KingDash:
Bros which app be this?

in message

mediclife1987:


Which app be this?

inmessage

akposking:
oboy na abraka you da abi. That one na imessage app I sabi am wella.

asaba

Ologbo147:
It's not about having it, the "mentality" as you call it is subconscious.man's basic interest is survival, until he survives, before he can think of other things such as morality. The survival we are talking about primarily is food, then shelter and clothing follows as secondary.

Oga, leave me alone, I beg you.

DoMeGood09:
No no no. No problem. Was just curious.

Ok.

highchief1:
except she wan just enter another person car my wife use the highest of cars in her office.i no Dey reason am o I’m always out of the country.i have 3 kids boys.i believe I have succeeded honestly anyone she like do e no really concern me again.after all if man eventually die leave her Shebi she go begin fork anyhow.who Dey bother em self about women na em know.

Bro bless u. I face something of this dilemma too. As difficult as it is, sometimes the best is just to assume the worst happened. To keep trying to deify or assume the saintliness of a woman, especially not around, haa... O le wu. I was once in a relationship where I so trusted ma woman, but in the end when I found out she cheated on me, I nearly ran crazy.

Since then, Ive learned to cut short my expectations and frankly, should even do more. Dont trust too much; dont believe too much. If you plan to remain faithful, make sure to ask questions from her. From time to time, prod her. You better don't listen to the extremely foolish advice of people saying dont bother about what your wife does in her absence, dont investigate this, that.

From time to time, call her. Ask her how she satisfies her sexual drive. Ask her simple things like has she visited a man since you've been absent. Who has toasted her. Ask for screenshots of her home chat interface. More importantly, watch the body language. Most will deny at first. But if you persist (once in a while, I mean, not everyday o)... if she's the type with some form of conscience... you will spot the guilt on her face, in her voice...or she may just spit it out... (like in one of my older relationships). From there on, whatever you choose to do is entirely up to you.

Na nigeria cause all dis nonsense sha. Our women were not like this before. Poverty has made more women susceptible to cheating or prostitution before marriage. The rate at which people (men mostly) travel out just to make ends meet tend to jeopardise existing relationship and marriages...cos the tend of infidelity increases sharply too. I don't tend to justify men cheating but I can kinda understand because most men have greater financial input in relationships / marriages. But for a woman, after all d sacrifice and money wey man don do, come still go out to cheat...haa my brother, it's heartbreaking.

Gerrard59:



The issue of hook-ups is entirely on Nigerian men. Men sustain the industry, not women. These women don't fvck themselves. The average Nigerian man has an insatiable demand/urge for sex and would do anything to get it. That creates a market, and since women can be the only suppliers, they cater to this demand. If Nigerian men indulge in celibacy, the rate at which young girls resort to hook-up will drastically decline. It is simple economics. Additionally, it is biological because men have testosterone which induces the urge for sex every single day, people who cannot tame it will resort to demanding for sexual intercourse, and another set of people have to supply that demand.

Also, in poorer societies, many women resort to selling their bodies because they have fewer economic opportunities, just like men resort to stealing. In richer nations, the rate is very low. Even in prosperous patriarchal societies, women don't resort to prostitution because they have a high standard of living. For prostitution to reduce (it cannot be eradicated as the average men will ALWAYS want to fvck), Nigeria has to be rich and Nigerian men have to tame their lascivious demands.

I have written about this extensively. The blame is on Nigerian men not the women.

I see you as someone always trying to put blames on men.
In any society you find yourself, the party RECEIVING money is the one to blame, shame and embarrass because there will always be market for things.
Have you ever wondered why customs only go for smugglers and market women selling rice ? And not we the consumers?

