mariahAngel:
You see some boys ehn? They're like horñy ekuke dogs that cannot control themselves.

Going about, ruining destinies with their nonsense "one eyed snake".
Nonsense!



Of course!
If the irresponsible boy is old enough to have sex, he should be old enough to accept the reward/consequence that comes with having sex.

@mariahAngel,
How's it going?

What specie is a "one eyed snake?"

I've Googled the phrase and got a blank feedback? (smirk)

Lastpharoah33:
I can understand the utter disappointment on your ward. Naivety and a little touch of youthful ebullience got the better of her.

Someone mentioned lack of supervision, you saying dude should put a tracker on the girl?
Or maybe have her be on leash to be dragged along, huh?

Life happened to her, if what you wrote up there is what really transpired (as regards to your benevolence towards your ward), I really think taking her back to her mom is a good step.

But am totally against going ballistic on the nig that did put her in the family way. It's a choice thing. Either he embraces with full chest or bounce. Nature/karma will always take it's cause.

Word!

DSS1335:



I have come to realize that live-in maids who were discriminated and ill-treated will not have the gut to misbehave this way. This girl enjoy all loves bestowed on her by my wife. She dress the way my wife does and use good perfumes.

My tenants all thought she was my first child.
I loved her the way i would loved my child.i took compassion on her due to her mother and wanted her to be light to her family. I guess God have good reasons for the twist in her fate! Honestly i wouldn't have given it a second thought to have her abort the foetus had we discovered this pregnancy earlier.

Pls I will implore you not to forsake her cos from your write up you really liked her, just assume she is you daughter, I understand that you feel hurt but pls for the sake of her innocence and ignorance

Pls I would advice that you allow her to go back to her mother and have her child, take another help but pls after she put to bed let her mother take the child and allow her to come back and I am very sure she would have learned her lesson

If you leave her In The village, she will never bounce back, her life will be so miserable
The guy that got her pregnant is more matured than her so definitely he deceiced her and she also her her teenager brain wants to explore not know she is playing with fire

Op biko don't abandon her as she herself did not understand what she has gotten herself into

Lastpharoah33:
But am totally against going ballistic on the nig that did put her in the family way. It's a choice thing. Either he embraces with full chest or bounce. Nature/karma will always take it's cause.

You're quite right.

Karleb:

Same goes for the girl.

I'm glad you had to balance the hypocrisy in that comment with your reply.

Beey:
You taking the girl in and supporting her education is commendable. It sounds like she was a bit idle and that’s how she found time to meet with the young man. I want to believe that she’s not as naive as people may want to make it sound. At that age, she must have had some biology lessons. It was probably curiosity and the excitement of being told that she’s loved, that pushed her into that situation. Now with that said, my advise is for you to reconsider your decision. People fall down and then get back up again. Pregnancy though highly discouraged at her age, is not the cause for her to receive a lifetime of condemnation. Have her go to the village and have the baby. Let her stay till the baby is weaned. Am sure she’ll face difficulties that will force her to mature and focus. After that, she can leave the baby with her mother and go back to school. Please save her from becoming another addition to statistics of poverty and lack of education. Please continue to sponsor her studies as you had planned. Take her as if she were your own daughter who made a mistake and give her a 2nd chance. In the future, go for domestic help who are over 18 years old and can handle the consequences of their actions.

One of the few good heads we have here. This is commendable and I hope the OP will look into it. My hope in humanity is not lost after all.

ecolime:
Chaiii

Few months ago, our 19 year old live-in maid ran off with a 20 years old boy. She packed and moved to a ghetto here in PH because of "love"

Thank God we were able to track her, got her arrested and bundled her back to her family in Ijora, Lagos where we brought her from.

Once they turn teenagers, it's very easy for boys to deceive them.

This is a girl that had a big room, A.C, quality clothes and latest gadgets to herself. She wrote WAEC last year and was only awaiting admission.

My wife loved her so much and took her like a daughter. You will never know she isn't our blood. She flew and travelled everywhere with us but unfortunately, Penis derailed her life.

I was so grateful she didn't get pregnant else it would have been a different story.

Now, we don't do live-in maids again. It's cash and carry. Our new maid comes to clean up the house once we are back from work at 4pm.. (she works 5pm to 7pm). Then work on Saturdays too (8am to 5pm) Once you are done, go back to your house. While she's fully off on Sunday.

You always want the best of life for them but they don't love their lives enough.

It is well with you bro

Those raging body hormones are something else within that age bracket of under-25... Phew!

