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Ablemed:
I'll like to make my story short as possible without much introduction tho. And also a lesson parents/ new couples should learn from my ordeal, Pls read to the end.

Alright So I'm the only male born of my parent among 4 girls, i also happen to be the last born at it. my problem started when growing up, cause my parent aged bfr getting a Male child which was my Dad and his parent cravings, I was pampered when growing up such that my parents would never watch me do stressful things, dictate when I go out and who I moved out with (My mum's own was even worse cause when growing up, if I want to go out, she'll always send me back inside) even during secondary school they had to get a school very close to our house. my sisters were only the ones that would go to mum's shop and make sales while mum would either stay with me at home or if I eventually go the shop sef I'll always sit and just watch. Literally, I'll say I was denied the right to be exposed to lotta things and real issues about life.

And cause I was not the sociable type cause I'll literally stay at home, watch movies, eat and my movements limited, I was exposed to pornography and masturbation at a very young age and I battled that bad habit thr my University days (Did I say my Parents also dictated the University I went to cause it was close to our House to and any small riot in school then the next hour they'll come and pick me back home till every thing dies down)

So guys over time, I've grown to be this boring guy who is shy, timid, suffering from low self esteem and can't give vibe even when gisting with my fellow guys, in which most of them just relegate me to this small boy level. Did I also say I've never had a Girlfriend all my life cause the truth is ion always know what to say or how to maintain talking vibe. At first I decide not to care and just always console myself with I was created like that and just continue my boring life, it has now gotten to the point I'm not rated in anything at all, most people just make friends with me cause of what they can gain from me, I'm not even good in anything, I can't speak clearly, I'm kinda literally mentally dumb and ion see me useful for anyone or anything, perhaps maybe God only, No business sense, no work skill or experience, no trade experiences to

I'm currently a Corp member serving and before then I rebelled against my parent cause they wanted to dictate the state I serve which is our state of residence so I go to my ppa from home but I told them No and even got to a fight to my Dad cause of this issue and we din speak for like 2weeks, he eventually called me and we settled. But the issue now is guys I've got less than two months left for my POP for service and you don't expect me to return home useless to my parent house again?? Tho sincerely thr my service year, I din touch my allowee so I've saved up to 270k so far. the issue is ask me what I want to do with the money? I've got no idea, what business sense or idea? Nothing is coming to my head, infact I don't know. The funny thing is, my roommate is exactly my opposite, very outspoken, bold, full of vibe and bring back different female friends each day, this guy is not really financially buoyant but you see girls cook and travel all the way to give him for us to eat. I just wish I was like him, i wish i had the vibe

I'm 24years now and at this age, no idea bout my future, bout life, I can't even relate with people, I'm just so sad, depressed and frustrated. At the moment the only job coming to my head is the military cause I served in a military barrack cause I choose it myself but most of the junior officers are trashing my interest by telling me not to waste my time say I no go survive am with my nature, that military needs tough people and endurance bla bla and on the other hand, my mum is saying Never she'll never allow me join the military not over her dead body and she's bout recruiting my Dad to and Sincerely I'm frustrated and my depression have taken another turn that over the past weeks I've been thinking suicide and it's getting really high, I say I should type this here bfr the worse happen cause if I can't be useful for myself what really is the point living??

Please this advice is to parent and intending parent/couples, pls and pls expose ur children to life, don't over pamper your kids, work on them to make them sociable and outspoken, I swear you'll be doing them a great favour. For me I thought my parent loved me, I thought they were trying to protect me but they've put me in a deep mess I have to face alone and just I pray I get the opportunity to make things right with me

in your journey for knowledge, never do these things
1. Gamble
2. Take drugs
3. Trust people
4. Keep late nights
5. Keep much friends
6. Tell people your history
7. Tell people your success
8. Make friends with people in no 1 class
9. Hang out with people in no 2 class
10. Never forget these things or the street will consume you

Wow I can relate with this. I have once said to myself that I was without any gift or talent, I once taught almost injured myself due to heartbreak, I was addicted to masturbation, I had to parental upbringing, no one to save me from destruction except my sister’s constant warnings.

Until the Lord found me! He gave me a gift, gave me a wife, from no idea of what to do with my life after nysc to making millions a month! All by God’s grace! I really don’t understand how this God work but one thing I know, it pays to serve God.

Seek him, all these things happening to you shows that your spirit is calling you to seek God, you’re near to your destiny but the devil wants to put you into depression so you don’t get there.

