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Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by luminouz(m): 8:08pm On Aug 30, 2022
MrBrownJay1:
you quoted me while being condescending to me, and i gave you a taste of your own medicine. take it or TAKE IT!
I will like to get you alone in a dark corner at night. undecided

The things I would do to you would power my generator for a month.

Just wait nigga,you just wait. Will lay hands on you soon.
Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by Drsnives(m): 8:53pm On Aug 30, 2022
advanceDNA:
Yes sir
MrBrownJay1:
you quoted me while being condescending to me, and i gave you a taste of your own medicine. take it or TAKE IT!
Na grammer una dea blow soo..
Make una go backyard if una won argue ooo
Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by Drsnives(m): 8:54pm On Aug 30, 2022
luminouz:
I will like to get you alone in a dark corner at night. undecided

The things I would do to you would power my generator for a month.

Just wait nigga,you just wait. Will lay hands on you soon.
Nawaooooo
Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by Omuuvwie(m): 8:57pm On Aug 30, 2022
All I know is love na 21century scam
Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by Karleb(m): 9:26pm On Aug 30, 2022
Only you get all these problems?

Omo!
Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by MrBrownJay1(m): 9:34pm On Aug 30, 2022
luminouz:
I will like to get you alone in a dark corner at night. undecided
The things I would do to you would power my generator for a month.
Just wait nigga,you just wait. Will lay hands on you soon.
so you live in a country that uses generator and you think you will ever cross path with me?! you need to be biatch slapped for having such a silly dream, lol!
Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by dnawah(m): 9:40pm On Aug 30, 2022
MyProblem1:
Good day nairaland.

I am in a dilemma, and I will love your opinion about it.

I am a young man in my mid 20's, living alone in Lagos, I won't say I am well to do, but I am doing very okay for an average Nigerian bachelor of my age. Here goes my problem.

I am in a 3 years old relationship with a 22 year old lady, we have known each other for about 4 years and began dating after a year of being friends, she was very decent and respectful at first, we vibed well and we Kickstarted a relationship, we were in a no sex relationship due to her principles and for about a year, we never had sex, she was my friend and we could chat for hours and not get tired, we gave each other access to our phones, she had my finger print on hers and hers on mine, it was a beautiful relationship and I sincerely wanted to settle down with her, but I noticed she was the extremely jealous type.

a year into the relationship, she got admitted to school and that was where our problems started. Prior, she lived not very far away from me on the island, so we saw each other often, but now, she moved to the mainland which is very far away from me, to top the whole matter, I gave her money to rent a room as I didn't want her to stay in the hostel, but to my shock, she brought in her cousin sister to stay with her, it was just a Normal room, so there was no privacy, my initial idea was that I could go over to spend a few days with her instead of her coming over to my place every time, but it failed, I was against the idea of her sister staying but she pleaded and I let it go, now, she is the only one who comes to visit, and it doesn't happen often, maybe once a month or something. I was lonely and bored most times as I work from home and sometimes needed someone to just chat with.

One day, I stumbled across the number of an old female friend and we began chatting, we vibed really well and she asked me if I had a girlfriend which I denied, note that we never met with the lady, we only chat. After some days, my gf came over and as I slept, she took my phone and opened it and read my chat with that lady, I woke up in the night to see her crying, I asked her why and she showed me the chat, I apologized very much and regretted every thing, she said she forgave me and left the next morning, after she got back to her place, she sent a text saying that she is out of the relationship, I was confused, I begged her but she refused, so I let her be.

Before the whole incident, she registered as a nurse at a hospital close to her place. There was this particular patient that was ill, and she and a colleague always go over to his place to inject him, she told me he always gives them little 1-3k each time they go so she always looks forward to it, I warned her about it but she said it was nothing.