Have you ever wondered why NDLEA goes after igbo sellers and farmers instead of the smokers?
Because there will always be market if it is encouraged.
Both are engaging in it - smugglers and consumers, Igbo traders and smokers yet one is shamed and embarrassed because if the market is not there, the consumer has no choice than to act normal.
Have you wondered why women are the ones called Asewo, prostitutes and not the men when both engage in it? Have you wondered why the prostitutes are the ones police go after and close down their hotels?
Because it is easier to destroy few smugglers/ Igbo traders and farmers/ prostitutes than putting virtually the whole country in prison for consuming foreign rice/Igbo or patronizing prostitutes

Adex2442:



Married or single ladies

Both

To the average hook up girl out there, the issue is not the present. The damage of prostitution is in the future
1. They can’t do any legit jobs anymore unless it pays better. And very few legit jobs pay better
2. When age catches up with them, life becomes frustrating and almost unbearable
3. Over time they become insatiable… sexually and financially
4. At the current pace, there will be an oversupply of prostitutes without commensurate increase in the financial capacity of potential customers. It’s happening already but will hit its climax in about 3yrs.
5. High body count most time reflects high negative energies. It could significantly impact who comes in contact in ways they cannot physically explain
6. High risk on safety, stds, health concerns
7. How will a prostitute raise a normal child? This is biggest challenge to the nation. Women are the bedrock of many societies. The future of the Nigerian society is looking terrible

Key Lesson: If you can, ensure you do not raise your girl child in Nigeria.

JooEeL:


Bro bless u. I face something of this dilemma too. As difficult as it is, sometimes the best is just to assume the worst happened. To keep trying to deify or assume the saintliness of a woman, especially not around, haa... O le wu. I was once in a relationship where I so trusted ma woman, but in the end when I found out she cheated on me, I nearly ran crazy.

Since then, Ive learned to cut short my expectations and frankly, should even do more. Dont trust too much; dont believe too much. If you plan to remain faithful, make sure to ask questions from her. From time to time, prod her. You better don't listen to the extremely foolish advice of people saying dont bother about what your wife does in her absence, dont investigate this, that.

From time to time, call her. Ask her how she satisfies her sexual drive. Ask her simple things like has she visited a man since you've been absent. Who has toasted her. Ask for screenshots of her home chat interface. More importantly, watch the body language. Most will deny at first. But if you persist (once in a while, I mean, not everyday o)... if she's the type with some form of conscience... you will spot the guilt on her face, in her voice...or she may just spit it out... (like in one of my older relationships). From there on, whatever you choose to do is entirely up to you.

Na nigeria cause all dis nonsense sha. Our women were not like this before. Poverty has made more women susceptible to cheating or prostitution before marriage. The rate at which people (men mostly) travel out just to make ends meet tend to jeopardise relationship and marriages...cos the tend of infidelity increases sharply too. I don't tend to justify men cheating but I can kinda understand because most men have greater financial input in relationships / marriages. But for a woman, after all d sacrifice and money wey man don do, come still go out to cheat...haa my brother, it's heartbreaking.

if I tell u wetin happen to my 7yrs relationship u go weak.we won best couple awards in uni.we were like 5n6.fast foward to nysc I paid her unplanned visit and caught her with a man in her house the relationship crashed immediately.this is someone that when I was close to her house I called her and was asking her how she was faring with my absence she said she can’t wait to see me bla bla bla.then to marriage.i stumbled into my wife’s chat on WhatsApp and saw a cleared chat.o asked her who is this and why was the message cleared.she said it’s our 2yrs old child that cleared the chat.i laughed.not deleted chat o but cleared chat.some adults uptil now don’t know how to clear chat but she said a 2yrs old boy cleared the chat.ok na who is the guy she said it’s her old uni friend that he ran into him when he visited her office.since that day,I removed my mind from her.we are happily married,but I can’t vouch for her anymore.i am not bothered by whatever.i cheat sufficiently so im living my life.in all this one day person go die leave both the wife and kids.i no see anything too special in this life.

Since 80s are you a learner

Jovialjune1:
Op needs to go out there and physically preach to them since their behavior hurts her so much, instead of ranting online on what everybody knows is happening and won't stop anytime soon.

I won't be surprise if you or your friends are into hookup? Their is more life after hookup abi dey don't think of settling down or giving birth to a child when the hole go wide pass elephant own.

Gerrard59:


The moment you post a piece of information online for the world to see, you lose every right to its privacy. If you don't like it, don't post. You cannot control the information you share with the public. Anyhow anyone decides to use it, that is the person's business.