I work with whites and earn in dollars, all to the glory of God! Doesn’t matter what you look like now, be conscious of God and find a bible believing church. Follow remnant church, apostle Arome, apostle Orokpo, and pray with Theophilus songs

Expect a change soon! Not necessarily money change but your destiny will begin to be take shape. You will begin to find purpose! Why you’re here. God bless you! Stay strong!

Ablemed:
I'll like to make my story short as possible without much introduction tho. And also a lesson parents/ new couples should learn from my ordeal, Pls read to the end.

Alright So I'm the only male born of my parent among 4 girls, i also happen to be the last born at it. my problem started when growing up, cause my parent aged bfr getting a Male child which was my Dad and his parent cravings, I was pampered when growing up such that my parents would never watch me do stressful things, dictate when I go out and who I moved out with (My mum's own was even worse cause when growing up, if I want to go out, she'll always send me back inside) even during secondary school they had to get a school very close to our house. my sisters were only the ones that would go to mum's shop and make sales while mum would either stay with me at home or if I eventually go the shop sef I'll always sit and just watch. Literally, I'll say I was denied the right to be exposed to lotta things and real issues about life.

And cause I was not the sociable type cause I'll literally stay at home, watch movies, eat and my movements limited, I was exposed to pornography and masturbation at a very young age and I battled that bad habit thr my University days (Did I say my Parents also dictated the University I went to cause it was close to our House to and any small riot in school then the next hour they'll come and pick me back home till every thing dies down)

So guys over time, I've grown to be this boring guy who is shy, timid, suffering from low self esteem and can't give vibe even when gisting with my fellow guys, in which most of them just relegate me to this small boy level. Did I also say I've never had a Girlfriend all my life cause the truth is ion always know what to say or how to maintain talking vibe. At first I decide not to care and just always console myself with I was created like that and just continue my boring life, it has now gotten to the point I'm not rated in anything at all, most people just make friends with me cause of what they can gain from me, I'm not even good in anything, I can't speak clearly, I'm kinda literally mentally dumb and ion see me useful for anyone or anything, perhaps maybe God only, No business sense, no work skill or experience, no trade experiences to

I'm currently a Corp member serving and before then I rebelled against my parent cause they wanted to dictate the state I serve which is our state of residence so I go to my ppa from home but I told them No and even got to a fight to my Dad cause of this issue and we din speak for like 2weeks, he eventually called me and we settled. But the issue now is guys I've got less than two months left for my POP for service and you don't expect me to return home useless to my parent house again?? Tho sincerely thr my service year, I din touch my allowee so I've saved up to 270k so far. the issue is ask me what I want to do with the money? I've got no idea, what business sense or idea? Nothing is coming to my head, infact I don't know. The funny thing is, my roommate is exactly my opposite, very outspoken, bold, full of vibe and bring back different female friends each day, this guy is not really financially buoyant but you see girls cook and travel all the way to give him for us to eat. I just wish I was like him, i wish i had the vibe

I'm 24years now and at this age, no idea bout my future, bout life, I can't even relate with people, I'm just so sad, depressed and frustrated. At the moment the only job coming to my head is the military cause I served in a military barrack cause I choose it myself but most of the junior officers are trashing my interest by telling me not to waste my time say I no go survive am with my nature, that military needs tough people and endurance bla bla and on the other hand, my mum is saying Never she'll never allow me join the military not over her dead body and she's bout recruiting my Dad to and Sincerely I'm frustrated and my depression have taken another turn that over the past weeks I've been thinking suicide and it's getting really high, I say I should type this here bfr the worse happen cause if I can't be useful for myself what really is the point living??

Please this advice is to parent and intending parent/couples, pls and pls expose ur children to life, don't over pamper your kids, work on them to make them sociable and outspoken, I swear you'll be doing them a great favour. For me I thought my parent loved me, I thought they were trying to protect me but they've put me in a deep mess I have to face alone and just I pray I get the opportunity to make things right with me

Ablemed:
Making friends is not issue, the thing is even you as a person, a boring friend will bore you out that's just how my relationship with my friends are atm, I've got no vibe to maintain a discussion. in short I'll literally bore you out and that's just my case. About work, I bet you any manager will sack me after 2weeks or a month highest, there are some ethics that i'm seriously lacking

Bro I swear you won't and can't understand me

Bro I was just and still like you.


I almost committed suicide 27th of April, 2017 when I got angry and left he same Mili you want to join.


That would be like the 10th job I'd been frustrated out of since I started working. I felt there was no one in this world that could be as worse as I am.