Fastforward, after the whole text message and breakup thing, I left her alone and wanted to move on with my life, that was when she came back after over a month and was trying to take me back, and because I loved her, my arms were open. We spoke about a lot of things that happened during our break and one of the things she told me was that she was raped once, and that night, I was feeling very bad and decided to call her, after I did, she picked up and said she was gonna call me back, but according to her, the rapist was attracted to the light on her phone and he came and put a knife behind her while wrapping his arms around her, and that was how she surrendered. I was devastated cos I told her never to keep late nights around school, but she said due to the breakup, she started having some type of friends and started going to night parties and she was on the way to one of the parties when it happened. I was sad for days but I forgave her, after all, it was just once and it wasn't like I was a virgin or she was.

She also told me she almost started a relationship with a man, but promised to break off anything they were about having, we made love that night and it was beautiful, it was like nothing ever happened. That night, a number gave her 16 missed calls, I was surprised as to how someone will call 16 times so I picked up the number from her phone, and installed a tracker on her phone. I am very trxg savy, so after I did, I could see virtually everything on her phone, from all texts, to whatsapp chats, Facebook, telegram, everything, even her phone conversations and live screen.

In the morning, I allowed her go and didn't talk about the number calling. About an hour after she left, I saw a text message she sent to the same number apologizing for not picking up and calling the person baby and all, she sent several messages apologizing, so I let her reach home, then I called her mum and asked her to please be calm with whatever decision I was going to make, I called my gf and asked her who the name on that phone was, she was quiet at first, I asked again and she said he was a friend, and I asked what is her relationship with him, she said it's nothing and wanted to start making trouble out of it, so I just told her I was going to send her the exact text she sent to her baby today and that is the end of us, after I did, I ended the relationship. It was a long day that day, her whole family was calling me, I also called the guy too and asked him if he knew her and he opened up, he said she was his girlfriend and they have been dating for almost 4 months now and all, he said a lot of things about her, both true and lie, I found out they had been traveling round together, she has been driving his car to school, etc, but one thing that never happened was penetrative sex, they had MouthAction tho. I wasn't willing to accept all the family's apology, her mum was basically crying on phone and begging, so I accepted but was careful with her from then.

She later told me that it was the same patient I warned her about, that he was the one she started a relationship with and she did it because i denied having a girlfriend.

After the whole incident, our relationship never remained the same, we had a lot of fights and many times, this lady will actually charge at me, I have never hit her before and I never wanted to, it was beautiful but not as it used to be.

Fastforward almost a year later, I met another lady and didn't want anything more than being just friends, I even wanted to introduce her to my gf, but along the line, we vibed very well and I decided against the idea, I found out we had a lot of things in common with this new lady, she was not the prettiest, but she was very pretty as well, her body was very curvy, she was vulptious and tall, she had the perfect size of everything and was pretty, but not as pretty as my main gf as my main gf was Caucasian, her dad is from Spain. Along the line, we started falling for each other and as it happened, her bf broke up with her just around that time, I was there for her and before we knew it, a relationship started. Due to the development, I had to password protect my phone and was more careful with it. Her bf came back begging and I thought she was going to accept but to my shock, this lady was very honest, she even blocked the guy who they have been together 2 years with. I started a relationship with her while still having my old relationship thinking when she goes back to her bf, I won't be on the loosing side, but I was wrong, she was the most honest being I have ever met. This girl gave me real peace of mind, she knew how to handle situations, she doesn't nag, she was very witty and playful, there was basically no dull moment with her, I fell helplessly for her, I knew I needed to let one go for the other but I didn't know which to pick from.


