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truthsayer009:
I'm very sure the Western Leftist does not support this opinion of yours sha, because their own Law defies logic. According to Law, you will be responsible for the child even when you already had a sit down discussion with the lady at the early period of conception that you both shouldn't have the baby, If or when she still goes ahead, you would still be 100% responsible for the upkeep until 18 years of age, irrespective of whether you had an agreement, verbal or written.

Infact this opinion you wrote will cause a lot of attention if it was a Black American forum, dem go delete or block your account sharpaly.

Thank you for this information. I go avoid them. Make I just stay Nairaland.

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slightly incorrect info

GloriousGbola:
A lot of Laws in obodo oyibo designed to support women are now abused and weaponized. This is part of the reason for mgtow movements. Effectively the way third world skews towards men, the West skews towards women.

True story : Eddie Murphy had a one night stand with Melanie ( scary spice)

The gal took in, carried to term without informing him, then slapped the man with child support. Guy sued and lost.

If a movie star with money for lawyers could get fked over,nothing for average man.

Once babe has belle, she can fk you for the next 18 years

That particular one is a whole lot skewed to me. I believe the man should show responsibility. It is the noble thing to do since the child has been born. It is about the child for me.

But then, if you say your body is your body, it means you should be able to take responsibility to a very good extent.

The reward of sex mustn’t be a child. It could even be HIV and we wouldn’t be having these funny conversations. Let’s all learn to take responsibility biko.

GloriousGbola:
A lot of Laws in obodo oyibo designed to support women are now abused and weaponized. This is part of the reason for mgtow movements. Effectively the way third world skews towards men, the West skews towards women.

True story : Eddie Murphy had a one night stand with Melanie ( scary spice)

The gal took in, carried to term without informing him, then slapped the man with child support. Guy sued and lost.

If a movie star with money for lawyers could get fked over,nothing for average man.

Once babe has belle, she can fk you for the next 18 years

Can you please provide credible sources for this your ONS story? Thanks.

anonimi:
Can you please provide credible sources for this your ONS story? Thanks.

https://www.reuters.com/article/us-murphy-idUSN0317793320070804

seems it was more than a one night stand. i must be msiremembering the article i read back then

djkirkoo2:
hmmmmm. Wonderful. Me I earn 63k as salary and my rent is 210k annually. Below is how I disburse it:

Kitchen stocking - 25k.

Soup for the month (we cook soup 5 times in a month) - 15k.

Baby mama - 5k.

Light bill - 2k.

Purewater - 4k.

Stew, Beans, Moi moi: 5/6k

Gas - 5k.

Fuel: As the Lord leads but I do put on Gen almost everyday as far as there's no light.
Now if you observed you will see that I don't have any money for myself nor my baby, make sure I run other deals to meet up my rent and cater for my son. Yet my baby mama go out to tarnish my image outside saying that I am treating her as a house girl, saying that she's like a slave, that she's in an abusive relationship this and that all the young ladies around my vicinity are all keeping malice with me because of her stories, they all believed her story. Even when I try to talk people don't believe me. I got tired of the quarrels and nagging so I had to throw her things out and asked her to leave my house. Neighbors came in and intervened then asked me to consider my son that he's still a baby. I succumbed and left for work only for me to come back home that evening the 22nd of July and found out that she have left with my son that I love so much and yet all her things are still in my house. Bring my baby sef all to no avail, oya let me be seeing him at least still no way. I've talked to her mom and siblings and all of them are taking her side saying a man is not supposed to throw a woman's things outside (even my family blamed me for throwing her things outside) oya I don agree sef still dey are hiding my baby that will be a year old on the 29th of this August from me. Honestly her family wants me to settle with their daughter but to me I am no longer interested before I die of BP, so now they are using my son to blackmail me emotionally to accept their daughter back because they know that I love my son. If really I am suffering her and treating her like a slave like she always claim then I wonder why her family would want her to come back to my house to suffer. Mind you,I don't even beat o, I only have bad mouth to reply her if she pisses me off. Honestly I am confused and don't know what to do because I really miss my son.

OP dont succumb to any emotional blackmailing ooh, them go soon taya, if u do, u wil have ursef to blame for the rest of your life



Secondly, u fuckup bro, u fuckup.. lemme tell u how i run my tings.