I was lying on the sofa choosing whether to slash my wrist or hang myself but I started seeing like a vision of those that always discouraged me, tell me my nature would never make me amount to anything in life. This was while I was in medical school oh. One even said he doesn't see me ever becoming a Medical Doctor, cos my nature would never make me succeed in life. Another said he's never seen someone as Asocial in his whole life before.


I was already contemplating suicide even after I'd already become a Medical Doctor and working oh, cos all the stuffs my friends used to discourage me then we're now manifesting in real life.


I saw them in that vision laughing at me and taunting me, telling me they told me I'll never amount to anything in life, and now I can see I'm about to take my own life. I also saw my late mother shedding tears about what I was about to do.


I decided to change my mind and chose to live, just to spite those laughing at me, and make it at all costs.


My personality has made me miss a lot of opportunities in life, I just clocked 35years old on the 31st of August, but don't even think ANY woman on earth even reason sey I dey exist sef.


I now say yes sir for my own juniors that I'm old enough to almost be their uncles.


I have to overdo work because I don't have any connection to keep me afloat should things go haywire.


I beg people for money occasionally on this forum despite being a medical doctor but no one understands my travails, some insult me, some say I'm a scammer that a Medical Doctor can never beg.


All in all, I've vowed that except I die by someone or something else's hand, but me I no go ever take my own life.

It has made me take crazy risks to the North (currently in Zamfara State)in search of greener pastures when Lagos no be am again, but as I said, I rather die from the shot of a gun, than die of hunger of Kee myself. In other words, I rather die than commit suicide.


Seeing this your writeup just makes tears wells up in my eyes honestly. It cancels the illusion in my head that I'm a special kind of a worse breed.


Now I know sey person sef dey like me, so I now have the strength to keep pushing on.

Baba me I don sign patapata...

Ablemed:
I'll like to make my story short as possible without much introduction tho. And also a lesson parents/ new couples should learn from my ordeal, Pls read to the end.

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Truth is you are not dumb. Someone who can put up a story and analyze his/her life like you did is not dumb.

You just need to find purpose for you life. That will get you out of depression.

Ablemed:
I'll like to make my story short as possible without much introduction tho. And also a lesson parents/ new couples should learn from my ordeal, Pls read to the end.

Alright So I'm the only male born of my parent among 4 girls, i also happen to be the last born at it. my problem started when growing up, cause my parent aged bfr getting a Male child which was my Dad and his parent cravings, I was pampered when growing up such that my parents would never watch me do stressful things, dictate when I go out and who I moved out with (My mum's own was even worse cause when growing up, if I want to go out, she'll always send me back inside) even during secondary school they had to get a school very close to our house. my sisters were only the ones that would go to mum's shop and make sales while mum would either stay with me at home or if I eventually go the shop sef I'll always sit and just watch. Literally, I'll say I was denied the right to be exposed to lotta things and real issues about life.

And cause I was not the sociable type cause I'll literally stay at home, watch movies, eat and my movements limited, I was exposed to pornography and masturbation at a very young age and I battled that bad habit thr my University days (Did I say my Parents also dictated the University I went to cause it was close to our House to and any small riot in school then the next hour they'll come and pick me back home till every thing dies down)

So guys over time, I've grown to be this boring guy who is shy, timid, suffering from low self esteem and can't give vibe even when gisting with my fellow guys, in which most of them just relegate me to this small boy level. Did I also say I've never had a Girlfriend all my life cause the truth is ion always know what to say or how to maintain talking vibe. At first I decide not to care and just always console myself with I was created like that and just continue my boring life, it has now gotten to the point I'm not rated in anything at all, most people just make friends with me cause of what they can gain from me, I'm not even good in anything, I can't speak clearly, I'm kinda literally mentally dumb and ion see me useful for anyone or anything, perhaps maybe God only, No business sense, no work skill or experience, no trade experiences to

I'm currently a Corp member serving and before then I rebelled against my parent cause they wanted to dictate the state I serve which is our state of residence so I go to my ppa from home but I told them No and even got to a fight to my Dad cause of this issue and we din speak for like 2weeks, he eventually called me and we settled. But the issue now is guys I've got less than two months left for my POP for service and you don't expect me to return home useless to my parent house again?? Tho sincerely thr my service year, I din touch my allowee so I've saved up to 270k so far. the issue is ask me what I want to do with the money? I've got no idea, what business sense or idea? Nothing is coming to my head, infact I don't know. The funny thing is, my roommate is exactly my opposite, very outspoken, bold, full of vibe and bring back different female friends each day, this guy is not really financially buoyant but you see girls cook and travel all the way to give him for us to eat. I just wish I was like him, i wish i had the vibe

