Good evening to you all. I don't know if this is the right place to drop this.

Am a married man. I lived in the same compound with my best friend sister. We Just moved into the neighborhood not too long (11 months ago). My friend's sister is also married with kids.

Let me go straight to the point, ever since we moved into the compound this woman has been disturbing my wife with gossip. She's a full house wife while my wife is running a M.sc programme but due to ASUU strike, she has being at home. This woman will come to my wife and talk bad things about everyone living in the neighborhood including those living in our compound. Most funny thing about her is that once she leave our apartment, she's moving into the next apartment.

My wife and I have studied her very well that most time we try to avoid, ignore or resist her from coming to our house but to no avail.
Not that I can't warn her to stop coming but am trying to avoid issues that will arise between me and my friend and also her husband.

She was keeping malice with another woman (Mrs Adelaku) in our compound because the woman ignored her totally as a result of her gossip.

Last two weeks Mrs Adelaku came to our apartment to invite my wife to her brother's wedding and as a result of that she thinks my wife is getting closer to that woman.

Yesterday she came to our house and confronted my wife of gossiping with the other woman (Mrs Adelaku) about her. That when neighbors are trying to settle issues between her and Mrs Adelaku that she quoted my wife. She accused my wife of telling Mrs Adelaku everything she has being telling her. And also tell my wife not to confront Mrs Adelaku.

But my wife went to Mrs Adelaku that same day to confront her but she swear with the bible and everything she has that she never tell her anything related to that. That perphers she and my wife are not a gist partner if not for the wedding invitation that she brought.

With anger, my wife went back to this woman (my friend sister) and tell her what the woman said. She later apologies to my wife that it was a trick. That she just wants to know their discussing that when she came with the wedding I.V she discovered that the woman (Mrs Adelaku) stayed a little bit longer in our apartment.

Ever since my wife has developed so much hatred for her/ her husband and even my friend that she doesn't want to see anyone of them again in our apartment.

Am so sorry for the long story, am not to good in this. Kindly bear with me.

What can I do in this situation? Matured mind please, thanks.

Women and gossip 5&6. Big red flag.

Imagine the little drama they created in your compound due to Cho Cho Cho.

Op,that one na their business oooo,no make women matter make you and your nigga get problem... anybody wey wan gossip,na em cup of tea/coffee, just ignore everybody and dey your lane with strict face, everybody head go correct

It's just normal gossip stuffs naa

You are a man, protect the interest of your innocent best friend, he has nothing to do in this gimmicks, as for her sister, my brother just mind your business and leave her to your wife....

Don't be too emotional, that is one of women maladies....

I can't believe this will be perturbation to you as a man.....

Can someone summarize this for me? KO yemi rara. Cant comprehend. So dazed rt now. Three rounds of pounding taking it's bit on me

Tell your friend that his sister is mischievous and trying to damage your marriage to your wife and relationship with other neighbours. Tell him that your wife has decided that no friends come to the house going forward until these issues are resolved.

You can always meet your best friend outside your home.

Your wife is a responsible woman and has made the right decision. If she continues association with that woman, you’d be here next year saying women are scum or that you’re divorced.

You can choose your wife and respect her decision and have peace or choose your best friend and his irresponsible sister and make your peaceful home a circle of crisis!

Forget that your wife is doing her Msc, what I draw from this is that the woman, your wife and the other women in that house are full-time housewives and gossiping is a common issue with full-time housewives, the Msc programme is just an excuse because it isn't full-time like undergraduate programme, your wife has excess time in her hands especially when ASUU strike gave her more time. Get a job or setup a business for your wife and this issue will die down on its own.

Domipraiz:
Good evening to you all. I don't know if this is the right place to drop this.
Am a married man. I lived in the same compound with my best friend sister. We Just moved into the neighborhood not too long (11 months ago). My friend's sister is also married with kids.

Let me go straight to the point, ever since we moved into the compound this woman has been disturbing my wife with gossip. She's a full house wife while my wife is running a M.sc programme but due to ASUU strike, she has being at home. This woman will come to my wife and talk bad things about everyone living in the neighborhood including those living in our compound. Most funny thing about her is that once she leave our apartment, she's moving into the next apartment.
My wife and I have studied her very well that most time we try to avoid, ignore or resist her from coming to our house but to no avail.
Not that I can't warn her to stop coming but am trying to avoid issues that will arise between me and my friend and also her husband.
She was keeping malice with another woman (Mrs Adelaku) in our compound because the woman ignored her totally has a result of her gossip.
Last two weeks Mrs Adelaku came to our apartment to invite my wife to her brother's wedding and as a result of that she think my wife is getting closer to that woman.
Yesterday she came to our house and confronted my wife of gossiping with the other woman (Mrs Adelaku) about her. That when neighbors are trying to settle issues between her and Mrs Adelaku that she quoted my wife. She accused my wife of telling Mrs Adelaku everything she has being telling her. And also tell my wife not to confront Mrs Adelaku.
But my wife went to Mrs Adelaku that same day to confront her but she swear with the bible and everything she has that she never tell her anything related to that. That perphers she and my wife are not a gist partner if not for the wedding invitation that she brought.
With anger my wife went back to this woman (my friend sister) and tell her what the woman said. She later apologies to my wife that it was a trick.That she just want to know their discussing that when she came with the wedding I.V she discovered that the woman (Mrs Adelaku) stayed a little bit longer in our apartment.
Ever since my wife have developed so much hatred for her/ her husband and even my friend that she doesn't want to see anyone of them again in our apartment.