1) i wil never rent an apartment which i cant make its money in (at most) six weeks

2) i dont give my woman monthly salary, mba, i would rather give her money wen she need it, and secondly, money wey i know say e no go generate more money a no dey give my woman.
If i give her 20k, i am expecting her to turn that 20k to 30k, re-invest 20 to 25k(however she want it, its her money) and lavish the remaining 5k

3)i would never allow my woman to stay idle, staying idle wil
a) make her not to realise how hard it is to make money
b)make her have time for unnecessary gossiping
c)she wont have any personal development.(i want my woman to know how to make money and understand business, incase.....may we live long IJN)

4)If i were u, na inside a single room a go still dey oh, who a wan impress abeg? 63k is a paltry amount of money

5) No matter how tyt the tin be, always strive to have a savings, even if na 5k everymonths.

djkirkoo2:
ever since she left with my son I've not set my eyes on her neither my son else I would have negotiate how I will be fending for him but because no concrete agreement I just decided to keep calm though I am planning to visit human rights to table this matter before she will destroy me for my son then at old age I will now be struggling to make peace. I am not planning on taking the boy from her I told her that she can have him but at least let me be seeing him once in a while she and her family are hiding him.

even if you wanna take the boy from her it won't be granted to you

Custody of a child is always with the mother except otherwise in a rare case

Also, you didn't marry her properly you only got her pregnant which is wrong

However, the best option is to take it up legally inorder to have a peace of mind and have access to the boy occasionally

You'll be compelled for monthly upkeep of the child I.e feeding, accommodation, school fees (if he's ready to start schooling) and miscellaneous fees et al

pocohantas:
Wow!!!! They do that there?

You were very correct. Except she is entirely clueless, probably a minor, you can’t tie her down with pregnancy. If person no dey ready, leave am. If at all she keeps it, she can grow to resent you. A lot would change - her body, her career/life path..etc

Why e wan tie am down sef?

That is how most foolish poor Nigerian men think and behaves. They think they can tie a women's down with pregnancy. Except na dummy she be sha

She go flush the nonsense commot for her womb

'Team babymama and marriage na scam', your comrade needs your advice

That you earn 63k and live in a 210k house alone is already a disaster and shows you are bad in making life choices. If you earn that low, you need to downgrade your rental asap unless you plan to stay in your present condition for a long time.

Cutehector:
Why didnt you use condom sir?

As he no come use condom sotey he don make mistake to v baby nko?

Cutehector:
Why didnt you use condom sir?

flesh and blood did not reveal this to you bro..50 naira condom for solve all these issues

Richy4:
I no noOo, I just dey ask.. baby mama dey leave with baby daddy for House?

I been think say them dey leave separately, the man dey visit am.. when he's convenienced to do so... Anyway I no dey too understand the baby mama baby father thing..

You will make a good finance minister.. the budget was alarmingly wonderful... Especially the 5 times soup in a month

If not for one thing, I would have asked you to ignore her for now... She won't find it easy looking after a baby with zero income... When the financial burden starts, she will definitely come back... Also it's not every one that will like to train someone else's child when the father is alive... They will ask her to go back except maybe she eventually finds something doing

so you believe him?, this thread is about image maker! 5 times of soup, 25k kitchen stock on top 65k

KimFab:
Baby mama? 5k? For salt abi pepper? Anyway, na mumu dey do baby mama for Nigerian men.

That aside, your rent is high o, for someone who earns 63k. Almost 4 out of 12 months is spent working for your landlord.

He gives 25k to stock kitchen, 15k for soup n still give her 5k....
If the op is sincere cut him some slack his trying for someone earning 65k.

djkirkoo2:
hmmmmm. Wonderful. Me I earn 63k as salary and my rent is 210k annually. Below is how I disburse it:

Kitchen stocking - 25k.

Soup for the month (we cook soup 5 times in a month) - 15k.

Baby mama - 5k.

Light bill - 2k.

Purewater - 4k.

Stew, Beans, Moi moi: 5/6k

Gas - 5k.

Fuel: As the Lord leads but I do put on Gen almost everyday as far as there's no light.
Now if you observed you will see that I don't have any money for myself nor my baby, make sure I run other deals to meet up my rent and cater for my son.

Yet my baby mama go out to tarnish my image outside saying that I am treating her as a house girl, saying that she's like a slave, that she's in an abusive relationship this and that all the young ladies around my vicinity are all keeping malice with me because of her stories, they all believed her story.

Even when I try to talk people don't believe me. I got tired of the quarrels and nagging so I had to throw her things out and asked her to leave my house. Neighbors came in and intervened then asked me to consider my son that he's still a baby. I succumbed and left for work only for me to come back home that evening the 22nd of July and found out that she have left with my son that I love so much and yet all her things are still in my house.

Bring my baby sef all to no avail, oya let me be seeing him at least still no way. I've talked to her mom and siblings and all of them are taking her side saying a man is not supposed to throw a woman's things outside (even my family blamed me for throwing her things outside) oya I don agree sef still dey are hiding my baby that will be a year old on the 29th of this August from me.

