Yusufisraelj:


Let me ask, what are the things you feel you can't change about yourself, even if it's a hypothetical example?

Lima98:
what religion are you I have someone for you

Coinwarrior:
I am a Christian

Lima98:
okk but it's a muslim that I have so I think is not possible

Coinwarrior:
yes sir/ma

Coinwarrior:
when i met this young girl,she was homely and well reserved and she loved me then.

.... .And she was crying and I felt for her and started begging her again not to sad because of the love I had for her.

frozen70:


Ok naw

Samantha123:
I'm straight forward and I tell it like it is, I go to church occasionally, meaning I'm not a religious fanatic, I'm temperamental, I don't tolerate nonsense, you disrespect me,I return the same energy because I believe that respect is earned, and I'm an introvert, meaning I enjoy having my own space.

Enny2013:
Most Nairaland ladies ar gud too ...
Many men met their partners here. Keep trying ur luck,bro.

pansophist:
There are good girls, but most times, you may have to sacrifice looks for the character. It is also a problem women face, they want the idea of a 'power couple, a man that matches their dream, but in reality, we all settle. In fact, the girl you think is not your spec settled for you, because you are most likely not her spec too. All of us get ''coma'', we are not perfect.

And if you find your spec, she is probably the spec of lots of men like you with eyes on her beauty, and such girls are most likely to be crazy and won't give you peace of mind. And I will tell you one secret. No matter how beautiful a woman is, if she has a bad attitude, she will be the ugliest woman on earth in your eyes.

You may even choose to be a reverend rather than be with her. Beauty has an expiry date, which is either by biology (growing older) or by a dirty attitude. The former is sweet and the love grows deeper if she is a good woman, but the latter, as in, she is a karashika, I just pray not to experience it. Imagine yourself as a blind man who cants see to appreciate beauty, perhaps you would go for character and a woman that treats your right, and respect you. There is your answer. Pay a price of character over beauty (I pray you find both), but never compromise on character .

Coinwarrior:
Thank you sir

Yusufisraelj:


Good morning, clearly you've just described your person, nothing wrong with that, personalities is what makes us unique.

What you've highlighted are not weaknesses, like lies, lack of fidelity in a serious relationship, being rude etc.

In Tim Lahaye's book, why you act the way you do, I should infer that you're a choleric kind of person, very pragmatic and logical, no time for bullshit or playing overly nice, you don't have a problem being confrontational when there's a need to do so.

However to your credit every personality type comes with weaknesses, my argument and position is that every weaknesses or perceived limitation can be worked on and turned into something better, within the context of our discourse, if you believe relationship is about the other person's interest before yours, you'll make appropriate adjustments to mitigate differences that brings pain to the other person.

See a brief diagram below for different personality types and the weaknesses inherent.

Coinwarrior:
Forget about those your simp ideology and be a realistic person.stop deceiving yourself.you think I am weak ? I smile I am not weak at all.I know the reason why I brought this talk to this public arena.

Samantha123:
That girl you've mentioned doesn't exist.. so you might as well make peace with being single for the rest of your life.

Killbillz:


Lolzzz...

What's difficult in according ur man respect?
In being transparent?
In setting and knowing boundaries with other men outside ur partner?
Valuing what u have?
To be Loyal and faithful?
To not be a chronic liar?
And u say it doesn't exist? Well if u say so then it means all girls are hoes going by ur submission. But I disagree with u we will still find some true ones, They do exist just that they are very few or might fall short of our standards physically. And one guy here is seriously rooting for u. The guy no see this ur post i'm sure.

Samantha123:
Already you guys call us hoes and wicked anyway.

The thing is, you guys take the good ones for granted and maltreat them.

Like the op said, he wants a woman that'll respect him no matter what he does, even if he cheats or beat her up.

In short, he wants a woman that he can take for granted.

Killbillz:

He most probably didn't put that right and I do not believe he's looking for a woman to take for granted going by his previous submissions here. He's just a simple man (and I don't mean simp) with simple ways who can easily be used by these women. How can such a man take anyone for granted? Even a girl begging to be used will be disappointed with his personality.

Good women do exist and I have come across a few

Samantha123:
Simple men should be with feisty women..

kaywhy09:


Stop being emotional young man. You're a (married) man. Act like one.

Let the past stay in the past.

Let your wife know what you want and what you don't. Then know her likes and dislikes too.

Stop over spiritualizing relationship matters. Thank you very much sir for matured talk.I have let the past stays in the past.I have told her what I like and what I dislikes

Seek medical help for health issues, and good counsel for your marriage to work.

Wish you best of life.

Killbillz:

He most probably didn't put that right and I do not believe he's looking for a woman to take for granted going by his previous submissions here. He's just a simple man (and I don't mean simp) with simple ways who can easily be used by these women. How can such a man take anyone for granted? Even a girl begging to be used will be disappointed with his personality.

Good women do exist and I have come across a few

Killbillz:


Lolzzz...

What's difficult in according ur man respect?
In being transparent?
In setting and knowing boundaries with other men outside ur partner?
Valuing what u have?
To be Loyal and faithful?
To not be a chronic liar?
And u say it doesn't exist? Well if u say so then it means all girls are hoes going by ur submission. But I disagree with u we will still find some true ones, They do exist just that they are very few or might fall short of our standards physically. And one guy here is seriously rooting for u. The guy no see this ur post i'm sure.

Coinwarrior:
maybe that person that said I am looking for a woman to take for granted is getting me wrong.I am not a wicked/careless man.I am looking for a woman that would respect,honour,appreciate my love and give me absolute truth and loyalty.

