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Gone are the days you'll just walk up to a girl and she would be shy and you'll be toasting small small till she accepts you but now if you walk up to a girl its you that will be shy.
so what happened why is it hard to find love or stay in a relationship?

social media

OyeofIkoTuN:
social media

Why social media

Rema14:
Gone are the days you'll just walk up to a girl and she would be shy and you'll be toasting small small till she accepts you but now if you walk up to a girl its you that will be shy.
so what happened why is it hard to find love or stay in a relationship?

I believe finding love is so easy right now
The comments of people will endear u to them , staying in d same location helps alot and most important ur confidence and character..once u build this up, just like Hermes in big brother, it's woman that will endear themselves to u

BirtherOfKings:
I believe finding love is so easy right now
The comments of people will endear u to them , staying in d same location helps alot and most important ur confidence and character..once u build this up, just like Hermes in big brother, it's woman that will endear themselves to u

Oh i love that show

There is no love in Nigeria. Make money and endure the fake love she gives you for the rest of your life.

Rema14:
Why social media

It's sad to see men wooing women that are married with kids,sometimes 4 to 5 children yet they are all over her dms expressing their feelings for her and telling her pleasant things..

Then talk about young girls....Oh they get those pleasantries times 1000.. even cash gifts.

True story,I've given babes cash gift online without meeting them before.

Stay single and see how you will enjoy your life to the fullest

1. Poverty

2. Nigerians worship money

All this comments above make it feel like only money and fame is needed to acquire love why? Nlfpmod please move to fp for me to get more answers

Fvvvck Lovu

Love yourself before loving another person

Chaos14:
Love yourself before loving another person

Wow thats how bad nigeria has gotten too

U Dey find love na heart attack you go get

Aboks:
U Dey find love na heart attack you go get

From heart break to attack bros you no get chill

POVERTY!!

Finding love in Nigerian isn't hard.
People get married almost every Sunday.

Your issue is that you just can't get enough of one lady, you want to have a taste of all.

Everyone is after money now, most ladies personally look forward to making money before going into love. Don't want no one talking us down at any given opportunity.

There's no love thats why i use my sharingan on girls

Rema14:
Gone are the days you'll just walk up to a girl and she would be shy and you'll be toasting small small till she accepts you but now if you walk up to a girl its you that will be shy.
so what happened why is it hard to find love or stay in a relationship?

because money know dey the country

Candora:
Finding love in Nigerian isn't hard.
People get married almost every Sunday.

Your issue is that you just can't get enough of one lady, you want to have a taste of all.

Everyone is after money now, most ladies personally look forward to making money before going into love. Don't want no one talking us down at any given opportunity.

So thats why you girls develop though skin

Love has been monetized, know this and know peace

Social media don make all look like cruise n joke
Even married couples self no sure about thier marriage going by d madness them de see each day online

Poverty and greediness...
Nigerians are naturally greedy and selfish...
Tueh!

Rema14:
Gone are the days you'll just walk up to a girl and she would be shy and you'll be toasting small small till she accepts you but now if you walk up to a girl its you that will be shy.
so what happened why is it hard to find love or stay in a relationship?

Rema?

Love is moneitized

ePoster:
Rema?

Yeah bro.

Nlfpmod

Rema14:
Yeah bro.

wow! I love you

Because, 9ja girls don't love and dey will never love u.

They are nothing but useless. All of them...

Know this and know peace

ePoster:
wow! I love you

Stream raves and roses

Rema14:
Why social media

Because social media has, albeit unintentionally, ruined the fabric of social connection. Imagine meeting someone in person, you've had such a great interaction with them, the energy you shared - the conversation, it all was beautiful. You exchange numbers or an email. You come home, you contemplate how good the day and how weirdly, somewhere in October, you've bumped into someone and it went well. You sleep. This was the 90s. In the 90s, when you met someone, you exchanged contact, not social profiles, so to contact them, or they contact you, both parties had to make a deliberate effort. Technology back then, was a tool to connect and hear me out, connect to the same interaction - the same medium, in-person talking. Sure you shared a few emails, but ultimately you wanted to get back together to the old cafe where you left. No ambiguity, but enough space to grow.

Fast forward to today, you meet, you exchange social profiles - let’s take Instagram for example. In my life, whoever I have met through Instagram has always ended up in an ambiguous and awkward friendship, and ultimately becoming a poison. You meet them, they meet you. Exchange socials. Hit follow on profiles. Come back home, sleep. And from there, everything is downhill. You see their stories, they see your stories. It continues. Days. Weeks. No interaction, no energy. Never get to know each other. The awesome interaction you both had, what went wrong? 2 months later with no messages exchanged, both are silently watching stories and posts of each other, and ultimately, you hit unfollow. The person you met was lost. And believe me when I say this, this is a pattern I noticed and almost all the people I exchanged my social with (especially IG) when I first met them, and followed ended up just placeholders, not friends. What social media seems to ruin, is that it takes the connection, and makes the connection poisonous by constantly exposing each other to the point the connection that was once a beauty of the offline, goes online, killing the mystique and killing empathy. In the first timeline, you weren’t exposed, there was distance, there was anticipation. No ambiguity. No interaction override. I feel truly sad writing this but lost many good people by just following them, wish I had gotten to know them before subscribing to their life that I never wanted to be the audience of, but a part of.

Atleast not in Nigeria...Our ladies want money while our men wants sex, so everything is based on beneficial emotional transactions...Even in most marriages, at a point, both parties are just enduring and tolerating themselves but in the nutshell, psychologically, that marriage ended long time ago...