I'm 24years now and at this age, no idea bout my future, bout life, I can't even relate with people, I'm just so sad, depressed and frustrated. At the moment the only job coming to my head is the military cause I served in a military barrack cause I choose it myself but most of the junior officers are trashing my interest by telling me not to waste my time say I no go survive am with my nature, that military needs tough people and endurance bla bla and on the other hand, my mum is saying Never she'll never allow me join the military not over her dead body and she's bout recruiting my Dad to and Sincerely I'm frustrated and my depression have taken another turn that over the past weeks I've been thinking suicide and it's getting really high, I say I should type this here bfr the worse happen cause if I can't be useful for myself what really is the point living??

Please this advice is to parent and intending parent/couples, pls and pls expose ur children to life, don't over pamper your kids, work on them to make them sociable and outspoken, I swear you'll be doing them a great favour. For me I thought my parent loved me, I thought they were trying to protect me but they've put me in a deep mess I have to face alone and just I pray I get the opportunity to make things right with me

Things like this happen in life. Usually such parent like yours were acting out of their fear and so on. No disrespect intended. I read in another page that you told her not to call you. Don't start like that, it will hurt you more.
Do this,if you may:
1. When , she tries to contact you tell her you just need a break and that you will be the one calling for a while. This is to give you some room to start healing.
2. Seek a psychologist or therapist. Follow thorugh what you are told. I can refer you to one if you wish.
3. Start working on yourself to crerate a new you- Meditation, reading of some scriptures, working on your inner self etc. Now these exercises will hurt. It will seem as if you are going through the whole thing again. This is part of the healing process.
4. Get a support group, peple you can talk with and they could give you good advise.
5. Find something that works for you.
6. Also know that you were playing your role in a dysfunctional family situation.
7. Try to look to what's ahead of you.
8. As for your depressed state , I don't know where you are currently. You might just need to get more sunlight , more of going out to get fresh air , exercising, vitamin d etc,
9. Find what works for you.
Realise this is gonna take time to see the desired change.

For you to write this it means you are a very smart person. The illusion you are creating of yourself is built on your background. That's not who you truly are. Just choose a part to follow and forget your parents.

Ablemed:
How can I reach you. thanks

Send me a message on my profile here.

Op you have constantly take the worst out of everything thrown at you. You have taken the worst out of all the protection given to you by your parents. Do you know you could have learnt some great technical and cyper skills with the same resource you have spent exposing yourself to pornography and other illicit stuffs...

Too much for nothing in this life...

Enter computer Village and learn how to trade or fix phones. I bet you, in 4 months you will learn nd understand life, business and street life.

When you see things happening inside computer Village Market. Yo in go get sense for this life.

Don't be too hard on yourself brother, you're still young and you still have enough time to turn things around for the better,stop blaming your parents for the way they brought you up

Think of something you can do, you're not useless at all,you have a lot of treasures in you,just be calm.

Tonypen247:
If there is one thing I picked from the whole explanation you made is that you are self-aware and conscious of your current state. That is a positive side of helping yourself out.
The truth remains that you are no longer a kind and it's high time you decide to create a meaningful life for yourself. I will employ you to seek the help of a therapist if you can afford one or just take a bold step to turn a new leaf. You can get this done by constantly believing in your potential and ability and never looking down on yourself. You are not too old, not young to learn a skill. Engage in activities that will promote your well-being and confidence and never believe that you are not old enough to take decisions for yourself.

Finally, your parents are not the cause of your current state of mind. You are only trying to project your shortcomings and backdrops to them and don't want to blame yourself. The first bold step is being a man of yourself. Man up bro.
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It is well.

Go to Jesus and it shall be well with you. There's nothing the Lord can't do, if only you cast your burden on him and he will surely take care of ALL your troubles.

I have a near similar experience and I was able to overcome it and I'm doing so fine now. I wish I can be of help but I'm not sure how exactly to do that. But I began the process of coming out of the situation as early, as early as my 2nd or 3rd year in the University and ever since I've been better and happy for myself.

Luckily for me I had the support of my late Mum during the process. I had talked to her about my challenge and my plan to work on it and she was even happy to assist me and she did assist. I opened up to her when I had contested to be a parliamentarian in the Student's Union Government (SUG) and she was opposed to the idea. I had to explain to her that I wasn't doing it because I have fallen in love with politics but rather I was deliberately trying to push myself out of my shell. That I wanted to challenge my self to be more interactive and able to deal with situations and be a better person than the pampering they'd given me had made me become. She gave me her blessings and supported me all the way and from time to time she'll even suggest new ways of challenging myself like asking me to go and live in the hostel even though the University was a 10 to 15mins trekable distance from home (I didn't do that by the way). When I finished NYSC she suggested and was ready to provide one of our 1 bedroom flat in another location in town for me to go and live and be independent (I didn't take the offer by the way but just to mention some of the efforts she made to assist and encourage me).