My main gf is a full time nag, she is also violent, just recently, after she found out I called a lady, she tried forcefully taking my phone but I overpowered her, she somehow took the lady's number and called her, I took the phone from her and ended the call, and she punched me in the face, making me bleed, and hit me again, so I seized her phone and she charged toward me again, I just pushed her on the bed, yet she didn't rest, she charged again, I didn't know when I gave her a dirty slap which instantly calmed her down and made her bleed. I have never hit her before despite the many confrontations, I felt bad and apologized for it. We agreed to give ourselves a break to think about everything, and I want to make it right this time but I just don't know who to go with, my gf is hardworking but a nag and violent, she also demands more, the other lady is peaceful and never nags, she is curvy and mature, she has never asked me for 1 naira, everything I gave her, I did it from my heart, willingly . I love them both, I am just confused.
since David killed Goliath, children no get respect again.na your senior sister o! But jock apart,u go die yong if u marry that ur senior sister.
Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by luminouz(m): 9:50pm On Aug 30, 2022
MrBrownJay1:
so you live in a country that uses generator and you think you will ever cross path with me?! you need to be biatch slapped for having such a silly dream, lol!
Don't worry nigga... Keep it up...you think you can run your biatch mouth as you want but hand go soon touch you, mudafucker!!! undecided
Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by luminouz(m): 9:52pm On Aug 30, 2022
Drsnives:
Nawaooooo
It's all play play from me bro. grin

Though that nigga is really condescending and rude in his comments to almost everyone, because he is abroad and has money. The little fuqer!!! grin
Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by Nobody: 10:16pm On Aug 30, 2022
Are you Tony tetula?
Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by jagorinho: 11:50pm On Aug 30, 2022
MyProblem1:
I used to think like that too, until I brought up my story one time and was sad to see so many calling my reality fake. Yes! A lot of lies are on the internet, but you won't believe some unbelievable things people are going through that seem like fake to you. Just pray you don't find yourself in those peoples situation one day.

Her dad is Spanish, her mum is Nigerian and they all still live in Lagos, when you see her and her siblings, nobody needs to tell you they are not purely Nigerian.

I will rest my case here.
Then she is half caste then, not full Caucasian.
Even the real Spaniards are still not considered whites in some certain quarters like U.S.A, they believe they are a little bit darker than Northern Europeans, so they are classified under Hispanic in U.S

Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by Chris2863(m): 11:52pm On Aug 30, 2022
LikeAking:
shocked

Lies!
the story just tire me
Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by DSC7: 12:18am On Aug 31, 2022
The devil you know is better than the Angel you just met....


My only concern is that ur first gf is violent, nags and jealous... embarassed
Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by omolasho: 3:45am On Aug 31, 2022
[quote author=MyProblem1 post=116197697]Good day nairaland.

I am in a dilemma, and I will love your opinion about it.

I am a young man in my mid 20's, living alone in Lagos, I won't say I am well to do, but I am doing very okay for an average Nigerian bachelor of my age. Here goes my problem.

I am in a 3 years old relationship with a 22 year old lady, we have known each other for about 4 years and began dating after a year of being friends, she was very decent and respectful at first, we vibed well and we Kickstarted a relationship, we were in a no sex relationship due to her principles and for about a year, we never had sex, she was my friend and we could chat for hours and not get tired, we gave each other access to our phones, she had my finger print on hers and hers on mine, it was a beautiful relationship and I sincerely wanted to settle down with her, but I noticed she was the extremely jealous type.

a year into the relationship, she got admitted to school and that was where our problems started. Prior, she lived not very far away from me on the island, so we saw each other often, but now, she moved to the mainland which is very far away from me, to top the whole matter, I gave her money to rent a room as I didn't want her to stay in the hostel, but to my shock, she brought in her cousin sister to stay with her, it was just a Normal room, so there was no privacy, my initial idea was that I could go over to spend a few days with her instead of her coming over to my place every time, but it failed, I was against the idea of her sister staying but she pleaded and I let it go, now, she is the only one who comes to visit, and it doesn't happen often, maybe once a month or something. I was lonely and bored most times as I work from home and sometimes needed someone to just chat with.