Who told you this? Ask any of your lawyer friends for better understanding of using someone's image without their consent and hear their response.

Why do you think faces of somepeople get blured or covered after sharing an information or news about them?

Ologbo147:
you know how many dem illage,"sister send me money make I take buy book" sister send me money make I take eat. But they choose prostitution (which is the lesser evil) rather than commit suicide and leave their dependants for the society to bear the consequences.( The society would ordinarily not care about their depandants, so their depandants would grow up if not properly trained and take by force what they want from the society.

I know a lady in Benin, who takes care of her two younger brothers, one 10 the other 14 and sees them through school. she is 25. They are orphans, what do you expect me to tell her to do, POS, teaching, filling station work, which of them, how much can she realize from that and how will it help them to fend. I am a realist my sister, not a hypocrite. row up to b

my brother, poverty is one thing. Most girls do it out of greed. They want to buy the latest item. Not becos they are lacking. Some of them come from well to do homes

Mirasteel:
These are the lazy girls, once you ask them why they are into runs, they will mention poverty. what about some other women that are hustling legitly to make money out there, are they not suffering from the same poverty?

Truth is that majority of girls of these days are very lazy, they want quick money, same as some boys out there too. it's a pity how youths of this country are going wayward these days.

god bless you

Creditalerts:
Our girls are now potential olosho


Show of shame

Pls give me this site

Gerrard59:


The moment you post a piece of information online for the world to see, you lose every right to its privacy. If you don't like it, don't post. You cannot control the information you share with the public. Anyhow anyone decides to use it, that is the person's business.

Just look at how you are proudly displaying your ignorance in our cyber space.

Anyways, a simple Google search of the word "defamation" can save you from this level of ignorance.

JooEeL:


How do you avoid one?

There are girls who are not exactly oloshos but have high body counts.

How do you avoid that too?

the ones doing for free don wise up. That was then. Now, no sex if you dont drop the dough. Na naive girl dey do free sex

teeshet:
my brother, poverty is one thing. Most girls do it out of greed. They want to buy the latest item. Not becos they are lacking. Some of them come from well to do homes

why did edit out part of my post so that it does not make sense? Are you a goat? Besides I have made my point, I have no reply for you anymore. Anyway, this is what I wrote and in full. --

"you know how many dem dae call for village,"sister send me money make I take buy book" sister send me money make I take eat. But they choose prostitution (which is the lesser evil) rather than commit suicide and leave their dependants for the society to bear the consequences.( The society would ordinarily not care about their depandants, so their depandants would grow up if not properly trained and take by force what they want from the society.

I know a lady in Benin, who takes care of her two younger brothers, one 10 the other 14 and sees them through school. she is 25. They are orphans, what do you expect me to tell her to do, POS, teaching, filling station work, which of them, how much can she realize from that and how will it help them to fend. I am a realist my sister, not a hypocrite. If she does not take care of them, those boys would grow up to become hooligans in the society. The best I can do for them is to advise her to stop maybe after they' ve gathered the capital for a business or something. Because men would ordinarily not give you money to start a business even when they have as a woman, but they would also want to have a say about how you live your life, it is ironic"

belatoxx:


Pls give me this site

u go pay oo

Menclothing:



People that learn hand work offend God

They can't find jobs people who sell at road side are not human.

You assassin and caught u said its unemployment or greed lol

hand work? You think everyone fancy handwork like that. People just want to work and earn a good pay, not everyone fancy handwork thing. Oyinbo land is the land of Opportunity, you can make a good living by honest life unless you are greedy.

