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How about you get money from her and invest ,become well established as a man ..see it as a way like taking loan from her and when the business goes well you can use the money to take care of your responsibility towards her also return the money she gave you ..but it crazy living under a woman who takes care of you ,feels like you being caged and fed ..a man respect comes by being a provider and not a consumer ..

udofia234:
Oga I'm not a gold digger, I have something doing abeg!!! didn't you hear I rejected all her gifts , that proves I'm not after her moni

It's not unheard of that a woman is older in a relationship. It's also not unheard of that the woman is richer.
Would you lose a good woman for these reasons?

You know her, we don't. One month in my opinion is too short a time to know one. You said she's decent and respectful, even with her affluence and influence, it's probably due to the fact that she needs a partner desperately. Or she could be genuinely decent and humble...no one can tell.

You are not doing badly yourself financially and you seem decent enough not to have taken advantage of her condition to milk her dry; to her, you are a husband material 100 yards.

The reality is this. Too many variables cannot be verified due to human nature that's unpredictable and time factor which is so short and inadequate here. You can go ahead since you are not a leech that will live off her, but a day is coming that she will splurge about her being your destiny helper. That should not be a big deal to you, somebody has been destined to help someone. If you can live with that, then it's fine.

Just make sure you don't relegate yourself to the background, up your ante, find out about her family too, it's important before you commit. I wish you good luck.

If you want to marry her, that's fine but do it on your own accord and level. It will set a bad precedent if you do things based on another person budget

udofia234:
Good evening my people!!!

I know I can always count on your wonderful advice!!!


October this year I met this lady in one of our church programs and we became friends, from that friendship something deeper started and its eventually growing to become marriage.

Guys there is an issue at hand, she's older than me with 7years, she is rich and own her own business, house and other properties but she's not married, she just relocated from the US early this year before we met, Guys she's being nice and I won't hide that!!!



When she mentioned marriage I told her am not buoyant enough for an elaborate wedding that she wanted , she offered to sponsor everything, she even offered to buy me suit if I don't have the money to buy, she said she will carry everything from her side and my side. Guys all my life I've never met a lady like this!!! I'm scared and at the same time short of words!!! she's a worker , decent , respectful.

I rejected that offer because of my integrity as a man, she might want to use that against me in the future!!! Though I love her but u know women and their attitude, she might say I married her because of her wealth!!! Pls should I agree to it or reject this tempting offer and looking at it I'm in my early 30s and I really wanna get married.

At least I'm okay but not rich like her, and most times she offers me expensive gifts which I rejected , I have never collected any gift from her, the day I took her out payed the bills.

pls help me my able nairalanders!!!!

Do you love her? Or should we all love her for you?

You didn't mention that in your write or maybe I missed that part.

Marriage is about love and understanding etc..

That you are 32 and your spouse is 25 doesn't mean the marriage will work out well.

So , this is your decision after all when you marry her or if you marry her na only una two will love together..
Many of us online inlaws will not even be invited for the wedding

jogsman01:
Last month? You're a gold digger

haba!!! can't it just happen?

Abfinest007:
What works for john might not work 4 Peter .as 4 me I can't marry a woman older than me I just fu(k them n move on .d few older women I have dated don't have respect

.This one is different!!! well behaved

Autobot05:
You're in your early 30's She's 7 years older than ya
Meaning she could even be 40 years old sef

She's an "Evening newspaper pro max "

.So what do u mean sir?

imadiyi:
I have beginning to believe that all what you ditched out here are makeup stories. I thought of it, now I'm convinced!

How do u mean? not all stories are make up bro!!!

cavreek:
After marriage who becomes the man of the house, who will be the bread winner and who will bread be given to
If you can manage her excesses then go ahead

Hmmm!!! that's another issue

ojun50:
You can go ahead, but study her character, study are family, forget about age and make sure you do every tin possible to foot the wedding bills yr self

Hmmm!!! I love her but the kind of wedding she's talking about is more than me!!! too expensive

advanceDNA:
If you fit turn to mumu shaa....na the only way marriage with woman wey dey significantly older and richer than u fit work

Baba! turn mumu ke? meaning I no go get say for the house be that oh

MissLAP:
The only thing you understand now is age is just a number

In reality..

Women are at a disadvantage abroad because people hardly get married there, that's why most women turn into something strange there, no man, just work work and work. that's why I usually advice Nigerian girls who go there to school that when you are done with school, work for at least 2 years and return home so that you can be married to a man as in reality no woman would want to stay alone till old age.

She has tasted good life well and there's nothing another man can offer her aside happiness, so just go there and make her happy as a woman.

You loved her because there's wealth around her, if she was poor would you still love her?

If you marry her she might still be loyal to you because she is of age and would want to build a strong home like everyone deserves as time is no longer on her side.


She might be adamant at some point during marriage , please don't see that from the angle of wealth as some girls from certain class are even more stubborn and creepy.

Take your time and pray for more revelations about her.

Happy married life.

Thanks dear!!! But I'll like to correct an impression I like her because of her money? No!!! I have rejected all the gifts she has offered me dear , so that made her know that I'm not that kind of guy who's after her wealth

Resourcesswift:
ur suggestions no dey game.. OP jam sure Client and u dey tell am to abort. U no too well

its well oh

imagrg:
NO. YOU MAY LATER BE TRAUMATISED.

