Scenario 1: I introduce him to a girl I'm getting to know and tell him about her, he texts her behind my back, offers her a birthday gift which she declined, meets up for brunch with her after his sister made it seem as though she was the one she was meeting.. next minute, she's not there and it's just them. He does all this behind my back and doesn't mention it to me at all.

Scenario 2: One of the girls I used to see casually moves to city, I introduce them, I eventually make it clear to her that I don't want a relationship, she moves a street from us. However, hasn't bought a bed or renovated the house. We have 2 spare rooms in our house and I renovated mine. After speaking with her and him, I offer her the room as a kind gesture until she buys a mattress for her bed, however, after talking throughout the evening about this, I go to the gym and come back to see her and my 'friend' watching a movie downstairs together. I ignore that. Anyways, woke up early this morning and saw that he is sleeping on the couch and allowed her to sleep in his room instead. This is someone who I've told everything.

I don't know why, but I feel betrayed. We love in the same house and I don't know how to approach this situation. I've lost absolutely all trust in this person.

You both are hustling girls .







Why are you angry ?

doggedfighter:
You both are hustling girls .







Why are you angry ?

Na so u see am? Wawu!

Any guy you call friend who keeps showing interests girls you introduce to him is no friend but a competitor looking to outsmart you in whatever you're doing.

That your so called friend is an enemy friend, cut off from him. People like that have their eyes fixed on you, and can bad mouth you behind your back making you loose business and contracts...he would never want you to be better than him.

Nazgul:
Any guy you call friend who keeps showing interests girls you introduce to him is no friend but a competitor looking to outsmart you in whatever you're doing.

That your so called friend is an enemy friend, cut off from him. People like that have their eyes fixed on you, and can bad mouth you behind your back making you loose business and contracts...he would never want you to be better than him.

Thanks for the honest response. Regardless of how society chooses to spin acts like this, I k ow deep down its betrayal of trust. I live in the same house with this guy which makes it complicated. I'm looking to terminate the contract. I can't sleep in the same house with someone I don't trust.

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OkwuEziokwu:


Na so u see am? Wawu!

There are people you don't suppose to reply, one of them is that useless idiots you just quote

Why not confront him? How did you find out he reached out to the first girl? From the girl right? She told her story, why not hear his? It could be your girls throwing themselves at him and he could be turning them down.

You saw him sleeping on the couch, you don’t know if the girl went to his room and tried to get cozy so he fled. I wouldn’t kill a long term friendship over some assumptions. Talk to him first.

eazzzy1:
Why not confront him? How did you find out he reached out to the first girl? From the girl right? She told her story, why not hear his? It could be your girls throwing themselves at him and he could be turning them down.

You saw him sleeping on the couch, you don’t know if the girl went to his room and tried to get cozy so he fled. I wouldn’t kill a long term friendship over some assumptions. Talk to him first.

The girl told me. This guy has shown dodgy behaviour before. Approaching him will show my hand don't you think?

The one about the bed, perhaps the girl is playing a game. However, as per my guy, he suppose insist sey e no fit happen, or even tell me wetin happen first.

OkwuEziokwu:


The girl told me. This guy has shown dodgy behaviour before. Approaching him will show my hand don't you think?

The one about the bed, perhaps the girl is playing a game. However, as per my guy, he suppose insist sey e no fit happen, or even tell me wetin happen first.

I don’t think you would be playing your hands, I think you would be giving a friend the benefit of the doubt.

It is possible these girls downplayed their relationship with you to your friend. A woman would relegate her man to ‘nothing serious’ just to get with someone she likes. Maybe she told him you were nothing serious, you wouldn’t know until you talk to him.

How did he get the girl and her sister’s numbers in the first place? This is why I don’t like having any form of relationship with my friends girls. Asides regular greetings and small talks when we see, all these over familiarity usually doesn’t end well.

eazzzy1:


I don’t think you would be playing your hands, I think you would be giving a friend the benefit of the doubt.

It is possible these girls downplayed their relationship with you to your friend. A woman would relegate her man to ‘nothing serious’ just to get with someone she likes. Maybe she told him you were nothing serious, you wouldn’t know until you talk to him.

How did he get the girl and her sister’s numbers in the first place? This is why I don’t like having any form of relationship with my friends girls. Asides regular greetings and small talks when we see, all these over familiarity usually doesn’t end well.

Prior to this, I was naive and told the guy everything. They all visited and I introduced them. I don't care who she likes. I rejected her. My qualms is with my "friend"/housemate.

With the more serious girl, introduced them as well because I want a strong core of friends. The number exchange was not an issue. His sister knows her. Omo, I don reason am and don follow my guys yarn. They all said it's strange and that I should be careful.

OkwuEziokwu:


Prior to this, I was naive and told the guy everything. They all visited and I introduced them. I don't care who she likes. I rejected her. My qualms is with my "friend"/housemate.

With the more serious girl, introduced them as well because I want a strong core of friends. The number exchange was not an issue. His sister knows her. Omo, I don reason am and don follow my guys yarn. They all said it's strange and that I should be careful.

Well, you know your friend way better than I do. All the best with however you decide to handle it.