Peer pressure on these kids too is on another level.

Ganjafama:
An innocent girl having sex at the age of sixteen! The girl was obviously over pampered. If she was made to dress dirty, work like crazy and made to dorn a "gorimakpa" hairstyle she would have been as wise as anything.

You thought is totally different

If u can help like u help ur pregnant wife and as u will.help ur pregnant daughter,please do so but if u cannot return her to.her parents


These are the things that should have been.made clear to her and her parents from day one.

If the guy didn't rape the girl .if it is her decision,then let her find work and begin to prepare for the birth of her child.

Any girl who gets pregnant is old enough to find work to earn money to take care of herself and her baby.

Congratulations all the sane it is second wife that just gave birth.

CanineOfJackal:
stop this filthy emotional blackmail. The girl should face the consequences of her action. I respect what the op is doing and I believe it's the right thing

She came into his home as a minor so he had a huge role to play in whatever she became or whatever choices she made. That makes her their responsibility.

If you know you don’t want an extra child, then don’t recruit children as helps.

If she were an adult, I don’t have a problem. But she’s a child and she is their responsibility.

ceeceeuwa:

Early sex education would have prevented this.

So sex education will miraculously prevent you from making foolish decisions?

I don't know why people think the offended and offender are dumb.

Beey:
Hi thanks for the compliment. I don’t understand the whole Suleiman thing, am Kenyan. All I know about the guy is that he’s been accused by multiple women, don’t know much about him other than that and the recent attack.

Oh Kenyan? You're welcome. Ok I was talking about the recent attack, he was in a bullet proof car with his family while his domestic staff a lady was kept in same vehicle with his security men., unfortunately there was an attack, the lady would have been safe if he did the right thing, but no.

mariahAngel:
You see some boys ehn? They're like horñy ekuke dogs that cannot control themselves.
Going about, ruining destinies with their nonsense "one eyed snake".
Nonsense!



Of course!
If the irresponsible boy is old enough to have sex, he should be old enough to accept the reward/consequence that comes with having sex.

That girl was on heat when that boy sama the kpekus.if not that once no go impregnate her

DSS1335:
. Today, all those dreams and aspirations have been shattered! The innocent girl child I took as a daughter is 5 months pregnant. She can't remain with my family anymore so as not draw unnecessary attention.

I feel very bad and compassionate for the innocent young girl who will be forced to sacrifice her future to be in the family way.

I and my wife plan that i will take up the responsibility to train her up in University so she can be light to her family. Her elder siblings didn't complete their secondary school!

Her education does not have to end because she made a mistake of having sex at 16. Most of us on this forum also had sex as teenagers and we were not disowned by our parents.

As for theboy, what if she was the one who gave the boy green light and what if she was not a virgin before she met the boy ? The boy himself is just one year older than a teenager.

Your best bet is to take the girl with some elders and pay the boys family a visit to try and forge a way ahead as neither the boy nor the girls education need to stop just because they made a mistake that ALL of us made as teenagers.

Try and put yourself in the shoes of the girls father and do what you would do in that case which is what is best for the girl,

All the best.

mariahAngel:

I believe the (major) reason why these occurrences are common with maids is because they have this mentality of you are not my father/mother, so you can't tell me what to do.

You may be right but a LOT of teenage girls living with their own biological parents also get pregnant whilst young and a) whilst some of them have friends / boyfriends who introduce them to abortion, b) in some cases, it is the girls own parents who take her for the abortion in order to save them the family shame and more importantly for her to be able to quickly resume her education.

I've seen a case that falls into the latter case above where a 16 year old girl gets pregnant for her 19 year old boyfriend whom she met when she was 15 and she was not even a virgin at 15 which is why I said earlier that she could even be the one who gave the boy green light and the person who deflowered her might even be one of the older co-tenants in your compound and the 20 year old visitor to the area is carrying the blame for a pregnancy that may be his but may equally belong to another person who is a MAN living either in your compound or around the neighborhood.

Just make the girl relaxed enough to open up to you and you may find out that the person(s) to charge with statutory rape is not only the hapless 20 year old visitor to your neighborhood but a few other grown men in your neighborhood or even your very own compound especially if the girl used to run errands for young employed bachelors with or without your knowledge in return for small change.

HEBEI:
Are you even sure the boy is responsible for her pregnancy Some months ago, I handled a similar case. She denied that she had ever met another man except the guy. Las Las, the truth came out. She had five boyfriends and a sugar daddy at the age of sixteen

Calculate very well the last time she saw her menses and when the said sex escapade took place...
I pray you handle this situation with the needed wisdom, so as not to put yourself in a worse confusion.