How?

dnawah:
another man's meat is another man's poison.give me let me eat

I'm not giving her out to any one oh! I'm only confused and needs someone to help me put

Lifestone:
What really do you guys want. A Lady depends on you, you will her name, here is a Lady who want to fund your responsibility, you are here complaining.
Are you saying you do not plan to develop yourself after the wedding, grow yourself and make your own money? Another man will soon collect that girl from you

I'll hold her tight baba!!! thanks

frozen70:
For how long will you keep rejecting gift from her

You got some one who is matured and loves you, you are confusing the whole issues by having a double mind

Well if you want less children, marry her

If you will not control her and her resources, marry her

If you can manage a woman with her fluctuating character, marry her

If you don't care what people say, marry her

If you love her, marry her

If you know that it will not work out even when you marry her, let her be free and don't collect anything

If you still get married and regrets leaving her because you didn't understand that she loves you more than any other thing

Go back to her and finally marry her

Psquare married Lola who is his senior by 5yrs and Lola assistes him and gave her car to him the day he went to present his first album and those that saw him, though it was his car

They stayed happily till they got married and living happily with no scandal

Hmmm!!! I'm encouraged already by this

Anfield247:
CEO, more years to your age

Meaning?

udofia234:
Hmmm!!! I'm encouraged already by this

Smiles, lol
Just follow your heart

Badgers14:
Do you love her? Or should we all love her for you?

You didn't mention that in your write or maybe I missed that part.

Marriage is about love and understanding etc..

That you are 32 and your spouse is 25 doesn't mean the marriage will work out well.

So , this is your decision after all when you marry her or if you marry her na only una two will love together..
Many of us online inlaws will not even be invited for the wedding

Baba I truly love her!!!

michlins:
If you want to marry her, that's fine but do it on your own accord and level. It will set a bad precedent if you do things based on another person budget

thanks bro!!! noted

placeofallure:
It's not unheard of that a woman is older in a relationship. It's also not unheard of that the woman is richer.
Would you lose a good woman for these reasons?

You know her, we don't. One month in my opinion is too short a time to know one. You said she's decent and respectful, even with her affluence and influence, it's probably due to the fact that she needs a partner desperately. Or she could be genuinely decent and humble...no one can tell.

You are not doing badly yourself financially and you seem decent enough not to have taken advantage of her condition to milk her dry; to her, you are a husband material 100 yards.

The reality is this. Too many variables cannot be verified due to human nature that's unpredictable and time factor which is so short and inadequate here. You can go ahead since you are not a leech that will live off her, but a day is coming that she will splurge about her being your destiny helper. That should not be a big deal to you, somebody has been destined to help someone. If you can live with that, then it's fine.

Just make sure you don't relegate yourself to the background, up your ante, find out about her family too, it's important before you commit. I wish you good luck.

Thanks dear!!! You are indeed full of wisdom!!!

capetownboyz:
How about you get money from her and invest ,become well established as a man ..see it as a way like taking loan from her and when the business goes well you can use the money to take care of your responsibility towards her also return the money she gave you ..but it crazy living under a woman who takes care of you ,feels like you being caged and fed ..a man respect comes by being a provider and not a consumer ..

Thanks baba!!! I have something doing too and can fund a wedding, but she wants something bigger and I told her I can't fund it, but she said no problem she will fund it

udofia234:
.This one is different!!! well behaved

she only acting nice bcuz she's due 4 marriage ask d right questions B4 u head 2 d alter

Abfinest007:
she only acting nice bcuz she's due 4 marriage ask d right questions B4 u head 2 d alter

OK baba!!! thanks

udofia234:
Baba I truly love her!!!

Well then?

Soldier on.

Badgers14:
Well then?
Soldier on.

Thanks baba

Vinnie2000:
'Before dem use me, I Go use my Sense'.- Asake (Peace be unto You)

Meaning

udofia234:
Good evening my people!!!

I know I can always count on your wonderful advice!!!


October this year I met this lady in one of our church programs and we became friends, from that friendship something deeper started and its eventually growing to become marriage.

Guys there is an issue at hand, she's older than me with 7years, she is rich and own her own business, house and other properties but she's not married, she just relocated from the US early this year before we met, Guys she's being nice and I won't hide that!!!



When she mentioned marriage I told her am not buoyant enough for an elaborate wedding that she wanted , she offered to sponsor everything, she even offered to buy me suit if I don't have the money to buy, she said she will carry everything from her side and my side. Guys all my life I've never met a lady like this!!! I'm scared and at the same time short of words!!! she's a worker , decent , respectful.

I rejected that offer because of my integrity as a man, she might want to use that against me in the future!!! Though I love her but u know women and their attitude, she might say I married her because of her wealth!!! Pls should I agree to it or reject this tempting offer and looking at it I'm in my early 30s and I really wanna get married.

At least I'm okay but not rich like her, and most times she offers me expensive gifts which I rejected , I have never collected any gift from her, the day I took her out payed the bills.

pls help me my able nairalanders!!!!

Hmmm..

You have never collected any gifts from her, yet you say she has been super nice to you!

Is it the kpekus?

When you are ready to say the truth, I will give my opinion.

frozen70:
Smiles, lol Just follow your heart

Thanks babe!!!

BeardedMeat:
Hmmm..

You have never collected any gifts from her, yet you say she has been super nice to you!

Is it the kpekus?

When you are ready to say the truth, I will give my opinion.

Her being nice is not related to kpekus issue oooh.
she has offered me so many things moni, cloth, footwear's, and so many more which I rejected , she just met me and she already wants to meet my family, she's so nice to me and my family

udofia234:
Hmmm!!! I love her but the kind of wedding she's talking about is more than me!!! too expensive

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