One day, I stumbled across the number of an old female friend and we began chatting, we vibed really well and she asked me if I had a girlfriend which I denied, note that we never met with the lady, we only chat. After some days, my gf came over and as I slept, she took my phone and opened it and read my chat with that lady, I woke up in the night to see her crying, I asked her why and she showed me the chat, I apologized very much and regretted every thing, she said she forgave me and left the next morning, after she got back to her place, she sent a text saying that she is out of the relationship, I was confused, I begged her but she refused, so I let her be.

Before the whole incident, she registered as a nurse at a hospital close to her place. There was this particular patient that was ill, and she and a colleague always go over to his place to inject him, she told me he always gives them little 1-3k each time they go so she always looks forward to it, I warned her about it but she said it was nothing.

Fastforward, after the whole text message and breakup thing, I left her alone and wanted to move on with my life, that was when she came back after over a month and was trying to take me back, and because I loved her, my arms were open. We spoke about a lot of things that happened during our break and one of the things she told me was that she was raped once, and that night, I was feeling very bad and decided to call her, after I did, she picked up and said she was gonna call me back, but according to her, the rapist was attracted to the light on her phone and he came and put a knife behind her while wrapping his arms around her, and that was how she surrendered. I was devastated cos I told her never to keep late nights around school, but she said due to the breakup, she started having some type of friends and started going to night parties and she was on the way to one of the parties when it happened. I was sad for days but I forgave her, after all, it was just once and it wasn't like I was a virgin or she was.

She also told me she almost started a relationship with a man, but promised to break off anything they were about having, we made love that night and it was beautiful, it was like nothing ever happened. That night, a number gave her 16 missed calls, I was surprised as to how someone will call 16 times so I picked up the number from her phone, and installed a tracker on her phone. I am very trxg savy, so after I did, I could see virtually everything on her phone, from all texts, to whatsapp chats, Facebook, telegram, everything, even her phone conversations and live screen.

In the morning, I allowed her go and didn't talk about the number calling. About an hour after she left, I saw a text message she sent to the same number apologizing for not picking up and calling the person baby and all, she sent several messages apologizing, so I let her reach home, then I called her mum and asked her to please be calm with whatever decision I was going to make, I called my gf and asked her who the name on that phone was, she was quiet at first, I asked again and she said he was a friend, and I asked what is her relationship with him, she said it's nothing and wanted to start making trouble out of it, so I just told her I was going to send her the exact text she sent to her baby today and that is the end of us, after I did, I ended the relationship. It was a long day that day, her whole family was calling me, I also called the guy too and asked him if he knew her and he opened up, he said she was his girlfriend and they have been dating for almost 4 months now and all, he said a lot of things about her, both true and lie, I found out they had been traveling round together, she has been driving his car to school, etc, but one thing that never happened was penetrative sex, they had MouthAction tho. I wasn't willing to accept all the family's apology, her mum was basically crying on phone and begging, so I accepted but was careful with her from then.

She later told me that it was the same patient I warned her about, that he was the one she started a relationship with and she did it because i denied having a girlfriend.

After the whole incident, our relationship never remained the same, we had a lot of fights and many times, this lady will actually charge at me, I have never hit her before and I never wanted to, it was beautiful but not as it used to be.

Fastforward almost a year later, I met another lady and didn't want anything more than being just friends, I even wanted to introduce her to my gf, but along the line, we vibed very well and I decided against the idea, I found out we had a lot of things in common with this new lady, she was not the prettiest, but she was very pretty as well, her body was very curvy, she was vulptious and tall, she had the perfect size of everything and was pretty, but not as pretty as my main gf as my main gf was Caucasian, her dad is from Spain. Along the line, we started falling for each other and as it happened, her bf broke up with her just around that time, I was there for her and before we knew it, a relationship started. Due to the development, I had to password protect my phone and was more careful with it. Her bf came back begging and I thought she was going to accept but to my shock, this lady was very honest, she even blocked the guy who they have been together 2 years with. I started a relationship with her while still having my old relationship thinking when she goes back to her bf, I won't be on the loosing side, but I was wrong, she was the most honest being I have ever met. This girl gave me real peace of mind, she knew how to handle situations, she doesn't nag, she was very witty and playful, there was basically no dull moment with her, I fell helplessly for her, I knew I needed to let one go for the other but I didn't know which to pick from.


