My brother is not easy at this period of time where daily living is at a critical peak. Try to manage your emotion first. For now wake go to kitchen prepare for the kids including her own but don't have time for her for now. Do it with joy. Watch out for her change

Whaaaat?! nice! You lucky man! Here is your chance to go fork all those young women in your hood. Look! She may have already doing the same.

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efelicity:
I noticed a drastic change in my wife's behaviours lately. She doesn't cook, doesn't prepare our two kids for school, always citing body pains. I took the responsibility of cooking and preparing our kids. That is just by the way, she stopped having sex with me always saying she doesn't have the feelings to have sex. I suspect her of cheating because few weeks ago i heard her listening to WhatsApp voice note, a chat between her and another man. I demanded to have the phone but she refused. My wife answers calls at odd hours of the night but if i query her she would claim it's a friend or her boss at her work place. It's morethan a month when last i had sex with my wife.


I'm not harsh and I provide for my family. But my wife's behaviour ir burning me deep in my heart. I sometimes cry when alone in office or at home. Please advse me on what to do as iam pained and confused.

It pains me that Nigerians lack empathy to the plight of those who have issues or are experiencing issues. If you don't have any thing constructive to say, why not keep mute. My brother as a fellow married man i want you to know i experienced something similar last year, although i don't suspect her of cheating, but the behavioral change was too obvious and it lasted for weeks. i asked and she said it was nothing until i couldn't take it. I decided that marriage is not do or die and my mental health was being affected. I told her people that their daughter was insolent to me and i wanted out straight up. I also went to my people and told them that i wanted out as well. i needed to mention that i stopped eating her food and travelled for over a week, switched off my phone. I took the game to her and she came crying. What i am saying is, sometimes, women need to be given the opportunity to know that you have a life without them and will definitely find your joy later. We must not end up like our parents who married for decades and died married. In this new age of social media, options are far higher and maybe she is thinking whether she made a mistake marrying you as she is now exposed to more muscular or richer guys or work colleagues. Whatever she chooses, is her business, i repeat, if she doesn't open up to you, it is her business. Since she has decided to hide her phone, chat at night to who knows, baba change am for am and do it quick. Travel, off phone. Be ready for the family to wade in and if it degenerates, think of your kids welfare and how you will either maintain custody or leave them with her and send support, what am saying is that, by the time you send the rain, have an umbrella to cover yourself but allowing her get away with this or begging for her love is certainly a no no. Teach her the kind of lesson that she will realize that you are married to her doesn't mean you will tolerate nonsense.
If however, things settle down, please let her know that you guys are a team and you have the destinies of kids to guide rightly, so its up to you both to either keep it together or simple maturely move on. As for me, i nor dey tolerate nonsense. If i see you hide your phone from me, i will cease it and make you open it in front of your pastor or parent. But baba, before you do that, make sure you are not also on the cheating side. Enough said, pray for your home, nothing God can't do. I don't know your religion, but if you do one of the above, it will resolve. Please don't let it slide other wise a bigger one is coming in future.

Islam is beautiful, there is room for more wife. Get more wife while you continue to enjoy.......

fohlarp:
but she picks calls at odd hours,listen to video calls wth a man's voice dts whr d issue of cheating is bn traced out,if na to do domestic core alone or tiredness which can hapen 2 anyone thats wen one cnt say cheatg

The advice is not meant for you please. Thank you, and good evening.

A lot of men are going through so many things in the hands of some unreasonable women, there are times you will want to be calm and watch how things unfold especially when you have grown up children. I am facing same issue for some months now because some prayer houses told her I have girlfriend. I have been enduring this behavior for long but this time around I have made up my mind to let it last as long as she wants.

efelicity:
I noticed a drastic change in my wife's behaviours lately. She doesn't cook, doesn't prepare our two kids for school, always citing body pains. I took the responsibility of cooking and preparing our kids. That is just by the way, she stopped having sex with me always saying she doesn't have the feelings to have sex. I suspect her of cheating because few weeks ago i heard her listening to WhatsApp voice note, a chat between her and another man. I demanded to have the phone but she refused. My wife answers calls at odd hours of the night but if i query her she would claim it's a friend or her boss at her work place. It's morethan a month when last i had sex with my wife.


I'm not harsh and I provide for my family. But my wife's behaviour ir burning me deep in my heart. I sometimes cry when alone in office or at home. Please advse me on what to do as iam pained and confused.

you then need advices from nairaland where many are still single without any experience in marital life.
You know your wife better than anybody so tackle the issue with her. Most of the advices here will rather jeopardize your marriage and lead you to regret.
Wake her up in the middle of the night and discuss the issue with her, you are now a married man and not a boy any longer.