Honestly her family wants me to settle with their daughter but to me I am no longer interested before I die of BP, so now they are using my son to blackmail me emotionally to accept their daughter back because they know that I love my son. If really I am suffering her and treating her like a slave like she always claim then I wonder why her family would want her to come back to my house to suffer.

Mind you, I don't even beat o, I only have bad mouth to reply her if she pisses me off. Honestly I am confused and don't know what to do because I really miss my son.

Go and apologise to her and let her return so you can monitor the growth of your son. Then make sure you quickly impregnate her once your son reaches 18 months and have a second child then close shop. Also try to establish small business for her. Don't allow people dictate how you live your life. In the end you will carry your cross alone.

Lucky you.... you're already a daddy and here I am with my 65k salary struggling to be a daddy too

Cutehector:
Why didnt you use condom sir?

Of course he didn't.

Because if he did, he'd have sparred me the trouble of reading that long piece of shit he posted there.

OP, if you have money, consult an Alfa to run work for you. Your baby mama will come begging in 7 days.

Ovieemmanuel:
It's not about condom. He did not deny the pregnancy the issue at hand now is resolve it apologise if need be . But get her something to do even if ita POS business.

She should get herself something to do. Must her empowerment come from the guy. The two of them consented. Bribe giver and bribe taker are but equally guilty.

Really

Princeton92:
Lucky you.... you're already a daddy and here I am with my 65k salary struggling to be a daddy too

You're married?

Any good samaritan should pls come to my rescue, I am depressed and tired of trying, time is about to against me, I am about to loose hope, I am living in pain, I am not progressing in life, pls I need any one that can help me buy one 'Keke Napep' as higher purchase so that I and my brother can use it to achieve all our aims & ambition in life, pls come to my rescue just for the sake of God

djkirkoo2:
her family might support her in training the child so me I want to train my child myself and that's why I am fighting to be seeing him

i will advise you should leave the baby, when he grows he will locate you and bills start compiling they will surely look for you. stop disturbing yourself. hadnt been u paid her bride prize now, it would have been easier..... but baby mama you have to calm down

Sweetplum:
As he no come use condom sotey he don make mistake to v baby nko?

Having a baby is not a mistake. He is actually proud of the child. It is not easy to have babies you know.

Anybody wet blame anybody for this economy say e no dey try make him set go run am make him see.
You son will come back at the appropriate time.

Once its time for schooling them go bring your son back. No worry,enjoy life.

djkirkoo2:
hmmmmm. Wonderful. Me I earn 63k as salary and my rent is 210k annually. Below is how I disburse it:

Kitchen stocking - 25k.

Soup for the month (we cook soup 5 times in a month) - 15k.

Baby mama - 5k.

Light bill - 2k.

Purewater - 4k.

Stew, Beans, Moi moi: 5/6k

Gas - 5k.

Fuel: As the Lord leads but I do put on Gen almost everyday as far as there's no light.
Now if you observed you will see that I don't have any money for myself nor my baby, make sure I run other deals to meet up my rent and cater for my son.

Yet my baby mama go out to tarnish my image outside saying that I am treating her as a house girl, saying that she's like a slave, that she's in an abusive relationship this and that all the young ladies around my vicinity are all keeping malice with me because of her stories, they all believed her story.

Even when I try to talk people don't believe me. I got tired of the quarrels and nagging so I had to throw her things out and asked her to leave my house. Neighbors came in and intervened then asked me to consider my son that he's still a baby. I succumbed and left for work only for me to come back home that evening the 22nd of July and found out that she have left with my son that I love so much and yet all her things are still in my house.

Bring my baby sef all to no avail, oya let me be seeing him at least still no way. I've talked to her mom and siblings and all of them are taking her side saying a man is not supposed to throw a woman's things outside (even my family blamed me for throwing her things outside) oya I don agree sef still dey are hiding my baby that will be a year old on the 29th of this August from me.

Honestly her family wants me to settle with their daughter but to me I am no longer interested before I die of BP, so now they are using my son to blackmail me emotionally to accept their daughter back because they know that I love my son. If really I am suffering her and treating her like a slave like she always claim then I wonder why her family would want her to come back to my house to suffer.

Mind you, I don't even beat o, I only have bad mouth to reply her if she pisses me off. Honestly I am confused and don't know what to do because I really miss my son.

Cutehector:
Why didnt you use condom sir?

Cutehector:
Why didnt you use condom sir?

somebody close this guy mouth , if you talk again we go tie you up, see e bad mouth ,lol

djkirkoo2:
hmmmmm. Wonderful. Me I earn 63k as salary and my rent is 210k annually. Below is how I disburse it:

Kitchen stocking - 25k.