A very important part of this was that I realized my challenge (which you've also done) and I was ready to be better and I worked toward it. So if you are going to be better, the most important aspect in achieving that is you being determined to change the narrative. If you get the support of your parents, it would make it a lot easier and better. I'll suggest you talk to them about it, not by blaming them (because they actually did it out of love and good intension). You'll let them know how their good intension (which you appreciate) has however made you not have the confidence to face live as you should and you'll like to get their support to make adjustments while it's not too late.

Ablemed:
I'll like to make my story short as possible without much introduction tho. And also a lesson parents/ new couples should learn from my ordeal, Pls read to the end.

Alright So I'm the only male born of my parent among 4 girls, i also happen to be the last born at it. my problem started when growing up, cause my parent aged bfr getting a Male child which was my Dad and his parent cravings, I was pampered when growing up such that my parents would never watch me do stressful things, dictate when I go out and who I moved out with (My mum's own was even worse cause when growing up, if I want to go out, she'll always send me back inside) even during secondary school they had to get a school very close to our house. my sisters were only the ones that would go to mum's shop and make sales while mum would either stay with me at home or if I eventually go the shop sef I'll always sit and just watch. Literally, I'll say I was denied the right to be exposed to lotta things and real issues about life.

And cause I was not the sociable type cause I'll literally stay at home, watch movies, eat and my movements limited, I was exposed to pornography and masturbation at a very young age and I battled that bad habit thr my University days (Did I say my Parents also dictated the University I went to cause it was close to our House to and any small riot in school then the next hour they'll come and pick me back home till every thing dies down)

So guys over time, I've grown to be this boring guy who is shy, timid, suffering from low self esteem and can't give vibe even when gisting with my fellow guys, in which most of them just relegate me to this small boy level. Did I also say I've never had a Girlfriend all my life cause the truth is ion always know what to say or how to maintain talking vibe. At first I decide not to care and just always console myself with I was created like that and just continue my boring life, it has now gotten to the point I'm not rated in anything at all, most people just make friends with me cause of what they can gain from me, I'm not even good in anything, I can't speak clearly, I'm kinda literally mentally dumb and ion see me useful for anyone or anything, perhaps maybe God only, No business sense, no work skill or experience, no trade experiences to

I'm currently a Corp member serving and before then I rebelled against my parent cause they wanted to dictate the state I serve which is our state of residence so I go to my ppa from home but I told them No and even got to a fight to my Dad cause of this issue and we din speak for like 2weeks, he eventually called me and we settled. But the issue now is guys I've got less than two months left for my POP for service and you don't expect me to return home useless to my parent house again?? Tho sincerely thr my service year, I din touch my allowee so I've saved up to 270k so far. the issue is ask me what I want to do with the money? I've got no idea, what business sense or idea? Nothing is coming to my head, infact I don't know. The funny thing is, my roommate is exactly my opposite, very outspoken, bold, full of vibe and bring back different female friends each day, this guy is not really financially buoyant but you see girls cook and travel all the way to give him for us to eat. I just wish I was like him, i wish i had the vibe

I'm 24years now and at this age, no idea bout my future, bout life, I can't even relate with people, I'm just so sad, depressed and frustrated. At the moment the only job coming to my head is the military cause I served in a military barrack cause I choose it myself but most of the junior officers are trashing my interest by telling me not to waste my time say I no go survive am with my nature, that military needs tough people and endurance bla bla and on the other hand, my mum is saying Never she'll never allow me join the military not over her dead body and she's bout recruiting my Dad to and Sincerely I'm frustrated and my depression have taken another turn that over the past weeks I've been thinking suicide and it's getting really high, I say I should type this here bfr the worse happen cause if I can't be useful for myself what really is the point living??

Please this advice is to parent and intending parent/couples, pls and pls expose ur children to life, don't over pamper your kids, work on them to make them sociable and outspoken, I swear you'll be doing them a great favour. For me I thought my parent loved me, I thought they were trying to protect me but they've put me in a deep mess I have to face alone and just I pray I get the opportunity to make things right with me

So sorry man.
What are your interests? Perhaps people can advise you on different paths to try out.