The rate arm robbery go reduce if their is a way people can work hard and make a decent living. Not in Nigeria whereby you earn 3k for hard labor . whereas you can earn over $100 a day for same hard labor overseas

The way girls spread their legs now even without negotiating with them is shocking.

highchief1:
if I tell u wetin happen to my 7yrs relationship u go weak.we won best couple awards in uni.we were like 5n6.fast foward to nysc I paid her unplanned visit and caught her with a man in her house the relationship crashed immediately.this is someone that when I was close to her house I called her and was asking her how she was faring with my absence she said she can’t wait to see me bla bla bla.then to marriage.i stumbled into my wife’s chat on WhatsApp and saw a cleared chat.o asked her who is this and why was the message cleared.she said it’s our 2yrs old child that cleared the chat.i laughed.not deleted chat o but cleared chat.some adults uptil now don’t know how to clear chat but she said a 2yrs old boy cleared the chat.ok na who is the guy she said it’s her old uni friend that he ran into him when he visited her office.since that day,I removed my mind from her.we are happily married,but I can’t vouch for her anymore.i am not bothered by whatever.i cheat sufficiently so im living my life.in all this one day person go die leave both the wife and kids.i no see anything too special in this life.

Haa bro, take heart. Especially that your 7 year uni relationship own. That is completely heartbreaking. If you didn't catch her or anything, probability is she'd keep acting as saint. Guys are stupid, I agree. But you see girls ehn...them bad. I have seen too much and I have realised that it is only when a woman is out of league (like grown old), is when her cheating tendencies subside.

As for your wife's clearing of chats, this is a big big red flag. As in very very big. If the cheating tendencies are little, she'd delete specific messages in a chat. But clearing chats, haah, red flag bro. See I dont blame men who cheat...after all, na we dey suffer pass for rlnshp. If u are broke, how many women go look ur side? When u were broke hustling, women were enjoying their sexual life, having multiple body counts. Now wey you make am, small at least, them go want make u loyal with them, when your own sexual value don high and their own don dey wane?

Lemme tell u a very short story. I lived in one of the Yoruba southwestern states that begins with "O". In my compound, there were a lot of girls...mostly undergradj. There was a girl like this, I'd say in her early 20's (back then o)...she was in a serious relationship. Her guy was serving in another state and the guy comes once in a while to see his babe. When this guy is coming, he'd buy a lot of stuff for his woman, sing his woman's praises. But this guy never knew that his babe used to party and come back real late in the night. And moves about with other guys. Honestly, I have no proof that she was cheating...but mehn, I can stake money on that. Besides hanging recklessly or keeping late nights with guys already counts as cheating in my own book.

Back to my own prev relationship story. That my own babe wey been cheat on me that year, na religious spirikoko. At some points, she'd wake me up in the night and tell me I should pray with her. She would force me to go to church, which I reluctantly did. This my babe go dey speak in tongues if she dey pray this that... So one day like that, my babe just go lagos come back. She was preparing for Youth service so she went to lag to get prepared. Then something strange happened. 95 times out of 100, Im the one that always initiates sex with this ma girl. So that fateful day, she just dragged me to the bed. This was the day she just returned from lag o. She started kissing me and told me its time for sex. It was quite strange and I kept my cool but was excited too cos I hadn ot had sex in like 2 months. So when it was time for d sex as I wan wear condom as is our custom, ma babe just told me let's do it raw. She held me, and for like the first time in a long long while, she made moans. After the sex, I asked her why she acted so into me and the sex, and she told me that she had missed me during the break and her body really needed it. So you see all those extra moans, all those slight strange behaviours, all those little extraordinary things, those are signs you have to pick up as a man to tell a cheating partner.

In my mind, I said no wahala but my 6th sense began to seriously kick in. I observed our hangars and saw new panties and bra. First sign: when a lady wants to cheat, especially with a new partner, they dont like their undies being old, wrinkled, faded etc. They are not so comfortable with a new man with old undies; they'd reserve the usage of the old for you. Two, our eyes met and I stared for a while and she said "Why are you looking like me like that" in a suggestive tone. 3. I looked at the "Frequently Contacted" on her phone and saw the signs. 4. When a particular call kept coming through days after, she'd hesitantly pick the call in my presence and would even say "Why this guy dey disturb me sef?". 5. One day I pretended not to be around and hid somewhere close to the house and I spotted her picking a call (likely with the same number) and her countenance was different than the one she'd put off while I was around. (My babe was trying to sell me into ignoring the red flag).