My main gf is a full time nag, she is also violent, just recently, after she found out I called a lady, she tried forcefully taking my phone but I overpowered her, she somehow took the lady's number and called her, I took the phone from her and ended the call, and she punched me in the face, making me bleed, and hit me again, so I seized her phone and she charged toward me again, I just pushed her on the bed, yet she didn't rest, she charged again, I didn't know when I gave her a dirty slap which instantly calmed her down and made her bleed. I have never hit her before despite the many confrontations, I felt bad and apologized for it. We agreed to give ourselves a break to think about everything, and I want to make it right this time but I just don't know who to go with, my gf is hardworking but a nag and violent, she also demands more, the other lady is peaceful and never nags, she is curvy and mature, she has never asked me for 1 naira, everything I gave her, I did it from my heart, willingly . I love them both, I am just confused. [/and you are confused]
Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by Shrimpss: 3:51am On Aug 31, 2022
Why don't you get married to both of them?won't be a bad Idea
Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by Uzomarrr12345: 3:57am On Aug 31, 2022
Shrimpss:
Why don't you get married to both of them?won't be a bad Idea
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Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by David1017(m): 4:08am On Aug 31, 2022
So you love who dae beat u.. Na wa oo
Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by Enny2013(f): 5:06am On Aug 31, 2022
Whoever u choose,don't forget dat Every woman has her own problems.
U stl haven't known d second lady much.
Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by Baronthecelebri(m): 10:09am On Aug 31, 2022
You're a simp, for now leave women and focus on yourself.
MyProblem1:
Good day nairaland.

I am in a dilemma, and I will love your opinion about it.

I am a young man in my mid 20's, living alone in Lagos, I won't say I am well to do, but I am doing very okay for an average Nigerian bachelor of my age. Here goes my problem.

I am in a 3 years old relationship with a 22 year old lady, we have known each other for about 4 years and began dating after a year of being friends, she was very decent and respectful at first, we vibed well and we Kickstarted a relationship, we were in a no sex relationship due to her principles and for about a year, we never had sex, she was my friend and we could chat for hours and not get tired, we gave each other access to our phones, she had my finger print on hers and hers on mine, it was a beautiful relationship and I sincerely wanted to settle down with her, but I noticed she was the extremely jealous type.

a year into the relationship, she got admitted to school and that was where our problems started. Prior, she lived not very far away from me on the island, so we saw each other often, but now, she moved to the mainland which is very far away from me, to top the whole matter, I gave her money to rent a room as I didn't want her to stay in the hostel, but to my shock, she brought in her cousin sister to stay with her, it was just a Normal room, so there was no privacy, my initial idea was that I could go over to spend a few days with her instead of her coming over to my place every time, but it failed, I was against the idea of her sister staying but she pleaded and I let it go, now, she is the only one who comes to visit, and it doesn't happen often, maybe once a month or something. I was lonely and bored most times as I work from home and sometimes needed someone to just chat with.

One day, I stumbled across the number of an old female friend and we began chatting, we vibed really well and she asked me if I had a girlfriend which I denied, note that we never met with the lady, we only chat. After some days, my gf came over and as I slept, she took my phone and opened it and read my chat with that lady, I woke up in the night to see her crying, I asked her why and she showed me the chat, I apologized very much and regretted every thing, she said she forgave me and left the next morning, after she got back to her place, she sent a text saying that she is out of the relationship, I was confused, I begged her but she refused, so I let her be.

Before the whole incident, she registered as a nurse at a hospital close to her place. There was this particular patient that was ill, and she and a colleague always go over to his place to inject him, she told me he always gives them little 1-3k each time they go so she always looks forward to it, I warned her about it but she said it was nothing.