Your parents smothered you with love. They meant well... But they are also human and are not immune to mistakes. Don't hate them.

You are responsible for your life 100%.

If i may ask, have you stopped watching porn and masturbating ?

If no? Then i strongly suggest you start from there. I promise you will see miracles.

Check this website www.nofap.com

Good luck!

Ablemed:
Can therapy work for me?? isn't it to late at 24years of age?? I just finished calling mum now and accused her of everything that has happened to me, I told her I don't want to hear from her, not anytime soon. I'm tried calling my Dad to but his line is switch off, I just wanna cut both of them off, They put me in this mess that I have to fight alone now

Go and learn boxing. Join a fighting gym. Else you'll never make it.

op who direct this movie? Just kidding , But omo you try o . I had this same experience too tho in my case, i wasnt pampered but being the only male child and the second born . The story too long , i nearly lost my mind, then i turn to this mumu gender that call themselves woman, but na there own worst pass. Just calm yourself down , just reason your parent was also thinking they were doing the best for ya , they wont intentionally hurt you. but ya tell me who direct this movie . i actually went to this stadium to learn kickboxing as adviced by someone . Now am cool even Pastor pikin no fit compete me. I will also advice you to do the same. But the main is put ( GOD FIRST ) else ya just wastin time . Smoke in peace

You can get a skill by actually enrolling for one. Challenge yourself, Go and learn how to sew or cut hair, or make hair, or fabricate things, or frontend/backend, web design, online marketing, data analysis etc. Don't keep blaming the past, just pick up something and challenge yourself to do it.

My beloved brother thanks for bringing it up☝️ here. There's no certificate in Heaven; The Bible says making many books there's no end the conclusion of the whole matter is to fear God and keep His commandments. Moses was a stammerer but God used Him. The disciples Jesus Christ called to follow Him were fishermen, they're famous even till date. Put your trust in God and allow Him to make good use of you, you are very important to God your creator than Man that has no power over your soul. Everything under the earth is Vanity upon Vanity all is Vanity, both the outspoken, illiterate, your certificate, professors and their certificates shall be consumed by fire; committing suicide is not the best thing and not the solution to your problem, don't take a life you never created because there's a judgement waiting for you. Don't stain your hands with blood, go to God in prayer let Him use you the way He made use of Moses, Joseph, Peter, James, Mark, David All in the Bible. You are a graduate, can even write well, you were in a department and studied a course, serving Corp member and has saved #270,000 yet you want to comit suicide is that your final decision??

Mr man you shouldn't feel sad just because of the way you find yourself. Many people grew up like that somehow anti-social it is not a problem as long as you healthy, not into drugs etc . Now you are thinking you had missed a lot because you are not social, yes, but you can still enjoy all these opportunities gradual by mingling with people and if you are an introvert like someone mentioned here, then I will tell you that you just need to start reading books, novels and what have you
Because that is where introvert find peace and happiness because even if you go out as an introvert you will be free/social the way extrovert do and it is normal.
Also pls don't blame you parent cos you don't know what they went through to get you and also to protect you, they are human beings too and you should thank God and them, that you are alive, safe and sound that you are even thinking of what to do with your life. Some parent have children that they hate because after all they protection, sacrifice, effort etc they ended in psychiatry, prisons, and some are just there roaming the streets with thugs.
Lastly pls thank God and your parent and also be very very prayerful and also free you mind and get friends or colleagues that senior you in years because they will train you in more matured way without mocking or downgrading your like you age mate will do.
GOOD LUCK, MAY GOD BE WITH YOU ALWAYS

Oriokpe

Ablemed:
Can therapy work for me?? isn't it to late at 24years of age?? I just finished calling mum now and accused her of everything that has happened to me, I told her I don't want to hear from her, not anytime soon. I'm tried calling my Dad to but his line is switch off, I just wanna cut both of them off, They put me in this mess that I have to fight alone now

You still be small pikin bro

So at 24 y de worry about all these things oga no go put it mind for Wetin go put you for trouble

I feel your pain.

For the fact that you're self aware, then, you're absolutely redeemable. You will love the process of your redemption and the outcome will gladden your soul.

Two things....
1. You must forgive your parents and stop seeing them as your problem source.
2. Come live with me.

I've been close to your situation before but not as deep as yours. I dealt with it all alone and right now, the sound of my name alone scares the pit of hell.

I excel in business, relationship, and in all spheres of life.