If you wanna be enjoying sex before your time, be ready to accept its consequences when they arise. Shikena!!!

I've seen a similar case where a girl of 16 got pregnant for her 19 year old boyfriend she met when she was 15 and she was not even a virgin at 15 when she met the boy.

This does not say the boy is not responsible for the belle but before you throw the 20 year old hapless boy in jail for statutory rape, ask yourself what if he was your own son and what IF a completely different MAN in your neighborhood or your compound is responsible for the pregnancy.

Ask the girl to open up FULLY to you with no fear of reprisals.

And whilst you are at it, take away her smart phone and give her a dumb phone that has a little bit of credit but no internet functionality to reduce her online activities.

Some married women studied whilst heavily pregnant and sat for and passed professional exams whilst heavily pregnant and so this girls education does not have to stop as she still has the SAME 24 hours every human on earth has in 1 day and she can read her textbooks at home and prepare for exams by home study. At least that will discipline and focus her mind.

Btw sending her back to the village to live with her mum will derail her future as the girl needs your positive influence around her now more than ever.

Treat her like you would treat your own daughter.

I know very few people will likely read this comment because it's down down down here, with so many up there. That 20 year old boy/man na bad guy sha. To get that girl, to do that kind of thing is not that easy. And he has nothing doing (no job)... I wonder how he was able to convince her? I was thinking he used money to confuse her but he has nothing doing. It makes me doubt the authenticity of this story

DSS1335:
I am writing this with a sorrowful heart!
This is quite a lengthy piece!!


In 2018, My wife brought a live-in maid toward the end of her gestational period as we eagerly anticipate the birth of our first fruit after 8 years of marriage.

We took the young girl as part of our family, she was just 13 years old in JSS2 at the time she joined us. She does minor household chores, like washing the dishes, keeping the house in and out clean, that's all. I made sure
her education was not interrupted, she continued her schooling from Js3 till she completed her SSCE this year. Outsiders thought she was my first child considering the way she was being taken good care of.

At 16 years age, the evidence of proper nutrition was so glaring in her physique, the young girl of yesterday was already a beautiful damsel. I protected her from ravenous men old enough to be her father. Even from her classmates. Perhaps the mistake i made was in buying her phone before WAEC exam started. Well, the need for constant communication can not be overemphasized because i and my wife go out for work in the morning. My wife comes back in the day while i return back in the evening. Living her our 2 kids in her care: My first Child is 3 years plus in Nursery, the second is about 2 years in Prenursery.

When her mother made a stop by to visit her daughter 5 months ago after 4 years, she was so full of praise and thanking us for taking good care of her daughter, and begged us to allow her stay longer with us rather than her returning back to the village after completing her WAEC. I and my wife plan that i will take up the responsibility to train her up in University so she can be light to her family. Her elder siblings didn't complete their secondary school!

Today, all those dreams and aspirations have been shattered! The innocent girl child i took as a daughter is 5 months pregnant without even knowing she was pregnant! How possible? I could have swear with my life that she was still a virgin and innocent. Damm it! Where do I start from eh??

Well, my wife was rattled up by a what she called a terrible nightmare, she dreamt that she saw her girl carrying a new born baby. That was around 3 A.M she woke her up from sleep and asked her if she was pregnant, the girl denied it ignorantly. My wife had no reason to suspect her as she always buy her pads for her monthly menses except for this month. Then examined her and her suspicion became heightened as she saw a remarkable changes, her bra can't fit any longer, her bellybutton was out with black line running down! She ordered her to pee and run her test kit, it came back positive! My wife broke down in tears.

That morning, we didn't go to work for the day. we grilled her with questions. She confessed to us that she had intercourse only once in the month MAY yet she was still seeing her monthly menses. That she had a boy friend whom they secretly communicate on phone every day. That she lost her virginity to the boy. And they did it only ones in less than 30 minutes as she came back to check the kids who were still sleeping in the afternoon.

The boy came to visit her grand mother who return from the USA, she refused traveling to the East due to insecurities and rented a flat opposite my compound for just 3 months from March to June. During her stay, all her children and grandchildren came to visit her. It was one of her grand son that lured my maid and took advantage of her innocences.