Fastforward, after the whole text message and breakup thing, I left her alone and wanted to move on with my life, that was when she came back after over a month and was trying to take me back, and because I loved her, my arms were open. We spoke about a lot of things that happened during our break and one of the things she told me was that she was raped once, and that night, I was feeling very bad and decided to call her, after I did, she picked up and said she was gonna call me back, but according to her, the rapist was attracted to the light on her phone and he came and put a knife behind her while wrapping his arms around her, and that was how she surrendered. I was devastated cos I told her never to keep late nights around school, but she said due to the breakup, she started having some type of friends and started going to night parties and she was on the way to one of the parties when it happened. I was sad for days but I forgave her, after all, it was just once and it wasn't like I was a virgin or she was.

She also told me she almost started a relationship with a man, but promised to break off anything they were about having, we made love that night and it was beautiful, it was like nothing ever happened. That night, a number gave her 16 missed calls, I was surprised as to how someone will call 16 times so I picked up the number from her phone, and installed a tracker on her phone. I am very trxg savy, so after I did, I could see virtually everything on her phone, from all texts, to whatsapp chats, Facebook, telegram, everything, even her phone conversations and live screen.

In the morning, I allowed her go and didn't talk about the number calling. About an hour after she left, I saw a text message she sent to the same number apologizing for not picking up and calling the person baby and all, she sent several messages apologizing, so I let her reach home, then I called her mum and asked her to please be calm with whatever decision I was going to make, I called my gf and asked her who the name on that phone was, she was quiet at first, I asked again and she said he was a friend, and I asked what is her relationship with him, she said it's nothing and wanted to start making trouble out of it, so I just told her I was going to send her the exact text she sent to her baby today and that is the end of us, after I did, I ended the relationship. It was a long day that day, her whole family was calling me, I also called the guy too and asked him if he knew her and he opened up, he said she was his girlfriend and they have been dating for almost 4 months now and all, he said a lot of things about her, both true and lie, I found out they had been traveling round together, she has been driving his car to school, etc, but one thing that never happened was penetrative sex, they had MouthAction tho. I wasn't willing to accept all the family's apology, her mum was basically crying on phone and begging, so I accepted but was careful with her from then.

She later told me that it was the same patient I warned her about, that he was the one she started a relationship with and she did it because i denied having a girlfriend.

After the whole incident, our relationship never remained the same, we had a lot of fights and many times, this lady will actually charge at me, I have never hit her before and I never wanted to, it was beautiful but not as it used to be.

Fastforward almost a year later, I met another lady and didn't want anything more than being just friends, I even wanted to introduce her to my gf, but along the line, we vibed very well and I decided against the idea, I found out we had a lot of things in common with this new lady, she was not the prettiest, but she was very pretty as well, her body was very curvy, she was vulptious and tall, she had the perfect size of everything and was pretty, but not as pretty as my main gf as my main gf was Caucasian, her dad is from Spain. Along the line, we started falling for each other and as it happened, her bf broke up with her just around that time, I was there for her and before we knew it, a relationship started. Due to the development, I had to password protect my phone and was more careful with it. Her bf came back begging and I thought she was going to accept but to my shock, this lady was very honest, she even blocked the guy who they have been together 2 years with. I started a relationship with her while still having my old relationship thinking when she goes back to her bf, I won't be on the loosing side, but I was wrong, she was the most honest being I have ever met. This girl gave me real peace of mind, she knew how to handle situations, she doesn't nag, she was very witty and playful, there was basically no dull moment with her, I fell helplessly for her, I knew I needed to let one go for the other but I didn't know which to pick from.


