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freddie009:
I dey tell you baba, is not easy though. It is easy to date but when it comes to marriage baba e hard, especially from a place like Nigeria. Everybody go just they sing, he got married to her because of her money. If you do not have a strong mind it won't be easy.

Hmmm!!! I'll pull through

placeofallure:
We're gradually going into extinction.

Hmmm!!!

udofia234:
Good evening my people!!!

I know I can always count on your wonderful advice!!!


October this year I met this lady in one of our church programs and we became friends, from that friendship something deeper started and its eventually growing to become marriage.

Guys there is an issue at hand, she's older than me with 7years, she is rich and own her own business, house and other properties but she's not married, she just relocated from the US early this year before we met, Guys she's being nice and I won't hide that!!!



When she mentioned marriage I told her am not buoyant enough for an elaborate wedding that she wanted , she offered to sponsor everything, she even offered to buy me suit if I don't have the money to buy, she said she will carry everything from her side and my side. Guys all my life I've never met a lady like this!!! I'm scared and at the same time short of words!!! she's a worker , decent , respectful.

I rejected that offer because of my integrity as a man, she might want to use that against me in the future!!! Though I love her but u know women and their attitude, she might say I married her because of her wealth!!! Pls should I agree to it or reject this tempting offer and looking at it I'm in my early 30s and I really wanna get married.

At least I'm okay but not rich like her, and most times she offers me expensive gifts which I rejected , I have never collected any gift from her, the day I took her out payed the bills.

pls help me my able nairalanders!!!!

Dude, Use Her Wealth to Build Your Own Wealth ... God sent a Messenger to Help You and You are Jonsing ....

Don't Ever take Her Granted though Before You Boom and After You Boom

DoMeGood09:
You can go ahead and tie the knot. But remember, she would always talk about how she helped you in life especially when you get her angry.

That's a Lie except You no sabi manage am ...

udofia234:
That's exactly what I'm driving at bro! I don't want to live in regret

There is no regret Bro ... She is your guiding angel except you see other odds in her if not ... common, She has built herself so well and ready to build you too But You seem like someone with a mental block not ready to build yourself

Lifestone:
What really do you guys want. A Lady depends on you, you will her name, here is a Lady who want to fund your responsibility, you are here complaining.
Are you saying you do not plan to develop yourself after the wedding, grow yourself and make your own money? Another man will soon collect that girl from you

Poverty of the Brain is worrying Most Men ...

Poverty of the Pocket is not as Bad of Mental Poverty ...

The Op is forming ego inside Poverty

Imagine ooo

Most u do an elaborated wedding... If she's truly ready and you too, plan the wedding in your own way at your own cost and let her support in her own way not more than you.
I think that will be mature enough. Good luck comrade And one more thing after marriage maintain you lane on financial aspect and be responsible.
Talking from experience as a married man

udofia234:
Thanks baba!!! I have something doing too and can fund a wedding, but she wants something bigger and I told her I can't fund it, but she said no problem she will fund it

I think that's a red flag already let her allow you marry her with what you can afford since you can fund a wedding.

DonroxyII:
Dude, Use Her Wealth to Build Your Own Wealth ... God sent a Messenger to Help You and You are Jonsing ....

Don't Ever take Her Granted though Before You Boom and After You Boom

Thanks baba!!!

DonroxyII:
That's a Lie except You no sabi manage am ...

Noted sir!!! thanks

OP, change the topic to…..”Should she marry me” and sponsor our wedding?

He that pays the piper dictates the tune, so says the wise saying. If you are comfortable with her been the one who wears the trouser in the house, please go ahead.

There is a reason the Bible said: HE and not she that does not provide for his household is worst than an infidel.

DonroxyII:
There is no regret Bro ... She is your guiding angel except you see other odds in her if not ... common, She has built herself so well and ready to build you too But You seem like someone with a mental block not ready to build yourself

Noted I'll key into it!!! but I don't wanna aft as it am a gold digger

DonroxyII:
Poverty of the Brain is worrying Most Men ...

Poverty of the Pocket is not as Bad of Mental Poverty ...

The Op is forming ego inside Poverty

Imagine ooo

I'm not forming ego!!! and more over I'm not poor and I have something doing

lanre9ja:
Most u do an elaborated wedding... If she's truly ready and you too, plan the wedding in your own way at your own cost and let her support in her own way not more than you.
I think that will be mature enough. Good luck comrade And one more thing after marriage maintain you lane on financial aspect and be responsible.
Talking from experience as a married man

Thanks baba!!! I will do as u have advised

lawrenzooo:
I think that's a red flag already let her allow you marry her with what you can afford since you can fund a wedding.