But with all these signs, do you know I was still stupid and remained faithful to this babe? We started having issues. My trust went down but I kept hoping it wasn't what I was thinking. Do you know it was until 10 months later I got the confession of her mouth? I came to nairaland that fateful day several years ago and some thread was giving hints on behaviours of cheating partners. I can't remember what they were but they were not new anyways. But it was the confidence in which the author kept saying guys who have girlfriends will keep pretending theirs is different...that it cannot happen to them. It was as if the werey was talking to me. So I just put up a call to my bae then, she was in Lagos too. And I just confronted her that I knew she had been cheating and all that, that I recorded her calls (bla bla put up some more lies like that), and she started to write that may God forgive her. That she had to do it, that she's so sorry.

Bro, when the chats started flowing in, my eyes couldn't believe what it was seeing. I don't want to give too many details just because this world is a small world sha.

BUT MY BROTHER, FEAR WOMAN OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

highchief1:
no be some.all Nigerian girls now do hook up.all I mean no exception.i gave up when I met over 10 and they told me the same thg.I don’t have sex for Nthg love is a scam.if u sleep with me u must settle me.same response from about 10ppl in one week.i don’t ask girls out anymore I have given up.i pity the guys that are not married.

Are you married?

Ologbo147:
why did edit out part of my post so that it does not make sense? Are you a goat? Besides I have made my point, I have no reply for you anymore. Anyway, this is what I wrote and in full. --

"you know how many dem dae call for village,"sister send me money make I take buy book" sister send me money make I take eat. But they choose prostitution (which is the lesser evil) rather than commit suicide and leave their dependants for the society to bear the consequences.( The society would ordinarily not care about their depandants, so their depandants would grow up if not properly trained and take by force what they want from the society.

I know a lady in Benin, who takes care of her two younger brothers, one 10 the other 14 and sees them through school. she is 25. They are orphans, what do you expect me to tell her to do, POS, teaching, filling station work, which of them, how much can she realize from that and how will it help them to fend.

you are stupid

teeshet:
the ones doing for free don wise up. That was then. Now, no sex if you dont drop the dough. Na naive girl dey do free sex

Hahaa bad boy.

U get experience.

teeshet:
you are stupid

Blessedmercy8-teeshet leave me alone, leave people's body alone, you are not the one that created them, is it by force to agree to your point. I have made my point---

you know how many dem dae call for village,"sister send me money make I take buy book" sister send me money make I take eat. But they choose prostitution (which is the lesser evil) rather than commit suicide and leave their dependants for the society to bear the consequences.( The society would ordinarily not care about their depandants, so their depandants would grow up if not properly trained and take by force what they want from the society.

I know a lady in Benin, who takes care of her two younger brothers, one 10 the other 14 and sees them through school. she is 25. They are orphans, what do you expect me to tell her to do, POS, teaching, filling station work, which of them, how much can she realize from that and how will it help them to fend. I am a realist my sister, not a hypocrite. If she does not take care of them, those boys would grow up to become hooligans in the society. The best I can do for them is to advise her to stop maybe after they' ve gathered the capital for a business or something. Because men would ordinarily not give you money to start a business even when they have as a woman, but they would also want to have a say about how you live your life, it is ironic.

JooEeL:


Haa bro, take heart. Especially that your 7 year uni relationship own. That is completely heartbreaking. If you didn't catch her or anything, probability is she'd keep acting as saint. Guys are stupid, I agree. But you see girls ehn...them bad. I have seen too much and I have realised that it is only when a woman is out of league (like grown old), is when her cheating tendencies subside.

As for your wife's clearing of chats, this is a big big red flag. As in very very big. If the cheating tendencies are little, she'd delete specific messages in a chat. But clearing chats, haah, red flag bro. See I dont blame men who cheat...after all, na we dey suffer pass for rlnshp. If u are broke, how many women go look ur side? When u were broke hustling, women were enjoying their sexual life, having multiple body counts. Now wey you make am, small at least, them go want make u loyal with them, when your own sexual value don high and their own don dey wane?