Killbillz:

I get ur point but u still need to toughen up a bit. Don't be too accepting of everything these women throw at u just because of their outward beauty or fake love. See beyond that and never compromise character for anything like pansophist said. His advice should be ur guide

purejustice36:


1. She claimed she was raped that’s how she lost her virginity

2. She disrespects you

3. She’s ungrateful

4. She’s good at turning your brain with crocodile tears when you’re at the point of catching her red handed

My bruh , once a woman is toying with your emotions and leaves you totally confused that’s to tell you that you’ve been giving too much fvck about that woman

First of all me and you know say you love this babe die , and to see her go ehn your mind no go rest
Make I tell you something , that your wife dey fvck outside well well , I know say you go they wonder how I take know or whether I even know her sef

She’s very young and she dey put eyes for outside and she they see how her mates dey live their life freely without marriage yawa
She dey see marriage as a burden to her life

She needs freedom , nothing you go do for that girl wey no go make her share kpekus codedly , that’s facts bruh

That your wife wey dey disrespect you they bow head to young boys wey no fit look you for face
Single life dey hungry her

My advise for you be say : deal with the heartbreak now or die of emotional heartbreak till you lost it all
Many girls full outside , this should teach you a lesson that you shouldn’t love a woman more than she loves you never again

Man no get expiry date, man deserve peace of mind too

Tell her by yourself say make she dey pack Lee load go anytime she don tire to stay for your house , and when you ever catch her doing anything sneaky say you go pack her loads out by yourself and if she say she wan pack that minute allow her make she go

And go start better church, babes full church , dem full schools , I fit even hook you up sef , woman plenty pass men for this life my bruh

You’re truly a good man no doubt mehn , dem never born woman to toy with my own emotions for this life

I ain’t tryna brag or something, women don’t like men that over pampers them, they like bad boys in an innocent looking body

Make I use myself do example for you …..

I used to date one sexy babe like that wey get boobs , and me love boobs I no go lie, anytime she do Wetin I no like ehn , once I see her boobs my head go scatter I go dey beg her again lol

My guy this babe get good character o , she get respect and everything, but as time goes she come dey change , she come dey put password for phone
She come reach level wey be say she no sabi tell me ordinary sorry again
She no dey feel my vibe again
That’s when I realize say she don dey cheat and I catch her red handed sef bc me na sharp guy unto you kind things normally

When I catch her, I no ask for breakup o, she no also ask for breakup but both of us sef don tire that point bc I no fit forgive cheating woman neverrrrrrr, once woman cheat on me, even her boobs no fit attract me again sef

That my relationship taught me a lesson “never love a woman bc of her looks bruh”

Now I get wife wey be say she love me pass anything else
Na she dey check up on me pass sef
She no dey put password for phone never
That one fit read book for over 10yrs daily , na me go they force her to go chop sef
She fine like foreign witch and she get blue passport join am lol

She dey ginger my hustling spirit, she sabi cook , sabi dance , she even crown the whole Quran for head sef and she get ashawo vibes join
If you they mention top 50 most educated ladies in this country she join no cap

I’m not tryna brag but this babe na everything, God use am pay me back from the bad one

That’s to tell you say another woman they out there wey go love you pass the way you love her , never let a toxic small girl stop you from meeting your soulmate



Lights up my kpoli in peace

Coinwarrior:
I specifically thanked you for ur valueble time you spent to bring up this interesting things.Firstly,let me point out some things....From my wife being caught to be a liar where she ought not to be.We all know most girls now a days may not be met undisvirgined and we all know that most of them would always lie that one thing raped them or molested them than telling the truth that they had been sexed once upon a time and they lost their virginity to it.I can even not felt pained because of that because most girls use to lie on that for fear of being seen as cheap or loose or fear of using that to abuse them at any slightest provocation by some guys.Though my wife told me she was never a virgin right from the onset but she lied that she was raped when she was actually being bleeped by first man she took as her unborn child father during her inexperience time because I know she was very naive then.ok if i closed eye at that.I can say my wife is not promiscuous because from what i studied about her because I was closer to her than anything.But if I should leave those things of the past in the past i must be very careful and observing.Another challenge I have with her is the issue of her low sex drive which I can’t understand.she is always dry I don’t know why but when I was dating her we often meet by weekend cos of my job.we do have sex atleast b4 i return to work by Sunday .I never see that she use to have low sex drive or complain about sex.But now anytime I am ready for sex my wife would be complaining she is not ready and she is not turned on and my quest for sex is too much.That is why i see her as not promiscuous type but she is just naive during those years of little knowledge.The only thing i frown at his her cunny cunny lie at some sensitive points.what I have done is this regard is that I have let her know that she should not keep any iota of secrets from me.she should just be open ,loyal and respectful to me as being her husband and anytime she get caught in any game I would just tell her to go.

Killbillz:

Lol..the bold is a fat ass lie and pls speak for urself

Enny2013:

Ha! Wot of dos dat found their wives on Nairaland?

purejustice36:


I get your point man
Firstly you can’t advise a woman on how to respect you bc respect is earned .

When a woman is deeply in love with a woman , she gets turned on by any little advances from her lover bruh

Her mind dey outside but you’re just not seeing that part
Anyway I hope I’m wrong bc I don see different type of women and their acts , no be today

It’s not just about checking her phone , women are smarter than we think they are , have you tried wooing her with another account?

If you haven’t wooed your woman with a nice social media acct that is owned by a fresh guy with a nice car, and cool cash , then let’s see if she’ll turn him down
If you haven’t done that then you don’t know your woman yet bruh

Give that your woman digits to any trusted guy around you , make the guy chat am up , then see for yourself
Make the guy question her about her marital status after the guy go don use sweet words finish her head , then you go see which category she go place you

Once she pass that test , then there’s still hope
But no be every man dey get that kind mind to run such tests sha