Noted baba!!! thanks

linearity:
OP, change the topic to…..”Should she marry me” and sponsor our wedding?

He that pays the piper dictates the tune, so says the wise saying. If you are comfortable with her been the one who wears the trouser in the house, please go ahead.

There is a reason the Bible said: HE and not she that does not provide for his household is worst than an infidel.

Hmmmm!!! May God help me

udofia234:
I'm not forming ego!!! and more over I'm not poor and I have something doing

Guy no dey fear ..

Most Hustled women think futuristic and I wanna believe she already wants her children to be your blood ....

Of course during hot period She could shade you with what she has done for You(That's Women for You na Emotions) but as Man block her mental faculty that could ratchet you by giving her x2 of whatever she might have given you and that's how you would won back your Manhood from her ..... Match Her Gifts or Best is to Double Her Gifts ... !

Na simple Stuffs Na ...

why big deal am ... But if you no like am(Love Na lie in 2022) ... Kuku comot Her Case and Be friend with Her then !

udofia234:
Noted I'll key into it!!! but I don't wanna aft as it am a gold digger

You are who You are and You know who you are

If You don't like her but likes her wealth.. You are a Gold Digger ... Search Your Soul Bro

If You like her even if she ain't Wealthy and You ready to be by her side no matter what ... Then that's " True Like" ....

Love na Lie Dem Sell give Us since Year 0, Na only God dey Fall in Love with Us every other Love na Lie .... All of Us dey confuse Like for Love!

We need each other as Complements Men and women money or No money !

Na some Unfortunate Media dey blow Competitions between Men and Women Only Few are Promoting Complementary thanks to the Obamas ...

I already distance myself from some media such as Redpilling ... Hold Your Woman and Hold Her Head steady ... She won't insult your essence

Except you disgrace your Ancestors before her by being not a Man Enough to Manage a Woman with Money ... Common, Man!

DonroxyII:
Guy no dey fear ..

Most Hustled women think futuristic and I wanna believe she already wants her children to be your blood ....

Of course during hot period She could shade you with what she has done for You(That's Women for You na Emotions) but as Man block her mental faculty that could ratchet you by giving her x2 of whatever she might have given you and that's how you would won back your Manhood from her ..... Match Her Gifts or Best is to Double Her Gifts ... !

Na simple Stuffs Na ...

why big deal am ... But if you no like am(Love Na lie in 2022) ... Kuku comot Her Case and Be friend with Her then !

Bro the story son change ooo!!! Her weree ex just returned from the us and she giving me attitude already

DonroxyII:
You are who You are and You know who you are

If You don't like her but likes her wealth.. You are a Gold Digger ... Search Your Soul Bro

If You like her even if she ain't Wealthy and You ready to be by her side no matter what ... Then that's " True Like" ....

Love na Lie Dem Sell give Us since Year 0, Na only God dey Fall in Love with Us every other Love na Lie .... All of Us dey confuse Like for Love!

We need each other as Complements Men and women money or No money !

Na some Unfortunate Media dey blow Competitions between Men and Women Only Few are Promoting Complementary thanks to the Obamas ...

I already distance myself from some media such as Redpilling ... Hold Your Woman and Hold Her Head steady ... She won't insult your essence

Except you disgrace your Ancestors before her by being not a Man Enough to Manage a Woman with Money ... Common, Man!

You truly loaded baba!!! I get u

udofia234:
You truly loaded baba!!! I get u

That's How to Manage Gen Z Woman Bro ....

You are Welcome!

udofia234:
Bro the story son change ooo!!! Her weree ex just returned from the us and she giving me attitude already

... You self no talk say You be Her Plan B now ...

You be Second Option Niyen (Option 2) :

Now, Make a Manly Decision Bro

Me Yaff Run Comot Ya Case oo

DonroxyII:
... You self no talk say You be Her Plan B now ...

You be Second Option Niyen (Option 2) :

Now, Make a Manly Decision Bro

Me Yaff Run Comot Ya Case oo

Its well bro

udofia234:
Its well bro

...
You are free now if you know you know !

DonroxyII:
... You are free now if you know you know !

Thanks boss

udofia234:
Thanks boss

Welcome!