My main gf is a full time nag, she is also violent, just recently, after she found out I called a lady, she tried forcefully taking my phone but I overpowered her, she somehow took the lady's number and called her, I took the phone from her and ended the call, and she punched me in the face, making me bleed, and hit me again, so I seized her phone and she charged toward me again, I just pushed her on the bed, yet she didn't rest, she charged again, I didn't know when I gave her a dirty slap which instantly calmed her down and made her bleed. I have never hit her before despite the many confrontations, I felt bad and apologized for it. We agreed to give ourselves a break to think about everything, and I want to make it right this time but I just don't know who to go with, my gf is hardworking but a nag and violent, she also demands more, the other lady is peaceful and never nags, she is curvy and mature, she has never asked me for 1 naira, everything I gave her, I did it from my heart, willingly . I love them both, I am just confused.
Re: I Am In Love With 2 Women I Don't Know Which To Pick by frozen70(f): 10:15am On Aug 31, 2022
MyProblem1:
Good day nairaland.

I am in a dilemma, and I will love your opinion about it.

I am a young man in my mid 20's, living alone in Lagos, I won't say I am well to do, but I am doing very okay for an average Nigerian bachelor of my age. Here goes my problem.

I am in a 3 years old relationship with a 22 year old lady, we have known each other for about 4 years and began dating after a year of being friends, she was very decent and respectful at first, we vibed well and we Kickstarted a relationship, we were in a no sex relationship due to her principles and for about a year, we never had sex, she was my friend and we could chat for hours and not get tired, we gave each other access to our phones, she had my finger print on hers and hers on mine, it was a beautiful relationship and I sincerely wanted to settle down with her, but I noticed she was the extremely jealous type.

a year into the relationship, she got admitted to school and that was where our problems started. Prior, she lived not very far away from me on the island, so we saw each other often, but now, she moved to the mainland which is very far away from me, to top the whole matter, I gave her money to rent a room as I didn't want her to stay in the hostel, but to my shock, she brought in her cousin sister to stay with her, it was just a Normal room, so there was no privacy, my initial idea was that I could go over to spend a few days with her instead of her coming over to my place every time, but it failed, I was against the idea of her sister staying but she pleaded and I let it go, now, she is the only one who comes to visit, and it doesn't happen often, maybe once a month or something. I was lonely and bored most times as I work from home and sometimes needed someone to just chat with.

One day, I stumbled across the number of an old female friend and we began chatting, we vibed really well and she asked me if I had a girlfriend which I denied, note that we never met with the lady, we only chat. After some days, my gf came over and as I slept, she took my phone and opened it and read my chat with that lady, I woke up in the night to see her crying, I asked her why and she showed me the chat, I apologized very much and regretted every thing, she said she forgave me and left the next morning, after she got back to her place, she sent a text saying that she is out of the relationship, I was confused, I begged her but she refused, so I let her be.

Before the whole incident, she registered as a nurse at a hospital close to her place. There was this particular patient that was ill, and she and a colleague always go over to his place to inject him, she told me he always gives them little 1-3k each time they go so she always looks forward to it, I warned her about it but she said it was nothing.

Fastforward, after the whole text message and breakup thing, I left her alone and wanted to move on with my life, that was when she came back after over a month and was trying to take me back, and because I loved her, my arms were open. We spoke about a lot of things that happened during our break and one of the things she told me was that she was raped once, and that night, I was feeling very bad and decided to call her, after I did, she picked up and said she was gonna call me back, but according to her, the rapist was attracted to the light on her phone and he came and put a knife behind her while wrapping his arms around her, and that was how she surrendered. I was devastated cos I told her never to keep late nights around school, but she said due to the breakup, she started having some type of friends and started going to night parties and she was on the way to one of the parties when it happened. I was sad for days but I forgave her, after all, it was just once and it wasn't like I was a virgin or she was.

She also told me she almost started a relationship with a man, but promised to break off anything they were about having, we made love that night and it was beautiful, it was like nothing ever happened. That night, a number gave her 16 missed calls, I was surprised as to how someone will call 16 times so I picked up the number from her phone, and installed a tracker on her phone. I am very trxg savy, so after I did, I could see virtually everything on her phone, from all texts, to whatsapp chats, Facebook, telegram, everything, even her phone conversations and live screen.

