SirJerrie:
Young People be thinking with their D1ck this days.

If you're not ready to settle down, Why consider having a kid with somebody you're not sure you really want to spend the rest of your life with?


Don't you other goals to pursue?

Oga leave woman develope your lself now you're in your prime..
When the time comes, you'll have kids as much as you want!!!

AndroBlaze:


@OP, I only have one thing to say to you.

Clearly from your writeup, you came from a family built by love, a mother and a father, whom you seemed close to. The death of your father and the impact it had on you also confirms this. Part of the reason you seem to be a good human being is because of the family you came from and the love that surrounds you.

Why deny another human being (your proposed seed), the same love, comfort and security? At 23 you should be old enough to know money cannot buy everything and is not everything. Neither does the proposed beauty of the child solve or mean everything, unless you would be with your ex, who you clearly seem to think is more beautiful than your current girlfriend.

The truth is you are young, thats why you are being enticed this way. You are intelligent and you clearly know the answer. Besides you living to regret this decision, think about the child who will always hold some sort of grievance towards you especially when he/she finds out you have actively shortchanged him from the onset ( which will only be made worse when you decide to start your "proper" family). If you can live with the guilt, then please go ahead, but if that child causes us in the general society any problems, know you (and your ex that is acting silly but actually being manipulative) are the cause.

Cooolme:

If it'll work, but I don't think it'll work that way cos my current GF will never agree. I've even tried to convince her that there's no issue with a man having a kid before marriage but she say she has her reasons and won't accept such lol. This issue is the only prolonged argument I've ever had with my girlfriend, definitely means she's against it.

AndroBlaze:


@OP, I only have one thing to say to you.

Clearly from your writeup, you came from a family built by love, a mother and a father, whom you seemed close to. The death of your father and the impact it had on you also confirms this. Part of the reason you seem to be a good human being is because of the family you came from and the love that surrounds you.

Why deny another human being (your proposed seed), the same love, comfort and security? At 23 you should be old enough to know money cannot buy everything and is not everything. Neither does the proposed beauty of the child solve or mean everything, unless you would be with your ex, who you clearly seem to think is more beautiful than your current girlfriend.

The truth is you are young, thats why you are being enticed this way. You are intelligent and you clearly know the answer. Besides you living to regret this decision, think about the child who will always hold some sort of grievance towards you especially when he/she finds out you have actively shortchanged him from the onset ( which will only be made worse when you decide to start your "proper" family). If you can live with the guilt, then please go ahead, but if that child causes us in the general society any problems, know you (and your ex that is acting silly but actually being manipulative) are the cause.

Cooolme:

Please have I begged you for anything?
Did you even read my post at all?
This your comment really have nothing to do with my post, I may even be doing better than you.
Not everyone you see online isn't serious with their lives, thanks.

Truth is I'm scared, my Mom and her family will push for marriage once she gets pregnant for me, something I don't want. I told her my mind about that but she argued that it won't happen lol.
Bu the way, I like how well you articulated your words.

SirJerrie:


"Bro", pull your head out of your asre...




Why exactly would you consider having a child with someone you're unsure you'd like to spend your life with?!
-You're not done with school
-You're not ready to be a husband
-You're cheating on your girlfriend

Having a child out of wedlock shouldn't even be least the thing you should worry about, IT SHOULD NOT EVEN BE AMONG THINGS TO WORRY ABOUT!!!

I have nothing else for you.

rickleye:
Don’t play God.
How can you know you have a child with someone and you won’t provide financially or be present but consciously just ignore your parental right when both of you are fine emotionally.
If you’re donating your sperm and she doing artificial insermination maybe but you both doing it the traditional way . Meh �

Eastcoastboy:


I wish I have advice for you but I'm of the same age with you. So I might not be in the right position to advice you.

But if you care; I would say you query her. Why does she want to get a baby when she's intending to go abroad for her Masters. I don't think it's logical considering how stressful it will be to take care of a baby and study at the same time.

Except if she truly just want to have a baby and live her life not bothering about getting married, as they do abroad.

Or she might want to use it to tie you later on when she's ready to settle down after studies.

As for you mehn! I feel you shouldn't do it. If you rate her enough to bear your future child then marry her.

Bros wetin i want to know is; what's giving you money in school. Please help a G like you.

Cooolme:

My G, thanks for ur advice, really appreciate.
I have many hustle bruh, but Crypto made me, although I'm no longer interested in that, I have several digital skills that keeps my afloat.

Eastcoastboy:
Hi

You're welcome G.
Omoh! I'm still waiting for that crypto to make me. Although I know what's the problem. I'm not investing enough.

I want to know why you're not interested in crypto any more.

Plus do you care to share some of the digital skills that you have?

Cooolme:

Well, maybe why I lost interest was just because I have too many engagements as at now.
I did more of arbitrage with Crypto, coupled with holding few crypto projects that boomed as of 2020.
Currently I'm a web(Frontend) /app dev, graphics, learning data science I do currency arbitrage even though it's not really profitable now with all these cbn restrictions. Bruh I have many hustle sha, I still dey run family business too. Lol

Cooolme:


Truth is I'm scared, my Mom and her family will push for marriage once she gets pregnant for me, something I don't want. I told her my mind about that but she argued that it won't happen lol.
Bu the way, I like how well you articulated your words.