She is definitely cheating. Do you have the gut to send her out though?

Munzy14:

Easy easy...bro.

OP is passing through that see finish stage..Where he allowed a lot get out of his control as the head.

It will cost him a lot to fix his problems.

I mean a married woman entertains calls at odd hours and even hides her chats from her acclaimed husband..smh

There's nothing to fix again in that marriage. The earlier OP understand this, the better for his sanity.

Op! YOU'RE A FOOL!

efelicity:
I noticed a drastic change in my wife's behaviours lately. She doesn't cook, doesn't prepare our two kids for school, always citing body pains. I took the responsibility of cooking and preparing our kids. That is just by the way, she stopped having sex with me always saying she doesn't have the feelings to have sex. I suspect her of cheating because few weeks ago i heard her listening to WhatsApp voice note, a chat between her and another man. I demanded to have the phone but she refused. My wife answers calls at odd hours of the night but if i query her she would claim it's a friend or her boss at her work place. It's morethan a month when last i had sex with my wife.


I'm not harsh and I provide for my family. But my wife's behaviour ir burning me deep in my heart. I sometimes cry when alone in office or at home. Please advse me on what to do as iam pained and confused.

Maybe, your tool in between your legs is rusty.....

ObamaMessi:
Women are all useless regardless of their origin.

Sure women are useless and sure your mother top the Table

How can I unread this....op dey fall hand OOO....na she marry you Abi na she dey pay house rent.?

efelicity:
I noticed a drastic change in my wife's behaviours lately. She doesn't cook, doesn't prepare our two kids for school, always citing body pains. I took the responsibility of cooking and preparing our kids. That is just by the way, she stopped having sex with me always saying she doesn't have the feelings to have sex. I suspect her of cheating because few weeks ago i heard her listening to WhatsApp voice note, a chat between her and another man. I demanded to have the phone but she refused. My wife answers calls at odd hours of the night but if i query her she would claim it's a friend or her boss at her work place. It's morethan a month when last i had sex with my wife.


I'm not harsh and I provide for my family. But my wife's behaviour ir burning me deep in my heart. I sometimes cry when alone in office or at home. Please advse me on what to do as iam pained and confused.

Am not sure you are the father of those kids.You need to take your kids for DNA test and confirm. Bloody SIMP.

If both of you have no issue before now and your wife is acting this way that's so irresponsible of her she's acting zee world in her marriage!? Both of you should communicate more, please and date her again you guys should go out to ease your stress. All the best �

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Just get ready to send her packing when her going turn sour, definitely she will regrets it but after she might have go down low.

ObamaMessi:
Women are all useless regardless of their origin.

don't say women are all useless remember a woman gave birth to U

Savedday:
The only thing 9ja girls are good at is giving SIMP uncontrollable premium tears and jumping from one d!ck to another.

9ja girls don't love and dey will never love u.

They are nothing but useless. All of them...

Know this and know peace

How do u know she is from Naija?

Coolguy34:
Well the elders has spoken up there but if you need my help I can teach you how to clone her what'sapp and read her messages directly on your phone or laptop but you will pay me a token tho... .

Check my signature and text me on WhatsApp.

Without accessing the phone?

Another mumu married and now complains.

Any wife that passwords her phone without her husband knowing the password definitely has things to hide.

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Savedday:
The only thing 9ja girls are good at is giving SIMP uncontrollable premium tears and jumping from one d!ck to another.

9ja girls don't love and dey will never love u.

They are nothing but useless. All of them...

Know this and know peace

Really, go ask your mom am sure your known father isn't the one that birthed you, because she also jumped from one dick thto another and remember she is useless

I don't know the problem with some of the men of nowadays . you are crying because of a woman . some even commit suicide because their wife cheat on them . foolish idea if I may say. Dont be too soft on a woman otherwise she will continue cheating on you . If you let a woman know that you cant check on her phone she will be too happy to see mumu and this will give her more opportunity to cheat . if you also let her know that you can't beat her then you have kill yourself with stupidity . An average woman of nowadays like a very hard/harsh man that is ready to take full control . shout and deal with her when necessary . The funniest part of it is that the one fucking her might not worth you in person . For denying you sex tells you that she is no more in love with you and you can go out to have good sex . If you want to send her out she won't agree because she know that the one fucking her can't marry her . Only a fool will marry a woman having sex with another man because he will think when he marry her she will also be doing the same thing in his home. I never beat my wife of 12 years in marriage until recently when I saw a message with another man telling her of love. I dont want to beat her initially but when she is talking too high on her voice make me to take control . in fact ,one of her teeth is shaking as am typing this message . since then come and see respect . if I call her one time for sex she will give me in double . if I call her one time she will answer two times . Now am a winner .