Am so sorry for the long story, am not to good in this. Kindly bear with me.

What can I do in this situation? Matured mind please, thanks.

It's simple. U and ur wife can avoid her without attracting any quarrel. How? Whenever she comes, ur wife should pretend like she wants to go to somewhere, or pretend to be tired or feeling sick and wants to sleep or pretend to be sleeping, etc. In that way, she will take her Busybody elsewhere.

Leave your wife to handle the wheel.

She is a no nonsense person. She's trying to cut all tides, which is very good for everyone including you.

Start planning your hangout with your paddy outside. Am sure he will understand. Cos he knows the kind of person his sister is.

As them no gree tame her behavior when she de small.

That's exactly what marriage does.
It takes just 1 woman to destroy the covalent friendship existing among 5 boys in given family.
Don't rejoice yet if you are a proud father of 4 boys. Problems usually starts when they start getting married and bringing their wives home.
Then u will be shocked how the woman u married will start planting seed of discord among family members so as to as see if she could get her husband's undiluted attention.

Women can't stay in a place without causing kata-kata.

I fear person wey no fear this gender!

Very useless gender

Crazy things are happening

Your wife is even more of a husband than you, she took a decision that you refused to take. Learn to create boundaries in marriage even if it involves your parents.

When she knocks next time, don't open the door. If she open the door without you knowing, and buzz in, you and your wife should enter the room leaving her back in the parlour. Don't just utter a word.

Do it twice concurrently. Stay in the room and start talking to your self with laughter. She will get pained and leave. Repeat it without insulting her. She will get the message and become bitter, but una no send her.

If you are not careful, she will soon tell your wife she saw you romancing another neighbour's wife when her husband is far away. You better be wise.

Rozross:
Your wife is even more of a husband than you, she took a decision that you refused to take. Learn to create boundaries in marriage even if it involves your parents.

so he should cut off his best friend just because of his wife. If the guy has been helping him in one way or the other nko. if u have fight with my sister, that is two of u problem, don't add me into the issue I know nothing about.

Speak to your friend, let him talk to his sister. But sometimes women I tired for them o,

"lete go straight to the point" before this long epistle..

Judging with the way this story is narrated, this op himself is a gossiper..

Truvelisback:
It's simple. U and ur wife can avoid her without attracting any quarrel. How? Whenever she comes, ur wife should pretend like she wants to go to somewhere, or pretend to be tired or feeling sick and wants to sleep or pretend to be sleeping, etc. In that way, she will take her Busybody elsewhere.

It's possible the gossiping lady might still make trouble or keep malice after observing all these.

tuzle:
so he should cut off his best friend just because of his wife. If the guy has been helping him in one way or the other nko. if u have fight with my sister, that is two of u problem, don't add me into the issue I know nothing about.

He doesn't need to cut his friend off entirely, they could always meet outside. I think the wife wants to avoid any situation where the lady feels comfortable barging in again, seeing her brother in their place.

MALIGNANTGuest:
That's exactly what marriage does.
It takes just 1 woman to destroy the covalent friendship existing among 5 boys in given family.
Don't rejoice yet if you are a proud father of 4 boys. Problems usually starts when they start getting married and bringing their wives home.
Then u will be shocked how the woman u married will start planting seed of discord among family members so as to as see if she could get her husband's undiluted attention.

I'm not sure how this relates to the particular scenario painted by the OP. Or you're accusing that his wife is just needlessly planting a seed of discord. You don't think the situation warrants her decision?

blaquebelle:


I'm not sure how this relates to the particular scenario painted by the OP. Or you're accusing that his wife is just needlessly planting a seed of discord. You don't think the situation warrants her decision?

My present opinion is a digression from the index Topic, however it's something that has eaten deep into the fabrics of many families.
It's almost everywhere.
Only a woman can severe the mutual relationship shared by identical male twins.

How women come into families and severe age long family relationships can not be overemphasized. However, these same women immediately sustain theirs by inviting their siblings into their matrimonial homes.