Soup for the month (we cook soup 5 times in a month) - 15k.

Baby mama - 5k.

Light bill - 2k.

Purewater - 4k.

Stew, Beans, Moi moi: 5/6k

Gas - 5k.

Fuel: As the Lord leads but I do put on Gen almost everyday as far as there's no light.
Now if you observed you will see that I don't have any money for myself nor my baby, make sure I run other deals to meet up my rent and cater for my son.

Yet my baby mama go out to tarnish my image outside saying that I am treating her as a house girl, saying that she's like a slave, that she's in an abusive relationship this and that all the young ladies around my vicinity are all keeping malice with me because of her stories, they all believed her story.

Even when I try to talk people don't believe me. I got tired of the quarrels and nagging so I had to throw her things out and asked her to leave my house. Neighbors came in and intervened then asked me to consider my son that he's still a baby. I succumbed and left for work only for me to come back home that evening the 22nd of July and found out that she have left with my son that I love so much and yet all her things are still in my house.

Bring my baby sef all to no avail, oya let me be seeing him at least still no way. I've talked to her mom and siblings and all of them are taking her side saying a man is not supposed to throw a woman's things outside (even my family blamed me for throwing her things outside) oya I don agree sef still dey are hiding my baby that will be a year old on the 29th of this August from me.

Honestly her family wants me to settle with their daughter but to me I am no longer interested before I die of BP, so now they are using my son to blackmail me emotionally to accept their daughter back because they know that I love my son. If really I am suffering her and treating her like a slave like she always claim then I wonder why her family would want her to come back to my house to suffer.

Mind you, I don't even beat o, I only have bad mouth to reply her if she pisses me off. Honestly I am confused and don't know what to do because I really miss my son.

We women a times can overdo. What I ll advise is to show the olive branch. Call her people and her. Talk things, apologize to each other and settle the issue. She can still be a good wife to you. So, do marital rites as soon as possible and don't ever impregnate her again if you v not become financially stable (earning more than N63K). Cos if you didn't v a baby and you are still single, you ll know how to manage your money. But now that life has turned out the way it is, you v to take things with responsibility.

How are you sure you're the biological daddy of the child

Did you promise your baby mama marriage? As for me just clear her that you will be responsible for your son and not her. From the look of things bro, even if you are spending a million every month your baby mama will still lament and call you names. Make the vision very clear to her and please take care of yourself and your son. Thank God you have a son. Take care of him and yourself

Oga if you have paid for her bride price u are stick forever but if she is just a Baby mama Abeg don’t allow your parents or her parents to pressure u into marriage! She is supposed to at least pretend to get u before she show her real colors after marriage! But now she have show how ungrateful she is! Run ooo! She wanted to use the child to cage u! Take care of the child and run for your life! Close your legs or else you will have another baby mama! Be wise ooo.

djkirkoo2:
hmmmmm. Wonderful. Me I earn 63k as salary and my rent is 210k annually. Below is how I disburse it:

Kitchen stocking - 25k.

Soup for the month (we cook soup 5 times in a month) - 15k.

Baby mama - 5k.

Light bill - 2k.

Purewater - 4k.

Stew, Beans, Moi moi: 5/6k

Gas - 5k.

Fuel: As the Lord leads but I do put on Gen almost everyday as far as there's no light.
Now if you observed you will see that I don't have any money for myself nor my baby, make sure I run other deals to meet up my rent and cater for my son.

Yet my baby mama go out to tarnish my image outside saying that I am treating her as a house girl, saying that she's like a slave, that she's in an abusive relationship this and that all the young ladies around my vicinity are all keeping malice with me because of her stories, they all believed her story.

Even when I try to talk people don't believe me. I got tired of the quarrels and nagging so I had to throw her things out and asked her to leave my house. Neighbors came in and intervened then asked me to consider my son that he's still a baby. I succumbed and left for work only for me to come back home that evening the 22nd of July and found out that she have left with my son that I love so much and yet all her things are still in my house.

Bring my baby sef all to no avail, oya let me be seeing him at least still no way. I've talked to her mom and siblings and all of them are taking her side saying a man is not supposed to throw a woman's things outside (even my family blamed me for throwing her things outside) oya I don agree sef still dey are hiding my baby that will be a year old on the 29th of this August from me.

Honestly her family wants me to settle with their daughter but to me I am no longer interested before I die of BP, so now they are using my son to blackmail me emotionally to accept their daughter back because they know that I love my son. If really I am suffering her and treating her like a slave like she always claim then I wonder why her family would want her to come back to my house to suffer.

Mind you, I don't even beat o, I only have bad mouth to reply her if she pisses me off. Honestly I am confused and don't know what to do because I really miss my son.