efelicity:
I noticed a drastic change in my wife's behaviours lately. She doesn't cook, doesn't prepare our two kids for school, always citing body pains. I took the responsibility of cooking and preparing our kids. That is just by the way, she stopped having sex with me always saying she doesn't have the feelings to have sex. I suspect her of cheating because few weeks ago i heard her listening to WhatsApp voice note, a chat between her and another man. I demanded to have the phone but she refused. My wife answers calls at odd hours of the night but if i query her she would claim it's a friend or her boss at her work place. It's morethan a month when last i had sex with my wife.


I'm not harsh and I provide for my family. But my wife's behaviour ir burning me deep in my heart. I sometimes cry when alone in office or at home. Please advse me on what to do as iam pained and confused.

Sorry for the pain bro, ignore those bashing you

She has gotten a man or men who slam better and pay better and the mere sight of you disgusts her.
Good that you have kids, simply divorce her and take care of your life . She may come for your life soon.

Where can a man meet someone like you? A church? A club? Where?

placeofallure:
@ efelicity, I can categorically tell you beyond any reasonable doubt, that your beloved wife is cheating. It's a difficult pill to swallow but it's what it is.

Why's she hiding her phone? Why's she talking to people at odd hours? Why has she refused to lay with you for weeks running into months?

My phone has a lock- a finger pattern which is the same pattern as my husband's so we can open each other's phones whenever we need to. I go out without my phone at times, I leave it with him. There are times we go out together but I keep my phone with him.

Now, my husband offends me at times and I'll tell myself I will deny him but for how long? Most times I'm not able to follow through with my resolve cause I need it too. The only reason your wife's able to stay away that long is because she's getting it elsewhere.

Have a tetê-a-tetê together. Demand to know what is wrong exactly then you can decide what to do going forward.
Good luck to you.

AsomArchitectNG:


You don't tell a man how to run his home. He should figure out what's wrong and that which lacking in his home then fix it...

If he could figure it, he won't be here seeking for help.

Time to diversify, can't spend your life sleeping with one woman, you won't get her respect.

omokab:
I don't know the problem with some of the men of nowadays . you are crying because of a woman . some even commit suicide because their wife cheat on them . foolish idea if I may say. Dont be too soft on a woman otherwise she will continue cheating on you . If you let a woman know that you cant check on her phone she will be too happy to see mumu and this will give her more opportunity to cheat . if you also let her know that you can't beat her then you have kill yourself with stupidity . An average woman of nowadays like a very hard/harsh man that is ready to take full control . shout and deal with her when necessary . The funniest part of it is that the one fucking her might not worth you in person . For denying you sex tells you that she is no more in love with you and you can go out to have good sex . If you want to send her out she won't agree because she know that the one fucking her can't marry her . Only a fool will marry a woman having sex with another man because he will think when he marry her she will also be doing the same thing in his home. I never beat my wife of 12 years in marriage until recently when I saw a message with another man telling her of love. I dont want to beat her initially but when she is talking too high on her voice make me to take control . in fact ,one of her teeth is shaking as am typing this message . since then come and see respect . if I call her one time for sex she will give me in double . if I call her one time she will answer two times . Now am a winner .

Bad man

The day you take that woman abroad (where women have power) is the day you'll start seeing pepper.
She'll later get back at you whether abroad or not.

Mr. Nothing nairalanders fit advise you about your relationship. Carry your cross go church alter make God help you to solve it.

My little advise: Just forget about the sex she is starving you and not cooking for you. Focus on yourself and your kids till she comes to her right senses.

Lesson:
Never marry a lady with many body counts because a pig's mind will never cease from the mud no matter how clean it is

ETIIKO:
My brother is not easy at this period of time where daily living is at a critical peak. Try to manage your emotion first. For now wake go to kitchen prepare for the kids including her own but don't have time for her for now. Do it with joy. Watch out for her change

So I will now be living bachelor life when I have a woman under my roof?
Even as a bachelor, you have access to girlfriends who will cook and satisfy you sexually.

Solution: Since she is not useful to him, chase her away....le danu!

Cc Scamperlee