We contacted the boy on phone and told him what happened, he denied it that it is impossible for him to be held responsible that he had sex with her only once and that's not enough to get a girl pregnant! I swear,i could have dealt with him fatally if he were within my reach. Well, i was able to comport myself and explain to him in details after which he kept quiet. He is just 20 years old awaiting admission. We have informed the girl's mother too who became shock and cold! And asked her daughter to return back to the village!

Considering this scenario, i came up with the plan to make that boy and family take up the responsibility of the pregnancy, she can't remain with my family anymore so as not draw unnecessary attention. I will track down the boy and his family and file a statutory rape charge against them if all avenue to resolve this case peacefully fail. From Pregnancy to child care is no joke. My people that is no joke at all. I feel very bad and compassionate for the innocent young girl who will be forced to sacrifice her future to be in the family way.

Any honest advise on how best to tackle this issue at hand would be appreciated

My Guy.. I totally understand your plight and every action you want to take is very valid. I might not know how it feels cos you're the one wearing this shoes. However, can you please temper justice with mercy on the grounds of her innocence?

My submission would be for her to go to the village and give birth to the kid, possibly train the child for one year then she comes back and face her education. Please, don't let this set back scatter the good plan you have for her due to her naivety .

@Poster if what you say is the truth you really tried ur best.The saying goes you can only take horse to river you cant force the horse to drink water.A girl that wan rotten go rotten.You were busy struggling give her better life she was busy fucking by useless VAGABOND who cant even take care of himself.You better send her to the village because you cant take care of her with pregnancy why the VAGABOND who got her PREGNANT will be walking freely.you cant file case RAPE.The girl just open her mouth tell you is her BOYFRIEND imagine.BOYFRIEND who cant live to responsibilty.He don happen now the VAGABOND Don make way.Take her to village her mum take care of her.she will go talk with the VAGABOND family concerning PREGNANCY.who quote me for telling OP real TRUTH hug transformer.

DSS1335:


Chai! I am crying for you!! God have mercy and forgive you. I won't curse because out of the abundance of heart the mouth speaks. I spread love and not hate

I see my joke was taken so seriously, no hard feelings man.
I realized I’ve been insensitive with my comment making a dark humor out of a situation affecting you.
I’m sorry and Ive edited the comment and taken out

Modupetemmy1:


Pls I will implore you not to forsake her cos from your write up you really liked her, just assume she is you daughter, I understand that you feel hurt but pls for the sake of her innocence and ignorance

Pls I would advice that you allow her to go back to her mother and have her child, take another help but pls after she put to bed let her mother take the child and allow her to come back and I am very sure she would have learned her lesson

If you leave her In The village, she will never bounce back, her life will be so miserable
The guy that got her pregnant is more matured than her so definitely he deceiced her and she also her her teenager brain wants to explore not know she is playing with fire

Op biko don't abandon her as she herself did not understand what she has gotten herself into

Thanks .

Advise appreciated

fuckwell2080:
@Poster if what you say is the truth you really tried ur best.The saying goes you can only take horse to river you cant force the horse to drink water.A girl that wan rotten go rotten.You were busy struggling give her better life she was busy fucking by useless VAGABOND who cant even take care of himself.You better send her to the village because you cant take care of her with pregnancy why the VAGABOND who got her PREGNANT will be walking freely.you cant file case RAPE.The girl just open her mouth tell you is her BOYFRIEND imagine.BOYFRIEND who cant live to responsibilty.He don happen now the VAGABOND Don make way.Take her to village her mum take care of her.she will go talk with the VAGABOND family concerning PREGNANCY.who quote me for telling OP real TRUTH hug transformer.

Understood. The boy father came to resolve the issue amicably. He has accepted the responsibility for the pregnancy. The grandma whom the boy came to stay is the only person that is reluctant and opting for DNA test after the child is born. However the father of the boy pleaded that i should not allow the girl return back to the village

EndSARS77:
I know very few people will likely read this comment because it's down down down here, with so many up there. That 20 year old boy/man na bad guy sha. To get that girl, to do that kind of thing is not that easy. And he has nothing doing (no job)... I wonder how he was able to convince her? I was thinking he used money to confuse her but he has nothing doing. It makes me doubt the authenticity of this story

The same way i and my wife were wondering how he was able to lure the girl. Maybe he promised her marriage or bought something for her, she couldn't say anything....well, i observed that the young guy is very handsome and very fair in complexion...he is just like a junior version of that Ghana/Nollywood actor Van Vicker

Ilekokonit:


You may be right but a LOT of teenage girls living with their own biological parents also get pregnant whilst young and a) whilst some of them have friends / boyfriends who introduce them to abortion, b) in some cases, it is the girls own parents who take her for the abortion in order to save them the family shame and more importantly for her to be able to quickly resume her education.

