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Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Saao(m): 5:05pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
excellence44:wow mature advice. Well done 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Kobojunkiee: 5:06pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
caprini1:One of the reasons I think Nigerians are mostly dull is that they can't seem to understand what it means to put themselves in the shoes of another, even for a moment. I really hope it isn't the case that you equate losing one's parents to unforeseen circumstances to being rejected or abandoned by a parent. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by lawrenzooo: 5:06pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Kobojunkiee:If! That's the keyword..... |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Kobojunkiee: 5:07pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
lawrenzooo:Of course! I can do Ifs just like you. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Emaprince: 5:08pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Kobojunkiee:Far from it. I can never be. I am not a woman. I am just pointing out facts...but you as a woman have already accepted that the man in OP is evil as painted by the OPs emotional mom |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Helpout12345: 5:09pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Don't do it because your mother said so. Your mother is acting out of emotion and vendetta she wants to settle with her husband. Don't listen to men haters here ooo. This is the type of topic they will come all out for, to spill their hatred as usual in form of advise to you. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by achimendy(m): 5:09pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Alexxx2000: I can't blame your mum for taking such decision, some men can be very stupid, that's if what you said is true. But I dont think is a good idea sha. I'll advise she continue to take care of her children and forget about the said husband. Simple. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Topmaike007(m): 5:12pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
pargelenis:did the child know if the story is real or is the mother that made that up to put the children against there father.. there is one that happened between my uncle and his wife not quite Long the woman involved is now peddling lies that my uncle usually beat her and now we have gone to ask the neighbors that if they have ever heard them fight and my uncle hitting her and they say no. all what my own uncle is running away from is infidelity from the woman because he have concrete evidence that she is cheating on him and now he sent her away from home and the woman carried the children and he that's my Uncle said that she should go with the children because she said she won't leave the two kids for him and guess what she will tell the kids if they grow up?? because right now all what she is telling people that ask her what happened is otherwise 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by voltront: 5:12pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Wisdom!!! Someone wrote earlier; You bear your father's name not by the responsibility he has or is doing. But by virtue of blood. Your mum, has every right to feel pained by her experiences with him. That does not change the fact he remains your father. Hence, your link to the name, which obviously you also do not want to change. The advise below is a wise one. It gives your mum less heart ache, feeling that you are in agreement in her feelings and also it helps in your wanting to keep the name. advanceDNA: |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by caprini1: 5:13pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Kobojunkiee:Dude ,its not my fault you grew up with little or no love ,carry your frustration and big English elsewhere ,Mr i know it all yet hopeless. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Value2Ethics: 5:17pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
The fact you on this platform means you are of age, so seek out your dad and find out what happened. Every marriage breakdown always has two sides of the story. Find your father, let him look in the face say why he AWOL. Then you can make your decision. Change your name risk losing all your rights among your dad's people..... 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Kobojunkiee: 5:17pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
caprini1:I see... so you are one of those who can't seem to think outside of themselves, and so almost always assumes it all has to be about the "me"! 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Kobojunkiee: 5:18pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Emaprince:Excuse me... I am telling you that your reactions here are emotional at best. These things are as observed, not as stated. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by caprini1: 5:20pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Kobojunkiee:You can as well give the OP a rope to hang himself ,instead of encouraging him ,that life doesn't end with having a father or mother mtcheeew! |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by meobizy(f): 5:22pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
As we can see, it is no surprise why Nairalanders are uncouth. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Tgb1: 5:26pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Why |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by ogunsbanjul(m): 5:29pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
It is not everything your parents ask you to do you're supposed to do. If you change your name to your mama parential name simply means you're a bastard. I didn't mean to call you bastard but just telling you what it means. As it has rightly said earlier " Your father na your father and your mama na your mama. Thanks |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Franzinni: 5:32pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Oyiboman69:well like I said I don't see it emotionally but logically ... All the thing we hold very important today will be nonexistent in 200 years .. why waste your life worrying what others think when you can simply live life ... Remember if anyone dies today it won't take 2 months for that person to become a forgotten issue. Life is a personal journey and most people who are alive are living life based on thier programming. There is life outside the system. I get your point traditionally but men the world has advanced and can never go back to those days when a Yoruba youth must prostrate and all. It's a bitter sweet time ... But that is just the way things have become. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by icejoel(m): 5:40pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
She never loved him |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Kobojunkiee: 5:42pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
icejoel:What's love got to do with anything abeg? 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Igboid: 5:51pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Theknowledge: Nonsense talk. A man who cheats on the wife is a useless husband and man. There is no excuse whatsoever to cheat on your wife. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Arelyn: 6:05pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
bepositive11: Naturally, I don't reply to mentions that ooze presumptive ideas about my person...Neither do I know you nor you know my story and if I may be allowed to make a simple assumption about people like you that will be that the best of the logic of your type is the least of my psychological strength as a man... |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by adeleke691: 6:19pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Don't abide to that. Single handedly she wants to make you guys bastards by defaultDon't abide to that. Single handedly she wants to make you guys bastards by default... |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by bepositive11: 6:29pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Arelyn: Lol Alpha male? Redpilled? The weakest and most insecure of them all. Women will tell you the same -- that men are naturally more deceptive than women. So who is right? |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by juman(m): 6:30pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Many men are very irresponsible. Shame on them. You have one father, continue bearing his name. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by cococandy(f): 6:30pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
homenje73:say that to your mom’s face and see her reaction 4 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by juman(m): 6:33pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
My maternal uncle was our god. He was a saint. A man that took care of his over forty children and still took care of many of us, the children of his siblings. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by highbee02: 6:36pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
She's not feeling the heat now, may be later. She was promiscuous and that's why your father abandoned her. If u change the name, does that change the paternity? How are u even sure the man in question is your biological father? Here in Nigeria, the children belong to the father. I will share similar experience in the next few minutes 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by od501: 6:38pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Grandmeister: More reason I said he should find out what really happened. It could be from the uncles or other relatives. But he must not swallow his mother's story without asking questions. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by olalekan9320(m): 6:38pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
excellence44:who talk am? And op, was the fidelity on your mother's or father's end? |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by okezuoemmanue(m): 7:02pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
If ur dad carried out all the marriage obligations on ur mother. That means ur mother's place won't accept u as their own rather as Nwa-Nwa (Child of child ☺️). No matter what, one day, they may ask u to leave for ur place that u don't belong to them. U aren't entitled to some stuffs except u will buy them when they could have been given to u as entitlement. So let ur mum let go and forge ahead. Change of name doesn't mean u guys don't understand her suffering at the time of paying back |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by shaybebaby(f): 7:43pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
cococandy:This made me holler 2 Likes |
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