Thank God for grace.❤

Ok... Lemme use myself as an example
I am the only girl and grow up with a bunch of overprotective guys and parent. Mine is that am free to social and go anywhere just that I must not have contact with the opposite gender but as an introvert ion like making friend and Alws indoor. When they said guy are this and that ion even argue i know myself and I know what is right and wrong. My first date is when I was 19(m already in college) and no one freaking know... what am trying to say is that your parent can't monitor you for 24/7. What confused me in your case is that u ain't homeschooled so what is stopping you if you badly want to make friends?? You went to elementary school, high school and college you still didn't make friends? Did your parent follow you to school?. You said you're shy? Ur shyness is learning beside my own but when I started to see how bold people are, i started to asked myself how am I diff... Like one thing I most confident in myself is my look so i used that as my stepping stone, started doing seminar and everything that involve in speaking to crowd... i start to gain small confident... Am very shy but I can control myself now, I can't keep a conversation going but I can start one lol... I started using phone since I was like 7 and very bold online... I started putting my self confident n boldness online into reality, trust me it ain't easy... You can't blame your parent when you yourself refused to come out of your shadow. It's just that you're over pampered... I wasn't i did same work with guys even more than coz my mom will say you're the girl. Av I mention the part that I stay in barrack coz my grandpa believe all his grandkids must have self defense if I tell you what i experience in barrack ehn I can write full story on that. Well, don't let anything stop you... Be yourself, do what makes you happy , believe in yourself and be confident

You still have a lot to change and do in life. Your patents did what they thought necessary for you. Pls don't blame them but understand that out of love they try to raise you the best way possible. For you to be able to save 270k means you're smart. You only need to look within yourself cos God never created anyone empty and He designed your path in life so all you need is within you. Try to think of what you would love to invest in. I sense you've a heart of gold, starting an NGO to help others won't be a bad thing. I'll advice you think deeply about your good side. If you can read a lot of book on God's purpose for man you will find that which you seek.

You're still very young brother, it's never late to get help. Never make the mistake of cutting off your parents. Call me 09017740901 if u want a therapist without charge.

Ablemed:
I'll like to make my story short as possible without much introduction tho. And also a lesson parents/ new couples should learn from my ordeal, Pls read to the end.

Alright So I'm the only male born of my parent among 4 girls, i also happen to be the last born at it. my problem started when growing up, cause my parent aged bfr getting a Male child which was my Dad and his parent cravings, I was pampered when growing up such that my parents would never watch me do stressful things, dictate when I go out and who I moved out with (My mum's own was even worse cause when growing up, if I want to go out, she'll always send me back inside) even during secondary school they had to get a school very close to our house. my sisters were only the ones that would go to mum's shop and make sales while mum would either stay with me at home or if I eventually go the shop sef I'll always sit and just watch. Literally, I'll say I was denied the right to be exposed to lotta things and real issues about life.

And cause I was not the sociable type cause I'll literally stay at home, watch movies, eat and my movements limited, I was exposed to pornography and masturbation at a very young age and I battled that bad habit thr my University days (Did I say my Parents also dictated the University I went to cause it was close to our House to and any small riot in school then the next hour they'll come and pick me back home till every thing dies down)

So guys over time, I've grown to be this boring guy who is shy, timid, suffering from low self esteem and can't give vibe even when gisting with my fellow guys, in which most of them just relegate me to this small boy level. Did I also say I've never had a Girlfriend all my life cause the truth is ion always know what to say or how to maintain talking vibe. At first I decide not to care and just always console myself with I was created like that and just continue my boring life, it has now gotten to the point I'm not rated in anything at all, most people just make friends with me cause of what they can gain from me, I'm not even good in anything, I can't speak clearly, I'm kinda literally mentally dumb and ion see me useful for anyone or anything, perhaps maybe God only, No business sense, no work skill or experience, no trade experiences to

I'm currently a Corp member serving and before then I rebelled against my parent cause they wanted to dictate the state I serve which is our state of residence so I go to my ppa from home but I told them No and even got to a fight to my Dad cause of this issue and we din speak for like 2weeks, he eventually called me and we settled. But the issue now is guys I've got less than two months left for my POP for service and you don't expect me to return home useless to my parent house again?? Tho sincerely thr my service year, I din touch my allowee so I've saved up to 270k so far. the issue is ask me what I want to do with the money? I've got no idea, what business sense or idea? Nothing is coming to my head, infact I don't know. The funny thing is, my roommate is exactly my opposite, very outspoken, bold, full of vibe and bring back different female friends each day, this guy is not really financially buoyant but you see girls cook and travel all the way to give him for us to eat. I just wish I was like him, i wish i had the vibe

I'm 24years now and at this age, no idea bout my future, bout life, I can't even relate with people, I'm just so sad, depressed and frustrated. At the moment the only job coming to my head is the military cause I served in a military barrack cause I choose it myself but most of the junior officers are trashing my interest by telling me not to waste my time say I no go survive am with my nature, that military needs tough people and endurance bla bla and on the other hand, my mum is saying Never she'll never allow me join the military not over her dead body and she's bout recruiting my Dad to and Sincerely I'm frustrated and my depression have taken another turn that over the past weeks I've been thinking suicide and it's getting really high, I say I should type this here bfr the worse happen cause if I can't be useful for myself what really is the point living??