Lemme tell u a very short story. I lived in one of the Yoruba southwestern states that begins with "O". In my compound, there were a lot of girls...mostly undergradj. There was a girl like this, I'd say in her early 20's (back then o)...she was in a serious relationship. Her guy was serving in another state and the guy comes once in a while to see his babe. When this guy is coming, he'd buy a lot of stuff for his woman, sing his woman's praises. But this guy never knew that his babe used to party and come back real late in the night. And moves about with other guys. Honestly, I have no proof that she was cheating...but mehn, I can stake money on that. Besides hanging recklessly or keeping late nights with guys already counts as cheating in my own book.

Back to my own prev relationship story. That my own babe wey been cheat on me that year, na religious spirikoko. At some points, she'd wake me up in the night and tell me I should pray with her. She would force me to go to church, which I reluctantly did. This my babe go dey speak in tongues if she dey pray this that... So one day like that, my babe just go lagos come back. She was preparing for Youth service so she went to lag to get prepared. Then something strange happened. 95 times out of 100, Im the one that always initiates sex with this ma girl. So that fateful day, she just dragged me to the bed. This was the day she just returned from lag o. She started kissing me and told me its time for sex. It was quite strange and I kept my cool but was excited too cos I hadn ot had sex in like 2 months. So when it was time for d sex as I wan wear condom as is our custom, ma babe just told me let's do it raw. She held me, and for like the first time in a long long while, she made moans. After the sex, I asked her why she acted so into me and the sex, and she told me that she had missed me during the break and her body really needed it. So you see all those extra moans, all those slight strange behaviours, all those little extraordinary things, those are signs you have to pick up as a man to tell a cheating partner.

In my mind, I said no wahala but my 6th sense began to seriously kick in. I observed our hangars and saw new panties and bra. First sign: when a lady wants to cheat, especially with a new partner, they dont like their undies being old, wrinkled, faded etc. They are not so comfortable with a new man with old undies; they'd reserve the usage of the old for you. Two, our eyes met and I stared for a while and she said "Why are you looking like me like that" in a suggestive tone. 3. I looked at the "Frequently Contacted" on her phone and saw the signs. 4. When a particular call kept coming through days after, she'd hesitantly pick the call in my presence and would even say "Why this guy dey disturb me sef?". 5. One day I pretended not to be around and hid somewhere close to the house and I spotted her picking a call (likely with the same number) and her countenance was different than the one she'd put off while I was around. (My babe was trying to sell me into ignoring the red flag).

But with all these signs, do you know I was still stupid and remained faithful to this babe? We started having issues. My trust went down but I kept hoping it wasn't what I was thinking. Do you know it was until 10 months later I got the confession of her mouth? I came to nairaland that fateful day several years ago and some thread was giving hints on behaviours of cheating partners. I can't remember what they were but they were not new anyways. But it was the confidence in which the author kept saying guys who have girlfriends will keep pretending theirs is different...that it cannot happen to them. It was as if the werey was talking to me. So I just put up a call to my bae then, she was in Lagos too. And I just confronted her that I knew she had been cheating and all that, that I recorded her calls (bla bla put up some more lies like that), and she started to write that may God forgive her. That she had to do it, that she's so sorry.

Bro, when the chats started flowing in, my eyes couldn't believe what it was seeing. I don't want to give too many details just because this world is a small world sha.

BUT MY BROTHER, FEAR WOMAN OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

lol bro no be woman own e Dey me.na hustle I Dey.it’s difficult to see me sad or moody when I have money.now since I have kids my attention is on my kids.if my wife is smart she would notice that I’m just all for d kids.like a Supreme Court judge,I have ruled on women.but as long as she’s under my roof she has everything she needs o but my mind is not really der.Thank God I’m already married if not with my current mindset I for no marry.i for just born raise my kid rest.na the same thing.

tollyboy5:

What is the reality? Do you want to provide for them if they stop hook up?

Be like na hookup this one mama take born am. Very stupid fellow.

DiorPence:
Another self righteous fool
Na your hookup

Mark today's date.
I can see something very clearly. You will soon go on hookup and won't come back. I can see that you're a mistress of various hookup sites.
Insult me all you like but you will always remember this post.
Protect yourself, don't go.