In the morning, I allowed her go and didn't talk about the number calling. About an hour after she left, I saw a text message she sent to the same number apologizing for not picking up and calling the person baby and all, she sent several messages apologizing, so I let her reach home, then I called her mum and asked her to please be calm with whatever decision I was going to make, I called my gf and asked her who the name on that phone was, she was quiet at first, I asked again and she said he was a friend, and I asked what is her relationship with him, she said it's nothing and wanted to start making trouble out of it, so I just told her I was going to send her the exact text she sent to her baby today and that is the end of us, after I did, I ended the relationship. It was a long day that day, her whole family was calling me, I also called the guy too and asked him if he knew her and he opened up, he said she was his girlfriend and they have been dating for almost 4 months now and all, he said a lot of things about her, both true and lie, I found out they had been traveling round together, she has been driving his car to school, etc, but one thing that never happened was penetrative sex, they had MouthAction tho. I wasn't willing to accept all the family's apology, her mum was basically crying on phone and begging, so I accepted but was careful with her from then.

She later told me that it was the same patient I warned her about, that he was the one she started a relationship with and she did it because i denied having a girlfriend.

After the whole incident, our relationship never remained the same, we had a lot of fights and many times, this lady will actually charge at me, I have never hit her before and I never wanted to, it was beautiful but not as it used to be.

Fastforward almost a year later, I met another lady and didn't want anything more than being just friends, I even wanted to introduce her to my gf, but along the line, we vibed very well and I decided against the idea, I found out we had a lot of things in common with this new lady, she was not the prettiest, but she was very pretty as well, her body was very curvy, she was vulptious and tall, she had the perfect size of everything and was pretty, but not as pretty as my main gf as my main gf was Caucasian, her dad is from Spain. Along the line, we started falling for each other and as it happened, her bf broke up with her just around that time, I was there for her and before we knew it, a relationship started. Due to the development, I had to password protect my phone and was more careful with it. Her bf came back begging and I thought she was going to accept but to my shock, this lady was very honest, she even blocked the guy who they have been together 2 years with. I started a relationship with her while still having my old relationship thinking when she goes back to her bf, I won't be on the loosing side, but I was wrong, she was the most honest being I have ever met. This girl gave me real peace of mind, she knew how to handle situations, she doesn't nag, she was very witty and playful, there was basically no dull moment with her, I fell helplessly for her, I knew I needed to let one go for the other but I didn't know which to pick from.


My main gf is a full time nag, she is also violent, just recently, after she found out I called a lady, she tried forcefully taking my phone but I overpowered her, she somehow took the lady's number and called her, I took the phone from her and ended the call, and she punched me in the face, making me bleed, and hit me again, so I seized her phone and she charged toward me again, I just pushed her on the bed, yet she didn't rest, she charged again, I didn't know when I gave her a dirty slap which instantly calmed her down and made her bleed. I have never hit her before despite the many confrontations, I felt bad and apologized for it. We agreed to give ourselves a break to think about everything, and I want to make it right this time but I just don't know who to go with, my gf is hardworking but a nag and violent, she also demands more, the other lady is peaceful and never nags, she is curvy and mature, she has never asked me for 1 naira, everything I gave her, I did it from my heart, willingly . I love them both, I am just confused.
Just settle with your new current girl friend and leave the other girl friend

Every one one needs peace of mind, especially men in any relationship

Women knows how to do drama and men don't have the prowees to with stand such drama from women

Use this break to end the relationship and give deaf ear to anyone that calls on her behalf

For a woman to confront you to the level of struggling with you, such woman can be violent yet cry foul

Nagging is one particular thing men hates unless you know that you are capable of withstanding it
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