Please this advice is to parent and intending parent/couples, pls and pls expose ur children to life, don't over pamper your kids, work on them to make them sociable and outspoken, I swear you'll be doing them a great favour. For me I thought my parent loved me, I thought they were trying to protect me but they've put me in a deep mess I have to face alone and just I pray I get the opportunity to make things right with me

Guy use that money to buy a nice PC and start learning programming languages like java script, python, data analysis, CSS, html anyone

You will sharp by reason of this coding languages I promise you that

If you will hear me, hear me. You are not useless. There is a purpose to your life. God has a plan for your life. God didn't create you just to make up the number of the world's population. You are unique. You are different. You are special. You have a bright future. You can achieve greatness.
Suicide is not an option. Get it out of your mind quickly. Better days are ahead of you believe me. Being an only son, military is out of it. And don't tell me there is nothing you can do with your life. It's not true. There is something you can do with your life and succeed in it, trust me on this. But you need to find it. Get a job, even if it's a teaching job, to start with. Thank God you saved some money which is brilliant of you, you can look for a side business you can start with plus your job.
Lastly, stop blaming your parents. They did the right thing but in a wrong way. I can imagine what they went through while looking for a male child which is what pushed them to do what they did. As long as you keep blaming your parents, you will not make progress. See what is happening now as a monster that you must conquer. Call your mom and apologize to her.

Bro I was just like u I swear, only boy among five girls.... My mom never let me out of her sight, as in not even football sef could save me. My sisters can go anywhere without thorough investigation but when my turn reach confirmation upon confirmation from all sources included... I was like a prisoner though anything I asked was given if I complain about the house enough mom will take me to her shop with her, where I will be with her till she closed but one thing I loved about my mom was the fact that she was always teasing me in front of girls and their mom to atleast make me feel comfortable around girls and it helped me a lot .. 270k is change it is atleast 2weeks of comfort just go home and be in control of yourself or learn a skill,, especially in a lively area where there are enough guys to start

The main cause of your problem is pornography and masturbation and not really your parents. Pornography and masturbation destroys you self esteem and mental health. As it is now you are possessed with a lot of demons due to pornography and masturbation and that is your problem. You need to urgently give your life to Jesus Christ, stop those dirty habbits and go for deliverance and you will be fine. You need a brand new life and it's only Salvation in Jesus Christ that can give it to you. As you give your life to Christ, join a good church, you will find genuine love and friendship and you can pick it up from there.

Ablemed:
Making friends is not issue, the thing is even you as a person, a boring friend will bore you out that's just how my relationship with my friends are atm, I've got no vibe to maintain a discussion. in short I'll literally bore you out and that's just my case. About work, I bet you any manager will sack me after 2weeks or a month highest, there are some ethics that i'm seriously lacking

Bro I swear you won't and can't understand me

let me tell you the truth. You need to find your purpose, why you were created. Go back to your source and find it. Do this by reading your Bible and praying to God. God is your source. Listen to Johnson Selman and Sam Adeyemis message on purpose. Your self esteem will be build. Watch foreign and local documentaries, be constant with the news, political and societal. Your phone is enough. Tell God to reveal why he created you, and to send a message or sign. Please follow my advice

Tonypen247:
If there is one thing I picked from the whole explanation you made is that you are self-aware and conscious of your current state. That is a positive side of helping yourself out.
The truth remains that you are no longer a kind and it's high time you decide to create a meaningful life for yourself. I will employ you to seek the help of a therapist if you can afford one or just take a bold step to turn a new leaf. You can get this done by constantly believing in your potential and ability and never looking down on yourself. You are not too old, not young to learn a skill. Engage in activities that will promote your well-being and confidence and never believe that you are not old enough to take decisions for yourself.

Finally, your parents are not the cause of your current state of mind. You are only trying to project your shortcomings and backdrops to them and don't want to blame yourself. The first bold step is being a man of yourself. Man up bro.

It is well.

His parents are the cause of everything happening to him.