I've seen a case that falls into the latter case above where a 16 year old girl gets pregnant for her 19 year old boyfriend whom she met when she was 15 and she was not even a virgin at 15 which is why I said earlier that she could even be the one who gave the boy green light and the person who deflowered her might even be one of the older co-tenants in your compound and the 20 year old visitor to the area is carrying the blame for a pregnancy that may be his but may equally belong to another person who is a MAN living either in your compound or around the neighborhood.

Just make the girl relaxed enough to open up to you and you may find out that the person(s) to charge with statutory rape is not only the hapless 20 year old visitor to your neighborhood but a few other grown men in your neighborhood or even your very own compound especially if the girl used to run errands for young employed bachelors with or without your knowledge in return for small change.

The case has been settled amicably. The Father of the boy came to us, that son accepted the full responsibility, BCS the girl was a virgin!
The timing from the result of the pregnancy scan corroborate with the girl's claim and the boy's confession. No need for such wide goose chase!
Thanks for your advise though

ValCon888:
My advice is not for the girl, but for the boy.

That 20 year old boy should make sure a DNA test is carried out before anyone pins a pregnancy on his head.

Just like the OP was shocked that a "naive" 16 year old girl is pregnant under his roof, he'll be further shocked that child doesn't belong to the young man in question, but one of her multiple sex partners.

God bless you.

While I don't support what happened, we gotta learn to ask questions of "what if" too, they're just young people like me that made mistakes just that in their own case - they got BUSTED!

I'm 20 years old and nobody is perfect, girls hide their real age nowadays.

Nemesis0147:
Please whatever you decide on doing.
Don’t blackmail that boy...don’t accuse him of rape when he didn’t do it!!
Let him and your ward take responsible for their actions!!
Not by blackmailing him,,,two wrongs doesn’t make a right.

EXACTLY!

This is what I'm trying to say, imagine destroying the life of a young boy - look, early pregnancy isn't life condemnation and besides he didn't force her.

Again, I do not support what happened - but that guy's actually the same age as me, I'm putting myself in his shoes.

I bet he didn't know she was 16, please deal with him but don't destroy him because he's 4 years older than her! They're just kids!

Let the boy and his family take care of her till she gives birth and after ..but if they refuse let her carry her cross

DSS1335:


The same way i and my wife were wondering how he was able to lure the girl. Maybe he promised her marriage or bought something for her, she couldn't say anything....well, i observed that the young guy is very handsome and very fair in complexion...he is just like a junior version of that Ghana/Nollywood actor Van Vicker

Hahaha

Lol sir, money isn't everything.

In the case of your girl, she has everything (I mean y'all give all she needs, the food, shelter, clothes etc)... At her age, she begins to feel a need to be loved - that's where he comes in, and promises that love.

His good looks was actually a plus for him but doesn't matter, and since he was bold to tell you he "did it with her once" - he must be good with "words and texting"...

Coming from 20 year old too.

DSS1335:


Understood. The boy father came to resolve the issue amicably. He has accepted the responsibility for the pregnancy. The grandma whom the boy came to stay is the only person that is reluctant and opting for DNA test after the child is born. However the father of the boy pleaded that i should not allow the girl return back to the village

Wow, I'm so happy

libertyfather:
Responsibility for pregnancy u say? God will help you

send her parking

DSS1335:


The case has been settled amicably. The Father of the boy came to us, that son accepted the full responsibility, BCS the girl was a virgin!
The timing from the result of the pregnancy scan corroborate with the girl's claim and the boy's confession. No need for such wide goose chase!
Thanks for your advise though

Don't mind those gutter minded individuals who project their wayward lifestyles unto everything that moves

DSS1335:


The same way i and my wife were wondering how he was able to lure the girl. Maybe he promised her marriage or bought something for her, she couldn't say anything....well, i observed that the young guy is very handsome and very fair in complexion...he is just like a junior version of that Ghana/Nollywood actor Van Vicker

She was swayed by his charms and good looks. Ohh, teens...

Octopusssy:

She was swayed by his charms and good looks. Ohh, teens...

Kipkwaiet

You old hens are also swayed by foine boiz

GloriousGbola:


Kipkwaiet

You old hens are also swayed by foine boiz

We are swayed by the size of your pockets, not your looks. Who looks epp?