Some come in the name of assisting to carry babies. Some come in the name of seeking for special centers for JAMB. Thereafter these siblings become permanent residents in your house ready to fight you the moment you scold their sister, your wife.

Better look well before you marry!
Most times marriage is not what it is presumed to be. People have been lied to for years!

blaquebelle:


It's possible the gossiping lady might still make trouble or keep malice after observing all these.



He doesn't need to cut his friend off entirely, they could always meet outside. I think the wife wants to avoid any situation where the lady feels comfortable barging in again, seeing her brother in their place.

She won't if done properly. However, i do not mean keeping enemity with her. U can happily exchange pleasantries without sounding like she is a thorn in ur flesh. Then pretend to be busy like cooking in the kitchen, cleaning the house, etc. As for Op, he and his friend can still maintain their friendship.

Domipraiz:
Good evening to you all. I don't know if this is the right place to drop this.
Am a married man. I lived in the same compound with my best friend sister. We Just moved into the neighborhood not too long (11 months ago). My friend's sister is also married with kids.

Let me go straight to the point, ever since we moved into the compound this woman has been disturbing my wife with gossip. She's a full house wife while my wife is running a M.sc programme but due to ASUU strike, she has being at home. This woman will come to my wife and talk bad things about everyone living in the neighborhood including those living in our compound. Most funny thing about her is that once she leave our apartment, she's moving into the next apartment.
My wife and I have studied her very well that most time we try to avoid, ignore or resist her from coming to our house but to no avail.
Not that I can't warn her to stop coming but am trying to avoid issues that will arise between me and my friend and also her husband.
She was keeping malice with another woman (Mrs Adelaku) in our compound because the woman ignored her totally has a result of her gossip.
Last two weeks Mrs Adelaku came to our apartment to invite my wife to her brother's wedding and as a result of that she think my wife is getting closer to that woman.
Yesterday she came to our house and confronted my wife of gossiping with the other woman (Mrs Adelaku) about her. That when neighbors are trying to settle issues between her and Mrs Adelaku that she quoted my wife. She accused my wife of telling Mrs Adelaku everything she has being telling her. And also tell my wife not to confront Mrs Adelaku.
But my wife went to Mrs Adelaku that same day to confront her but she swear with the bible and everything she has that she never tell her anything related to that. That perphers she and my wife are not a gist partner if not for the wedding invitation that she brought.
With anger my wife went back to this woman (my friend sister) and tell her what the woman said. She later apologies to my wife that it was a trick.That she just want to know their discussing that when she came with the wedding I.V she discovered that the woman (Mrs Adelaku) stayed a little bit longer in our apartment.
Ever since my wife have developed so much hatred for her/ her husband and even my friend that she doesn't want to see anyone of them again in our apartment.

Am so sorry for the long story, am not to good in this. Kindly bear with me.

What can I do in this situation? Matured mind please, thanks.

You ignore and act like nothing happened. If they choose not to talk to each other, good for everyone.

They no de do friend friend enter wahala for marriage.

OP, In Marriage, Communication is Key.
Tell ur Wife to learn how to Forgive and Manage the Shortcomings of Others!
In this Life, Most Humans have their Flaws and are NOT Perfect!
If It's Her Sister who did a Wrong, Will She Push her Away like That

OriOko88:

Can someone summarize this for me? KO yemi rara. Cant comprehend. So dazed rt now. Three rounds of pounding taking it's bit on me

O Boy, The Story ehn...

Make I Nor lie, I No read am well o.

I Just comment Based on the Headline

Kindly help this op move this to family section and Fp,Lalasticlala,Seun,Mynd44,Dominique,Mukina2,nlfpmod

Sir pls don't allow your wife destroy your friendship with your friend that you've already had for years.

Interesting...
Sorry 2 ask bro but is that ur place..."face me I face you"...cus this one pass..."Fuji House of commotion"..

Your wife caused all this at first why did she confront the other woman,she shouldn't have done that cos the other woman would think low of her like seriously...Dem say,u say,who say,I hear say,u talk say, it's just terrible.
Your wife isn't perfect as well as everyone else
in this world, don't use your mistakes to judge or hate others abeg.Let your friend keep coming to see you there is nothing wrong there oga! Your wife isn't you you don't take sides when 2 women are fighting...
Make your wife to understand this plain and simple...this should teach her a lesson never entertain gossip cos even you go be topic tomorrow na wetin the woman talk we hear your wife own nko. Please sir don't top associating with the said woman in question cos 4 this life help can come from anywhere oh... but now more than ever your wife would have sense.
One day those 2 women would be friends again and guess who is going to be the enemy "your wife" so she shouldn't keep hatred with anyone least she loses everyone.