your friend about your marriage plans even though you both were so close. Secondly, and the biggest clue of all, I'm very sure that you downplayed the relationship between you and this other woman, if not your wife wouldn't have been so comfortable with the relationship. Thirdly, you did not tell your wife the gender of the person you were going to spend your weekend with.

The only advice I have for you is that in your next relationship or if you're extremely lucky and your wife-to-be forgives you, you'd do well to keep other women at arms length and instead focus on strengthening the bond between you and your partner.

studentofTruth:
Not true. It's an obvious setup, and here's why:

No matter the menstrual period, menses start coming 14 days after ovulation. And it's after the period is missed (doesn't start on the expected day) that a woman becomes concerned about pregnancy — many women won't even bother until several days later to give room for normal body variation.

So, even if she ovulated on that 30th July, she wasn't supposed to expect her menses until 13th and could only get concerned by 14th (the whole of 13th must pass because it could have been by night) if she's that sensitive. If she ovulated on the 29th, there's a chance the egg has died by 30th because eggs last 12 hours (at most 24hrs) but even at that, she would be expecting the period on 12th and would only panic and go for test by the next day, 13th (the whole of 12th must have to pass because it could flow at any moment) if she's that concerned.

A test done on 12th shows it was a trap, and he walked into it.

At Op, the chances of being the father is low. Nobody does a random pregnancy test 13 days after sex.

you're wrong. hcg levels can be detected in the blood as early as 7-10 days after conception which means many pregnancies can be detected before a missed period even on a home strip test.

it's a 50-50 for OP. but I think from the story the lady is likely playing games

twosquare:
Haaaa! Not related báwo...op, jara ẹ...wake up...stop being a mumu for crying out loud...the way you sound sef shows why she easily pinned it on you.

I swear, very naive dude.